Dead Hearts Club Morgan Wade | Conscious Relationships + Embodied Intimacy

In previous episodes, we've laid into a theme and massaged it from head to toe, but today with this sweet, short episode, we're giving you just a Dose of DHC: sharing real-time examples from our own lives of how we're doing life the DHC way, in the moment. We're also inviting you to share your own stories of DHC living with us, and for the first time, we're answering a listener question -- because ultimately, Dead Hearts Club is about the ways our vulnerability creates connection, when it would be easier to just not do the hard thing, share the tender truth, and be seen in all that raw, unguarded glory.
Join us -- and then connect with us on Instagram @deadhearts.club, or send us an email at deadheartsclubpodcast@gmail.com to share your experiences of living the DHC way. We want to know how you're taking these conversations into your own lives, and maybe more than that, how you're stepping into the ring with your own vulnerable heart. We'd love to hear from you.
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We’re back with Season 2 of Dead Hearts Club, and we’re talking soulmates, love and attachment as the three-piece suite of our hearts. We’re getting into the lived human experience of soul connections in this episode, and I offer up some of what I’ve personally seen and experienced with some of my clients when they contact their soulmates or soul group during spiritual regression — which puts a bit of an esoteric spin on things… and it gets interesting, you guys.
In this episode, we’re upending some of the more commonly-accepted definitions of soulmates — especially in the context of a rom-com culture that tells us how soul connections should behave — because sometimes, love for and attachment to those people can really stir the pot in some confusing ways.
We also explore feeling soul-connected to places, and how those same fire-in-the-belly impulses can lead us into discovery about what we care about and how to listen, empathize and act according to our soul’s directives, and how this inner life force can speak to our calling or purpose, and how to be responsible, compassionate stewards of these human lives.
MENTIONED THIS WEEK: + Sungai Watch and land stewardship on Bali
 
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Surpriiiiise! This is our last episode of Season 1, and we’re rounding it out with a conversation about real-time, embodied emotional presence, and how we intentionally honor Self and Other — without self-sacrificing — when the lines that run between our hearts and the ones we love get blurry. We’re talking about the vulnerability that rushes to the forefront when strong emotion is present, and how we create a healthy adult egoic experience in relating with others. Can we notice our patterns of opening and closing, revealing and self-protecting, even when the moment — or the ones around us — seem to be asking for something different…?
At its core, this episode is about the bedrock Dead Hearts Club was founded on: challenging ourselves to stay so heart open that you kinda feel like you’re gonna die — and doing it in a way that holds impeccable individual (and group) boundaries, taking a sh*t ton of personal responsibility, and allowing ourselves to be held in our unscripted, wildly unpredictable humanity and hearts. Bria is sharing a recent experience on a trip with a group of friends where she found herself asking, “What would the DHC way of doing this be?”
What I really loved about this conversation was the way we were able to slow the pace and access the body-wisdom that it so unbelievably central to our personal practice of DHC, and how this embodied way of consistently revealing our hearts is the vulnerability-in-action guiding our whole process here on this podcast.
And then we wrap up the episode (and the season) with some bone-deep, love-drenched (classic Morgan and Bria) reflection on what’s changed for us since Dead Hearts Club began.
 
**SPECIAL DHC ANNOUNCEMENT** To our lady-listeners of Dead Hearts Club (and all those who identify as female), we wanna hang out with you. I (Morgan) am offering a class called Feminine Body Drop next week, on Wednesday, February 24th that is all about connecting to the very thing we’re always talking about here on the podcast: our hearts, our bodies, intuition, and trust. Join me in exploring feminine sensual movement as an intuitive pleasure practice, and get a chance to connect with other women (because damn, you guys, we really need connection right now). You can find out more and access the link to register (and join my Women’s Embodiment and Healing group) HERE. Tickets are just $15. I’d LOVE so much to see you there.
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Since lockdown began almost a year ago, many of us have come face to face with lots of time to be with ourselves, and the isolation of that has asked us to contact our emotional landscape without much distraction in a really intense way. What emerged, I thin, was an invitation, and (for me) a pretty significant inquiry into the nature of how we hide from ourselves, and how intentionally practicing emotional sobriety might inform how we show up in intimate relationship — specifically with ourselves.
This conversation will mean something to anyone who’s ever had the experience of shutting down — however unintentionally — their feeling function out of fear that what you feel is too big for you to hold, witness or heal. In this episode, Jessamyn Turgesen and I speak intimately — knee to knee on my couch in Southern California, with the sounds of life orchestrating around us — about this most tender, intricate web of human emotion and healing.
Jessamyn is a trauma-informed, body based healing facilitator using her training in massage and somatic therapies to assist clients in their healing & recovery journeys. She’s literally the perfect person to have this conversation with. Jessamyn and I talk about how we reconfigure our lives after loss, and the very real biological threat of grief as it often tells us, “If you feel all of this pain, you may not survive.”
In this episode, we redefine “safety” from a trauma-informed lens, and get raw about how shame occupies the space where our inner agency might otherwise call us forward when we are in deep, primal suffering. We’re talking about how the wisdom of our bodies can communicate what we need to midwife ourselves through the birthing of who we might be beneath our habits of hiding.
Jessamyn trained as a birth doula as well as a death/grief doula which has informed her capacity to be “with” humans in spaces of high transition. She is a poet, writer and photographer. These skill sets play a significant role in how she shows up with and moves in the world. As certified transformational life coach, she focuses on the work of self-intimacy as a powerful tool of transformation and growth. To get connected with more of her work and writing, you can find Jessamyn on Instagram at instagram.com/jessamynsara and her website jessamynsara.com.
You can also join Morgan's free video series on Emotional Sobriety and watch past videos by subscribing here.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: + The Focalizing Practitioner Training both Jessamyn and Morgan just began.
+ Jessamyn and Morgan’s mutual friend (and future DHC guest) Jeannette LeBlanc.
+ Rumi’s poem, The Guesthouse.
+ Gabor Maté and his work with addiction.
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As I sat down to think about how to introduce this episode on intuition, I drew a little bit of a blank. I think it's because, as vulnerable as it is to look for what intuition feels like for ourselves, and learning to trust ourselves enough to follow its directives, there's no way to talk about intuition in prescriptive terms.
What is intuition anyway? A feeling? A sense? A knowing? All of it and none of it? Why is it even of any significance at all? As we meander through the kaleidoscope of life, we're dancing with fleeting nudges or guidance that intends to illuminate our path. Whether or not we listen is the name of the game. In this week's episode, Bria and I share a few intimate stories of how our intuition has led us into both the unforeseeable magic AND the “I had a feeling I shouldn’t have” messes that we’ve all face-palmed ourselves to after the fact. We talk about the “feather, brick, bus” affect and how we get to explore what choice looks like when it comes to sensing and being guided. 
Intuition is, for many of us, an ephemeral thing. It speaks to us in a language only we understand, and its gifts are the hidden jewels of our lives -- guiding us toward or away from experiences and people that can alter the entire trajectory of our journey.
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Is it possible to be in a co-dependent relationship with healing? How about a self-destructive relationship with "transformation"? If you sometimes find yourself poking around inside yourself, in search of the next thing to "fix," this episode is for you.
This week, we're talking about the sneaky ways spiritual self-help can convince us that there is a finish line -- and the endless pursuit of something other than what (and where) we are. We're talking about Presence, being with what arises as the ultimate teacher and guide, and the importance of time to integrate after a cycle of healing. Bria shares her ongoing healing with Lyme disease and burnout recovery, and a surprising nuance that showed up for her in her own work with her coach recently.
We're talking about being with emotion vs intellectually processing our feelings, honoring and working with the 3 stages of transition referenced in The Wisdom of Anxiety, and how self-judgement inevitably manifests anxiety. We're getting honest about healing elitism and judgement of people who aren't "doing the work," and what it might mean about our own projections and judgements... of ourselves. 
In this episode, we are deep in the curiosity about the difference between willingness and capacity, and which has the power to blow our hearts wide open.
Mentioned this week: + Stranger Than Fiction with Will Ferrell, and trying to figure out who (or what) is driving the plot of our lives
+ The Wisdom of Anxiety book
+ Charles Eistenstein's article, "The Space Between Stories"
+ Callback to Episode 1 and how the man nicknamed Dragonfly recalibrated Bria's experience of what a "consciousness man" feels like, as well as Episode 7 called This Is Healing
+ The movie Just Friends and The Hero's Journey