SWM 064 – Oct 2020 Questions – Body odour, remarriage, doggy style sex and more Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective

We’re a little late this time.  Last month I had devoted a large portion of my time to writing my sermon and so didn’t get around to posting the answers to the questions received from our anonymous Have A Question page during October.  So, today I’m posting them, and we’ll do November’s in a little bit, before December is finished.







Question 1 - Motorbunny









Hey Jay, I know you have done some sex toy reviews, but I was wondering if you know anything about this particular item.







It is called the "motorbunny" it is a saddle like Arch that you are supposed to kneel over it and it has different attachments for penetration and vibrations.







 from what I have read this is the mother of all sex toys and once you try you'll never go back...... so good in fact that some people tried to make their own replicas because of the very expensive cost.







Thanks









I’m not aware of that particular company, but I am aware of the style of toys.  We’ve never tried one, and I can’t see myself purchasing one.  For one, as you said, the cost is generally very high ($900 for the Motor Bunny, more for other models), secondly, if it’s as good as you say “once you try, you’ll never go back”, well, then that sort of ruins sex, doesn’t it?  I don’t want any toy that once you try, you’ll never go back to anything else.







Thirdly, well, I’m in favor of toys that couples can use together, this style of toy, that doesn’t seem very possible.  The reason for that is because I think toys should enhance a couple’s relationship together, not be the focus of it.  I’m not sure there is anyway for this toy not to be the focus of the session.







So, no, I don’t know much about it, and I don’t think I’m terribly interested in it myself.







Question 2 - Where’s the eye candy for women?









This one you won't believe but here goes.  I'm a 66 years young woman & not married.  QUESTION:  how much more does a man think about sex than female in an hour, day or any time period?  Seems like I've been told by men, articles, media, women magazine, other females and also M/W Pastors.  Is it just the makeup of a man?  Is it impossible for a man not to think of something sexual.  Topless bars, male magazines and not to forget we can't enjoy professional basketball, football or hockey without scantily clad young women.  Yes I know selling female skin brings in more money so why not have some nice "v" shaped, daisy duke wearing men joining the female's for us women who can’t buy their own ticket? 







"Once a rose always a rose".  Thanks, Sara 









It’s generally accepted that men, on average, tend to be think about sex more than women.  However, that doesn’t mean every man thinks about sex more often than every woman.  But, yes, there does seem to be something in our makeup that causes men to be more easily visually stimulated.







Women tend (again, on average) to prefer sexual contexts, rather than simply sexual imagery.  This is why romantic novels, romantic comedies, etc., tend to appeal to a more largely female audience.







However, in both cases, they’re barking up the wrong tree.  What both men and women are designed to really want, what will really satisfy their desires is a relationship in which those desires are fulfilled.  And so, topless bars, cheerleaders, porn,