Off The Rocks Jennie Nelson & Sara Lewis

# Episode Notes


Episode Thirty One: Taking Breaks, Summer Holidays & TTFN!


In this episode, Jen and Sara talk about the vital importance of taking breaks. They discuss the many benefits of stepping away from things in order to gain perspective and take time to reassess, recharge and redirect.


They chat about the value of taking breaks from all manner of things; work, booze, people, exercise, diets. (Just don’t expect Sara to take a break from smoked salmon ok. She appears to have a raging addiction to it and we should probably stage an intervention at some point.)


This episode is a good one, which is handy because it’ll be the last one for a while as they’re taking a well earned podcasting break.


Jen and Sara will be back after the summer, most likely, depending on if they can be arsed. So stand by! Normal programming will resume shortly, probs.


In the meantime, have fun, stay safe and be wary of the dangers of smoked salmon addiction. It’s a gateway delicacy.


Fair warning: some swears.


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Episode Thirty: Can You Really Be Friends With An Ex?


Today Jen and Sara are asked: can you really be friends with an ex?


It’s a tricky question, with many variables and they give their honest views and personal experiences, but only after Sara suddenly derails the convo with an anecdote about cat rape.


Back on topic though - Sara has an ex who’s become one of her closest friends. Jen has an ex who doesn’t give her the time of day. It takes all sorts to make the world go round.


If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you have access to the internet, maybe you can email: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk


They will help you. Depending on how you define ‘help’.
Catch you next week. Big cuddles.


Warning: some swearing. (There will be some swearing in every episode, let’s be honest.)


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Episode Twenty Nine: I Thought This Was Meant To Be Fun?


Today, Jen and Sara have a little catch up. Jen is about to move flats from a tiny studio to a (comparatively) huge place, which will look super minimalist because - thanks to living in a tiny place for the past year - she has no furniture anymore.


Sara is soon to take a trip to New Zealand, where she plans to ask Jacinda Ardern whether she fancies coming on the podcast. So, that’s as good as in the bag then.


After that, we respond to a listener email. This one’s from a woman who’s just completed her first year at uni but doesn’t know if she wants to carry on. (With the course, that is. Not with life in general. It’s a pretty bad university experience that makes you feel that low.)


Having both been to university, Jen and Sara offer up their respective experience and advice and reassure her that the first year of uni is generally the weirdest.


If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you have access to the internet, maybe you can email: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk


Catch you next week. Big love.


Beware: Some swears.


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Episode Twenty Eight: This Is What I Want To Be! (I think.)**


In this episode Jen and Sara answer another listener email. This one is from Brittany; a marathon running legend who wants to take a booze break but doesn’t know if she has what it takes to make that change.


Jen thinks cognitive dissonance commonly precedes any big lifestyle adjustment. That it’s just par for the course and dwelling on uncertain outcomes only serves to keep us stuck, fearing failure.


So just do it, Britt! You totally have what it takes but you won’t know that until you crack on. (As a very wise philosopher once said: ‘Do. Or do not. There is no try.’ Ok, that was Yoda from Star Wars but whatever.)


Sara, puts her therapist hat on (feel free to imagine her in a nice bowler whenever she says that) and congratulates Brittany on her self-awareness. She rightly says that she’s already ahead of the curve for knowing herself so well and for laying the groundwork for such sensible, successful self care. Then she gets a porn pop up and loses her train of thought. It happens.


If you have a problem. If no one else can help. And if you have access to the internet. Maybe you can email: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk


Catch you next week. We love you.


Some swearing, obvs.


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Episode Twenty Seven: Snooping, Sneaking & Coming Clean**


On the podcast this week Jen and Sara address a listener’s dilemma about whether he should confront his girlfriend about some troubling things he’s read about in her diary.


The advice is that, firstly, he should stop bloody well reading his girlfriend’s diary!


And secondly, he should tell his girlfriend that he’s been reading her diary and unreservedly apologise for being a gigantic boundary-overstepping nosey parker.


Probably not the sympathetic advice he was hoping for, but what you gonna do?


If you have a problem that you want us to either help you out with or make fun of, feel free to drop us a line: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk


Catch you next time.


Some swears.


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Episode Notes

Episode Twenty Six: Childhood Trauma, Feeling your Feelings & Sitting with Discomfort


In this week’s episode Jen and Sara help a listener who’s written in saying that she can’t stand her boyfriend’s children.


Sara offers her perspective as a therapist and as someone who’s dated a single mother.


Jen draws on her experiences of being a child of divorced parents.


Essentially, Sara handled her situation by encouraging the child to make her toast.


Jen dealt with things by developing attachment issues which later manifested in addiction problems - hurray!


This one goes deep.


Drop us a line: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk


Catch you next time.


Some swears.


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