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What's the point in being married if you can't get what you want? But what you actually want may be hidden in plain sight in what you already have! Learn how to change your marriage for the better, and along the way, how to change YOU. This is where you find it, Bible principles in practice like you have never imagined! God has great things planned for your marriage. So don't miss it.

Fixer Upper Marriage Jason R Parham

    • Religion und Spiritualität

What's the point in being married if you can't get what you want? But what you actually want may be hidden in plain sight in what you already have! Learn how to change your marriage for the better, and along the way, how to change YOU. This is where you find it, Bible principles in practice like you have never imagined! God has great things planned for your marriage. So don't miss it.

    The Love Story of Adam and Eve

    The Love Story of Adam and Eve

    The Love Story of Adam and Eve







    Made for Each Other







    Bible Love Stories Volume One







    This is the first episode in a series (Bible Love Stories).







    Link to my new book, Marriage and the Fruit of the Spirit.







    God put Adam and Eve together, literally making them for each other and inventing the institution of marriage.  In making marriage, God laid out the principles for a lifetime together.  







    Link to a special workbook with more about Adam and Eve’s story and creative activities for you!







    Link to the Bible Love Stories Series page







    Genesis 1:26-29; 2:15-25









    * Creation’s 6th Day- Genesis 1:26-29







    * The Edenic Covenant (God’s 1st Covenant with Man)- Genesis 2:15-25







    * The Creation of Eve- Genesis 2:21-22







    * The 1st Marriage (God’s Model)- Genesis 2:23-25









    Some things you can do together:









    * Date night







    * Household chores







    * Shopping







    * Sitting down to talk







    * Video or phone calls while at work







    * Take a class together







    * Read a book together, such as Marriage and the Fruit of the Spirit!









    Some ideas about pursuing each other:









    * Look nice for your spouse.







    * Do thoughtful things for each other.







    * Be affectionate. (Touching, kissing, and petting)







    * Listen to what your spouse has to say with interest. 







    * Ask your spouse questions about them.







    * Compliment each other.









    How can you be all in for your marriage?









    * Do everything you can for love.







    * Pray fervently for and with each other.







    * No matter what, keep your relationship first.







    * Never give up on each other.







    * Do not do anything half-heartedly.









    The below chart is based on the book His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley Jr.:







    His NeedsHer NeedsSexual fulfillmentAffectionRecreational companionshipIntimate conversationPhysical attractivenessHonesty and opennessDomestic supportFinancial supportAdmirationFamily commitment







    The purpose of marriage:









    * To share the mission







    * To prepare for eternity

    • 35 Min.
    Spelling Love without the I

    Spelling Love without the I

    Table Of Contents



    Why Get Married?The ProblemI Love YouLove Is LeavingLove Is OfferingLove Is VolunteeringLove Is Expecting











    Why Get Married?







    Love







    I want someone to love me. I want to feel loved. I want to experience being loved. I think there is a deep-seated desire to love someone, to know that out of all the people in this world, there is one that I love and that loves me back. My life has meaning because I am in love. Love is the ultimate cure for loneliness. Even when you are not together, you are still connected by this mutual feeling of love.







    When I was dating my wife, we had a long-distance relationship of about 200 miles. But when we fell in love, it didn’t matter how far we were away from each other because we were in each other’s hearts. You get married because you are in love. 







    Happiness







    Being in a romantic relationship makes you feel happy. A 2012 study found that during the initial stages of love your body produces elevated levels of the hormone Oxytocin. It gives you a warm and fuzzy feeling. And being in love does make you feel happy. Who doesn’t want to feel happy? Who doesn’t want to be in love? 







    I am happily married but still get ads when I am on the internet about finding someone to love. Single people are searching for the happiness of love. Even married people are looking to fall in love again or looking for it in someone or something outside of their marriage.







    I think most people see marriage as a vehicle to get you to the happiness that you want. It starts with just being in love, then it becomes having a family, and finally having someone to share your life with, to grow old together.







    Needs







    This is where it gets interesting because everyone has needs that marriage can facilitate. And it’s those needs that drive us into the marketplace of love. At its base marriage is an exchange of goods. One person needs physical intimacy, while another needs providing for. So they enter into a partnership of love and marriage. In exchange for this, I am giving you this. 







    Those needs vary from person to person, but regardless of what those needs are, they are a part of the exchange that takes place in the marketplace of love. When you are single, you are looking for the best person to meet those needs. So you meet and develop this understanding that you are both capable and willing to meet those needs in that exchange. 







    I once read this book entitled “His Needs Her Needs” by Willard Harley. I would recommend it to anyone because it was very insightful and helpful. It outlines the needs of men and women and how individuals sort out those needs and how marriage can by design meet them. Love allows you to partner with someone else to have those needs met. 















    The Problem







    Things Change

    • 38 Min.
    How Conflict Can Change You and Your Marriage

    How Conflict Can Change You and Your Marriage

    FixerUpperMarriage.org/Conflict







    Jason@FixerUpperMarriage.org







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    Summary















    Marriage conflict is a terrible thing. Or is it? Maybe the conflict is really about something entirely different than what you think it is! Find out what marriage conflict is all about and how it can change your marriage for the better.















    How Does Conflict Change You?











    Table Of Contents



    Through Your DifferencesThrough DisagreementsThrough Your ReconcilingThrough Disappointments











    Love sets off a series of events that alter the course of your life. Hopefully, it’s not a series of unfortunate events! 🙂 Loving is about interpersonal exchanges with someone who knows you more intimately than anyone else in this world. And it’s those exchanges that can make or break your love. 















    “I didn’t plan on falling in love with you, and I doubt you planned on falling in love with me. But once we met, it was clear that neither of us could control what was happening to us. We fell in love, despite our differences, and once we did, something rare and beautiful was created.”







    — Nicholas Sparks, Dear John







    I hate conflict. I just don’t want to deal with it at all. But as long as you can be calm, confronting that conflict head-on could be the best thing you can do in your marriage. One thing I love about the stories of Jesus in the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John) is the way he just unabashedly faced conflict with people. Whether it was with one of His disciples, the pharisees, lawyers, or government officials, He didn’t flinch. I think you can learn from that, how it’s better to deal with conflict than to not. Even if it doesn’t turn out the way you want it, at least things are made clear and put on the path to become better. 







    Some married people avoid conflict at all costs. And sometimes I think marriage resources lead us to think that any conflict is bad. That is just not true. Resolving that conflict quickly is the best way to keep your love and relationship on track. People go for years without talking about things that bother them in their marriage, then when they finally reach the breaking point, everything starts spewing out and they ruin their love. I am saying that most of the time it’s better to talk about things than to let them go on. Although there are some things you can let go of. Don’t let those things feaster and build up to something you can correct together.







    But learning to resolve that conflict can produce a change in you and your relationship. So conflict is an important part of your love. Learning how to love is loving through the conflict. The Bible defines love in I Corinthians. The word Charity is a translation of the Greek word Agape which means love.







    Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity,

    • 41 Min.
    Lost that Lovin’ Feelin’?

    Lost that Lovin’ Feelin’?

    FixerUpperMarriage.org/LostLove







    God’s creation of love is one of the most amazing things in life. He created people with the urge to love and be loved by someone. People dream about love, read about love, and wish for love to find them. Love is the “big bang” of life. It’s when two people collide in a way that fundamentally alters the course of their lives. Love is a feeling, an emotion, a commitment, a longing, a desire, and a desperate need. Once you have fallen in love with someone, it doesn’t matter what happens, that person is always with you. 







    I remember the moment I let go of everything; my past, my fears, my hopes, and my dreams. I let myself fall. The only things there to catch me were an overwhelming force of love or a devastating mire of hurt and defeat. But love caught me and held me tight, now I never want to let it go. When I look into the eyes of my lover I see everything I ever want and everything I have in this life. If you have found love, believe in it, nurture it, and fight for it because if you let it slip away you may never find it again.















    Ronald Reagan the 40th president of the United States wrote the following to his wife Nancy:







    “I more than love you, I’m not whole without you. You are life itself to me. When you are gone I’m waiting for you to return so I can start living again.”







    But love is not without its risks. There is a long trail of lost love, broken hearts, and deep regret. What do you do when you feel your love slipping away, or you wake up one day and realize you’ve lost it? How do you get it back? How do you put two broken hearts back together again?







    What can you do when you’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’?







    Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love. Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent.Revelation 2:4-5











    Table Of Contents



    Remember What You HadRepent for Your WrongRepeat What You Did at First











    Remember What You Had







    (Remember therefore from whence thou are fallen)







    Memories Are Love’s Treasure Box







    Memories are the things that you have that no one can take away from you. You build your love on those memories. It starts the day you first meet. That memory connects you to the next moment and those memories just keep building and connecting; until you fall in love and all those memories get electrified. Memories become the spark that ignites the passion of your love.   







    Sometimes, when you are right in the middle of hardship you can’t see anything except what is right in front of you. You can’t see any hope for the future or good memories from the past. You just get stuck. Memories are God’s gift to lovers.







    The Romantic Moments







    The moment I first met Amber seemed like such a fleeting thing at the time. But it became so much more meaningful as we feel in love. Her eyes looking at me and her radiant smile changed my life. I think it’s those first moments that could have gone either way that means the most to me now. Those moments when I was the most vulnerable to her.

    • 26 Min.
    Six Prayers that Could End Your Marriage Problems for Good

    Six Prayers that Could End Your Marriage Problems for Good

    FixerUpperMarriage.org/Prayers







    Read I Peter 3:1-12











    Table Of Contents



    Little Green Mile MarkersSubmissionKnowledgeRespectEmpathyPeaceSpiritual Enlightenment











    Little Green Mile Markers







    I am driving up the interstate highway. I am in the fast-lane and I am counting the mile markers. They are these little green signs on the side of the road that mark the miles. I don’t know what purpose they serve other than a way to pass the time while driving. I have just crossed over the state line, mile marker 1. I have about 92 more mile markers before I turn off of this road. And I am thinking about how much I hate traveling. I have lived in the same small town my entire life and know it like the back of my hand. I know every short cut and backroad. I even know the history of all the landmarks. I have lived there so long that everyone looks familiar to me because I am sure I have seen them before. 







    But now I am on a road that is taking me away. As I pass another mile marker, its mile marker 3 now, I am trying to decide what to say. I have this stuffed dog next to me I would find out later that barked, but for now it was just sitting there listening. Beside it was a bouquet and card I had doted over for an hour or more. I had painstakingly written out a note in it.







    I feel stupid and exposed. I am taking a risk, leaving what I know for something I don’t. I don’t even know if she will like me, or if she will keep liking me once she really knows me! Now I am getting nervous, so I look at the next marker, it’s number 4. 







    I think the worst part of all this is not knowing. Not knowing how this whole thing will end. And I am thinking that it may not end well for me. She is all the things I am not, outgoing, loving, kind, and pretty. She is the kind of pretty that is inside and out. Everybody likes her. I am definitely not pretty and sometimes I wonder if anybody likes me. There’s another mile marker I am at number 5 now. 







    So I start practicing on the dog again. It just seems better than talking to myself. This time I look in the review mirror which doesn’t help anything. So I do what all good Christians do when they are desperate, I pray. I ask God to somehow make this beautiful young lady love me. Which seems like a miracle to me!







    A couple of years later, I am driving the opposite way, passing the same mile markers (they go backwards the other way and I have no idea why).  But this time, I am holding her hand, and we are passing them together. We are driving back to my hometown to spend the rest of our lives together. But I am not counting them this time; we are just driving past them.







    I don’t know how many “mile markers” we have driven past in our love together. But it doesn’t matter what they look like or what number is on them because we are together. And being together is the only “marker” that counts.







    “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

    • 49 Min.
    11 Ways to Keep Money from Destroying Your Marriage

    11 Ways to Keep Money from Destroying Your Marriage

    FixerUpperMarriage.org/money







    What is Money?







    * Money is this powerful, mysterious force that controls and changes your life. It divides people into classes (the haves and the have nots). And nothing makes people more jealous than money.* Money is an intoxication. Having it makes you feel powerful, independent, and free. Not having it makes you feel weak, helpless, and bound. It is like an addiction to a powerful drug. It controls you.* Money is an abusive master. It manipulates you with fear and hopelessness. It beats you down, stresses you out, and dictates what you can or can’t do.* Money is an elusive substance- a mirage in the desert of life. When you find it, it is never really there. It’s a dream that never lives up to reality. It is never enough.* Money is a terrible lover who steals your heart and never loves you back. * Money is a god who demands your worship at all costs. It takes your soul but only gives superficial things back.







    In a poll of divorced people conducted by MagnifyMoney, 21% of divorcées cite money as the cause of their divorce. Of course, we all know that money problems cause a lot of stress. And that stress can destroy your relationship. How crazy is it, that little pieces of paper can have so much power.







    But money only has the power that you give it. There are ways to keep it from hurting your love. Most money problems are self-inflicted but other times things happen, like injury, death in your family, sickness, or job loss. But regardless of how you get into financial hardship, that hardship doesn’t have to mean the end of your love.







    “Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that.”–Norman Vincent Peale







    As a disclaimer, I am not a financial expert or advisor. My focus is on how money impacts your relationship. And as a confession, I am working on these things in my own marriage. So maybe this whole thing is for me! But I think you will definitely find this episode helpful. I will leave the links to any of the resources in the comments below.











    Table Of Contents



    1. Talk About Your Budget Together2. Prioritize Your Spending3. Use the ROI Method to Analyze Your Spending Choices4. Limit Your Credit Accounts5. Live Within Your Means6. Save for Large Purchases7. Don’t Let Money Be Your Measuring Stick of Success8. Use Available Resources9. Give Yourself Some “Free” Money10. Give Liberally11. Remember Where Your Money Really Comes From











    1. Talk About Your Budget Together







    Don’t Hide Things from Each Other







    When you become one, so does your money.

    • 46 Min.

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