How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships TruStory FM

In this listener question episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright tackle some of the most pressing issues faced by those navigating the complexities of divorce. From the potential pitfalls of divorce coaching to the challenges of running a business with your ex-spouse, Seth and Pete provide insightful guidance and practical advice to help you navigate your unique situation.
Throughout the episode, Seth and Pete delve into a wide range of topics, discussing the importance of seeking mental health support during a high-conflict divorce, the nuances of maintaining a business partnership with an ex-spouse, and the factors that can influence custody arrangements. By addressing these key themes, Seth and Pete aim to equip listeners with the knowledge and tools they need to make informed decisions and protect their interests during the divorce process.
Listener Questions we answer in this episode:
Is divorce coaching a good idea in a high-conflict case?How can couples separate their marriage but keep their business together?Can the age of a child alone justify changes in custody arrangements?What can you do if your ex refuses to accept a fair settlement offer?What are some less obvious things to include in a parenting plan?Key Takeaways:
In a high-conflict divorce, it's best to avoid divorce coaching and opt for confidential mental health counseling instead.When maintaining a business with an ex-spouse, a solid partnership agreement and transparency are essential.Age of the child alone is not typically considered a substantial change in circumstances warranting custody modifications.Whether you're considering divorce coaching, grappling with the challenges of running a business with your ex, or concerned about the impact of your child's age on custody arrangements, this episode of How to Split a Toaster offers a wealth of valuable insights. By tuning in, you'll gain a deeper understanding of the legal and emotional landscape of divorce, empowering you to make the best decisions for yourself and your family during this challenging time.
Links & Notes
Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:27) - Listener Questions!
(01:08) - Question One: Divorce Coaching?
(05:14) - Question Two: Separating Marriage, Not the Business
(11:05) - Question Three: Child’s Age a Substantial Change for Child Custody?
(12:57) - Question Four: Weaponizing Emergency Motions
(18:00) - Question Five: Asset Division
(23:26) - Question Six: Parenting Plan Parts
(30:00) - Wrap Up

In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the crucial topic of preparing for a deposition in your divorce case. Seth, our seasoned divorce attorney, guides Pete through a mock deposition, providing invaluable insights and strategies to help you navigate this challenging process with confidence.
Throughout the episode, Seth and Pete engage in a lively and informative discussion, highlighting the importance of understanding the rules of a deposition and how to effectively respond to questions. Seth emphasizes the need to listen carefully, answer honestly, and provide concise responses while avoiding the temptation to over-explain or become defensive. He also shares real-life examples that demonstrate how seemingly simple questions can potentially trip you up if you're not properly prepared.
Questions we answer in this episode:• What are the key rules to follow during a deposition?• How can I prepare myself mentally for a deposition?• What are some common mistakes to avoid when being deposed?
Key Takeaways:• Listen carefully to each question and only answer what is asked• Keep your responses concise and honest• Trust your attorney to defend your case and tell your story
By the end of this episode, listeners will have a clearer understanding of what to expect during a deposition and how to approach this critical aspect of their divorce case. Seth's expertise and Pete's relatable perspective combine to create an engaging and informative listening experience that will leave you feeling more empowered and prepared to face the challenges ahead. Whether you're in the midst of a divorce or simply seeking to educate yourself, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complex world of divorce law.
Links & Notes
Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Preparing for Your Deposition
(02:39) - Rules of a Deposition
(03:47) - Time to Practice
(10:26) - Make Them Do Their Job
(11:24) - Don't Get Defensive
(19:21) - It’s Not Your Job
(19:58) - Question-Answer-Question-Answer
(21:49) - Only Answer What Was Asked
(23:19) - Watch Out for Exaggerated Language
(25:05) - Prep to Avoid Getting Flustered
(26:30) - Time Needed
(27:33) - Don't Guess
(30:21) - Love Should Be Apparent
(33:13) - Hearsay vs. Describing Something
(36:44) - Your Job Is to Answer the Question
(37:42) - Take Your Time
(39:09) - Use Your Child’s Name
(39:39) - Look at the Judge
(40:23) - Wrapping Up

Navigating Divorce While Parenting: How to Put Your Kids First
Seth and Pete sit down with Heather Brooke Quick, the founder and CEO of Florida Women's Law Group, to discuss how to become a better, stronger parent during and after divorce. Heather shares her expertise on helping clients navigate co-parenting challenges and putting their children's needs first.
Seth, Pete, and Heather dive into the importance of focusing on the big picture and remembering that co-parenting is a lifelong commitment. They discuss strategies for keeping animosity in check, even when dealing with contentious issues like finances. Heather emphasizes the value of taking the high road and modeling positive behavior for your children.
Questions we answer in this episode:
How can I shield my kids from the negative aspects of divorce?What's the best way to communicate with my ex about parenting issues?How much should I share with my kids about the divorce process?Key Takeaways:
Always prioritize your children's well-being over conflicts with your exBe mindful of your reactions and behavior, as your children will learn from your exampleConsider therapy or counseling to help your children process their emotions during divorceThe conversation also touches on the importance balance of maintaining transparency with your children about age-appropriate aspects of the divorce, such as changes in finances or living arrangements. Seth, Pete, and Heather offer guidance on how to have these conversations without putting your children in the middle of adult issues.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the challenges of parenting during and after divorce. With Heather's expertise and Seth and Pete's relatable insights, you'll gain valuable tools for putting your children first and building a strong foundation for your post-divorce family.
Plus, we tackle a listener question – with Heather! – about when to file for divorce when pregnant.
Links & Notes
Find Heather on the web, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTubeTune in to Heather’s podcast Women Winning DivorceSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Heather Quick
(01:28) - Becoming a Better Parent During Divorce
(02:00) - Your Role in the Discussion
(04:40) - Reminding People to Love Their Kids
(07:29) - Men vs. Women in Divorce
(10:05) - Financial Conversations
(12:39) - Divorce Transparency?
(16:52) - The Line of Role Modelling
(17:46) - Sunshine Law
(18:40) - Resources for Kids
(21:32) - Parenting During Parallel Parenting
(24:15) - Behavior as Divorcing People
(26:26) - End Result
(30:11) - It's Not Their Fault
(31:55) - Knowing When to Step Back
(33:19) - Finding Heather
(34:43) - Listener Question
(39:21) - Wrap Up

Apologies and Relationships: How to Say Sorry and Mean It
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the art of apologizing effectively with special guest Susan McCarthy, co-author of Sorry, Sorry, Sorry: The Case for Good Apologies. Together, they explore the anatomy of a sincere apology, discuss common pitfalls, and share insights on how mastering the apology can improve your relationships, especially during a divorce – and we’re not just talking about with your spouse or ex but your kids as well!
Susan, a renowned author who has written about animal behavior and humor, brings her expertise on crafting effective apologies to the conversation. Seth and Pete engage her in a thought-provoking discussion on why people struggle with apologizing, the importance of teaching children how to apologize correctly, and how a well-executed apology can make a significant difference in the divorce process.
Questions we answer in this episode:
What are the key components of a sincere apology?How can a genuine apology impact divorce proceedings?Why is it crucial to teach children the art of apologizing?Key Takeaways:
A proper apology consists of six essential steps, including expressing remorse, acknowledging the specific wrongdoing, and demonstrating an understanding of the impact.Apologies can be powerful tools in mediation and can help couples reach agreements during a divorce.Mastering the art of apologizing can lead to healthier relationships and emotional well-being.This episode offers valuable insights for anyone looking to improve their communication skills and strengthen their relationships. Whether you're going through a divorce or simply want to learn how to apologize effectively, Seth, Pete, and Susan provide practical advice and real-life examples to help you navigate the complexities of saying "I'm sorry" and meaning it.
Links & Notes
SorryWatch.comGet Susan’s and Marjorie’s Book in hardback or paperbackSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Meet Susan McCarthy
(03:07) - Analyzing Apologies
(03:30) - The 'Saving Your Pride' Problem
(04:04) - Apologies in the Divorce Process
(05:26) - Divorce and Apology Backstory
(08:42) - Six Parts of a Good Apology
(11:10) - Between Spouses
(12:45) - In Mediation
(14:19) - Not Making It Worse
(16:41) - Getting Past Grudges
(21:55) - Dissecting Apologies
(24:27) - The Media Matters
(27:03) - Positive Example
(29:25) - Receiving an Apology
(30:23) - Sorry Not Sorry
(30:45) - Changes to Apologies in Modern Culture
(33:29) - Apologies to Your Kids
(37:30) - Over-Apologizing?
(39:37) - Apologies with Gifts?
(41:01) - Practicing
(44:18) - Susan’s Book
(45:46) - Wrap Up

Divorce can be a complicated process, especially with children. The acronym PEACE can be used to remember the major points. We talk through each of the points on the show today. When filing for divorce, keep these in mind.
P – Parenting Plan: Required under Florida law and is split into parental responsibility (decision-making), child time-sharing (custody and visitation), and everything else that goes along with raising kids.E – Equitable Distribution: How your assets (things you own) or liabilities (debts you owe) will be divided. In Florida, the starting point is that marital property is divided equitably.A – Alimony: This is a payment one spouse makes to another spouse during or after the divorce. The main questions regarding alimony are: does one spouse have a need for alimony, and does the other spouse have the ability to pay alimony?  If the answer to those questions is yes, then the question is how much and for how long.C – Child Support: Child support is based on a mathematical formula. It typically lasts until the child turns eighteen or graduates high school.E – Everything Else: This includes the divorce process and how attorney’s fees get paid.This conversation goes back to the beginning for a refresher in the core elements to keep in mind when you’re going through a divorce.
Links & Notes
Parenting Plan ExamplesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - P.E.A.C.E.
(04:24) - P for Parenting Plan
(21:00) - E for Equitable Distribution
(29:02) - A for Alimony
(32:22) - C for Child Support
(36:45) - E for Everything Else
(39:06) - Wrap Up

Listener Questions on Alimony, Co-Parenting, and More
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into their mailbag to answer pressing questions from listeners. From alimony calculations to co-parenting challenges, Seth and Pete offer their insights and advice on navigating the complexities of divorce.
Seth and Pete tackle a range of topics, including how judges handle parenting plans for previously uninvolved parents, the intricacies of Florida's new alimony statute, and strategies for dealing with uncooperative ex-spouses in co-parenting arrangements. They also share the origin story of the podcast and express gratitude for their dedicated listeners.
Questions we answer in this episode:
Can a judge order a step-up plan for a previously uninvolved parent?How is alimony calculated under Florida's new law?How can I handle an ex-spouse who refuses to accommodate extra time with the kids?Key Takeaways:
Judges must act in the best interest of the child when determining parenting plansAlimony calculations in Florida are based on net income, not gross incomeCommunicate openly with your ex-spouse about co-parenting issues and aim to be the bigger personPlus, Kristin asks about the origins of the How to Split a Toaster podcast. Seth and Pete take a walk down memory lane, recounting their initial meeting, early podcast ideas, and the journey that led to the creation of their successful show.
This episode is packed with valuable information for anyone navigating a divorce or co-parenting relationship. Seth and Pete's expert advice, combined with their engaging banter, makes for an informative and entertaining listen. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of crucial divorce-related issues and discover strategies for handling common challenges.
Links & Notes
Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
(00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
(00:26) - Listener Questions!
(02:07) - Question #1
(07:46) - Question #2
(12:24) - Question #3
(18:38) - Question #4
(22:16) - Wrap Up