The Art of Charm The Art of Charm

In today’s episode, we dive into the world of human connection with David Robson. David is an award-winning writer specializing in the psychology and neuroscience of human relationships. With a rich background in scientific journalism and a degree in mathematics from the University of Cambridge, David has dedicated his career to exploring the intricate ways we bond and interact with each other. His work has been widely recognized and featured in top-tier publications such as The Guardian, The Atlantic, and BBC Future. David is also the author of The Laws of Connection, a profound exploration into the science behind how we form lasting connections.

In today’s episode, David Robson reveals the secrets to building stronger social connections through the latest psychological research. He explains the profound impact of social ties on our physical health, the importance of overcoming the "liking gap," and how to effectively use follow-up questions to create shared realities. David also shares strategies for rebuilding our social skills post-pandemic, the power of expressing appreciation, and how the Benjamin Franklin effect can strengthen our relationships. 

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

Who is David Robson, and how can his insights on human connection and psychology transform your personal and professional relationships?

How do social connections affect your health, and what diseases can they help protect against?

Why is it important to recognize and manage ambivalent relationships effectively?



What barriers prevent you from connecting with others – 10:40

What is the "liking gap," and how does it prevent you from forming deeper connections?

How can you recalibrate your perceptions to overcome these psychological barriers?



What questions can you ask to rapidly build deep connections? – 24:24

What types of questions are most effective for building deeper connections?

How can you move past small talk quickly to create meaningful conversations?

What overlooked expression can drastically improve your relationship with anyone at work and in your personal life?



How can you rebuild your social skills post-pandemic? – 47:51

How has the pandemic affected our social skills, and what strategies can help you rebuild them?

Why is practicing daily interactions with strangers crucial for maintaining social confidence?



What is the Benjamin Franklin Effect and how can it strengthen relationships? – 51:30

What is the Benjamin Franklin effect, and how can asking for small favors strengthen your relationships?

How can you apply this effect in your daily life to enhance your social bonds?


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In today’s episode, we tackle the art of building deep connections with Topaz Adizes. Topaz is an Emmy award-winning director, writer, and experienced design architect. With a background in philosophy from UC Berkeley and Oxford University, Topaz has made significant contributions to the fields of intimacy and human connection through his groundbreaking project, The And. His work has been showcased at prestigious festivals such as Cannes and Sundance, and featured in top publications like The New Yorker and The New York Times. Topaz is also the author of 12 Questions for Love: A Guide to Intimate Conversations and Deeper Relationships.

In today’s episode, Topaz Adizes shares why questions are so powerful for creating deep bonds, how to create space for intimate conversations in our lives, when to bring logic in to deepen a relationship conversation, and the secret to developing emotional articulation with your partner.

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

Who is Topaz Adizes, and how can his insights on communication and relationships transform your career and personal life?

How can asking the right questions unlock deeper connections and enhance your leadership skills?

What’s the secret to creating a space where your team or partner feels safe to be vulnerable and authentic?



Surprising revelations from over 1200 intimate conversations – 11:00

What surprising revelations did Topaz uncover from over 1200 intimate conversations, and how can they apply to your high-stakes professional environment?



Practical tips for emotional articulation – 20:15

How can mastering emotional articulation make you a more effective leader and improve your team’s performance?

What are the 12 questions that can revolutionize your personal and professional relationships, and how should you use them?



Real-life applications that will change your life – 32:29

How have others used Topaz’s methods to transform their relationships and careers, and what can you learn from their experiences?

How can you create intentional spaces for deep conversations that foster trust and innovation within your team?



Lessons on communication that no one tells us – 45:11

What techniques can you use to enhance your communication skills and build stronger connections with your team and loved ones?

How do different cultures approach intimate conversations, and what can you learn from their methods to improve your own interactions?

Why is it crucial to ask better questions in your professional and personal life, and how can this practice accelerate your career growth?


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In today’s episode, we tackle making friends as an adult with AJ, Johnny, and coach Michael Herold. 

Delve into the complexities of making and maintaining friendships as an adult. Why do many adults struggle with loneliness and how can propinquity—or the strategic use of proximity—open doors to new and lasting connections? Whether you're a seasoned professional or a social novice, this episode offers actionable strategies to enhance your social life and deepen your relationships. Tune in to discover how you can turn social opportunities into a thriving network of genuine connections, and learn why mastering the Art of Charm is more essential today than ever before.

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

How can understanding propinquity transform your approach to forming social connections?

What alarming trends about loneliness were revealed in recent global surveys?



How do you start building new relationships and make new friends? – 11:24

How does remote work affect team cohesion and personal relationships at work?

What scientific principles can help in forming deep and lasting friendships?



Many underestimate the value of this when it comes to making friends – 24:38

How can re-engaging with old hobbies or exploring new passions rejuvenate your social life?

What practical steps can you take to weave social opportunities into your everyday activities?



What are you doing to push new people away from being your friend? – 34:06

How can recognizing and reducing friction in social interactions facilitate the formation of friendships?

What practical steps can you take to lessen the burden on potential friends and make it easier for them to engage with you?



How do develop a plan for a vibrant social life – 28:32

What are the benefits of having a structured plan for social interactions?

How does consistency in social activities lead to stronger and more meaningful relationships?

What practical steps can you take to lessen the burden on potential friends and make it easier for them to engage with you?



Introducing the Social Sales Funnel Concept – 44:55

What is the Social Sales Funnel, and how can it help you build a thriving social network?

How can hosting a monthly event streamline the process of turning acquaintances into friends?

What strategies can ensure the success of such gatherings, encouraging new connections to flourish?


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In today’s episode, we tackle death with Jodi Wellman. Jodi is a former executive turned executive coach. She has a Master of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she's an instructor in the master's program and a trainer in the world renowned Penn Resilience Program. And she is the author of You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets. 
Jodi Wellman reveals essential strategies for transforming your professional stagnation into dynamic success and underscores the importance of quantifying your remaining Monday mornings to infuse purpose into your career, eliminating regrets before they hinder your progress.
What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

How can thinking about death enhance your career and life ambitions?

Why should you calculate how many Mondays you have left?



Focus on this to improve your performance and happiness at work – 10:15

Gain insights on the value of time and how precise awareness of it can enhance your decision-making and prioritization at the managerial or C-suite level



Most people are held back from success by their ‘dead zones’ – 18:10

What are 'dead zones' and how can identifying them transform your professional growth and personal fulfillment?

How can facing the reality of mortality inspire urgent career and personal development?



How does the pandemic influence our perception of time and opportunities for growth? – 26:17

Understand the psychological impacts of COVID-19 on our ambitions and social interactions, with tips for re-engaging with life and work post-pandemic.



How do you bake your own 'happiness pie' and take charge of your life satisfaction? – 31:19

How do you start moving from 'dead zones' to 'astonishingly alive zones'?



How can the concept of fighting for your life goals redefine your approach to career and personal ambitions? – 42:39

What is the importance of self-compassion and forgiveness in pursuing a life without regrets?


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In today’s episode, we tackle mind magic and manifestation with Dr. James Doty. James is an inventor, an entrepreneur, and philanthropist. He is a clinical professor of neurosurgery at Stanford University and the founder and director of Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education with the Dalai Lama himself as the founding benefactor. His new book is titled Mind Magic: The Neuroscience of Manifestation and How It Changes Everything. 

We break down the systems in the brain responsible for shaping your beliefs and actions, how you can harness the power of your subconscious mind to reach your goals faster, why you need to visualize your success in detail to make it a reality, And James shares his own experiences with the magic of our mind.

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

What is mind magic and what does science say about the legitimacy of manifestation?



This is where most people go wrong trying to manifest their desires – 10:15

Where do most of us go wrong with manifestation versus what should we be focusing on with our manifestation to actually be whole, to be living a rich and fulfilling life?

How can we use our neural networks to increase the chances of manifesting what we want?



The secret to focusing in a world of neverending distractions – 24:17

How are self-compassion, focus, and manifestation linked together?

How should you define success if you are trying to manifest success for yourself or others?



What should you focus on if you want to manifest what you want – 34:21

What is the most important aspect of life you need to focus on if you want physical and mental health and a long life?


How does commitment to action transform intentions into reality? – 39:06

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In today’s episode, we tackle the world of high stakes hostage negotiation in a divided world with Scott Walker. Scott is one of the world’s most experienced kidnapped-for-ransom negotiators. He served 16 years as a Scotland Yard detective specializing in covert policing, then supported organizations, governments, and private individuals in negotiating the release of hostages all over the world, and is the author of his the latest book, Order Out of Chaos: A Kidnap Negotiator's Guide to Influence and Persuasion.

You’re going to learn how to prepare for high stakes situations like a hostage negotiator. We discuss how to quickly build rapport with people that you do not share common interests with, what to listen for in negotiations to create a winning outcome, how to develop your emotional intelligence to be successful under stress, and the secrets hostage negotiators use to bring back hostages safely.

What to Listen For

Introduction – 0:00

How frequently do people get kidnapped and held for ransom?

What are the biggest challenges that hostage negotiators face?



The first 30 seconds of a hostage situation are crucial for this reason – 15:53

What secret do hostage negotiators use to rapidly build trust with anyone?

What 30 second practice do hostage negotiators use to prepare themselves for every high stakes situation?



What consequences do kidnappers actually face? – 24:25

How do you cultivate the right mindset to be a master negotiator?

What can you do to predict the biggest hurdles you’ll need to overcome in any negotiation?

What are the 3 elements to every negotiation and how can you use them in your everyday life to build strong relationships?



Most people mistakenly think this is when the negotiation ends – 39:34

How should you think about negotiations on a short- and long-term basis to make sure you don’t hurt your reputation or future potential opportunities?



Hostage negotiators have to care about the kidnappers – 48:36

How do hostage negotiators raise their self awareness before entering high stakes situations?

How do you master your emotions like a hostage negotiator by simply asking yourself specific questions?

What are the biggest takeaways from Order Out of Chaos: A Kidnap Negotiator's Guide to Influence and Persuasion?


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