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William Ury, co-founder of the Harvard Program on Negotiation and one of the world's leading experts on negotiation, coaches leaders on how to fire underperforming staff and handle angry church members. Plus, he shares strategies and tactics he's used negotiating with Donald Trump, Kim Jong Un (and Dennis Rodman), de-escalating nuclear conflict and negotiating peace in the Middle East.
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TIMESTAMPS:
William Ury's background and expertise (00:03:07)
The impact of Ury's paper on Middle East peace negotiations (00:07:48)
The role of anthropology in negotiation (00:15:53)
Case study: Camp David negotiations (00:19:06)
Reframing positions into Interests (00:33:41)
Averting Nuclear War (00:36:33)
Trump's Victory Speech (00:38:35)
Meeting Dennis Rodman (00:39:32)
Negotiating with Kim Jong Un (00:41:14)
The Framework (00:45:53)
Negotiating with yourself (00:47:02)
Negotiation strategies (00:57:16)
The Third Side (00:57:46)
Leadership and conflict resolution (01:00:30)
Congregational conflict (01:01:54)
Negotiation and compromise (01:03:48)
Conflict in staff management (01:11:26)
Dealing with employee layoffs (01:15:20)
Handling emotionally charged situations (01:16:26)
Negotiating with a president (01:20:03)
Managing conflict in a congregational setting (01:24:40)
Navigating turbulent times in the church (01:32:04)
Negotiation insights (01:34:43)
The role of the church in conflict resolution (01:55:56)
 
 
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Matt Chandler joins the conversation today and opens up about hitting the wall in his late thirties. He discusses recovering from a dead heart and from brain cancer, lessons he learned from his leave of absence after an Instagram exchange, and gives some incredibly insightful lessons on how to revitalize a dying church.
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THE ART OF LEADERSHIP LIVE
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I'm already excited to connect with a number of people I've met before — some of whom have even been guests on this podcast
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TIMESTAMPS:
Impact of childhood experiences on extroversion (00:07:05)
Realization of calling to ministry (00:09:01)
Struggles and self-awareness in late 30s (00:15:36)
The impact of childhood on identity (00:19:26)
Communication style and personal experiences (00:22:50)
Revitalization of Village Church (00:29:01)
Challenges and changes in leadership (00:31:06)
Challenges of church growth (00:36:26)
Lessons from mistakes (00:43:08)
Facing personal crisis (00:47:18)
Empathy for those in distress (00:56:57)
Lessons from a ministry interruption (00:59:30)
Power imbalance and influence (01:08:37)
Enduring marriage and leadership (01:11:42)
Living out the Gospel in daily life (01:17:43)
The Overcomers Podcast and Book (01:20:52)
 
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Global investment banker, financier, and philanthropist Ken Costa talks about the 100 trillion dollar wealth transfer that's happening over the next decade as Boomers pass on their wealth to their Millennial and Gen Z children. He discusses what happens when the next generation inherits that much money and the key to wealth for beginning investors.
Show Notes
The Art of Leadership Live
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This episode is sponsored by:
GLOO
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TIMESTAMPS:
Misconceptions about money and faith (00:10:45)
Compound interest and investment (00:22:16)
The $100 trillion wealth transfer (00:25:40)
Influence of wealth transfer on the housing market (00:28:44)
Impact of technology and inheritance (00:32:06)
Generational divide and church's role (00:35:16)
Technology's empowering role (00:38:49)
Preparing for the wealth transfer (00:43:09)
Churches and estate planning (00:46:05)
The vision for generational unity (00:50:29)
Financial advice for younger generations (00:52:31)
 
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41% of Americans experience burnout after taking time off in the summer. In this episode, Carey breaks down why rest isn't enough to sustain a leader.
He explains what's at stake when you return from vacation (or Sabbatical) and continue to lead tired. Carey outlines four strategies that will help you sustain peak leadership performance after you return from your summer break.
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TIMESTAMPS:
The problem with time off (00:00:02) 
Rethinking rest (00:01:00) 
The impact of burnout (00:02:02) 
The importance of sustainable pace (00:04:02) 
Time and energy audit (00:15:09) 
Categorical decision making (00:17:53) 
Managing energy (00:21:40) 
Finding non-work focus (00:24:23)
 
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UnSeminary's Rich Birch returns to the podcast to talk about what growing churches are doing right now, the first 100 days of a new attender's journey at your church, whether to live stream or not live stream your services, and how to create a compelling invite culture at your church.
If you're looking for a conversation about practical church growth, this is it!
Show Notes
The Art of Leadership Live
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This episode is sponsored by:
 
GLOO
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TIMESTAMPS
Church growth trends and diversity (00:07:21) 
Increasing Diversity in Churches (00:15:02) 
The Impact of Diversity on Church Attendance (00:19:39)
Streamlining Newcomer Pathways (00:21:09) 
The 100-Day Connection Window (00:22:07) 
The Shift from Foyer to Online Engagement (00:24:46) 
Creating Accessible Encounters (00:26:13) 
Building Community Spaces (00:29:37) 
Challenges of engaging online attendees (00:31:18) 
Impact of church decisions on culture engagement (00:35:11) 
Building a Compelling Volunteer Experience (00:44:51) 
Understanding the Diffusion of Innovation Curve (00:45:42) 
Equipping People for Invite Culture (00:46:33) 
Strategies for Creating an Invite Culture (00:49:28) 
Leveraging Shareable Weekend Teaching (00:52:41)
Strategic use of events and gimmicks (01:04:50) 
Differentiating Sundays (01:11:28) 
The invite culture litmus test (01:13:26) 
Leveraging time change Sunday (01:16:28) 
Building strategies around data (01:17:14) 
Unlocking invite culture (01:18:03)
 

Dr. Gavin Adams, former Woodstock City Church Lead Pastor and entrepreneur, talks about why leading a church is harder than leading a business.
He also discusses overcoming your insecurity as a leader when working with gifted people and offers top advice from Home Depot, Popeye's, and Coca-Cola on leading and scaling change.
Show Notes
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You can learn more and join today at theartofleadershipacademy.com. Leave worrying and agonizing in the past — it's time to start GROWING as a leader and as a church.
 
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