Mocha & The Flame talk about those who Want Love Series about overcoming being needy and getting the love that you are looking for.
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Mocha & The Flame recommend becoming more secure and learning behaviors of a secure person.
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How to stop neediness and insecurities. You know that this is not a good habit and when you start doing this in your relationship is when things will get difficult in your relationship. Check out our Podcast and YouTube series
What Is Neediness? Not only is needy behavior completely unattractive, it is also the most toxic behavior in relationships. It’s smothering and gross. It does not matter how you became needy. What matters is how you can start now at getting over neediness and becoming attractive.
What Is Neediness? We’ll define it...
-When you have an excessive desire for the affection and reassurance from others.
-When you have a constant need for the approval of others stemming from a cocktail of low self esteem, a position of outside control, and a self-limiting belief.
All of these things combined create the insecurities and make up of a needy person. They feel like they must have others define who they are by their actions and comments. A requirement to be validated by someone else, especially a partner or potential partner. Most needy people will say things like “I’m going to find someone someday to complete me” or “I’m looking for a relationship to fulfill my life and make it magical”. If they don’t verbally say it, their actions do.
Many needy people put too much value in others, especially those who have earned very little or no value. Many needy people go out of their way emotionally, physically, and financially to impress others into liking them and reassuring them.
Ever repeated affirmations? Just like repeating negative thoughts dictate habitual behaviors in your life, positive thoughts repeated are no different and will become a habit (but for the good). Try and make it a habit to be positive.
Repeat this statement five times: I do not need to have a relationship with anyone.
Now say this, six times: I really want a relationship with someone who is fun and who compliments me as a secure person.
This last one is a good goal, however there are many goals we must set in life and this very one should be later-on your list. The first goal you should have if you are needy is “Become more secure”. Now how are you going to achieve that goal? Will you attract a secure person if you are needy? Not for long...
Realize that no one should be required to bear the burden of your self-esteem as well as theirs. It is your responsibility to be secure.
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