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On this show we interview mental health professionals about abusive, toxic, and healthy relationships. It is our hope that these interviews help you cultivate safe relationships.

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On this show we interview mental health professionals about abusive, toxic, and healthy relationships. It is our hope that these interviews help you cultivate safe relationships.

    5 Strategies for Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD (Ep 123)

    5 Strategies for Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD (Ep 123)

    What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
    In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the emotional dysregulation that narcissistic abuse causes:

    Proactive coping skills (01:39)

    Reactive coping skills (09:05)

    Top-down approach for regulation (24:32)

    Bottom-up approach for regulation (34:06)

    Distinguishing parts to respond more mindfully in the present (45:28)


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    More Information About the Host & Dr. Tanya Holthus
    The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
    Dr. Tanya Holthus is a licensed psychologist who enjoys working with a wide variety of clients and offers multiple services including therapy, coaching, and supervision. She specializes in healing trauma and helping people with many types of issues, including post-traumatic stress, attachment/connection, emotional/relational abuse, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues. She is most passionate about helping people overcome relationships involving narcissistic abuse and strengthening parent-child relationships. Dr. Holthus views things through a trauma lens and tends to weave this into all of her work. She provides psychoeducation, teaches how to navigate healthy boundaries, guides healing, and helps people gain clarity to bring peace in their life.
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    Suggested Podcast Episodes

    5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt with Dr. Tanya Holthus, PsyD 

    Identifying and Addressing Trauma Responses with Morella Devost, Counselor

    Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation, Relational Trauma, and the Addictive Component of a Trauma Bond with LCSW Ellen Biros


    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 52 min
    Exploring Sibling Dynamics in Narcissistic Families with Amanda Bailey, Therapist (Ep 122)

    Exploring Sibling Dynamics in Narcissistic Families with Amanda Bailey, Therapist (Ep 122)

    What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
    In this episode, we focus on the complex sibling relationships within a narcissistic family dynamic: 

    How should I approach/explain to my sibling who thinks that our family is totally healthy, that our parent is narcissistic and that our upbringing wasn't healthy? (01:06)

     How can I work through my anger and resentment towards my sibling who was the golden child in our narcissistic family of origin? (15:04)

    How can I approach my sibling who has been treated differently and unfairly by our narcissistic parent (they were the scapegoat and I was the golden child) and to improve our relationship? We are now adults and do not live at home anymore but we are not that close. (19:49)

    Can a sibling relationship impacted by a narcissistic parent be repaired, and what are some factors that may influence the potential for healing and growth in this situation? (25:22)

    What are some factors that may indicate that the relationship with a sibling cannot be repaired? (28:20)


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    More Information About the Host & Amanda Bailey
    The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
    Amanda is a mental health therapist and coach who helps people heal from the effects of destructive relationships; teaching them to rebuild trust in themselves and handle difficult dynamics with confidence. She is based in Portland, Maine, but works with clients online throughout the US as well as internationally.
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    Suggested Readings

    8 Ways That Narcissists Treat Their Siblings

    How Do Narcissists Treat Their Children? (10 Ways)


    Suggested Podcast Episodes

    Exploring Narcissistic Family Dynamics with Alisa Stamps, LCSW 

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    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 30 min
    Never Be Manipulated Again with Karina Ramdath, Registered Social Worker (Ep 121)

    Never Be Manipulated Again with Karina Ramdath, Registered Social Worker (Ep 121)

    What Are We Discussing In This Episode? 
    In this episode, you will learn how to protect yourself from the following manipulation tactics:

    Public sharing (01:23)

    Crossing boundaries (11:51)

    Non-consensual recording (21:43)

    Petty theft (34:21)

    Fast talking (42:18)


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    More Information About the Host & Karina Ramdath
    The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
    Karina Ramdath is a compassionate, skilled therapist, who works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and other complex mental health concerns. Karina’s professional focus is to support people by validating their experiences and acknowledging their resilience.
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    Suggested Podcast Episodes

    Never Be Manipulated Again: Rewriting History, Countering, Lying, Social Circle Manipulation, Pseudomutuality with Dr. Taylor Damiani

    Never Be Manipulated Again: Just Enough, Blaming, Public Humiliation, Should-ing With Dr. Maya Kaye

    Never Be Manipulated Again: Conversation Domination, Unsolicited and Sneaky Advice, Pity, and Ordering With Psychotherapist Fabian Wander


    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 55 min
    Guided Deep Breathing Exercise: Letting Go of Self-Doubt (Ep 120)

    Guided Deep Breathing Exercise: Letting Go of Self-Doubt (Ep 120)

    What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
    This guided deep breathing exercise helps you combat the self-doubt that narcissistic abuse causes. 
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    More Information About the Host
    The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
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    Suggested Podcast Episodes

    Guided Imagery Exercise: The Garden of Self-Discovery

    5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Doubt by Alexandra Walsh, Counselor

    5 Strategies for Overcoming Anxiety with Anna Graham, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor


    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 11 min
    5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward the Narcissist with Ellen Biros, LCSW (Ep 119)

    5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward the Narcissist with Ellen Biros, LCSW (Ep 119)

    What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
    In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anger toward the narcissist, flying monkeys and enablers:

    Embrace your anger (02:43)

    Let go of the identity of being the wronged one or the victim (11:14)

    Practice radical acceptance (17:49)

    Stay away from "all or nothing" thinking (38:06)

    Avoid "winner or loser" distinctions (46:58)


    Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast
    The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.
    More Information About the Host & Ellen Biros
    The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
    Ellen is a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the assessment and treatment of individuals with personality disorders, substance abuse issues, and emotional regulation problems. Ellen has spent over 15 years helping clients identify and recover from emotional abuse and manipulation. She is the author of 'Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter’s Workbook.'
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    Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter's Workbook by Ellen Biros

    Suggested Podcast Episodes

    5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward Yourself with Ellen Biros, LCSW

    Using J.A.D.E. to Protect Yourself from Narcissists with Ellen Biros (LCSW)

    Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation, Relational Trauma, and the Addictive Component of a Trauma Bond with LCSW Ellen Biros


    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 54 min
    5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward Yourself with Ellen Biros, LCSW (Ep 118)

    5 Strategies for Overcoming Anger Toward Yourself with Ellen Biros, LCSW (Ep 118)

    What Are We Discussing In This Episode?
    In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anger toward yourself after narcissistic abuse:

    Check-in with your emotions (03:06)

    The four square breathing (08:38)

    Thought-stopping (20:22)

    Grounding (29:38)

    Self-compassion pause (35:29)


    Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast
    The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please click here to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see the thread to submit a question/topic for this podcast.
    More Information About the Host & Ellen Biros
    The host, Juliana Akin, is a co-founder of Unfilteredd, a lawyer, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She creates content about narcissism and narcissistic abuse to share her personal experiences with healing because she hopes that by sharing her journey, she can help you navigate yours.
    Ellen is a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the assessment and treatment of individuals with personality disorders, substance abuse issues, and emotional regulation problems. Ellen has spent over 15 years helping clients identify and recover from emotional abuse and manipulation. She is the author of 'Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter’s Workbook.' All the strategies Ellen will share in this episode are from her workbook. Despite its title, the book offers detailed strategies for anyone who has experienced narcissistic abuse, whether in a family dynamic or with a romantic partner exhibiting narcissistic traits. 
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    Other Resources

    Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter's Workbook by Ellen Biros

    Suggested Podcast Episodes

    Using J.A.D.E. to Protect Yourself from Narcissists with Ellen Biros (LCSW)

    Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation, Relational Trauma, and the Addictive Component of a Trauma Bond with LCSW Ellen Biros

    5 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Blame with Leanne Cameron (Counselor)


    Podcast Music: Creative Commons Music by Jason Shaw on Audionautix.com

    • 41 min

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