7 episodes

Do you long to embody mindfulness and compassion in your parenting?
Yeah, me too.

I specialize in building resilience to stress and anxiety, because we are going to continue to lead challenging lives. We just want to feel resilient enough to not be overwhelmed by them.

A sense of belonging can reduce our feelings of isolation, and infuse our parenting with hope and purpose.
Thanks for walking alongside me.
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Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids Podcast Kate Lynch

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Do you long to embody mindfulness and compassion in your parenting?
Yeah, me too.

I specialize in building resilience to stress and anxiety, because we are going to continue to lead challenging lives. We just want to feel resilient enough to not be overwhelmed by them.

A sense of belonging can reduce our feelings of isolation, and infuse our parenting with hope and purpose.
Thanks for walking alongside me.
https://www.healthyhappyyoga.com/meltdown https://www.facebook.com/groups/3229904633801703/?ref=share

    Progressive Relaxation: Squeeze and Release

    Progressive Relaxation: Squeeze and Release

    Progressive relaxation is a great way to learn how to release your muscles more deeply. Sometimes it helps to exaggerate your tight places, so that you can identify them and then let them go. This is a great practice to help you wind down for sleep, or whenever you need to ground yourself. 

    We end with the Serenity Prayer, in order to let go of hyper-vigilance on a deeper level. 

    Please send me an email and let me know how you would like to be supported on this podcast. Would you like to hear more from Ocean? How about other parents? More breathing or mindfulness or gentle yoga practices? 

    Join our Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/3229904633801703/?source_id=400903940032482

    To be the first to know about the Compassion Challenge for Parents, join Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids, and grab your Mindful Meltdown Cheatsheet here: 

    https://www.healthyhappyyoga.com/meltdown

    • 12 min
    Self Acceptance for Parents

    Self Acceptance for Parents

    How's your primary relationship? I'm talking about your relationship with yourself! 

    Do you ever say unkind words to yourself? Would you say those words to someone you love? 

    Parents, when you are hard on yourself, there are ripple effects. You may think your kids aren't listening, but those are the only times they ARE listening! They absorb more than we think. Our kids are learning self acceptance (or self criticism) by how we treat ourselves. If you wouldn't say something to your beloved, try not to say it to yourself.

    Here are 3 Steps to Self Acceptance, based on mindfulness practices:


     Observe your unkind thought. Don't pile on by judging yourself further. Just notice the thought.
    Feel the associated feelings in your body. Say yes to whatever feeling is present here.
    Say something kind to yourself. For example, "It's not your fault." or "You're not alone in this." or "I love you."

    I have found that having a small community of parents who understand is essential to my wellbeing. Join our Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/3229904633801703/?source_id=400903940032482

    To be the first to know about the Compassion Challenge for Parents, join Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids, and grab your Mindful Meltdown Cheatsheet here:

    https://www.healthyhappyyoga.com/meltdown

    • 6 min
    Can We Talk About Bullying?

    Can We Talk About Bullying?

    Ocean and I were just swapping YouTube videos about bullying, and we decided to record a conversation. I'm a bit anxious about Ocean starting middle school next year. 'Bullies' are everywhere throughout life, so it is important to me that we keep an open dialogue. 

    Please note that we are NOT talking about any sort of physical abuse. 

    Brooks Gibbs has been on my radar for a while. In general his approach makes a lot of sense to me; way more sense than some of the traditional vilifying/shaming/victimizing strategies imposed top-down by school systems. Gibbs categorizes bullies as someone who either feels that they have been wronged, are power hungry, or they actually think they are being funny. He shares ways to defuse all three.

    I agree with Gibbs about not reacting to the mean words, or being extra kind. However, I don't agree with "Don't get upset." 

    Be aware of who it is safe to SHOW you're upset with. 

    Mindfulness can help us defer our reactions. We can postpone them, but eventually our feelings need somewhere to go.  I hope everyone, child and adult, has someone safe to talk with about any challenging feelings. Being tough isn't the special sauce here, it is staying calm even though you feel hurt. When you know who is safe to share your feelings with, it is easier to not react to teasing in the moment. 

    You can proactively role play with your kid, like we did. Then, you can remind your child that we all have hurt feelings. You can model naming your own hurt feelings, and describe how they feel in your body. 

    Your child can ask themselves, “What is happening now?” They might actually pause to notice what’s happening in their environment. Then, “Can I be with it, or is it too much?” If staying and talking to the bullying kid feels too painful, they need to be empowered to walk away.

    These are complex skills for anyone. I was nudging Ocean towards his own conclusions. 

    Ocean and I laugh a lot in this podcast, but bullying is no laughing matter. Laughter is a coping mechanism, and humor has always been one of his superpowers. I was intentionally being silly about it, not to belittle the topic, but to discharge any residual stress from suppressed memories. 

    After the chat with Ocean, I share some simple mindfulness tips and scripts, and my guiding light: the serenity prayer. 

    Brooks Gibbs video: https://youtu.be/7oKjW1OIjuw

    • 11 min
    Advice for Parents, From an Atypical Kid

    Advice for Parents, From an Atypical Kid

    Advice for parents of atypical kids, from Ocean as he begins his 5th grade year in NYC's ASD Nest program, amid pandemic confusion. He offers simple, logical suggestions about parenting anyone, really, in a mindful, observant and collaborative way. 

    Ocean has some thoughts about when parents should tell their kid about their diagnosis. 

    He has strong feelings about the way his ABA Pre-K tried to deal with his aversion to snaps and buttons. He did look adorable at his Aunt's wedding, but he definitely was NOT wearing a tie. I'll post a pic in the Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids Facebook Group, on request! Join here: Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids, and grab your Mindful Meltdown Cheatsheet here:

    https://www.healthyhappyyoga.com/meltdown

    • 8 min
    Visualizing and Modeling An Amazing Future for Your Atypical Child

    Visualizing and Modeling An Amazing Future for Your Atypical Child

    “All parenting turns on a crucial question: to what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves.”

    -Andrew Solomon,

    Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity

    This podcast is my answer to that question. We can set an example, by caring for ourselves and others. By taking responsibility for our own happiness and our relationships. By being caring to ourselves first. We have an opportunity to transform. As we do, we can have an impact on the future of our children. Envisioning that future, and taking steps towards it, can help us feel more hopeful and motivated on the parenting path. 

    I have a small group workshop coming up on this topic. Please register here: https://healthyhappyyogascheduling.as.me/AmazingFuture

    I have found that having a small community of parents who understand is essential to my wellbeing. Join our Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/3229904633801703/?source_id=400903940032482

    To be the first to know about the Compassion Challenge for Parents, join Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids, and grab your Mindful Meltdown Cheatsheet here:

    https://www.healthyhappyyoga.com/meltdown

    • 25 min
    Self-Compassion for Parents in 6 Minutes

    Self-Compassion for Parents in 6 Minutes

    As parents of atypical kids, we know, when it RAINS, it pours. 

    In the process of living a life of meaning, my vulnerability arises. Emotionally raw places become exposed, and my precarious serenity is challenged not only by my relationship with my son, but by life in general. 

    Join me in a self-compassion process which has helped me immensely to heal my underlying emotional wounds. Recognize, allow, investigate and nurture your uncomfortable feelings, and then saturate your nervous system with compassion. I first learned RAIN from Tara Brach. I have added the stage of Saturate, in place of After the RAIN. 

    I have found that having a small community of parents who understand is essential to my wellbeing. Join our Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/3229904633801703/?source_id=400903940032482

    To be the first to know about the Compassion Challenge for Parents, join Mindfully Parenting Atypical Kids, and grab your Mindful Meltdown Cheatsheet here: 

    https://www.healthyhappyyoga.com/meltdown

    • 6 min

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