The Ben James Show Ben James Kelly

My girlfriend Paula and I recorded this podcast a week prior to embarking on another stint of long-distance. Our 5th time to be exact. If we had recorded this the day she was leaving I dare say the tone of the conversation would have been far more emotional than this. We joke that we are getting good at goodbyes but it never gets any easier.For those who don't know Paula and I are based separately in Bali and Barcelona respectfully. When we first got together we knew we would have to have periods of time apart. But then covid hit and navigating travel through a spanner in the works and an extra air of uncertainty.We open up for an inside look into the realities that have come with doing long-distance but also some conversations during our time together that may be seen as difficult ones to explore but have simultaneously been monumental in deepening our connection and intimacy with each other. Conversations containing the idea of breaking up as well as putting the idea of opening up our relationship on the table.Find Paula over on Instagram at...https://www.instagram.com/paulasalort/
You can find me over on Instagram... https://www.instagram.com/__benjames_/ 
 
 

Post date anxiety is no doubt a real thing. Wondering what the next moves are, whether to play it cool and wait for them to reach out first or to shoot them through a text to say "hey, I had an amazing time with you and would like to do it again".While we can orchestrate you might be here to find out strategies to "get" the outcome you want or think you want, this episode probes a little below the surface of questions such as "should I text them back" and explores better questions like...What outcome do you want, why, and what would it mean to you if the outcome you desire doesn't go your way.It also takes a look at where you are deriving your self worth and whether or not you are placing it too much in the hands of people or events outside your control.If you took anything away from this episode, something as simple as leaving a rating or a review really makes my day.You can connect with me over on... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__benjames_/
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Ever just suddenly feel as though 5-10kgs of fat has attached itself to you seemingly out of nowhere. And even though you know logically it's not possible for that sort of weight gain within such a small amount of time you can't help but feel an intensity to focus on your body?  There is a good chance you're experiencing something known as a "fat attack".Well! In this episode, I dig a little into the sneaky reason we trick ourselves into believing this phenomenon known as the fat attack happening and how it gets in the way of us attending to the real issues we may be facing in everyday life.You can connect with me over on... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__benjames_/
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Matt Cama really is a shining example of openness, transparency and the outcome of someone completely committed to the process that is self-growth and healing. You will no doubt realise this in our conversation as we deep dive into some EXTREMELY open dialogue sharing past experiences of porn addiction, sex addiction and what we've learnt throughout our journeys towards a greater understanding of ourselves in the process.One thing I love about Matt is he's not afraid to show his own process. Often we see coaches wanting to put themselves on a pedestal with their clients but Matt really does allow himself to show himself in full human expression to which I can see how people really flock to him and his work in such a comfortable way.He also manages to make the deep work carry less weight through his humour you can see over on his TikTok channel. Having started out as a PT Matt has transitioned into the work he does in his Deep End Program of inner child work, emotional trauma healing and overcoming shame. Within this episode, you will hear the turning points that lead him to the work he does now but also..."What are some signs that you’re progressing through certain trauma? Or if that's possible.'
 
We openly share our vices/medicators and what lies in our shadows.
First steps to acknowledging my borderline addiction.
 
What Matt learnt from accidentally walking into an AA meeting. What he shares is super interesting.
 
We talk about how to feel comfortable receiving help and an analogy I made up that helped me personally.
 
"Accomplishments impress but vulnerability connects." Matt drops the line of the episode 💣You can find Matt over on...Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matt_cama/ 
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While many men, for the most part, are doing incredible things within the workings of spirituality and connectedness. There is a small number who are the exception acting as wolves in sheep's clothing.In this podcast, I talk a little about spiritual f******s and the sometimes dark side of spiritual communities.You can connect with me over on... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__benjames_/
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I had the following question come through on Instagram from the lovely Anastasia..."Why do guys date someone when their mental health isn't at its healthiest and then blame you for the split.So in this short podcast, I take a look at some of the potential hidden reasons as to why some men are looking to hang the relationship, make the split your fault, and look to avoid responsibility.This is obviously not confined to men as many women can have the same tendencies. But we take a specific look at what may have occurred in someone's life previously that could have resulted in this avoidant type of behaviour that is actually quite common.I also take a quick look at the potential negative effects of modern-day beauty standards on men and their unhealthy expectations of women's bodies, the false lust and infatuation it creates and the distorted thinking it could provoke to seek greener pastures.
You can connect with me over on... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__benjames_/
Itunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast...
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Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbfU_SBghOMcIfLgPDDgt8A