Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens Casey O'Roarty

My guest today is our returning friend, Ed Center.  

I kick off our conversation asking Ed what Pride month means to him, and he shares his thoughts: we want to celebrate our families, the history of our community, and acknowledge that we weren't always able to have these rights & privileges. It’s a celebration of family. I ask what we can do to get out of our bubble, and Ed shares simple, do-able ideas around how to talk to your kids and how to grow as a better advocate, while giving yourself grace. We dig into how not letting discomfort or not knowing the exactly right thing to do can stop us from helping others and why we have to lean into that discomfort. 

Takeaways from the show

Pride month is an opportunity to share with our kids that they live in a family with a different arrangement than other families

There are many family-friendly Pride events 

How do you talk to your kids? What’s your default language around family, class, race?  

Pushing assumptions and changing your language to expand your and your kids’ perspectives

We have to stand up for all kids, not just our kids 

Pride month challenge: Find and reach out to or donate to small LGBTQIA+ communities & resources in a red state 

Be nice and stay grounded in love


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Join me this week as I share about the layers of scaffolding that come with building a home environment steeped in Positive Discipline. Starting with a foundation of parental personal growth and development, and building on top of that by focusing on relationships, creating systems and routines so that everyone is on the same page, and finally, mutually respectful, in-the-moment tools. Join me and consider how you can bring your takeaways into YOUR home and YOUR relationship with YOUR adolescents.
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My guest today is Elizabeth Brunner, the founder of StereoType Kids, a gender-inclusive fashion brand inspired by her boy/girl twins. Elizabeth shares her story, what gender-inclusivity means to her, and what blended fashion is. We talk on unlearning social norms & gender stereotypes, and I share a surprising story of a time this came up for me personally when Ian was young. Elizabeth shares the difference between how people react when her daughter dresses more traditionally-masculine versus when her son dresses in more traditionally-feminine clothes and how she coached her son to reply when someone tells him what he “can’t wear.” I bring up the dance between encouraging our daughters to express and wear whatever they want while still keeping them safe from dangerous people.  

Takeways from the show

Get to know StereoType Kids, a gender-inclusive fashion brand 

What is gender-inclusivity? What is blended fashion? 

“We try to fit into society and society norms, and that’s not actually normal. We’re meant to be expressive.” 

Unlearning social norms 

We don’t realize all of our conditioning until we have to confront it 

Being curious about our responses to our child(ren) 

“Me is all I want to be.” 

Keep growing, keep being curious, & keep discovering new parts of yourself


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What if everything is going to be fine? What if we decide to live in the uncertainty of parenting teens from a place of faith and possibility? How would that change right now for you? Join me this week as we explore the qualities that are driving us crazy as we parent our kids WHILE ALSO knowing these exact same qualities are going to serve them one day... Stretch your mind, grow your perspective, listen in.

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My guests today are Ed Center and Jaimie Kelton, and they’re answering questions from YOU! This is a juicy one - we get into how to react when your LGBTQIA+ teen comes out, whose news that is to share with others, and what to do when people who don’t treat our adolescent(s) the way we’d like (cue Mama Bear). The latter half of the episode gets into online safety & pornography, the importance of knowing queer role models in real life, using TV & books as teaching tools, and talking about sex with our queer kids.

Takeaways from the show

What’s the preferred and most up-to-date language and acronym? Do we say queer? 

What can straight parents do to best support their questioning or queer teen? 

Coming out stories and reactions - whose news is this to share? 

Coming out is an ongoing process. It is hard & scary! 

We all hold internalized homophobia

How do we handle family or friends who don’t support our queer teen? 

“Choose love, choose love, choose love.” 

Online safety 

The importance of knowing real-life queer role models 

Sex-ed & sex talks with our queer kids 

Consent versus enthusiastic consent


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Join me today and consider how we can better be with the unfolding. So many in the Joyful Courage community are moving through big things with their adolescents right now - end of school year, transition into summer, teen risk taking, having a tough time with relationship - it is all real and relevent. AND, what if the contrast and discomfort we're feeling is an indicator that we can expand our mindset and try and see things in a new way?

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