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EP 225: Failure, Addiction and the Long Game with Jess Lahey 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care
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- Selbstverwirklichung
Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-225
One of the most pivotal life choices I ever made was changing my career from politics to teaching. [You can read about my unconventional career path].
Before studying to be a teacher I had a very fixed mindset. I believed that people were smart or not. I believed that you were born with it or you weren’t. I believed failure was the end of the line and the worst thing that could happen.
The philosophical nature of my yoga practice coincided with the timing of my career change. I was seeking something…better. I was choking on the black and white thinking I was used to. Whispers of new ways of thinking crept into my mind while I was on my mat.
As I entered my teaching credential program I set the intention to have a beginner's mind. I didn’t have to have the answers already, I was seeking learning. I was allowing myself to show up vulnerably. I was showing my professors and my classmates I was humble enough to learn new things, make mistakes, and try something different to get different results.
This simple shift of being okay with not already knowing changed my life forever. Perfectionism had its grip on me for the first 30+ years of my life, and it felt terrible.
Teaching allowed me to be present for learning. Not the good scores and college acceptance letters to post on social media. But the real kind.
We send our kids to school to learn, but how many of us are okay with making mistakes, failing, not getting what is taught and having to figure it out?
Learning means acquiring knowledge or skill in something. That means you start out not knowing anything about it. Then, you learn about it and realize how little you know. With practice, study, and data collection, you can apply what you’ve gained to what you know, and if you stick with it, you’ll eventually become competent.
In other words, learning is a hard, ugly process.
And it absolutely rocks if you can get beyond the shame of not knowing or being terrible at stuff in the beginning.
Anyway, I got to interview Jess Lahey about her books about failure and addiction and I really tried not to fangirl too much.
Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-225
One of the most pivotal life choices I ever made was changing my career from politics to teaching. [You can read about my unconventional career path].
Before studying to be a teacher I had a very fixed mindset. I believed that people were smart or not. I believed that you were born with it or you weren’t. I believed failure was the end of the line and the worst thing that could happen.
The philosophical nature of my yoga practice coincided with the timing of my career change. I was seeking something…better. I was choking on the black and white thinking I was used to. Whispers of new ways of thinking crept into my mind while I was on my mat.
As I entered my teaching credential program I set the intention to have a beginner's mind. I didn’t have to have the answers already, I was seeking learning. I was allowing myself to show up vulnerably. I was showing my professors and my classmates I was humble enough to learn new things, make mistakes, and try something different to get different results.
This simple shift of being okay with not already knowing changed my life forever. Perfectionism had its grip on me for the first 30+ years of my life, and it felt terrible.
Teaching allowed me to be present for learning. Not the good scores and college acceptance letters to post on social media. But the real kind.
We send our kids to school to learn, but how many of us are okay with making mistakes, failing, not getting what is taught and having to figure it out?
Learning means acquiring knowledge or skill in something. That means you start out not knowing anything about it. Then, you learn about it and realize how little you know. With practice, study, and data collection, you can apply what you’ve gained to what you know, and if you stick with it, you’ll eventually become competent.
In other words, learning is a hard, ugly process.
And it absolutely rocks if you can get beyond the shame of not knowing or being terrible at stuff in the beginning.
Anyway, I got to interview Jess Lahey about her books about failure and addiction and I really tried not to fangirl too much.
1 Std. 2 Min.