Tindergarten Raksha Muthukumar

Deepthi & Brindaa are queer activists in Chennai, India. We discuss life before & after India decriminalized homosexuality (Sep 2018) in India and the diaspora. We cover the culture around transgender women and AFAB queer folks in India, along with the intersections of caste & patriarchy in queer identities. Topics like Modi's election & arranged marriages are covered in this episode as well. Tune in to learn how different yet similar the queer experience can be in different parts of the world.

This is one of the heaviest episodes, but Kae is candid & thoughtful and the topics are important. In this episode we discuss a  broad range of intersectional topics -- balancing gender and sexuality, sex work facilitated by dating apps, the impossible choices black trans women make between safety & survival, anti-blackness in the body positivity movement, and holding space in our communities to build meaningful support. Kae shares her art and organizing work ("movement is activism") and Raksha and Kae give a shoutout to the first place they both became activists-- SPARK Reproductive Justice Now.

Raksha gets to talk to one of her first queer friends in Charlotte, NC in this episode with Luisa. Luisa is a queer Latin community activist. In this episode, Luisa shares candidly about her relationship with the unsung South-- the South of immigrant resilience. We share about what it means as queer people of color to be out or not out to our families. We talk about the Charlotte Uprising and related activist burnout & trauma. Luisa shares how the Pulse shooting impacted her.

Tyler shares his story just 3 months after coming out. This week's episode focuses on the steep learning curve & culture shock of joining the queer community, and the role of dating apps in that process. Tyler talks about being Southern & Jewish, taking his grandparents to a drag show, and using dating apps while being closeted abroad. Additionally, this episode covers some of the basics of respecting yourself in the dating world -- setting boundaries, zero tolerance for negging, and more.

Effy and Raksha talk about the different components of each of their "identity pizzas." Effy is a non-binary makeup artist and shares a bit about the toxic and healing forces of that industry. The two discuss the relationship between capitalism and ableism, and share some warm stories of social media and dating apps connecting us to more than romantic partners.

In this episode, June shares some tips from their work as a professional matchmaker as well as from their own years of dating in California, NYC, and now Atlanta. Come learn about sound healing and cringe at stories of first date sushi etiquette, before getting thoughtful about how queer culture can be racially segregated, hetero/cis-normative, and pigeonholed with too many labels. Raksha and June are both storytellers and this easygoing episode covers a wide range of topics with more than a few laughs along the way.