Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Sam Tielemans, LMFT

When a woman discovers her husband's pornography use, her whole world gets turn upside down. 
Oftentimes she now thinks that everything was a lie. Their whole relationship was fake. They don't even know who their husband is anymore.
Given how much damage is done, many women experience what's called betrayal trauma.
In this episode I share with you the 5 indicators that a woman is experiencing betrayal trauma, then I share with you three specific things that you can do to address it together.
 
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
 
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
 
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
 
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
 

When a spouse is gone for the day or weekend and a man is all alone, it's a common trigger.
In this episode I share 3 specific things you can do to make sure that those periods of being alone won't cause another setback.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
 
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
 
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
 
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Change is 100% if you have the right ingredients.
In today's episode, I want to introduce to you a man who has found success, and 2 years later, he continues to to do well, have a strong marriage, and help other people in their struggles with quitting porn.
This path can I often feel discouraging and depressing because most men experience countless failures and setbacks along the way.
The common thread is that men just don't know what to do to eliminate their problem, despite putting in effort and being desperate for change.
Check out this episode to see the specific things that helped Todd restore his relationship and conquer his problem.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
 
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
 
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
 
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Initiating conversations can be very difficult for a husband to do.
If his wife is in a good mood, he doesn’t want to bring up the pain all over again.
If she's in a bad mood, he doesn't want to cause a fight or make things worse.
Thus, he avoids the conversations with her and she ends up feeling unseen, unloved, and all alone.
In this episode, I share with you specific ways you can address this situation so you can have very productive conversations without fighting and create closure and connection again in the relationship.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
 
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
 
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
 
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

How do the conversations go when you talk about her pain?
Do they end with you feeling closer or further apart? Do you feel hopeless and inadequate, not knowing what to say to help her feel comforted?
For a wife, not getting the understanding and validation she needs creates hurt and anger, and the conversations just stall out leaving them both alone.
In this episode I share with you one of the main reasons why that happens and 2 things you can implement to change that dynamic.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
 
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
 
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
 
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Have you ever gotten into an argument with your spouse where you're talking about specific actions that he's committed to do but then doesn't follow through?
For a wife, it can feel really frustrating if there’s a lack of follow through because she often receives that as him not being committed or caring enough.
For a husband, it can be frustrating because if he’s working on things but then feels picked apart and like his efforts aren’t enough This leads to shutting down and distance.
So in today’s episode I want to share with you how are you can both navigate this together in a way that doesn't divide you but can help you find closer and confidence that you’re healing together.
 
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
 
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
 
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
 
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.