Working Moms feel an almost constant tug-of-war between their careers and their kids. They are pulled between wanting what’s best for their professional dreams, and what’s best for their families.
Welcome to The Working Mom’s Guide to Sanity podcast, your go-to resource for support, advice, and inspiration as you navigate the challenges of balancing your ambitious career dreams, and family.
Each week, we’ll bring you interviews with powerhouse working moms to share their insights on how they manage to find sanity while juggling their demanding jobs and kids.
So, whether you’re listening on your commute to work, during your lunch break, or while running errands, we’re here to support you and help you achieve your goals as a working mom. Tune in to The Working Mom’s Guide to Sanity podcast and join our community of like-minded moms who are torn between their kids and careers like you are!
EP 78 How to be a racial equity advocate, even around the holiday dinner table, with Dr. Nikki Lanier
Dr. Nikki Lanier is the CEO and founder of Harper Slade, one of the fastest-growing and most highly recognized racial equity advisory firms in the country, her work focuses on helping organizations cultivate environments where black and brown talent can thrive.
Nikki has also founded two global coaching programs, one for inclined white women who want to become better racial equity advocates in their home, workplace, and community, and the other a coaching program for professional black women who are in need of ripening and respite.
In this episode, we discuss how white women can be better racial equity advocates, even over the holiday season when seated next to family members with differing views
(02:40) Educating the white population on race issues, introduction to Nikki
(06:36) Not being racist is not quite the same as being anti-racist
(10:26) What leads some white women to become advocates of racial equity
(12:40) What racism has stolen from YOU
(14:23) Tips for dealing with your racist uncle during XMAS dinner; navigating racially charged conversations
(18:44) Trying to convert people to anti-racism can backfire
(20:36) Why some white women do not engage with equity issues despite wishing to
Websites: www.harperslade.com and www.nikkilanier.com
Ep 77 How being vulnerable can deepen resilience, with bestselling author Dr. Taryn Marie
Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal is the Founder and Chief Resilience Officer of the Resilience Leadership Institute and is recognized as the #1 international expert on resilience, mental health, and well-being in both leadership and life.
In this episode, we discuss her new WSJ Bestselling Book, “The Five Practices of Highly Resilient People: Why Some Flourish When Others Fold”, where Dr. Taryn explores how resilience is the key to individual, team, and organizational growth and acceleration across the globe
((02:46) It's OK to not be OK
(05:28) Is it OK to let your kids see you're experiencing negative emotions?
(09:34) Healing childhood wounds and letting go of resentment
(12:53) It can be very helpful to reframe your traumas as character-building experiences
(16:50) Vulnerability can be an asset in the C-suite and in life
(20:56) What level of awareness should children have about your relationship with your partner?
(24:25) Marriage and divorce during the pandemic
(28:53) How much vulnerability can we show at work?
(33:47) We don't owe an explanation to anybody
(39:19) Concluding remarks
Books: 5 Practices of Highly Resilient People
EP 76 How to Find Your Unicorn Space, with bestselling author Eve Rodsky
Eve Rodsky transformed a “blueberries breakdown” into a catalyst for social change when she applied her Harvard-trained background in organizational management to ask the simple yet profound question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations?
Her New York Times bestselling book and Reese’s Book Club Pick, Fair Play, a gamified life-management system that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload and reimagine their relationship, has elevated the cultural conversation about the value of unpaid labor and care.
In this episode we discuss her highly anticipated follow-up, Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World, where Rodsky explores the cross-section between the science of creativity, productivity, and resilience.
(01:48) Introduction to Eve and Finding Your Unicorn Space
(12:33) Who’s putting the pressure on us? Ourselves or Society?
(14:52) The perceived value of men’s time vs women's- diamonds and sand
(18:13) Your kids are watching, so set an example of how to treat yourself with respect
(23:59) The importance of having creative outlets just for your own sake
(27:13) Start where you feel like you're lacking the most
(29:27) Homework assignment
Website: fairplaylife.com & everodsky.com
Books: Find Your Unicorn Space
EP 75 The Secret to Restoring Sanity to the Workplace, with Cy Wakeman
Research has shown that the average employee spends nearly 2.5 hours per day in drama – gossiping, tattling, withholding buy-in, resisting change, and stepping down from accountability.
Drama is emotional waste – any unproductive thought or behavior – and like any other waste in the workplace, Cy believes drama can be eliminated through great mental processes, and that’s why her work is focused on giving leaders tools to recapture that emotional waste and upcycle it into results.
In this episode, Cy and I chat about working mom guilt, workplace politics, judgment, competition, and how to let all of that drama go.
(02:32) The limits of people-pleasing: How Cy was surprised by her performance review
(09:43) Are women harassed by unfair grading systems?
(16:45) Are you willing to have people be wrong about you so that you can live the life you want to live?
(20:33) "Skilling up" your kids
(22:59) Cy shares a story of being healed through alternate states of consciousness
(28:30) Your childhood stories of trauma may not be as important as you believe them to be
(30:31) Mom competition is soul-crushing
(31:42) There are only two types of actions: acts of love, and cries FOR love
(33:06) Why we tend to outsource our self-love to external people
(38:26) How we can stop transferring our anxiety onto others
(42:00) Life can be a lot bigger than whatever pain you are in now: Cy's 3-word thought experiment
(44:01) Why our ego wants us to be a victim
Life’s Messy, Live Happy
The Reality-Based Rule of the Workplace
EP 74 The Magic of Surrender, with author Kute Blackson
KUTE BLACKSON is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events including A-Fest, YPO (Young Presidents’ Organization), and EO (Entrepreneurs’ Organization)
In this episode, Kute and I chat about his simple mission—to awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically, and fulfill their true life’s purpose.
(02:22) What is the difference between surrendering and succumbing?
(04:27) Many well-known and successful people have also surrendered
(07:11) Why one should not confuse surrender with laziness
(13:01) To truly surrender, one must go through grieving
(14:49) Some of us have not allowed ourselves to grieve unrealized dreams
(16:22) The greatest gift parents can give their children is a healed consciousness
(20:09) Children will pick up on your unresolved traumas, it is therefore crucial that they are dealt with
(24:52) Children are able to pick up on things even if they remain unspoken
(26:21) There is no reason to hold off introducing your kids to spiritual practices early on
(28:01) Kute's train station story or how to make the most of suffering
Books: The Magic of Surrender
EP 73 Understanding Emotional Labor, with author Rose Hackman
Rose Hackman’s research and writings about “emotional labor”, an invisible, devalued, feminized, and yet essential form of work — seeks to drastically reframe our view of women, work, and the nature of persistent inequality.
In this episode, Rose and I chat about how to increase your awareness of emotional labor, offload some of it, and what role men play in it.
(02:35) Defining emotional labor
(05:50) Breaking down examples of emotional labor
(09:31) The burden of pretending to be authentic
(12:02) What about the men? Men and emotional labor
(15:53) Self-imposed obligations and creating space for your partner to step in
(20:07) Understanding the dynamics between masculine and feminine energy
(24:14) Gender roles have evolved in the context of modern times
(24:59) Some practical solutions for bridging the gap
(28:32) The consequences of dropping emotional labor at work
(31:02) The phenomenon of revenge time
Books: Emotional Labor