If you want to improve your self-confidence, and if you are focusing on what's being shared on the Internet in the past few weeks, then you will find a lot of advice such as self-acceptance, learning to love yourself, knowing your values, knowing your principles, and all of these kinds of stuff available on the Internet. And I am telling you right now ‘’No. They will not be effective, and they will not work with you.’’
While these types of advice are very effective and very important in the process of improving your self-confidence in general, but they will not work with you because as a normal human being, you want the fastest road to improving your self-confidence.
And these types of advice can work, but work only in collaboration with a coach or a consultant, or if you are willing to do it in the long term and if you are patient enough.
The golden rule of self-confidence is that you choose a specific area, define a specific skill that you want to improve in this area, and then you practice this skill. While practicing, you will get feedback. You correct & modify, and then do it again, over, and over and over and over until you become better and with becoming better you will also become more confident.
And most people’s main problem is that they never start. They want to be great swimmers without even dipping a toe in the water. So, if you have a problem, because you are worried to take a specific step or because you cannot stay consistent or because you are lazy or anything else, then hire a coach or a consultant or get an accountability partner to work with you.
The second thing is, if you are confident in a specific area, that does not mean that you are automatically confident in every other area. But by being confident in a specific area, makes it easier for you to adopt the right mindset and to say to yourself ''maybe I can learn and get better in this new area'', and to be open to new experiences and to practice some specific skills until you get better.
And again, self-acceptance, learning to love yourself, focusing on your values and principles...etc.. are all great things and they work. But they will not work with you immediately because most people want something that works as fast as possible and can show them that they are making progress. And these things need time and patience.