Your Parenting Long Game Rachel Bailey

One of the most common reasons for big emotions in our homes is related to asking our children to get off of their devices. And let's be real: They DO have to learn to get off of their devices without acting like it's the end of the world!

But most of the time, we attempt to make this happen makes things worse, not better. When we get into our children’s world, we can often understand why our attempts aren’t effective – and what we can do instead. 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What it’s like from a child’s perspective to have to get off of screens
Why his parents’ (very logical) attempts to address his behavior don’t work 
How getting into your child’s shoes can help bring peace to your home 
 
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This time of year, navigating the use of screens can be a real challenge -- especially when you’re raising children with big emotions.

The summer can start off feeling more relaxed, but then come the power struggles over how long children can be on screens and the meltdowns when they have to get off of their devices.

Fortunately, a few simple changes can reduce the drama, even during those times when children are even more likely to turn to screens as entertainment. 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why kids with big emotions struggle with screen time limits
How to increase your influence to reduce screen time drama 
How to give your kids the skills THEY need to get off of screens more easily (helping them deal with transitions and boredom!)
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Of course we want our children to listen to us when we ask them to do what they’re supposed to do or when we ask them to act maturely in situations that don’t go their way. 
But often when we try to get our kids to listen to us, we do it in ways that actually decrease our influence. This is especially true when we try to get our children to see why we are right and they are wrong. 
Of course it’s not that we shouldn’t try to motivate better behavior! Rather, we can just do it in more effective ways. 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why telling children what they’ve done wrong doesn’t lead to them doing what’s right
Exactly how to approach your child to increase your influence 
Why this non-permissive strategy not only increases your influence, but strengthens your relationship
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As parents, we want to be able to influence our children. And we can feel helpless and out of control when we try to help our kids feel or act better… and we can’t make it happen. 
One of the most common ways that we “leak” influence happens on a day-to-day basis in the way we ask our kids to do things and in the way we respond to their requests.
Once you become aware of this leak, you can make a simple change and increase your influence immediately! 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why some of our our requests and our responses immediately put our kids into fight-or-flight (and make them more resistant to us) 
An example that illustrates what this is like for your child that you will be able to relate to
Simple strategies to increase your influence and improve your relationship with your child 

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As parents, we want to be able to motivate our kids to act more responsible and handle situations more effectively. And we can feel helpless and out of control when we aren’t able to make that happen.
Unfortunately, we will feel helpless and out of control because we often (unknowingly) “leak” influence by the way we think about and respond to situations. One of the most common influence leaks happens when we set unrealistic expectations and aren't even aware that we're doing that. 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How setting realistic expectations increases our influence with our children
A simple question that will help you set expectations and handle previously-difficult situations more effectively 
The benefits (for us and our kids!) when we plug influence leaks 
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We want to be able to influence our kids. We want them to listen to us, and we want to be able to calm them down so they can work through situations with less drama. So it can be challenging when our attempts to influence them don't work… or even make things worse! In this second episode of a two-part series, we’ll discuss what's needed to become a powerful positive influence with your children so you can bring more peace to your home, even if that seems impossible now. 
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The type of influence we usually have with our children – and why it doesn’t motivate better behavior, moods, and attitudes
The two qualities that you need if you want your children to listen more readily and calm down more easily 
What it looks like when you do improve your influence (even if your children don’t realize it’s happened) 
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