Dad the Man Brendan Wall

Today we have a conversation with JAY BILAS. Yes, the Jay Bilas you know from ESPN. He’s an icon in the world of college basketball, a six time Emmy nominee, a NYT bestselling author, a Duke legend and NBA vet, a practicing attorney, a husband, a dad , an all around great dude, and today he’s the guest on our show!
I personally got as much or more from this conversation, as much any other episode we’ve done so far. The marriage advice, insights on how he raised his kids to be the successful and wonderful adults that they are now
So many gems. So much wisdom. You're going to love this episode with Jay Bilas.
DISCUSSION TOPICS
Growing up in LAThe journey from overseas basketball, to coaching at Duke, to law school, to broadcasting“WE Decisions” vs. “ME Decisions”Leaving doors open in lifeJay’s approach to WORK LIFE BALANCEHAVE To’s vs. WANT To’s Learning to say no (Yes to A is No to B)How to handle traveling and missing family events“They just want you”Nobody has it all figured outWife comes firstNot keeping score - amazing marriage advice“We first” vs. “Me first”Appreciating your wife’s sacrifices “I’m not allowed to be tired when I get home”The ups and downs of empty nestingYOUTH SPORTS - how to be a great youth sports parentDemanding vs. Demeaning - a brilliant perspective on coaching kidsHow to not ruin sports for your kids

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133 | When Does GOD Hear From YOU?

I recently had an experience where in the process of teaching my son, I found God teaching men. If you haven't already - subscribe/follow the show so you don't miss any of our upcoming episodes!

A MASTERCLASS in POSITIVE FAMILY LEADERSHIP w/ JON GORDON
As men we are called to lead - lead ourselves, lead our businesses, and most importantly, lead our families. Doing so in a positive, uplifting manner in which your wife and kids are nurtured, inspired, and driven to become all that God created them to be.. now that is no small tall task. Jon Gordon is today’s guest, and he’s going to tell us exactly how to do this. This is a MASTERCLASS in POSITIVE FAMILY LEADERSHIP.
Jon Gordon is a husband, father, and author. His best-selling books and talks have inspired millions of readers and audiences around the world. He is the author of The timeless classic The Energy Bus, The Carpenter, Training Camp, The Power of Positive Leadership, The Power of a Positive Team, and his latest The One Truth. When he’s not running through airports or speaking to businesses, hospitals or schools, you can find him playing pickleball and taking long walks which are when he gets most of his ideas. Jon believes in keeping his bio short because his past accomplishments are meaningless. What matters most is that he says something today that will inspire you to take action tomorrow.  
DISCUSSION TOPICS
Why leadership is so important for dadsWhat do you want your kids to say about you?How to actually be a great dadJon lost his job and was given an ultimatum by his wifeGratitude walks - you can’t be stressed and thankful at the same time Daily success journalThe most important thing Jon has ever done with his family - family meetingsFamily cultureAMAZING TIP for dads who feel guilty leaving their family to go to workFocus on the root not the fruit What it looks like to SERVE YOUR FAMILY“The more I love my wife the more I love my wife”Earning your wife’s trust back“I don’t want to be a household name I want to be a big name in my household”Selflessness - overriding our selfish nature Choosing a word of the yearDelayed gratification in parentingThe power of positive parentingOUTSTANDING advice from Trent Dilfer - "Dad Hat" or "Coach Hat"A masterclass for parents in youth sports“I don’t want my kids to be who I want them to be. I want them to be everything that God created them to be”Call them up to greatness don’t call them out How to find out what your kids actually want and needGod doesn’t have grandkidsTHE ONE TRUTH
LINKS
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DISCUSSION POINTS
Married 15 years - 3 kids (11, 7, 4)Helping people look, feel, and perform their best“Stress isn’t the enemy, it’s the gateway to growth.”Adapting to stressBeings stressed as a parent doesn’t mean you are flawedDiscipline, David Goggins, & the comparison gameThe 5 Pillars of Adaptive Capacity1. SleepYour sleep tracker sucksMost important things to track - duration, onset, consistencyHow to sleep better - sun in the morning & eveningSleep is extremely important for hormone (testosterone)2. ExerciseMovement - 8k steps per dayAerobic / Heart rate elevated exerciseStength training3. NutritionProtein - .7 - 1 pound of protein per pound of bodyweightFiber - minimum 25 grams per day“Protein & produce”4. Mental Fitness“If the outcome of an event is uncertain and important, you should expect to feel uncomfortable.”“But how you feel doesn’t have to impact how you perform.”5. CommunityOne meaningful conversation boosts mood, lowers stress, enhances social connectedness significantlyDigital communication does not countAIM7 - the app you need to help you do all the things we’ve talked about today —> CLICK HERE
LINKS
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