23 episodes

Welcome to the Unfilteredd Podcast! We invite mental health professionals from around the world to join us on our podcast to answer the questions of our community members. Topics include narcissism, narcissistic abuse, how to manage a narcissistic person or a narcissist in your life, how to heal from narcissistic abuse and how to overcome the harmful effects that narcissistic abuse creates (depression, maladaptive coping, self-doubt, etc.)

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Welcome to the Unfilteredd Podcast! We invite mental health professionals from around the world to join us on our podcast to answer the questions of our community members. Topics include narcissism, narcissistic abuse, how to manage a narcissistic person or a narcissist in your life, how to heal from narcissistic abuse and how to overcome the harmful effects that narcissistic abuse creates (depression, maladaptive coping, self-doubt, etc.)

    23. Unpacking Narcissism With Lucianne Gerrard

    23. Unpacking Narcissism With Lucianne Gerrard

    In this episode Lucianne Gerrard, a registered counsellor and narcissistic abuse specialist will answer the following seven questions from our community:









    * What are some of the most important things that you should do to support someone who is experiencing narcissistic abuse?











    * Do narcissists withhold sex, praise, or any other forms of intimacy on purpose or is it something that they cannot control/something instinctual for them?











    * Can you give some examples of intimacy avoidance? I am not sure if I am experiencing it so I would like some examples of it.











    * How do narcissists react when someone triggers their feelings of shame?











    * I am working in a narcissistic environment and I feel like I have enabled a lot of the abuse going on. I am scared that if I stand up to my boss, I’ll lose my job. Can you give me 5-10 things that I should know about narcissism so I can keep my job and protect my colleagues? Of course, speaking to HR is on the top of my list, but narcissists are slippery so I don’t want to approach this the wrong way.

















    Raised by a strict, narcissistic mother, Lucianne Gerrard was trained to always put her mother first, then everyone else second, and never think about herself or her own needs (because that was selfish). 







    With her foundation of personal experience of NA (narcissistic abuse) in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.







    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 32 min
    22. Toxic and Healthy Relationships With Carolanne Marcantonio

    22. Toxic and Healthy Relationships With Carolanne Marcantonio

    In this episode Carolanne Marcantonio, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Sex Therapist, will answer five questions from our community:



    1. What are the most important boundaries you should set in a romantic relationship? I have been in an abusive relationship in the past and I don’t want to make the same mistakes.



    2. How do you create healthy boundaries in a romantic relationship? I struggle standing up for myself.



    3. I have been dating this guy for a month now. I have set my own boundaries but how can I figure out his boundaries? I ask because I think knowing your partner's boundaries is a really good way to figure out if they are someone you can trust or not.



    4. I don’t want to rush into a relationship but I feel a strong connection with this woman. What are some healthy forms of intimacy I can use so I don’t make her think that I don’t want her.



    5. What are some of the warning signs to look out for in the bedroom? Some abusers hide their dark side until they got you hooked.



    Carolanne Marcantonio LCSW, SIFI, CST is the co-creator of the sex therapy association Wise Therapy located in New York City. Wise Therapy is a LGBTQIA+, poly and kink affirmative Sex Therapy association. Carolanne provides therapy to couples individuals and polycules. She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST). Carolanneearned her Master's degree in Clinical Social Work from the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in Manhattan. 

    • 27 min
    21. Unpacking Narcissism With Dr K-P

    21. Unpacking Narcissism With Dr K-P

    In this episode Dr. Karen Kuemerle-Pinillos, a PhD Level Clinician and Licensed Clinical Social Worker, will answer six questions from our community:









    * I have been in a narcissistic relationship for 4 years. The gaslighting has just been too much for me. I feel helpless, powerless, and I have been indecisive lately because of self-doubt. How can I overcome/heal from this?











    * What are the signs that someone is gaslighting you? I have so much self-doubt about the stuff that I am going through and I am having a hard time separating the lies/manipulation from reality.











    * Why do narcissists bait you? Do they get some sort of satisfaction out of it or is it all just one big manipulation.











    * How should I respond to a baiting narcissist?











    * What are some of the most important things that you should do to support someone who is experiencing narcissistic abuse?











    * What are some of the most important boundaries that you should set with a narcissist? I know that narcissists don’t respect boundaries so I am looking for boundaries that I can set with myself. For example, don’t believe the future faking.

















    Dr. Karen Kuemerle-Pinillos is a bilingual-bicultural, Spanish-English, PhD Level Clinician, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), researcher, advocate, and coach. She has had the privilege to be in the mental health field for 21 years serving individuals, couples, and families in different settings such as inpatient treatment, intensive outpatient substance abuse treatment, intensive at home family therapy, outpatient individual, and couples therapy. She is currently serving individuals, couples, and families in her private practice.







    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 29 min
    20. My Narcissistic Mother Part One With Sarah Finch

    20. My Narcissistic Mother Part One With Sarah Finch

    In this podcast episode Sarah Finch, an integrative counsellor and narcissistic abuse specialist, will answer the following questions about narcissistic mothers:









    * What Do Narcissistic Mothers Do to Their Children?











    * Do Narcissistic Mothers Know What They Are Doing?











    * How Should You Treat a Narcissistic Mother?











    * How Do You Emotionally Detach from Your Narcissistic Mother?











    * How Do You Recover from a Narcissistic Mother?









    Juliana Akin is going to share her personal experienced about each of the questions after Sarah's professional insight and knowledge.







    Sarah has experience working with women who have suffered trauma, addiction, domestic abuse and has a good understanding of the dynamic between the narcissist and the co-dependent in relationships.







    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 57 min
    19. Unpacking Narcissism With Lucianne Gerrard

    19. Unpacking Narcissism With Lucianne Gerrard

    In this episode Lucianne Gerrard, a registered counsellor and narcissistic abuse specialist will answer the following seven questions from our community:









    * I have been rejecting her hoovering for months and she is getting so angry about it. I don’t understand why she can’t see why I am rejecting her. She abused me for years, ruined my life. How does she still feel like she has a right to be in my life?











    * I’m having a hard time figuring out the difference between gaslighting and when someone is just disagreeing with me. How can I tell the difference between the two? I don’t want to write people off who don’t deserve it. 











    * What are 5-10 tips that you have that can help me safely detach myself emotionally from the narcissist in my life?











    * Can you please give me a few examples of scapegoating in a family setting? I am not sure if I am the family scapegoat or not.











    * I have been struggling with self-doubt my entire life. When the narcissist in my life starts to use projection, how can I spot it? How can I stop gaslighting myself into believing their projections?









    Raised by a strict, narcissistic mother, Lucianne Gerrard was trained to always put her mother first, then everyone else second, and never think about herself or her own needs (because that was selfish). 







    With her foundation of personal experience of NA (narcissistic abuse) in relationships with both parents, sibling, partners, and friends, together with her years of studying the academic research on narcissism, she feels that she is well equipped to help people (of any age) heal from their narcissistic abuse, validate their feelings, support understanding of the narcissistic techniques that seem to be universal and help them build a happier, safer, narcissist-free future.







    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 32 min
    1. How to Escape a Physically Abusive Relationship Advice From Janine Hayter

    1. How to Escape a Physically Abusive Relationship Advice From Janine Hayter

    If you need help escaping a physically abusive relationship, please click HERE to find people and organizations near you that can help you!







    Suggested Reading: How to Know if a Narcissist Will Kill You (16 Signs to Keep You Safe)







    In this episode Janine Hayter, a psychodynamic, CBT therapist, and narcissistic abuse specialist will answer the following question:









    * "Hey there! I've been in an abusive marriage for three years. I've gotten really good at managing the emotional abuse but I'm wondering what advice you have for escaping the physical abuse?"









    Janine Hayter qualified as a psychodynamic psychotherapist in 2011 and then went on to gain a further qualification in 2020 as a CBT therapist. Her interest in narcissistic abuse came from her own personal experience of a 14 year marriage to what she believed was a narcissist, and the damage the marriage had on her physical and emotional health.







    Through research and knowledge she was able to understand what happened to her and why it happened. She now uses this knowledge and experience to help other survivors who are either still living with their abuser and are fearful and confused or they have left and are now trying to put back the pieces of their life and find themselves again.







    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 10 min

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