Why Intervention Podcast Christopher Doyle

This podcast episode features Certified Professional Coach Mary Ann Palmer who shares her struggles with denial about the severity of her son’s addiction and how she overcame it. She addresses misconceptions about addiction and stresses the importance of family support in the recovery process. Mary Ann emphasizes the need for patience and persistence due to the long-term nature of recovery. She also provides insights on managing a child's cravings, identifying triggers, and the benefits of community support. She advises working with a professional coach and continuous self-education. Chris and Mary Ann challenge the idea of waiting for a loved one to reach their lowest point before considering stepping in to help.
 
Episode Highlights
The story of her mother's addiction and her brother suffering from alcohol use disorder and eventually passing sober The notable moment when she found her son's backpack full of empty beer bottles and had her first acceptance of the fact that there was something wrong The assumption and denial stage in which most parents are in when they seek out help The final time her son went to rehab was his path to sobriety, as he did so after finding out that his girlfriend was pregnant Her son's momentary relapse after a year of sobriety when she found him drunk in their kitchen How she strategized her response to her son's relapse using the CRAFT methodology and displayed calmness instead of anger, resulting in a constructive conversation The usefulness of the term "influence" in managing addictive behavior The exercise she uses to explain what addiction feels like to the person suffering from it What drew her to peer coaching and how she decided to help parents going through what she went through in dealing with a child suffering addiction How you can start preparing a plan and potentially writing a contract for relapse situations The importance of positively reinforcing good behaviors  

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https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/ https://www.maryanncpalmer.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-ann-c-palmer  
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Chris and Danny provide a walkthrough of what to expect during a professionally led family intervention process.
Episode Highlights
Danny shares a recent case of a concerned mother and father whose adult son is facing alcoholism The need to have professionally guided conversations when talking about issues of addiction or treatment The methodology of leading with love and concern in interventions How a problematic behavior is caused by addiction or alcoholism The issue of families confronting addiction on a surface level, rather than a deeper, more meaningful level Reinforcing the importance of seeking professional guidance in conducting interventions How interventions are not about ambushing or deceiving the person suffering from addiction, but are aimed at creating a directed, loving, and caring conversation to encourage them to agree to get help Common beliefs families endure, like waiting for their loved one to hit rock bottom before they can get help
Links and Resources from this Episode
https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/?ref=br_rs https://www.amazon.com/Intervention-Help-Someone-Doesnt-Want/dp/0935908315 https://www.amazon.com/Love-First-Familys-Guide-Intervention/dp/1592856616  
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Chris had guest Brinn Flagg to discuss her personal and professional experience with handling other people's addictions. She shares her knowledge on addiction and codependency. She suggests clear communication and boundary setting and stresses the need for individual recovery work. The decision to leave an addicted partner is complex and personal, and continuing personal growth after leaving is crucial to prevent repeating toxic patterns. 
 
Episode Highlights
How Brinn Flagg got into the field Her experience dating someone with an active addiction to prescription drugs which differed from her sister's heroin addiction The importance of learning about addiction to navigate its challenges and lend compassion towards loved ones in the throes of addiction Her relationship experience as a codependent partner to someone addicted to substances The nature of her partner’s addiction The benefits of recovering on her own and how seeking a coach led her to recognize harmful tendencies in relationships The complexities of dealing with family addiction, particularly concerning the high level of focus and concern on the addict Negative impacts of codependency on mental and physical health  
Links and Resources from this Episode
https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/?ref=br_rs Connect with Brinn Flagg brinn@joinawen.com https://www.brinnflagg.com/ https://www.brinnflagg.com/work-with-me https://www.instagram.com/brinnflagg/  
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Chris and Danny talk about the mindset and perspective shift families gain by applying separation, empathy and compassion to their loved one's addiction.
Episode Highlights
The concept of separating loved ones from their addiction Seeking information about addiction and recovery Separation, empathy, and compassion as tools to understand and handle addiction The hardships families face dealing with an addicted loved one The importance of separating the person from their addiction Substance abuse not being a moral failing, countering the stigma that people with substance use issues are inherently flawed or have made poor choices Who may be the most empathetic towards addiction? How to address a loved one in a situation like jail due to addiction Remember to “Take a S.E.C.” when you approach your addicted loved one Letting them off the hook: Understanding that they're 'hooked' on their addiction and can't unhook themselves without intervention
Links and Resources from this Episode
https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/?ref=br_rs Jessica Lahey's book "The Addiction Inoculation": https://a.co/d/cb3IUO1  
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Chris and Danny discuss the action steps you can expect to see your loved one taking when starting out in a 12-step program and what you can do to be helpful in their recovery journey.
Episode Highlights
The importance of helping families understand the journey of the individual who is recovering How, as a loved one in recovery, attending 90 meetings in 90 days (a meeting everyday) can be essential along with the family supporting the individual Getting a sponsor and listening to suggestions
The essential advice for loved ones returning home after treatment The sense of commitment and responsibility that being part of a home group can promote Importance of feeling good about oneself as a motivation to keep away from destructive, addictive behavior Using the 12-step recovery journey as a way to model recovery and provide support Behavioral changes that can take place through this process, helping the individual to become more truthful, reliable, and focused on helping others The concept of being 'restored to sanity' in every meeting attended and the subsequent shift in perspective that occurs How surrendering to the powerlessness over addiction is a crucial part of the journey How loved ones can support the recovery journey by creating conditions that allow sobriety to occur, despite the inability to control the outcome Some family members’ misconceptions about rehab after a relapse How an individual’s reflection on their powerlessness can be a turning point
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Chris and Danny discuss personal experiences, parenthood, combating addiction, and interventions. They use the story of Chris’ recent trip to a gun range to relate to the process of addressing addiction, emphasizing the need for expert guidance and building new frames of reference. They discourage a lone wolf approach to dealing with addiction and urge listeners to seek professional help instead, based on personal experiences and observations with different families struggling with addiction. They narrate the importance of a robust support network and sharing experiences and problems with others.

Episode Highlights
Christopher shares about his first trip to a gun range He draws parallels between the gun shooting lesson and interventions, emphasizing on the importance of expert guidance and trusting the process They compare a family's skepticism at the beginning of an intervention process to their disbelief  when it works out The importance of having a clear outcome in mind while dealing with a loved one suffering from addiction The importance of pointing someone struggling with a specific issue to someone who has experienced and conquered a similar issue The necessity to seek help from someone who understands the specifics of addiction and recovery rather than someone who merely sympathizes How families often remain silent because they do not know how to help their loved ones struggling with addiction The biggest challenge for addicts: Achieving day one of sobriety
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https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/?ref=br_rs 
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