Wine, Dine, and 69 Rachel Dalton

Rachel chats about Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn, and provides caution to fans leading up to the release of Taylor’s new album. Let’s not jump to conclusions and make assumptions, ok? Then, she is joined by Cindy Scharkey, a licensed nurse and sex educator! They talk all about the vagina: anatomy, the G-spot, female ejaculation vs. squirting, methods for enhancing female pleasure during penetration, and more!



Episode Notes:

“You can cultivate a pleasurable sex life through ALL the seasons of your life” -Cindy



Conversation with Cindy  begins at 00:13:58.



Follow Cindy:


Website: https://www.cindyscharkey.com/ 


“Permission for Pleasure” podcast: https://www.cindyscharkey.com/podcast 


Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cindyscharkey/ 


TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cindyscharkey 


Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/scharkeycindy/


Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/cindyscharkey/ 


Email: cindy@cindyscharkey.com

Article Discussed in Intro: BuzzFeed News, “Taylor Swift Fell In Love With Joe Alwyn Because He Didn’t Care About Her Superstardom, So He Shouldn't Be Punished For It 7 Years Later”, by Stephanie Soteriou (February 8, 2024): https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniesoteriou/taylor-swift-joe-alwyn-shouldnt-be-punished 



Discussed in this Episode: 


OMG, YES: https://start.omgyes.com/join 


OMG, YES Study Mentioned: The Journal of Sex Research, “"OMG, Yes!": Feasibility, Acceptability, and Preliminary Efficacy of an Online Intervention for Female Sexual Pleasure” by Hensel, et al. (2022): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34176390/ 


4 penetrative techniques to enhance female pleasure:




Pairing


Shallowing


Rocking 


Angeling




The Coital Alignment Technique: MasterClass, “Coital Alignment Technique: 4 Tips for the CAT Sex Position”   by MasterClass (2022):   https://www.masterclass.com/articles/coital-alignment-technique 


Kegels: WebMD, “Kegels - Should I Do Them?”  By WebMD Editorial Contributors (2022): https://www.webmd.com/women/kegels-should-i-do-them 


Pelvic Floor Therapy: Jefferson Health, “Unlocking the 5 Benefits of Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy” , by Anna Batt (2023): https://www.jeffersonhealth.org/your-health/living-well/unlocking-the-5-benefits-of-pelvic-floor-physical-therapy 


Female Ejaculation vs Squirting: Journal of Clinical Anatomy, “Female ejaculation and squirting as similar but completely different phenomena: A narrative review of current research” by Pastor and Chmel (2022):  https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35388532/ 


G Spot: AASECT, “What You Need to Know About…The G-Spot” by Steph Auteri (2014): https://www.aasect.org/what-you-need-know-about-g-spot-0 


How your body/pleasure changes through the menstrual cycle: Clue,  “Sex, Sensation, and the Menstrual Cycle” by Anna Druet (2017): https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/sex-sensation-menstrual-cycle


Hello Playground: https://helloplayground.com/ 



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Earthquakes, eclipses, epiphanies, oh my! Rachel talks about recent shakeups and shares some Gone Girl wisdom about the proverbial “cool girl” before jumping into her conversation with Keshia about combating  feminine myths, setting boundaries, and dating authentically to find your perfect partnership. 



Episode Notes:



“It is so ingrained in us to be dependent on others. It is so ingrained in us to seek validation and to feel like the only way we can survive is to make others happy. And yes - in some cases that is a great recipe for survival. But it’s not a great recipe for thriving.” - Keshia Rice



Conversation with Keshia begins at 00:11:48.



Follow Keshia:

Website: http://www.keshiarice.com/ 

Confidently Cherished Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4sXncAFEYXGWLvRmd8spOD 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keshiarice/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheKeshiaRice/ 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@keshiarice 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/keshiarice 



Mentioned in the episode: 

No Mud, No Lotus: The Art of Transforming Suffering, by Thich Nhat Hanh (2014): https://www.amazon.com/No-Mud-Lotus-Transforming-Suffering/dp/1937006859 

The Atlantic, “The Real-World Consequences of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl Cliché”, by ⁠Hugo Schwyzer⁠ (2013): ⁠https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/07/the-real-world-consequences-of-the-manic-pixie-dream-girl-clich-233/277645/⁠ Salon, “How the Scathing "Gone Girl" Rant About Being the "Cool Girl" Defined the Decade”, by Mary Elizabeth Williams (2019): ⁠https://www.salon.com/2019/12/26/how-the-scathing-gone-girl-rant-about-being-the-cool-girl-defined-the-decade/⁠

Brene Brown, “Marriage is Never 50/50” clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfL4RTuC9Bk 

The full “Unlocking Us With Brene Brown” podcast episode: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-comparative-suffering-the-50-50-myth-and-settling-the-ball/ 

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Rachel ponders how we, as humans, change over the course of a life. She talks about changing attachment styles, the love languages, then chats a bit about the viral “Who the Fuck Did I Marry” tik tok saga. She then welcomes erotica writer Ruan Willow and the two discuss the differences between porn and erotica, how to write erotica, audio erotica, and more!



Episode Notes:

Conversation with Ruan begins at 00:15:24.



Follow Ruan Willow: 

Website: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/ 

Oh F*ck Yeah Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1rmfiA8FVPG766ouQ9P3QG 

I Dare You Released March 9: https://www.amazon.com/Dare-You-Saturday-Challenge-Play-ebook/dp/B0CST8K18R 

Books on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Ruan-Willow/author/B08ZYW6B3K

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruanwillow/?hl=en 

Medium: https://medium.com/@ruanwillow 

Goodreads: https://medium.com/@ruanwillow 

Substack: https://ruanwillow.substack.com/ 

FrolicMe: https://www.frolicmep[dot]com/erotic-authors/ruan-willow/ 



Discussed in this episode:

Taylor Tomlinson love languages: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gmK_ei4NlU 

Reesa Teesa on Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@reesamteesa?lang=en 

Full “Who the Fuck Did I Marry?” story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EC1dKx6maZ4 

Gilbert Godfrey reads 50 Shades of Grey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkLqAlIETkA

Shayla Black: https://www.shaylablack.com/

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Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Promo image used with permission by Ruan Willow.

Rachel talks about how imposter’s syndrome and perfectionism play into one another and shares some musings about non-monogamy.  She is then joined by Jess, who shares her own journey to non-monogamy and all that she has learned along the way. The two of them discuss terminology, rules vs boundaries vs relationship agreements, dealing with jealousy, and so much more!



Episode Notes:

Conversation with Jess begins at 00:10:45.



Follow Jess: 

Website: www.bothandcoaching.com

Instagram: IG: https://www.instagram.com/nonmonogamous_newbies/

Facebook Group “nonmonogamy newbies”www.facebook.com/groups/nonmonogamousnewbies

Programs: Non-Monogamy Newbies (https://bothandcoaching.com/nonmonogamousnewbies) and Conversation Compass https://bothandcoaching.com/the-conversation-compass 



Discussed in this episode: 

Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship, by Eri Kardos (2016): ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Agreements-Strengthening-Communication-Increasing/dp/1540338487⁠ 

Rachel Wright: https://rachelwrightnyc.com/ 

Medium, “Why you should drop the ‘e’ in ethical non-monogamy” by Claire Louise Travers: https://clairelouisetravers.medium.com/why-you-should-drop-the-e-in-ethical-non-monogamy-32069e129df1 

Decolonizing Love: https://www.instagram.com/decolonizing.love/

Sister Wives: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1721666/ 

What is a metamour?: https://www.polyamproud.com/post/learn-about-polyamory-what-is-a-metamour 

What is kitchen table polyamory?: https://www.modernintimacy.com/what-is-kitchen-table-polyamory/ 

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Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers).

Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Rachel covers a few thoughts slightly related to today’s interview, and then jumps into her conversation with Daphne Wells. Daphne shares her story of realizing she was in an abusive relationship, how she got out, and how she used spirituality as a tool to heal.

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Daphne begins at 00:09:51. 

Follow Daphne:

Website: https://daphnewells.com 

Book: DECIDE - Choose Your Own Path: Your Guide to Making Effective, Empowered Decisions, by Daphne Wells (2019): https://www.amazon.com/dp/0473505746/ref=sr_1_2

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DaphneBWells/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daphnebwells 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daphnewells 

Discussed in this episode: 

Clarissa Pinkola Estes: https://www.clarissapinkolaestes.com/ 

Numerology: https://daphnewells.com/numerology/ 

The Four Pillars of Destiny (Ba Zi): https://psychicscience.org/pillars 

Discussed in the intro: 

New York Magazine,  “Worst Roommate Ever”, by William Brennan (2018): https://nymag.com/intelligencer/article/jamison-bachman-worst-roommate-ever.html 

The Atlantic, “The Plight of the Oldest Daughter”, by Sarah Sloat (November 14, 2023): https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/first-born-children-eldest-daughter-family-dynamics/675986/ 

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Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann. 

Promo photo by Aarón Blanco Tejedor on Unsplash.

Rachel chats about how to maintain a healthy long-term relationship in the forms of romantic competence, EQ, and emotional regulation. She then welcomes intimacy coach Amy Color who helps men with intimacy blocks and the two of them chat about porn addiction and male intimacy. 



Episode Notes:

Conversation with Amy begins at 00:12:08.



Follow Amy:

Website: https://www.amycolor.com/ 

Amy’s TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=4s&v=UkQ6FBltdYU 

Book: The Huddle: How to Score in Sex & Love, by Amy Color (2021): https://www.amycolor.com/the-huddle-book 

The Intimacy Game Plan Program: https://amycolor-scheduling.as.me/TalkToAmy 

If you mention WD&69 you get 10% off!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amycolorintimacycoach 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amycolor.intimacycoach/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCv0kUopMmi3gxuoTE2SXd2w 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/IntimateWithAmy 



Discussed in this episode: 

Another great TEDx Talk on the subject of porn addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbYWKVAeu6Y&list=WL&index=30 

CNBC, “We’ve studied over 30,000 couples—here are 6 phrases you’ll hear in the most successful relationships”, by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman (January 30, 2024): https://www.cnbc.com/2024/01/30/psychologists-say-the-happiest-couples-in-successful-relationships-always-use-these-phrases.html 

Forbes, “A Psychologist Explains What It Means To Have ‘Romantic Competence’”, by Mark Travers (February 4, 2024): https://www.forbes.com/sites/traversmark/2024/02/04/a-psychologist-explains-what-it-means-to-have-romantic-competence/?sh=16f954fc39ae 

Therapytips.org “Relationship Satisfaction Scale”, by Jourdan Travers, LCSW (October 10, 2023):  https://therapytips.org/personality-tests/relationship-satisfaction-scale

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Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.