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The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men. "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.

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The intention with this podcast is to platform people who perhaps haven't been part of the discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra and sacred sexuality communities. From sex workers, male strippers, and relationship coaches to psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men. "Men, Sex & Pleasure" is a podcast discussing all things masculinity, sexuality, male bodies and men's experience of pleasure.

    #54 Injaculation and Multiple Orgasms for Men (with Shaft Uddin)

    #54 Injaculation and Multiple Orgasms for Men (with Shaft Uddin)

    On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Shaft Uddin, a Speaker, Coach and a Somatic Trauma Release Therapist and Content Creator. Shaft has helped men and women from all walks of life overcome trauma by connecting them back to themselves. He creates safe spaces for people to connect with themselves and others through retreats and workshops all over the world. Shaft broke free from his strict devout Muslim upbringing of working in an Indian restaurant and forced arrange marriages and made his own way through life from being homeless to becoming a successful Art Director. 6 years ago he left his house and 6 figure salary in London to pursue the spiritual path. He turned his tragic story, mental illness, broken relationships and addiction into his super powers and turned it into a successful business to help others. The thing that healed him became his passion. His work and viral videos have reached over 38.7 million people via social media and various other media outlets including the BBC, Vice, Times magazine, The Guardian and many more. Shaft also consults for major brands such as Samsung, Mercedes and Disney in creating content. Shaft's mission is to make Stockholm the epicentre of connection and intimacy... the opposite of what it is right now! We talk about Shaft’s personal experiences with Tantra and his advice for achieving multiple orgasms.

    Key Points:


    Shaft introduces himself as the “Wim Hof of Tantra”

    Portraying Tantra in the mainstream media

    Living in the Tantra bubble

    Lineages and finding your own path

    Shaft’s personal daily practice

    What is an injaculation?

    Conscious ejaculation and consecration

    Ejaculation shaming and non-ejaculatory orgasm

    What does a non-ejaculatory orgasm feel like?

    Researching multiple orgasms for men

    “I love my life, I love my body, I love myself”


    Relevant Links:

    Shaft’s Instagram: @shaftuddin

    Shaft’s YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/shaftuddin/

    Shaft’s Website: www.sacredsexualawakening.com

    • 1 hr 5 min
    #53 Neurodivergent Sexuality (with Ginger Jen)

    #53 Neurodivergent Sexuality (with Ginger Jen)

    Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Ginger Jen. Ginger (she/they) is the empowering authentic sexuality dating coach for busy/neuro diverse brains. She works with Tantric philosophies and somatic healing to reach the deep subconscious and unconscious. Their mission here is to empower each individual human being to be authentically true to themselves by bringing them from a busy mind to a sensational body. She wants to share the best, most healing tactics through discussions, conversations and realizations. Ginger is ADHD and an advocate for mental disabilities as well as mental health. She is also strictly anti-oppression of any beings so warns to beware of the triggering truth bombs. We talk about their ADHD diagnosis and how it intersects with her sexuality as well as her work in the sexuality space. Ginger also shares some really practical advice for neurodivergent individuals and people who have a neurodivergent partner.

    Key points:

    - Ginger shares some of her story

    - Ginger explains what ADHD is

    - Strategies for getting into your body

    - How do people with ADHD express their sexuality?

    - ADHD and sexual rejection

    - Communicating with a partner who has ADHD

    - ADHD and high risk sexual behaviour

    - Ginger shares about her diagnosis with ADHD

    - The intersection of escorting and ADHD

    - Working with men in the sexuality space

    - The women who sell sex and men who buy it

    - Online coaching and final thoughts

    Relevant links

    Ginger’s website: www.ecstaticallyginger.com

    Ginger’s Instagram: @ecstatically.ginger

    Ginger’s Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/ecstaticallyginger

    • 55 min
    #52 My Opinion On Pornography - Part 2 (with Cam Fraser)

    #52 My Opinion On Pornography - Part 2 (with Cam Fraser)

    This episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast is part 2 of my conversation about pornography. If you haven’t listened to part 1, I would definitely suggest listening to that first as it sets the context for this episode. Previously, I spoke about how we define porn, my position in the porn debate, the difference between mainstream and ethical porn, and some of the common problems the porn perpetuates. There are so many other things that I didn’t share or forgot to share regarding my opinion on pornography but, as I mentioned in the previous episode, I am not trying to convince anyone of anything. Rather, I want to introduce some nuance into the conversation about porn that I see people in my community having. This episode is a continuation of that intention and offers some other perspectives to consider. Again, there are things I missed but will hopefully revisit in episodes to come. Thank you so much for supporting the podcast. I’m excited for another year of amazing guests, thought-provoking conversations and deep learning. This podcast would not be a success without the guests and listening, so I thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

    Key Points:


    Similarity between video games and pornography

    Questioning comparisons

    How are people using porn?

    Two conversations: Consumers and masturbators

    Stop the demand or change the demand?

    The problem with how people are masturbating

    Mindfully using porn as a tool

    Becoming reliant on porn for arousal

    The 20% rule

    Continuing conversations and thank you


    Relevant links

    Cam’s Instagram/Twitter/TikTok: @thecamfraser

    Cam’s Website: www.cam-fraser.com

    • 34 min
    #52 My Opinion On Pornography - Part 1 (with Cam Fraser)

    #52 My Opinion On Pornography - Part 1 (with Cam Fraser)

    This is a special episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast. Today’s episode celebrates a year of “Men, Sex & Pleasure.” It has been such an amazing year and I feel really grateful to have spoken with 51 incredible guests who have all taught me so much. To celebrate a year of the podcast, I decided to record my first solo episode. When I reflected on what I wanted to talk about, a lot of things came to mind. However, there was one topic which really stood out to me. I get asked on a daily basis about pornograhy. Without fail, everyday someone, somewhere asks me something about porn. I have a lot to say about porn and having to respond every single time with my myriad of thoughts is usually impossible. So I had the idea to record an episode about my opinion on pornography which I can share with people when they ask me for my thoughts. Like I said, I have a lot to say and this ended up becoming a two part instalment. This episode is part 1 and is released alongside part 2. If you’re interested in the nuances of the porn debate, hopefully you’ll find these two parts interesting. I’m not trying to convince anyone of anything, just have a conversation. Thank you for supporting the podcast for a whole year. I look forward to bringing more interesting conversations in the year to come.

    Key Points:


    Introduction to and intentions for the conversation

    I understand the harm some porn has caused

    Anti-Porn vs Pro-Porn vs Anti-Anti-Porn

    What is porn? The problem with definitions

    The problem with the “porn is a drug” analogy

    Thought experiment: Where do you draw the line?

    Operation Spanner and private sex groups

    Mainstream vs Ethical (Feminist) porn

    Messages, escalation, addiction, exploitation


    Relevant Links:

    Cam’s Instagram/Twitter/TikTok: @thecamfraser

    Cam’s Website: www.cam-fraser.com

    • 1 hr 23 min
    #51 Heteroflexibility: Sexual Fluidity for Straight Men (with Dr. Joe Kort)

    #51 Heteroflexibility: Sexual Fluidity for Straight Men (with Dr. Joe Kort)

    On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Joe Kort, a Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist. Dr. Kort specializes in working with male sexual dysfunction, infidelity, relationship concerns, and with individuals identifying as LGBTQ, and presenting issues. He is the author of four books: 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love, LGBTQ Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment Strategies, and Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men. Dr. Kort is a blogger for Psychology Today. He is founder and director of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health, overseeing a group of therapists who provide outpatient psychotherapy services to clients. Dr. Kort is also Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes running a Ph.D. program in Clinical Sexology and provides LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy Certification, Couples and Sex Therapy Certification and Sex Therapy Certification and continuing education to mental health and medical professionals around the world. Dr. Kort and I talk about the rigid parameters of sexual orientation and why it can be beneficial to lean into fluidity. We also discuss how this impacts men, women and couples.

    Key Points:

    - Dr. Kort shares about his practice as a therapist

    - Heteroflexible and homoflexible

    - Discussing Jane Ward’s book, Not Gay

    - Bisexual erasure

    - Queering heterosexuality

    - “Your anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation”

    - Fragile masculinity

    - Working with couples in therapy

    - Wives’ experiences with heteroflexible men

    - Sexual fluidity for men and women

    - Practical advice for men

    Relevant links:

    Dr. Joe Kort’s Instagram/Tiktok/Twitter: @drjoekort

    Dr. Joe Kort’s podcast: www.SmartSexSmartLove.com

    Dr. Joe Kort’s website: www.JoeKort.com

    • 59 min
    #50 Fuck and Kill to Consciousness (with Emily Claire)

    #50 Fuck and Kill to Consciousness (with Emily Claire)

    On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Emily Claire. Emily is an erotic embodiment dance teacher and sacred sexuality and embodiment teacher, dedicated to inspiring people on their journeys toward integrating with themselves, their bodies and to the deepest part of themselves, their sexuality. She transitioned careers from a Lawyer to this work after being deeply inspired by the profound impact embodiment and sacred sexuality work had on her own life. Emily has mentored with the leading international and national experts in her field. She holds a wealth of knowledge in sexuality, sacred sexuality and neo Tantra, embodiment and dance as healing and is trauma informed. Emily has created Erotic Temple Dance, A 4 Week erotic embodiment journey into feminine sexuality archetypes which tours across South East Queensland, Australia, she facilitates group work in spiritual sexuality practice for men and women and she privately coaches people. The two of us talked about her offering for men, which she has called “Fuck and Kill to Consciousness.” We discussed our opinions about masculinity and femininity as well as what we think is needed in the world of men’s work.

    Key Points:

    - Emily shares about her journey from Law to Tantra

    - Mentoring with John Wineland

    - Healing your relationship with men

    - A woman’s experience working with men

    - Mix-gendered spaces: Learning from other genders

    - “Fuck and Kill to Consciousness”

    - What are men’s natural desires?

    - Integrating the animal part of ourselves

    - Masculine and Feminine Energy

    - Fight, Flight, Freeze, Feed and Fuck

    - Practical advice for men wanting to begin this work

    Relevant links:

    Emily’s Instagram: @an_erotic_heart

    Emily’s Website: www.deepenembodiment.com

    • 52 min

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