Fighting for Connection - Creating a Secure Marriage Brett Nikula, LMFT

Have you ever found yourself searching for a place to belong, a tribe to call your own? Today's story takes you on a heartfelt journey of a young boy, illustrating a life lesson about the transformative power of being someone else's cheerleader. As I recount his quest for connection, I share how his pursuit of personal fanfare shifted to a discovery that true belonging comes from supporting those around us. This narrative opens our eyes to the impact of investing in relationships and the warm...

Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of an outburst, only to realize that you are, in fact, the master of your reactions? I, Brett Nikula, stumbled into such a revelation while grappling with a stubborn kitchen light – a humbling reminder that within the chaos of a frustrating moment, we choose how we respond. This episode is a heartfelt nod to you, the listener, celebrating the personal growth we've achieved and the deeper understanding we've cultivated about the choices that shape ou...

Ever felt like you're walking a tightrope in your marriage? Let's tackle that head-on. I'm Brett Nikula, and in our latest episode, we delve into the sensitive topic of setting boundaries with our better halves. Lets move beyond the pressure that often come with 'house rules'—I'm here to guide you through understanding the 'why' behind your expectations and how they impact your union. You'll discover a practical tool I've used to enhance self-awareness and improve communication. This isn't ab...

This week, I, Brett Nikula, open up about the challenges that come with juggling the professional aspects and my personal life. It's a familiar struggle many of us face, and in this episode, I take it a step further by sharing not just stories but also practical tools for maintaining emotional steadiness and cultivating stronger connections with those we hold dear.As we navigate the complexities of responding to an upset spouse, I walk you through a transformative four-step exercise that's mo...

Have you ever found yourself swallowed by the highs and lows of marriage, feeling like if it's not perfect, you're failing? Let's reshape that narrative together. As your host Brett Nikula, I delve into the concept of moderation within relationships, a theme that may just be the lifeline your partnership needs. This episode isn't just another discussion; it's a revelation that will shift your perspective on what it means to navigate the ebb and flow of marital life.Join me as I share personal...

When Kelsey and I tied the knot, little did we know that the real work was just beginning. This week on Fighting for Connection, I get help you see how even seemingly stable relationships have their share of turbulence. This episode takes you through the heart of what many assume to be 'just another normal marriage'. I peel back the layers to reveal how familiar struggles with insecurities and doubts can quietly erode the ties that bind. It's a journey into attachment theory and emotiona...