Coming Out Late Robin Douglass

Thirty-three years ago, 16-year old David, the new kid in high school, bravely squished his way through a wall of Monique’s cliquey of high school friends, (congregated around her locker in the hallway), and asked a mutual friend to introduce him to Monique - in front of everyone. That brave move earned David the intrigue and attention of Monique; AND earned David the honor of walking with her to their next class together. It also earned them both the distinct pleasure of nearly three decades of marriage, built on a deep, deep bond of friendship, love and mutual respect. Their lives together were not immune to the typical stressors of married life - but nothing could have prepared either of them for the curveball that life would throw at them in 2019, and the years that followed.. 
In this Part 1 REPLAY of “Coming Out Late In A Hetero Marriage”, you will learn … 
The importance of gay-representation in our upbringings - no matter the level of affluence we grew up with.We learn how Monique & David’s lifelong friendship and soulful connection were the building blocks of their thirty-plus year relationship. But is their solid foundation of love and alignment enough to sustain their marriage through Monique’s Coming Out Late journey?Learn about the depth and breadth of research that Monique and her husband David have done, and continue to do, (both individually AND together), in order to learn as much as they can about how other couples navigate ‘Mixed Orientation Marriages'.Learn the unique ways in which Monique & David are blazing their own path when it comes to reinventing their sexual intimacy and desires.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).
See Episode #80 for MONIQUE & DAVID’S RECOMMENDED RESOURCES

In this episode, Robin and Chris continue their exploratory conversation about the language and meanings behind gender identity, gender fluidity and sexuality as it pertains to our journey of coming out to ourselves, and ultimately coming out to others. Robin & Chris do not profess to be experts on these topics, but simply want to share with you their explorations and findings about their own identities up to and including present day. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!
In this episode, you will hear Robin & Chris talk about…
What do we mean by “following the breadcrumbs” as it pertains to our coming out late journey?Androgyny, nonbinary, intersex…what does it all mean? And how do you identify? Who are you at your core?What does Chris mean by “two spirits”? And is a third gender ‘real’? Or even possible?Are the terms androgynous and nonbinary the same?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.


BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass



SUPPORT GROUPS:


THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135


MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736


COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).

In this episode, Robin invites her girlfriend Chris back on the podcast to talk about and explore the language and meanings behind gender identity, gender fluidity and sexuality as it pertains to our journey of coming out to ourselves, and ultimately coming out to others. Robin & Chris do not profess to be experts on these topics, but simply want to share with you their explorations and findings about their own identities up to and including present day. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!
In this episode, you will hear Robin & Chris talk about…
What IS gender identity? What does gender mean to each of us, personally?Do you know the date you came out? Let’s all celebrate our re-birthdays!Do we need labels? How important are they to you?Are we truly a binary society?WHat has been Chris’ gender journey so far?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.


BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass



SUPPORT GROUPS:


THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135


MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736


COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).

Robin picks up the conversation from last week with Sex & Pleasure specialist, Whitni Miller, in this Part 2 episode of Coming Out Late. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!
In this episode, you will learn…
The #1 question that Whitni gets asked, A LOT! (Hint: it’s about sex!)What is “sexual desire discrepancy”?Be upfront about how important sex is to you w/potential new partners, ASAP. Know yourself and the depth of your sexual appetite/desire. Don’t think that ‘attraction’ to each other is going to make your libidos match - that’s not going to work. You can be highly attracted to each other, but desire and the arousal that fuels all of that desire is way more nuanced than just being attracted to one another.How do you feel about sex? How do you feel about yourself? And, how do you feel about yourself having sex?Our sexual desires are NOT our partner’s responsibility - they are ours!The difference between ‘spontaneous desire’ and ‘responsive desire’ - and that neither is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, AND, that you can be both! What’s more important than desire and arousal? (The answer is SO simple, yet so true!)What is ‘sexual temperament’?Everything affects our sexual desire - what are some of those things?Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.
BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

SUPPORT GROUPS:


THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736


COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
If you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).


WHITNI MILLER - BDE MOVES: 
WEBSITE: www.bde-moves.com
INSTAGRAM: @bde.moves
TIK TOK: @bdemoves

In this Part 1 episode of Coming Out Late, Robin talks with Whitni Miller about sex, pleasure and reducing our inner shame as we navigate our tender coming out late journeys!
In this episode, you will learn…
Who is Whitni Miller and what does she do for our community?What is Intentional monogamy? And poly-saturated?Not paying attention to the physical & emotional signs of our queerness IS detrimental to our health! What is “pleasure coaching”? According to Whitni, pleasure is, “...that only the person in the body perceiving the sensation can say whether it feels good or not.” In order to ‘give’ in relationships, we must first learn how to receive; how to prioritize feeling good.The importance of finding our way back home to ourselves.‘Shame Culture’ prohibits us from exploring/experimenting with our bodies.Performance sex versus pleasure sex.Whitni’s exercise for reducing inner shame, two columns: What are my limiting beliefs around sex? And, where did these limiting beliefs come from?Shame is self-judgment and curiosity is creativity.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.


BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass


SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135


MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736


COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).


WHITNI MILLER - BDE MOVES: 
WEBSITE: www.bde-moves.com
INSTAGRAM: @bde.moves
TIK TOK: @bdemoves

In part-two of this “Life Is Relationship” episode, Robin continues chatting with Chris about the revealing nature of relationships, and how they are the source of getting to know ourselves on deeper and deeper levels. THey also discuss!
In this episode, you will learn…
What happens when we make our relationships ‘conditional’?Try BEING the love you seek in other people.When we attach ourselves to the ‘outcomes’ of our desires, we end up disappointing ourselves. Grasping-for and clawing-at what we desire is looking outside ourselves.When I am ‘ok with me’, I can show up-for and be ‘ok with you’.What can I bring to this relationship? How can I show up as my best self?Community, connections and support are vital to our growth.You’re NOT ALONE - join your tribe in our Support Groups!Everything is about slowing down!Most importantly, don’t grasp for your first WLW relationship, instead, find a small circle of trusted people you can confide in and who can support you.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to Resources:
PRIVATE ONE-on-ONE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS
Struggling to make sense-of and MANAGE this new aspect of your COMING OUT LATE life? Then send me an email and request my 1:1 Coaching Information Sheet. It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at Comingoutlater@gmail.com for my Coaching Info Sheet.


BUY ME A COFFEE:
Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass


SUPPORT GROUPS:
THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:
Wednesdays, 12:30pm EST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135


MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:
Every OTHER Monday Evening - 75 minutes.
8:30pm EST / 5:30pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $5
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736


COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:
Attending a Coming Out Late Retreat, in-person, is a MUST DO for 2024. The locations have been identified and the Lodging is being worked on. IF you are remotely interested in attending any one of the following Retreats, please send Robin an email to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com, expressing WHICH Retreat you’re interested-in so she can put you on the Wait List. PLEASE NOTE: Spaces are limited, so act now to get on the Wait List. The dates for the 2024 Coming Out Late Retreats are as follows: Portland, OR: (August 2024); Traverse City, MI: (Up North Pride, Sept. 25-29, 2024); and Provincetown, MA: (“Women’s Week”, Oct. 16-20, 2024).