Make Him Wonder Coach Paula Grooms

While on a weekend trip to her old college town, 41-yr-old Elaine met 39-yr-old Leo through a mutual friend.  Feeling like she made missteps landing her in the just-for-fun category, Elaine is anxious about the possibility of Leo ever seeing her as wife/mother material.  On this episode, Paula explains how trying to control the category in her initial interactions rendered Elaine confusing to Leo rather than making wonder, and the decision Elaine needs to make to set things with this potential Mr. Right on the authentic right path.   

Single mom, 37-yr-old Piper, met 36-yr-old Tony online.  Having just quit his job, and recently divorced, Piper questions if Tony is ready, willing, and able to go the distance, especially as a stepfather.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula helps Piper get clarity on whether to clear the way for Tony to come forward or if it’s best to retreat.

44-yr-old divorced, single mom, Leisel, reached out to 45-yr-old divorced dad, Rob, on Bumble.  Rob eventually asked Leisel to meet and the two have been dating for about 3 months. But Rob only agrees to see Leisel every two weeks and doesn’t stay in much contact between times. When asked about where they stand, Rob says that he doesn't like labels and wants to "take things slow."  Most concerning to Leisel is that Rob says he likes "aggressive women” who make the first moves and pay for dates 50-50. Feeling anxious about Rob’s interest, Leisel connects with Paula to see if she should gamble on this relationship becoming more equitable, or if she needs to fold ‘em and walk away.

56-yr-old Maddy and 44-yr-old Andrew have had 4 breakups in 3.5 years of their relationship. Successful, happy with her life, and accommodating, Maddy is confused as to why Andrew is so confused about her.  Despite saying he loves her Andrew will go for a certain amount of time before telling Maddy he “can’t.” On this episode, Paula explains why Andrew feels as he does, and what Maddy can do for the best chance of Andrew knowing, feeling, and deciding that he “can!”

44-yr-old Emily is seeking a hypergamous relationship from online dating. As a Rules Girl, Emily states that she expects a man to see her as his “dream girl” and start wining and dining her without texting between dates. Confused as to why telling her prospective wealthy men what it is that she expects of them isn’t leading her to the relationship she desires, Emily comes on this episode to get Paula’s coaching advice.

35-yr-old Shana set out wanting 47-yr-old Paul to see her as more than just for fun.  But a casual boat trip and a late-night invite steered things off-course, and Paul drifted off.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, hear what Shana can text to allow Paul to see her as potential wife/mother material so that this prospective relationship doesn’t get dry-docked before it has a chance to launch.