My Three Sons3 Sylvia Bradford

First I will say hello to everyone. Thank you all for chiming in, let me start by asking a question? What do you do as a parent with grown children that always seem to have issues they carry around with them and will not let them go? Secondly what do you say when your son or daughter has a boyfriend or girlfriend and that friend talks bad about the parent for no reason at all? What do you say to your son or daughter? Or do you just leave that a lone?