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Umbert De Paris helps men 👔 who want to know how to behave in Paris 👌🇫🇷.



He advises them on etiquette 👨‍🎓, manners 🤵, fashion 👕, date 💏 and lifestyle 🍾.



Benefits of this coaching :



Learn the French etiquette and manners

Dress like a Parisian

How to communicate so Parisians will love you

Dining etiquette in a French restaurant

How to date in The City of Lights

Lifestyle in Paris



Umbert De Paris was founded by Charlotte from France.



Travelling a lot, she knows that education and knowledge will be the new wealth.



That’s why she wants to share her experiences, advice, success, and failures, through Umbert’s journey.



How to behave in Paris? Download now the free eBook "How to behave in Paris ».



Enjoy the journey!

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Umbert De Paris helps men 👔 who want to know how to behave in Paris 👌🇫🇷.



He advises them on etiquette 👨‍🎓, manners 🤵, fashion 👕, date 💏 and lifestyle 🍾.



Benefits of this coaching :



Learn the French etiquette and manners

Dress like a Parisian

How to communicate so Parisians will love you

Dining etiquette in a French restaurant

How to date in The City of Lights

Lifestyle in Paris



Umbert De Paris was founded by Charlotte from France.



Travelling a lot, she knows that education and knowledge will be the new wealth.



That’s why she wants to share her experiences, advice, success, and failures, through Umbert’s journey.



How to behave in Paris? Download now the free eBook "How to behave in Paris ».



Enjoy the journey!

    How to behave in the street, especially when traveling!

    How to behave in the street, especially when traveling!

    How to behave in the street, especially when traveling!





    Umbert loves to wander around the city during his monthly weekends, or at night.

    He knows that the new etiquette and good manners demand to be always discreet and not to disturb others, even in the street and in all circumstances.

    He also pays attention to respect the people and their country when traveling.

    If someone asks him his way, he always responds kindly or apologizes if he doesn’t know the answer.

    When a car driver gives him the passage, he thankfully nodded politely.

    Benefits of this coaching :



    * Best methodology to become irresistible

    * An innovative technique to unleash your charisma

    * Learn the new etiquette & manners

    * A better lifestyle



    « Courtesy is the main part of the etiquette; it is a kind of charm by which one is loved by everyone » Jacques Deval, artist and filmmaker

    1) Public transportation

    Always stay behind the line and let the people exist first, especially in the subway, taxi or bus stations.

    Let your seat to older persons, women or persons with disabilities, if the other places are taken.

    Put your bags under your knees; they don’t need a seat.

    It is not convenient to eat or unpack food; the smell will disturb the other passengers.

    Please don’t talk loudly on the phone, wait that you will arrive.

    Always be gentle with the driver in buses, or any employee from the public transportation company, they try to make their job the best they can. Umbert always says « good morning » or « have a nice day » to the driver.

    2) When shopping

    Umbert loves to shop around and discover new things and trends.

    When he goes to a shop, if there is a push door to open, he always holds it if someone wants to enter after him or exit.

    When it is a pull door, don’t forget to hold the door first, to let the other enter or exit.

    When the elevator arrives, let the people exit first, then enter and make some space for others. This is the best way not to waste your and others time.

    In the escalator stay on the right side so the people in a hurry can walk fast on the left side. People, especially in the cities are working, so if you respect them, they will also appreciate the tourists.

    3) Rainy days

    They are part of the charm of Paris and North Europe in general.

    These days are often synonymous with congested sidewalks because many streets in old cities are narrow. Do not forget that this is what makes them historical and charming.

    Umbert pays attention not to jostle someone by walking too fast, and not to disturb everyone with his umbrella.

    He always lowers his umbrella to let a woman pass.

    A woman, meanwhile, will lower her umbrella to let an older woman pass.

    Don’t forget that many works and are often in a hurry. They should, therefore, be given priority.

    On the opposite, if you are in a hurry, do not “stick” the person in front.

    When Umbert inadvertently hustles someone, even if he tries never to do, he immediately apologizes.

    4) The priorities, especially with women

    Umbert is a gallant man when he sees a woman walking on the same sidewalk; he leaves her the side along the wall, proof that he takes care of her safety.

    He always leaves room for a woman on public transportation.

    A man does not turn around and look at a woman. It’s a proof of respect.

    If he meets a married person with another man, he pretends not to have seen them. He lets the woman come to him if she wishes.

    If a person arrives with a stroller, he moves to let her pass.

    If he meets a senior, he takes a step aside to let her pass.

    5) With your group of friends

    Umbert knows many people in Paris, and he often meets friends in his favorite neighborhoods.

    When discussing, they let the passage free,

    • 4 min
    How to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman

    How to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman

    How to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman





    Umbert loves to go to the restaurant. He is a gourmet, and every month, he gives you his choices for the best places. You can check Umbert Weekends in Paris.

    To behave correctly at the restaurant is not a protocol matter, but part of the Art-de-Vivre and new etiquette.

    Umbert helps you about How to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman.

    Benefits of this coaching :



    * Best methodology to become irresistible.

    * An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.

    * Learn the new etiquette & manners.

    * A better lifestyle.



    « The gastronomy is an incredible source of happiness” Pierre Hermé, famous French pastry chef.

    1) Arriving at the restaurant

    If you have invited a woman, be sure to arrive before the time, if not contact her. You can also read my article How to be a winner on the first date.

    When arriving with a lady, a man always goes first to the restaurant, and hold the door. Why? This is an old tradition: to protect the woman from looks, or fights that were common in hostels in the past. If there is a staircase: the man goes first, it is also an old tradition because the man should not see the legs of the woman, and when they go down to avoid a fall to the lady.

    Enter and wait for the butler to place you.

    If the butler leads a couple to the table, the woman goes first.

    It is essential to wait until the hostess places you. However, you can politely ask to change if the table proposed does not suit you.

    The man gently pulls the woman’s chair to invite her to sit down and extends her right hand to the table. The woman is still sitting in front of the room and on the bench if there is one.

    When Umbert invites friends to the restaurant, he asks for a table and leads his guests there.

    2) At the table

    If the man arrives before and is already at the table, he must get up when the woman comes to greet her.

    Never sit down first. The bench is always reserved for ladies. If there are two women, they will be side by side. If there are only chairs, think of pulling the woman’s chair, unless the butler does it.

    When you sit down to the table, immediately put your towel on your legs, without waiting for the dish. The towel should not be tied around the neck, shirt or belt. It must stay on your knees, except to wipe your lips before drinking, so the glass is not dirty.

    Turn off your phone! Personal items shouldn’t be on the table (sunglasses, phone, keys, etc.).

    Do not put elbows on the table while eating.

    To make your choice on the menu, do not look at the neighbors’ plate at another table. Do not choose dishes which are too expensive, to respect the other guest regarding the bill, or too modest, so you’ll seem cheap.

    The host chooses the wines, after having asked everybody if his choice suits them.

    When the waiter comes to you with a bottle of red wine, look at the label to check the order. Turn the red wine in your glass delicately before tasting and agreeing.

    The men serve the drink to the ladies who accompany them unless the butler does it.

    Glasses: the water glass is the largest on the left. The red wine glass is the middle one; the smallest white wine glass is on the right. Wipe your lips before drinking, so you do not stain the glass.

    If you do not want to drink wine, do not put your hand on the glass to refuse, but say “no thank you” to the server.

    The bread is not eaten before the first course is served, even if you are starving!

    Before starting to taste the dishes, wait until everyone is served. Exception: if you are many at the table, and your neighbors ask you to start. However, for an appetizer or a cold dish,

    • 7 min
    How to be a winner on the first date

    How to be a winner on the first date

    How to be a winner on the first date





    Umbert’s friend Alexandre looks for a fiancée and asks for advice on How to be a winner on the first date if he meets a pretty girl, and asks her for a date. 

    Umbert is a man to whom his friends like to confess. Politeness and friendship have a rule: never tell another person the confidences made by a friend.

    Today he meets Alexandre at the Café de Flore in Paris.

    Umbert explains that pretty girls are difficult to seduce, and they pay attention to the etiquette and good manners, so it is important to follow his advice.

    After meeting the “right person,” here is the second crucial moment: the date.

    It is also the second difficult part because everything will have to be in fineness and elegance.

    Benefits of this coaching :



    * Best methodology to become irresistible.

    * An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.

    * Learn the new etiquette & manners.

    * A better lifestyle.



    “You’ll never have a second chance to make a good impression,” David Swanson.

    1) General rules for a date

    Simplicity is key. Be yourself; lying is a waste of time; she will discover who you are anyway.

    The smile is the number one asset of seduction. Be friendly and charming.

    The one who makes a woman laugh will be ahead of the one who floods her with many compliments.

    Have physical, moral and intellectual elegance.

    Highlight your qualities. For example, your success in an industry or a sport. There may be other contenders, so put all the chances on your side. Whether you are beautiful, intelligent, rich or the opposite, girls like success. Do not show off with your money, car or house. Make yourself appreciate for yourself; it’s essential for the future.

    Before the appointment, you can think of a few topics. A man who does not know what to say will have no chance to please.

    Avoid at all costs the vulgarity, the “heaviness” in the behavior, and don’t do too much, or say too much.

    In all cases avoid personal problems, excessive development, and focus on the interest of the other.

    If you are open, balanced, attentive, confident, cheerful! Then everything will be fine.

    2) The date at the restaurant



    * Arrive in advance. Never be late to the first appointment, it would be a huge and gross mistake. If it happens to contact her as soon as possible to let her know, she will appreciate it. Moreover don’t try the « sorry I’m so busy … », she wants you to be busy with her!  

    * Personal items shouldn’t be on the table (sunglasses, phone, keys, etc.). This is a table for you and her, not yours.

    * Turn off your phone!

    * Get up when the woman arrives to greet her.

    * If you’ve never met and are disappointed: do not show it, you will not see each other again.

    * Find a sentence to welcome her, delicate, kind without doing too much. A compliment on her outfit and elegance will always be appreciated. A little shyness does not hurt or at least a low reserve.

    * Never sit down first. The bench is always reserved for ladies. If there are only chairs, think of pulling the woman’s chair, unless the butler does it.

    * When you sit down to the table, immediately put your towel on your legs, without waiting for the dish.

    * Start the conversation and look at her eyes to talk.

    * It is the man who places the order at the Maître d’Hotel and chooses the wines, after having asked the woman if his choice suits her. Do not look at the neighbors’ plate at another table to make your choice.

    * The man serves the drink to the woman who accompanies him unless the butler does it.

    * Before starting to taste the dishes, wait until she is served.

    * If you have to leave the table for a few minutes,

    • 6 min
    More advices for a quick date

    More advices for a quick date

    Tonight Georges, who is one of Umbert’s best friend, has a date at Les 2 Magots in Paris.







    Georges is a little stress and need more advice from Umbert to be more confident.







    Umbert likes to help his friends. That’s why he writes about Date.







    Benefits of this coaching :







    * Best methodology to become irresistible* An innovative technique to unleash your charisma* Learn the new etiquette & manners* A better lifestyle







    “What we encounter in life is destiny. The way we meet her is a personal effort,” Sathya Sai Baba.







    1) Before the date







    * Check your clothing. Wear clean clothes. It seems obvious, but it’s better to remember. Avoid right away: dirty t.shirt, a jean with holes, dirty shoes, heels damaged, soles with holes (yes, people look at your feet if you do not know how to sit!). Wear simple clothes that enhance, where you feel natural and comfortable.* Of course, you will have also taken care of your physical cleanliness (hair, nails, skin).* Do not wear too much perfume.* Speak in front of your mirror once ready. It will give you insurance.* Forget all your worries;otherwise do not go there.







    Nothing beats an “arrival” smiling, relaxed, with a confident attitude.







    2) During the date







    Turn off your cell phone.







    Always be natural, charming and courteous.







    Do not talk about your work, trouble, family, breakup.







    Ask questions; women love to be listen.







    Stay relaxed; it’s a party.







    Dominate your shyness.







    Smile and look her in her eyes.







    Do not cut the floor.







    When talking, avoid “me I,” and prefer, “I think that” or “it seems to me,” “in my opinion.”







    If you feel an attraction, you can touch her arm while talking.







    Specify what you are looking for in the relationship.







    The difficulty is to talk about your qualities, without putting too much value.







    Remember that women don’t like:







    * Men who show off, and talk about everything they are supposed to possess.* The stubborn who talks about money, and especially how to save it. Attention! It is you Sir who must pay the totality of the bill.* The false intellectual who pretends to know everything.* The seducer who enumerates his conquests and considers himself already a winner.* The obsessed who talks about sex constantly.* The unfortunate man with whom from the first sentence we are in the drama.







    3) What men don’t like:







    The hyper-liberated woman, often unstable.







    Those who do not respect your private life. She is always listening to you and doing everything you want.







    The authoritarian: Either we obey, or we leave!







    The agitated who lists all the activities she does.







    The depressive who lives in problems







    The snobbish looking only for a comfortable material life. Do you have enough money to pay for her lavish lifestyle?







    Georges is so happy to get that quick advice before tonight date.







    He now feels more confident and will enjoy the party for sure.

    • 3 min
    How to welcome your guests to your dinner party at home ?

    How to welcome your guests to your dinner party at home ?

    https://youtu.be/zXOQQrnxKNg





    Umbert is planning his holiday invitations.

    He will be so happy to welcome his friends and family in his elegant apartment in Paris.

    He wants to help you remember some simple rules on How to welcome your guests.

    Benefits of this coaching :



    * Best methodology to become irresistible

    * An innovative technique to unleash your charisma

    * Learn the new etiquette & manners

    * A better lifestyle



    “We do not arrive at people home empty-handed,” French proverb.

    1) Welcoming guests

    Forget about the fatigue, nervousness, worries.

    The host must imperatively be ready to welcome his guests. Umbert likes to dress, perfume, to make sure that his style is impeccable.

    Everyone is greeted with a kind word that expresses the joy of receiving.

    If the guests have sent flowers or chocolates before, thank them warmly, but discreetly to not bother those who would not have brought anything.

    If there are few guests, open the package in front of them. If it is chocolates or candies, offer them at the end of the dinner.

    If there are many guests, open them afterward, and call or write the next day to thank.

    Providing vases with the water for the flowers offered is necessary. Arrange the flowers in it and highlight the bouquet.

    If someone brings a wine that does not fit the menu, say that you keep it to share it with them at the next dinner.

    If one brings fresh champagne, serve it as an aperitif or dessert.

    Toasting can bring fun and make your party special. The host proposes it to celebrate this night and to welcome everyone or a special guest. The host should stand up, raise his glass, make a short speech and have fun! Don’t forget to watch everyone, then look at the special guest, if there is one, who will say a polite thank you.

    When the aperitif is finished (1-hour maximum) the host gets up and places the guests.

    If a guest is very late, do not wait for him to eat.

    2) The présentations

    The presentations are the first act of interaction with the other guests.

    The first impression being the one that counts the most, Umbert reminds you of the basic rules of the New Etiquette and manners.

    Immediately giving the best self-image is a delicate art, so Umbert offers you that general advice that is easy to follow anywhere :



    * First, you have to stand up to meet the guests.

    * Keep your arms loosely at your side, ready to shake hands.

    * Smile to give the image of a person at ease, happy to know those that are presented to you.

    * Do maintain eye contact to prove your sincerity and confidence, do not keep your sunglasses if you are outside.

    * Speak clearly to avoid having the caller repeat, especially your name, so never chew gum, or eat while talking.



    If you are shy or uncomfortable, have someone introduce you.

    If you meet a celebrity, do not stare at her, and take a picture only with her permission, especially if she has a bodyguard !!

    The presentations rules :



    * Three criteria must be respected: age, sex, and social status.

    * The youngest person is presented to the oldest, the man to the woman, an employee to his employer, the least “graded” to the most “graded.”

    * The persons to reach out first are the women, the hosts, older people and people of high social standing.



    The presentation process :



    * State your name first, then your second name: “Good evening, Umbert De Paris.» Never say the name first, or Mr. Umbert De Paris or I am Umbert De Paris. Only use Mr or Mrs when you make an appointment, for example, at the hairdresser. You can say « Mr,» « Sir,» « Mrs » or « Madam » only for an older person.

    * How should the handshake be? Be careful; it reveals your personality!

    • 6 min
    How to leave the party in style

    How to leave the party in style

    How to leave the party in style





    The dinner is over; the coffee is served, you have to know when to leave according to the New Etiquette.

    Entering the room and make a fantastic impression is very important to be irresistible.

    However, leaving the party in style too, so they remember you.

    Benefits of this coaching :



    * Best methodology to become irresistible.

    * An innovative technique to unleash your charisma.

    * Learn the new etiquette & manners.

    * A better lifestyle.



    « Paris is a party,» Ernest Hemingway, writer.

    1) General rules

    When Umbert is invited, he always observes the other guests know when he should leave.

    So, when all the other guests have already left, he knows it’s time to thank the hosts and call a taxi back home.

    French like parties that end at a late hour. However, when you see the host is tired, you know it’s time to leave.

    He stays just if the hosts ask for it, especially if the conversation is passionate.

    Sometimes Umbert also invites friends. He rents one of the fantastic reception rooms of a Parisian palace. He likes The Ritz; for example, it remembers him the 90’s and the crazy parties there. He wants his guests to enjoy their evening until the end, so he remains cheerful and warm, even if it lasts until the early morning. He then accompanies his guests and thanks them for coming. Isn’t it all the charm of Paris and the French way of life?

    2) Leaving the table

    First, watch for the first signs of trouble or fatigue in the guests or hosts. On weekdays, think of the hosts who work the next day.

    You cannot leave until the hostess (housewife) has stood up first, followed by the host (husband) and the other men who should push out the chairs of their neighbors.

    Then place your unfolded towel on the right side of the plate.

    Leave as discreetly as possible.

    3) What to say

    Do not leave without greeting or thanking the hosts.

    A compliment to the hostess is always welcome.

    Greet the other guests only if they get up too.

    If it is very late, and there are still several guests, you can address a collective “Good night,” and warmly greet the hosts.

    4) The next days

    No matter the quality of the evening, you must thank the hostess the next day, by phone or with a thank you card.

    It is imperative to invite the hosts in the next 1 to 2 months.

    If you met people you like, invite them for the first time too.

    Paris and its parties, Ernest Hemingway, is right: « Paris is a party.»

    Now you know How to leave the party in style.

    The dandy-chic, the laughs, the music, it’s always fun, and Umbert and his male friends like to go there to seduce the pretty girls. Still in style!

    What must be remembered: the way you leave is as meaningful as the way you enter a room. Do it in style, thank the hosts, make a compliment, leave discreetly saying a general « Good night » most of the time.

    How to become irresistible? Download now the free eBook available on this blog.

    Enjoy the journey!

    • 2 min

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