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Renowned dating coach and New York Times bestselling author Matthew Hussey brings his expert insights into modern dating, emphasizing the importance of building connections that go beyond superficial interactions. The conversation delves into the common traps of today's dating culture, which often lead people into patterns of avoidance and isolation. We talk about how this is particularly affecting young men and Matthew provides specific tips to help shift our perspectives.
Co-host Jamey Heath highlights the importance of prioritizing friendship as a foundation for romantic relationships while co-host Liz Plank vulnerably shares her fear and personal frustration with dating. This set the stage for a healthy debate about whether we should lower our standards or not while looking for our perfect match and the important idea of being 'happy enough' before everything else.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of modern relationships and looking to cultivate genuine connections. Whether you’re actively dating or evaluating your current relationship, you’ll find valuable insights and advice to help you move forward. Matthew's new book, Love Life, is out on April 23, 2024 - you can pre-order at LoveLifeBook.com

TIMECODES:
(00:00) Episode Begins 
(04:45) When is the last time you didn’t feel enough?
(10:36) Dating advices men VS women
(17:36) Leaving a relationship that doesn't serve you
(20:22) Don't confuse anxiety for passion
(29:57) The loneliness epidemic
(43:15) Sacrifice attention for connection
(51:37) Unbearable desire to find love at all cost
(58:40) Should we lower our standards?
(1:07:53) The concept of "happy enough"
(1:15:37) Rapid fire questions (i.e. helpful tips)
(1:27:59) Being man enough

QUOTES:
"If you don't like the culture, you have to be brave enough to create your own." - Matthew Hussey 
"We often glorify people who have found a relationship, but there are so many people I've met who are more successful the day they leave their relationship." - Matthew Hussey 
"Anxiety can often feel like passion. You get excited about someone, but you don't necessarily know exactly why." - Matthew Hussey 
"You'll find the right one faster if you can lose the wrong one sooner." - Matthew Hussey

ABOUT MATTHEW HUSSEY:
Matthew Hussey is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and coach specializing in confidence and relational intelligence. His YouTube channel is number one in the world for love life advice, with over half a billion views. He writes a weekly newsletter and is the host of the podcast Love Life With Matthew Hus­sey. Hussey provides monthly coaching to the members of his private community at LoveLifeClub.com. Over the past fifteen years, his proven approach has inspired millions through authentic, insightful, and practical advice that not only enables them to find love but also feel confident and in control of their own happiness. He lives in Los Angeles.

MATTHEW HUSSEY SOCIAL 


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Website: www.matthewhussey.com



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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses sexual abuse of a minor. 
Renowned actor and musician Drake Bell opens up about his struggles with past abuse, the complex road to accountability, and the ongoing journey towards healing. The conversation is a powerful reflection of the strength found in vulnerability and the transformative power of speaking one’s truth. 
Co-host Jamey Heath shares his own story of abuse as a child, opening the door for Drake to share more about the scars left by his abuse as a young actor on Nickelodeon, which he revealed on the MAX docuseries Quiet on Set: The Dark Side of Kids TV. As he battles with the shadows of his past, co-hosts Justin Baldoni, Liz Plank and Jamey discuss the need for Drake to take accountability for his own actions, delving into his truths and the personal resolve to mend the broken pieces. 
In this episode: 

How the abuse affected Drake’s relationship with his parents and his ex-wife

Confronting betrayal by those Drake admired and who were in positions of power

Taking accountability for his actions 

The struggle to trust and love again  

Finding hope on the other side of healing


Drake's vulnerability provides a roadmap for navigating through trauma with honesty and accountability, illuminating a path for others in search of healing and forgiveness.
This episode was recorded on March 30, 2024. 
If you or someone you know has experienced sexual abuse, help is available. Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or go to the NO MORE Global Directory at nomoredirectory.org to find support.

TIMECODES
(00:00) Episode begins 
(04:13) When was the last time you didn't feel enough?
(08:00) Background information on Drake's story and Jamey opens up about his assault
(13:00) Letters of support for Brian Peck's during trial
(17:36) Rehab and decided to share his story
(34:23) How trauma affected Drake and things he could have done better
(43:59) Allegations against Drake and holding him accountable
(1:07:43) Men who have been abused can become abusers
(1:14:19) Message to fans who are attacking his accuser online
(1:19:57) Blurred lines in relationships
(1:22:55) Drake on why shouldn't pressure people and public figures to speak out
(1:26:39) Creating a safe space for himself & healing
(1:37:20) What does it mean to you to be Man Enough?

QUOTES
“What happened to me doesn't have to define who I am.” - Drake
“I was crying when I watched your episode…I'm under a blanket on the plane crying because I’m feeling for you. I'm remembering mine. And it doesn't leave. But it doesn't have to control me anymore.” - Jamey
“One of the byproducts of trauma that you've experienced (not an excuse) is boundary issues. 30% of all men who have been abused become abusers.” - Justin
“Even in moments of weakness, you need to be able to discern and and recognize…you can't just blame a moment of weakness for why you got in your car when you were drunk and you crashed into somebody and hurt them.” - Drake
“As a woman I feel safe when men are acknowledging their mistakes, not when they are minimizing.” - Liz

ABOUT DRAKE BELL
Drake Bell is a 37-year-old American actor and musician from Newport Beach, CA. He got his rise to fame as a child actor in the 1990s on the popular Nickelodeon shows “The Amanda Show,” which aired for three seasons starting in 1999, and “Drake & Josh,” which aired for four seasons starting in 2004. He has starred in films such as, “Yours, Mine & Ours,”(2005), “Drake & Josh Go Hollywood” (2006), “Superhero Movie” (2008), and more. Bell has over five albums released, and is best known for his songs “Found a Way," “I Know”, and his recently released single called “I Kinda Relate." Bell currently resides in Mexico City where he has a large fan base supporting his music.

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Do you feel your age? At what point did we decide that aging isn't beautiful?
In this special episode of the Man Enough Podcast, Jamey and Liz explore the profound truths about aging and mortality. Jamey shares a recent chilling plane experience that made him face his own mortality, leading to a broader discussion on life's fragility. Our hosts also delve into the deep-seated societal norms and stigmas that shadow our journey into older age, dissecting the role of patriarchal structures in shaping these perceptions, including a candid conversation about the increasing normalization of Botox. From embracing the raw beauty of getting older to the unending pursuit of personal growth and understanding, this episode is an invitation to reflect on our own attitudes towards aging and the critical importance of living each day with gratitude and bravery.

Timecodes: 
(00:00) Liz and Jamey are back 
(3:28) Do you feel your age? 
(6:36) Jamey’s plane experience encountering his own mortality  
(14:00) Feeling the age you are supposed to be 
(15:15) Getting botox
(18:00) Societal pressure when aging for women VS men 
(25:00) Liz’ recent challenges
(33:00) The ways younger generations are impacted by social media 

Quotes:
"The younger that I look, then I'm farther away from that island that eventually is my demise or my birth, depending on how you look at it." Jamey 
"I think that it's a luxury and it's a privilege, but I don't feel the age that I'm supposed to be. Like I feel like I have this millennial imposter syndrome that a lot of people in my generation have where-- You don't feel the age you're supposed to be." Liz 
"When did that happen? Has that always been the case? Are our kids nowadays going like, 'I don't wanna look older because then I lose my value?" Jamey 
"We wanna hold on to our youth. I understand we wanna look good and all that stuff. At what point did we determine that getting older is not beautiful?" Jamey 

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses sexual violence and human trafficking. 
Learn from Emmy and Golden Globe-winning actor Ashley Judd as she shares how her experiences being exploited as a child have taught her that “it is [her] birthright to heal.” She is joined by Catherine Chen, CEO of Polaris, the organization working to end sex and labor trafficking, for which Ashley is the spokesperson and activist. This is a solution-forward dialogue that helps to better understand the causes, systemic factors, and opportunities to improve this large issue, which is too often invisible. 
In this episode:

What constitutes sex and labor exploitation

How men play a role and can take action to prevent trafficking 

How pornography contributes to the continuation of harmful behaviors

How traffickers use coercion and grooming to lure people in 

The urgent need for societal and economic reforms to effectively fight these crimes


This is a personal, riveting and inspiring conversation that informs and provides hope, despite the heavy topics. We all have a responsibility to open our eyes to how we might be unknowingly upholding or allowing vulnerable people to become victims of trafficking. If you see yourself in any of the situations that we discussed today, call the National Human Trafficking Hotline at 1-888-373-7888 or text BeFree (233733). 

Timecodes:
(00:00) Episode Begins 
(06:55) When is the last time you didn’t feel enough 
(08:27) Healing is Ashley’s mandate 
(14:45) Culture of pornification 
(21:33) Human trafficking definition 
(25:20) Who buys sex 
(31:24) Tangible action to take to end trafficking 
(44:31) What to do if you are being trafficked 
(56:10) What grooming can look like 
(1:03:18) The importance of universal basic income & other policies 
(1:16:16) What does it mean to be Man Enough

QUOTES:
"It is my birthright to heal. I am healing. I was born to heal. Healing is my mandate. I am healing right now" - Ashley Judd
"Trafficking happens because our systems are broken. We start with the fundamental, which is we don't have enough economic equity, we don't have enough basic income equity in the United States." - Catherine Chen

ABOUT ASHLEY JUDD
Ashley Judd, is a celebrated actress and a passionate advocate for social justice and women's rights. Ashley has journeyed to over 22 countries, engaging directly with communities to fight gender inequality and male sexual violence. Her experiences are vividly captured in her New York Times bestselling memoir, "All That Is Bitter & Sweet." Her TED Talk on online misogyny has garnered over two million views. Ashley was Time magazine’s Person of the Year in 2017 as one of the Silence Breakers. In 2019, the United Nations honored her as Global Advocate of the Year.
ABOUT CATHERINE CHEN
Catherine Chen is the CEO of Polaris, an organization at the forefront of the fight against sex and labor trafficking in the United States. For more than twenty years she has led significant initiatives, including raising awareness about migrant workers in Qatar and launching the Partnership for Freedom with President Obama. Her work has influenced policy change and fostered innovative approaches to combating trafficking.

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We recently announced a partnership with the global nonprofit NO MORE to help prevent domestic violence and sexual assault. Each year, the organization holds NO MORE Week, a time to shine a brighter spotlight on the issues and get more people to become part of the solution. We’re proud to support the 4th annual @nomoreorg Week Virtual 5K, March 3-9, to help end domestic & sexual violence. Please join and sign up at https://organizations.hakuapp.com/sit...

All funds raised help support the lifesaving work of The NO MORE Foundation.
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Colton Underwood, best known for his appearances on three seasons of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, openly discusses his journey to self-acceptance. He came out as gay after living an extremely public life as a straight man on the reality show and his NFL career, leading him to reflect on the challenges and triumphs of embracing his true identity. Colton shares insights into his mental health struggles and the realizations that compelled him to stop fighting his truth, which was hurting himself and others. 
During this intimate and accountable conversation, Colton delves into the intersection of fame, personal truth, and the evolving definition of masculinity. He emphasizes the lessons he learned about honesty, vulnerability, and the courage it takes to live authentically, now striving to use his experiences for LGBTQ+ advocacy and to help others that are “hiding in plain sight”.

IN THIS EPISODE
(00:33) Justin Baldoni Introduces the Episode 
(02:39) Colton's Joy and Comfort Today vs Most of His Life 
(04:17) Creating the Image of Straightness in Style and Music Choices as a Boy
(07:40) The Pressure of Public Image and Contradictions in Identity 
(10:05) The Terror of the Locker Room as a Closeted Gay Man
(12:32) The Journey to Becoming the Bachelor and Backlash as a Public Figure 
(15:29) Early Signs of Attraction to Men and Perceptions of Masculinity
(17:31) Hiding in Sports and Entertainment, The Bachelor as “Self-Conversion Therapy”
(21:20) The Complexity of Public Straight Relationships and His Secret Life
(23:40) The Breakup That Broke the Facade, Mental Health Spiral
(25:50) Both Holding Himself Accountable for Actions and Owning His Self-Realization
(30:13) Facing Blackmail and Forced to Come Out 
(33:03) Coming Out to His Family
(35:25) Taking Care of Mental Health, Controversy, Finding Love & Friendships
(45:02) What Does It Mean to be Man Enough?

COLTON UNDERWOOD QUOTATIONS
“For the first time in my entire life, I get to be present and I don't have to worry about the future and what's going to happen and I don't have to worry about my past…I'm enjoying all of the stages of building, of loving, of learning, and I don't have to run anymore.” (44:32)
“I could become the Bachelor and date 30 women. What's straighter than that? Trying self- conversion therapy on myself…There was nothing more that I could have done to declare that I was a straight man more than becoming the Bachelor.” (00:00)
“My dad's ride or die. Anything that goes on in my life, he's got my back and I know it. And same with my mom. He helped me get better and helped me handle things and he was trying his best. My entire family was.” (32:06)

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