The Authentic Wife Show Beth Rowles

In this episode, we discuss the three principles of quantum physics as laid out in Dr. Laura Berman's book Quantum Love. Did you know that your energy can change your relationship? And that your heart is a powerful influence on your family?



If you'd like to learn more, you can also visit this blog on my website.



Download The Princess and The Peeve Emotion Assessment here.

My guest today is Kari Cravalho, a coach for working moms and moms looking to return to the workforce. Through 1:1 and small group coaching, she offers moms a place to show up as is and explore what they truly want and need as they balance motherhood, career, and self.



I loved what she had to say about finding our essence and using those interests and goals as a guide while we navigate work at home and outside the home.



Summary:

Career Paths and Life Transitions

Beth and Kari had a detailed discussion about their career paths and experiences. Beth shared her expertise in coaching women undergoing transitions, particularly working mothers. Kari, on the other hand, talked about her background in human resources, her MBA from Kellogg, and her roles at healthcare tech companies and Adobe. Both agreed on the importance of discovering authentic life and work paths, as well as the role of challenges and transitions in shaping these paths. Kari also shared her experience transitioning from an HR leader to a stay-at-home mom and then starting her own coaching business to support working women. She emphasized the satisfaction and challenges of her roles and how having a coach helped her find her purpose again. Beth ended the conversation by asking about Kari's methods for helping clients balance their career choices and aspirations based on her own experience and the example of a client in the medical field.





You can find Kari here:


Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/kari.bratzler

IG:  @kari_cravalho_coaching

website:  www.cravalhocoaching.com

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/kari-cravalho-mba-certified-coach-1177a7/

Link to Schedule a Complimentary Fitting Call:  https://calendly.com/karicravalhocoaching/15-min-fitting-call

Are you working (from home or not), handling the kids school schedules, going to their events, doing all the household chores, and feeling invalidated, lonely, and exhausted?



Have you told your husband (or wife), "I need you to show me that you love me every day by little things and making me a priority,"?



I've been there too, and what I discovered was surprising. In this episode I discuss what to do if you feel like your spouse doesn't validate or prioritize you.



As always, go to theauthenticwifeandmom.com to learn more or visit happilyeveraftercoach.com if you're ready to save your marriage.

Many of my clients had critical mothers. They inherited many "shoulds" and dumped who they really were to win her "love" -- which was really just her approval.



Critical mothers pass on the pain of their own rejected selves to their daughters, if they don't do the inner work to heal first.



In this episode, after giving you permission to take your ability to receive even deeper as I am currently doing, I discuss exactly how you can begin to heal from this kind of upbringing.



As always, you can learn more at bethrowles.com or go straight to learning about my marriage coaching program at happilyeveraftercoach.com



Thanks for listening!

We all have days where we just don't like our spouse or even our kids, even if it's for a fleeting moment. Before you get on that downward spiral and plan the divorce, let me share with you that these thoughts are normal and to be expected in a family where you're with the same humans day after day.



Get yourself a big cup of grace and love on the part of you that is struggling. It's going to be ok!



(If you'd like to double-check that it's really going to be ok, visit my website at bethrowles.com and let's set up a time to chat!)

Do you WANT to grow old with your husband?


AI Summary

Lost Sight of Intentions: Beth's Marriage Advice

Beth had a heart-to-heart talk, where she shared her belief
that many marriages end due to losing sight of the original intentions. Beth
emphasized that couples often forget their initial dream of growing old
together, sharing life experiences, and the promise to stay together till
death. She noted that when conflicts arise, instead of focusing on the
positive aspects of the partnership, people tend to subconsciously look for
reasons to leave, which can lead to ruining the marriage. Beth encouraged her
audience to be mindful of their initial intentions and to look for reasons to
stay together rather than reasons to leave.

Focusing on Partner's Positives

Beth emphasized the importance of focusing on the positive
aspects of our partner and not just highlighting their flaws. She encouraged
to acknowledge the reasons why we chose them in the first place and to
remember that they are different from us, which is often one of the reasons
we are attracted to them. Beth also reminded that this applies to our
children as well, who are a mix of both parents, and this diversity is what
makes them whole and beautiful.

Dangers of Relationship Exit Focus

Beth warned against focusing on reasons to end a relationship,
emphasizing that doing so can manifest conflict and unhappiness. She noted
that even if one isn't explicitly expressing negative feelings, the other
party will still pick up on them, potentially leading to a self-fulfilling
prophecy of conflict and disconnection. Beth emphasized the importance of
striving for peacefulness, safety, and happiness, and the potential dangers
of seeking reasons to leave.

Relationship Ending Discussion

Beth had a discussion about ending a relationship and its
implications. She warned about the dangers of looking for negative aspects of
a person, which could lead to seeing those traits more clearly. Beth also
mentioned the need for a person to be present with their children. She ended
the discussion by noting that she was done and wanted the other parties to
settle down.

Intentions: Shaping Our Experiences

Beth explained how powerful intentions can be in shaping our
experiences. She used examples from hiking, vacations, and dining out to
illustrate how setting an intention to enjoy or find the good in a situation
can change our perspective and experience. Beth emphasized that when we set
intentions, we can direct our experiences and find growth opportunities,
rather than focusing on what's wrong.

Intentional Marriage: Staying Power

Beth emphasized the power of intention in marriages. She
highlighted that without a conscious intention to stay together, a marriage
will inevitably fail. Beth cited the example of a person named Jason Duncan
who gained fame after saying in a podcast interview that he and his wife
refuse to consider divorce as it is not in their vocabulary, due to their
commitment to stay together forever. Beth challenged those present to
consider whether they want to stay on the "struggle bus" or the
"drama triangle" or choose to adopt the intention of staying
married.

Positive Growth and Proactive Mindset

Beth emphasized the importance of focusing on the positive,
personal growth, and being proactive in creating good outcomes. She
encouraged others to adopt a teacher's mindset, grounded in what they want
and how they can make it happen.