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Want a close connected and secure relationship? Maybe you feel like something's not quite right in your relationship, even though there are a lot of good things. You and your partner love each other, but there are moments that hurt. It's normal for all relationships to experience conflict or worry. The difference between the couples that remain close and the couples that drift apart is their ability to work through conflict and moments of worry and insecurity within the relationship. Listen in to discover new ways to stay close and connected even through the toughest moments life throws at you.. Learn how to deal with your patterns of conflict and make your connection stronger. Simply listen, learn, make changes, and see positive transformations in your relationship.Brett Nikula is an LMFT and Relationship coach that works with couples that want to stay together, that really care about each other, learn to communicate in a way that reduces the pain in the relationship and increases the connection.

Fighting for Connection - Creating a Secure Marriage Brett Nikula, LMFT

    • Society & Culture

Want a close connected and secure relationship? Maybe you feel like something's not quite right in your relationship, even though there are a lot of good things. You and your partner love each other, but there are moments that hurt. It's normal for all relationships to experience conflict or worry. The difference between the couples that remain close and the couples that drift apart is their ability to work through conflict and moments of worry and insecurity within the relationship. Listen in to discover new ways to stay close and connected even through the toughest moments life throws at you.. Learn how to deal with your patterns of conflict and make your connection stronger. Simply listen, learn, make changes, and see positive transformations in your relationship.Brett Nikula is an LMFT and Relationship coach that works with couples that want to stay together, that really care about each other, learn to communicate in a way that reduces the pain in the relationship and increases the connection.

    Disconnection

    Disconnection

    Have you ever felt adrift in the vast ocean of life's relationships, yearning for a lifeline? Join me, Brett Nicola, as I delve into the profound effects of disconnection on our most cherished bonds in the latest episode of the Fighting for Connection podcast. I share my personal experiences and those of my clients to shine a light on the human need for connection and how it shapes our interactions. Through the metaphor of being lost at sea, I uncover the emotions of panic and isolation that can emerge when we find ourselves disconnected from those we care about. This conversation is not just an exploration of challenges but also an offering of hope, bringing us closer to the connectedness our hearts desire.

    The journey toward connection continues as we confront the turbulent conflict cycles that often undermine our relationship's stability. Imagine being caught in a rip current of recurring disagreements – that's precisely what many couples face. However, as you tune in, you'll learn the critical skills to break free and steer back to the safe harbor of love and understanding. This episode is made even more special with the invaluable insights from a dynamic husband and wife duo who personify the principles of rekindling connection. So whether you're navigating these waters alone or with your partner, be prepared to be inspired and equipped with strategies that can transform your relationship into a beacon of connectedness.

    • 14 min
    Holding Space

    Holding Space

    Embark on an intimate exploration with me, Brett Nicola, as I share the balancing act of nurturing a thriving career alongside a vibrant family life. Picture the heartwarming morning routine of dropping off the little ones at school and the cherished midday breaks spent with my beloved wife. These personal vignettes from my life as a devoted family man and a seasoned relationship coach frame today's episode, where I delve into the art of crafting robust communication structures for couples. Our heartfelt discussion will illuminate the ways in which clear and compassionate dialogue can not only bridge gaps but also fortify the bonds of partnership.

    Witness the profound transformation that takes place when we create a sanctuary for our significant others to express their feelings authentically. I recount my own journey of learning to provide Kelsey, my wife, with a space to unfold her emotions without the pressure of my own reactions clouding the moment. It's about becoming the steadfast beacon in the emotional squalls that life casts our way. As we navigate through the tempest, I offer insights into acknowledging and supporting our partners' emotions as wholly their own, a testament to the strength and resilience that can blossom from such understanding. Tune in and let's venture together into the rich landscape of cultivating enduring, loving connections.

    • 22 min
    New Life

    New Life

    It's just too hard to improve upon the AI summery so here you go.

    As the Nicola family tree extends its branches with the arrival of Bram Walter Nicola, I, Brett Nicola, invite you into an intimate reflection on the beauty of beginnings and the deep-rooted theories that guide our connections. In the glow of my newborn son's first days, witness the living embodiment of attachment theory as my wife Kelsey instinctively navigates the delicate waters of our child's emotional needs—a dance of bonding that promises to shape his world and ours.

    Venture with us through the landscapes of the heart, where we examine the true essence of security in our closest relationships. Unwrapping the layers of what it means to feel safe, I share how symbolic actions can stir the soul yet may not anchor us in honesty and trust. We'll traverse the challenges that arise when our relational needs go unmet, discuss the art of self-regulation, and share strategies for communicating effectively, all in the pursuit of cultivating the lasting and fulfilling bonds we all yearn for. Join me in celebrating not just the beginning of a life, but the ongoing journey of nurturing the connections that make us whole.

    • 29 min
    Doing the Work With Monica Leigh

    Doing the Work With Monica Leigh

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    Monica Lee's remarkable transformation from the depths of betrayal to the peaks of communal support is a story that will leave you both inspired and introspective. As she graces our latest episode of Fighting for Connection, we traverse the landscape of healing from a partner's addiction and infidelity. Our heartfelt discussion reveals the raw choice to turn pain into purpose, a decision that birthed the ‘Choosing to Heal’ community—a haven for those in the throes of their struggles, seeking camaraderie and a step-by-step path toward reclaiming their lives.

    With the arrival of my seventh child, I've been reminded of the delicate dance between family and professional pursuits. This week, Monica and I delve into the integral role of making conscious healing choices within relationships and how these decisions can radically reshape the dynamics between partners. We uncover the treasures within the Connected Couples Campus, an online reservoir of resources fostering personal and relational growth. It's about unlocking the power of healing together and finding solace in the shared journey of recovery.

    The resilience born from facing rejections in direct sales and small business ownership is a resilience that Monica knows intimately. She shares her evolution from a bank teller with a creative spark to a confident network marketer, a metamorphosis that encapsulates lessons far beyond the business realm. As we wrap up our conversation, we extend an invitation to you, our listeners, to maintain and nurture the connections in your life. Join us and absorb the insights that Monica brings to the table—because, at the heart of it all, staying connected is what gives our experiences, trials, and triumphs their true value.

    • 44 min
    Why I got Married

    Why I got Married

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    As my wife Kelsey and I eagerly await the arrival of our seventh bundle of joy, I find myself reflecting on the profound connection that's only deepened with each heartbeat. Join me, Brett Nicola, as I take you on a journey through the anticipation, the nerves, and the heartwarming moments that prelude the entrance of a new family member. This episode isn't just about the pitter-patter of tiny feet; it's a celebration of the strength and inspiration my incredible wife embodies, and a heartfelt thank you to you, my listeners, for being the supportive community that has encircled us with love.

    Remember those first flutters of young love? Kelsey and I sure do. We're peeling back the layers of our high school sweetheart story, revealing the insecurities and infatuations that have since blossomed into a resilient partnership. Discover the pivotal gestures that laid the foundation of our bond and how understanding our unique love languages has been instrumental in nurturing our connection. It's a tale of growth, challenge, and the deep yearning for that special understanding that makes two hearts beat in unison.

    But what truly keeps a marriage thriving through the routine and the unexpected? I'm opening up about the transformative wisdom that shifted my view from seeing marriage as a feel-good alliance to embracing it as a service-oriented commitment. It's about putting giving before receiving, about how serving Kelsey has unexpectedly enriched our lives in ways beyond imagination. So, come with me—whether you're nurturing a new relationship, fortifying a lifelong partnership, or anywhere in between—as we explore the art of communication, the gift of serving, and the steadfast dedication it takes to love truly and deeply.

    • 38 min
    Understanding Each Other With Tommy and Brenda Geary

    Understanding Each Other With Tommy and Brenda Geary

    Today I enjoy a conversation with Tommy and Brenda Geary who run Tommy G Coaching and The Durable Dad Podcast. We discuss how to communicate in a clear way in order to stay close and connected in the face of life challenges and even working together. 

    To find more of Tommy and Brenda's work check out 

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    • 48 min

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