School of Self-Image Tonya Leigh

Creating Magic in Everyday Moments: A Guide to Romanticizing Your Life
Romanticizing your life involves being mindful and appreciating the present moment. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of being present and mindful to romanticize your life in this weeks School of Self-Image podcast. She highlights the significance of slowing down, being with yourself, and appreciating the details of your life. By being fully present in the moment, you can tend to the details of your life and truly appreciate the joyous moments that may otherwise be overlooked.
Tonya also stresses the practice of slowing down and being present with oneself or those around you. By taking the time to truly be present with yourself and others, you can cultivate a deeper sense of appreciation for the blessings in your life. This involves not being distracted by worries about the future or regrets about the past, but rather focusing on the beauty and goodness that the present moment offers.
Tune in to discover how you can infuse your daily life with meaning and enjoy the present moment rather than rushing toward the future.
Talking Points:
01:00 - Introduction to Romanticizing Your Life
05:30 - Philosophical Perspectives on Romanticizing Your Life
08:32 - Benefits of Romanticizing Your Life
09:16 - Embracing Adventure in Everyday Situations
11:34 - Importance of Mindfulness in Romanticizing Your Life
17:06 - Morning Routine for Romanticizing Your Life
21:18 - Importance of Self-Appreciation in Romanticizing Your Life
25:38 - Balancing Idealism and Realism in Romanticizing Your Life
29:03 - Finding Joy in Work and Daily Activities
31:31 - Building Meaningful Connections and Appreciating Moments
32:45 - Slowing Down and Being Present in Your Life
Quotes:
 
"Romance is not something that you have to wait until one day to have. In fact, to create a romantic life, it requires that you start right now."
"I will tell you, learning to romanticize my life has been one of the biggest gifts that I've given myself."
"You can filter it in a way that makes you feel optimistic, that makes you feel full of gratitude, that makes you feel abundant."
"I chose to create this alternative universe that I could live in. That's full of adventure. That's full of opportunities. It's full of surprises."
"Looking for the blessing, looking for the joy, looking for the love, looking for the abundance. It's there if you're looking for it."
"Love on yourself more if you want to romanticize your life."
"Really, romanticizing your life is not that hard. It's about you being awake. It's about you appreciating. It's about you tending to the details of your life. And most importantly, it's about loving yourself."
"Appreciate all of the goodness that life offers."
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The Truth About Confidence: 5 Myths Exposed
Confidence is often misunderstood, and host Tonya Leigh debunks five prevalent myths surrounding it in this episode. I encourage listeners to build a confident relationship with themselves and to understand that doubt is a natural part of the journey. Confidence in your abilities will grow over time through repeated actions and experiences.
Tonya dives into the topic of confidence, debunking five common myths surrounding it. She shares personal stories about her journey to self-assurance and highlights that while confidence is desirable, it is not mandatory for living an incredible life. Tanya encourages listeners to pursue their dreams even in the face of self-doubt, emphasizing that confidence can be cultivated through thoughts and actions. Tune in to challenge your beliefs about confidence and discover the power of embracing the unknown in your journey towards self-assurance.
Talking Points:
00:40 - What is Confidence?
01:02 - Confidence is Overrated
01:13 - Action Before Confidence
01:58 - Myth 1: Confidence is Needed for Amazing Things
03:16 - Self-Assurance Over Confidence
04:08 - Personal Story: First Mastermind Retreat
05:54 - Building Confidence Through Repetition
07:01 - Myth 2: Confidence Comes from External Validation
09:02 - Building Self-Trust
10:32 - Myth 3: Confidence Requires Being the Smartest and Loudest
11:57 - True Confidence is Comfort with Oneself
12:29 - Myth 4: Confidence Equals Arrogance
13:56 - Confidence Has Nothing to Prove
15:02 - Myth 5: Confident People Never Doubt Themselves
16:36 - Doubt as a Companion to Confidence


Quotes:
"And honestly, I sort of think confidence is overrated, even though I want you all to feel it."
"There is a big difference. And a lot of you are trying to have confidence in something that you've never done before. And it is practically impossible."
"It becomes this thing that needs to be fed from the outside world."
"Confidence has nothing to prove."
 "Doubt is not a reason to stop. It's a reason to keep going."
"Confidence comes from just believing and trusting in yourself."
 
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Soul Cravings: The Path to Joy and Fulfillment
 Pay attention to your soul cravings and align with your core values, strengths, and passions for deep fulfillment. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of listening to your soul's cravings, which originate from the deepest part of you and are in harmony with your core values, strengths, and passions. These cravings differ from societal cravings influenced by external expectations and norms. By paying attention to your soul cravings, you can experience a profound sense of purpose, joy, and alignment in your life.
Tonya shares her personal journey of discovering her soul cravings, such as a desire to learn about the world, feel at home in different cultures, and explore various cuisines. By following these cravings, she was able to align with her true self and move towards her North Star. She highlights the contrast between societal cravings, which may offer temporary approval or success but lack deep fulfillment, and soul cravings, which lead to a sense of purpose and joy.
She encourages listeners to pay attention to their own cravings and explore what their soul truly longs for in life.
Talking Points:
00:39 - Tanya's New York City Experience
01:55 - Identifying Your Cravings
02:36 - Personal Development Journey
03:08 - Essential Self vs. Social Self
04:12 - Excavating Your True Self
05:06 - Following Soul Cravings
06:08 - Discovering Worldly Cravings
07:00 - Societal vs. Soul Cravings
10:03 - Discomfort in Following Cravings
12:12 - Recognizing Soul Cravings
13:05 - Creating Space for Soul Cravings
14:10 - Developing Self-Trust
15:37 - Paying Attention to Intuition and Body
21:02 - Practical Exercise: Mood Boards
24:04 - Energy from Soul Cravings


Quotes:
"By listening to my soul's cravings, not my societal cravings, but my soul's cravings, has led me towards my North Star."
"I believe in honoring your soul cravings."
"You will know a soul craving because it will bring you joy. Even if it's hard, it'll bring you so much joy and satisfaction."
"You have to be the one that puts up a red velvet rope around your mind, around your soul, so that you can hear you again, so that you can listen and pay attention to what you're being nudged towards and what you're being nudged away from."
"That's not it. I just moved away from my sweet spot."
"What is that one thing that your soul is craving right now? Listen, it's trying to speak to you. Pay attention."
"Unleash your inner powerhouse."
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Overcoming Overwhelm: What to Do When You're Drowning in Your To-Do's
One of the key insights from the podcast episode is the understanding that overwhelm is an emotion created by the thoughts in our heads. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh explains that when we feel overwhelmed, we are often in a state of fight or flight, where our sympathetic nervous system is activated. This heightened state of stress and panic can make it challenging to think clearly and find solutions to our overwhelming to-do lists.
To manage overwhelm effectively, Tonya suggests accessing the parasympathetic nervous system. This system is responsible for rest and digest functions, promoting a state of calm and relaxation. By engaging the parasympathetic nervous system, we can counteract the fight or flight response and regain clarity of thought. She reflects on her own journey through overwhelm and provides tools to help listeners manage and conquer their to-do lists effectively.
If you've ever felt like you're drowning in tasks, this episode is a must-listen for practical advice and inspiration.
Talking Points:
00:00 - Introduction to Feeling Overwhelmed
05:30 - Overcoming Overwhelm with Self-Care
0:22 - Filtering To-Do List with the Four D's
13:04 - Providing Clarity through Scheduling
4:06 - Releasing Perfectionism for Productivity
16:28 - Embracing the Journey, Not the Destination
18:26 - Celebrating Choices and Finding Inner Peace
20:10 - Empowering Action with Dream Life Masterclass
Quotes:
"What to do when you feel like you're drowning in your to-do's."
"I want to be like that bird. I want to be able to find my stillness.
"Who you're being is up to you."
"Because if you take action off of guilt and fear over and over, you're just building a life that feels like a prison."
"Tonya, you're never going to be done. So stop trying to get to that place that doesn't exist and learn to enjoy the day that you're in."
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Life's Highs and Lows: Discovering Your Path to Alignment
Being outside of your comfort zone and navigating through that phase successfullly requires curiosity and self-reflection. This episode delves into the concept of embracing life's lows as much as you yearn for the highs. Tonya Leigh stresses that straying from your comfort zone is a natural part of the journey and should not be seen as a setback. Being outside of your comfort zone and navigating through that phase successfullly requires curiosity and self-reflection.
Tonya underscores the importance of not being too hard on yourself when you're not in your comfort zone. Instead, she urges listeners to embrace it, stay curious about themselves, and extract the lessons that being out of the comfort zone can offer. By embracing the lows, one can savor the highs even more when they arrive.
The analogy of trying on different outfits is used to illustrate the process of finding what suits you best in life. Just like trying on clothes to find the perfect fit, life is about experimenting and trying new things to discover what resonates with your values and essence. T
This mindset fosters growth, self-discovery, and the chance to correct course when necessary. Tonya's message inspires listeners to value the contrast between highs and lows, understanding that both experiences contribute to personal growth and a deeper self-awareness.
Talking Points:
01:24 Finding your sweet spot.
04:58 Embracing Life's Ups and Downs.
11:09 Core values and connection.
17:12 Living in your sweet spot.
22:23 Making tough decisions about change.
30:44 Joyful reinvention and self-image.
35:08 Embracing life's contrasts.
39:27 Feeling stuck and stagnant.
Quotes:
"I'm feeling so at peace. I'm feeling so excited about the future. I'm feeling healthier. I'm feeling vibrant. I feel like I'm in my sweet spot."
"But unfortunately, what a lot of people do is they just continuously focus on what they don't want."
"You're more motivated. You're more excited about your life. You feel more aligned."
"Every moment is a chance to turn back to you."
"Clarity comes through action."
"What if you learn to embrace the lows as much as you crave the highs?"
 
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Creating Intentional Self-Image Events for Personal Growth
Self-image events play a crucial role in shaping our identities, as discussed in the podcast episode. These events can be intentional or unexpected, and reflecting on both types from our past is essential for personal growth and self-awareness.
Intentional self-image events are experiences or activities that we consciously choose with the purpose of changing our self-image and identity. By setting extraordinary goals and immersing ourselves in new environments, we challenge our existing beliefs, push beyond personal boundaries, and facilitate the development of new skills and perspectives. These intentional events are designed to push us out of our comfort zones and help us evolve into a new way of being in the world.  Embracing intentional self-image events can be a catalyst for personal development and lead to a more empowered and fulfilling life.
Join in to explore how moments, both intentional and unexpected, shape our identities and help us evolve personally.
Talking Points:
02:58 - Understanding Self-Image Events
04:03 - Childhood and Self-Image Formation
06:09 - Conflicting Identities: Pageants and Church
07:03 - Overcoming Negative Self-Image from Bullying
08:05 - Gaining Power Through Understanding Self-Image
10:02 - Adult Unexpected Self-Image Event
12:10 - Cognitive Dissonance and Self-Imag
14:08 - Adapting Self-Image to New Realities 
17:13 - Negative Self-Image Events and Recover
19:00 - Compassion in the Face of Self-Image Challenges
20:05 - Creating Intentional Self-Image Events
27:45 - Intentional Self-Image Events for Future Growth


Quotes:
"Life is about all of it. And I've just come to the understanding that embracing that is the secret to true fulfillment."
"I always felt like I was sinning and I was going to go straight to hell."
"The scared little girl in me trying to protect herself from the world. But as the adult me, I've got me."
"This is too good to be true. This surely isn't going to work out. This isn't as good as it seems to be."
"There's going to be so much cognitive dissonance between your beliefs about yourself and your actions."
"When I started to look for the commonalities, it lessened the cognitive dissonance, which allowed me to entertain saying yes to this opportunity that would shape my self-image in a whole different way."
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