116 episodes

Ever felt like you suck at being an adult? Like there's a secret manual that someone forgot to give you when you turned 18?

Join life & business coach Ebonie Allard, as she & her guests explore with humour & curiosity what it means to be a kickass and kind adult in our modern world. Each week they’ll navigate the complete spectrum of adulting from wildness to responsibility, with compassion rather than expectation.

Expect strong language and viewpoints as no topic is out of bounds, after all we’re all adults here, right?!

The idea is to unpack sovereignty, creativity, privilege, intimacy, love, and rewild into discovering how we can be good humans, AND still have FUN.

Most episodes Ebonie’ll have a guest, sometimes she’ll be live coaching and you’ll get to be a fly on the wall, and occasionally she’ll rock the mic alone and talk directly to you with her thoughts and challenges.

Adulting with Ebonie Ebonie Allard

    • Self Help

Ever felt like you suck at being an adult? Like there's a secret manual that someone forgot to give you when you turned 18?

Join life & business coach Ebonie Allard, as she & her guests explore with humour & curiosity what it means to be a kickass and kind adult in our modern world. Each week they’ll navigate the complete spectrum of adulting from wildness to responsibility, with compassion rather than expectation.

Expect strong language and viewpoints as no topic is out of bounds, after all we’re all adults here, right?!

The idea is to unpack sovereignty, creativity, privilege, intimacy, love, and rewild into discovering how we can be good humans, AND still have FUN.

Most episodes Ebonie’ll have a guest, sometimes she’ll be live coaching and you’ll get to be a fly on the wall, and occasionally she’ll rock the mic alone and talk directly to you with her thoughts and challenges.

    The One About Calming Your Autonomic Nervous System

    The One About Calming Your Autonomic Nervous System

    It’s known that almost all of the body’s functions are controlled by the ANS (autonomic nervous system) - it’s actually around 90% of the body that the ANS innovates.


    In this episode, I’m exploring how calming your ANS plays such a huge part in your adulting and who you’re becoming in the world.


    Listen on for:An overview of the science behind your autonomic nervous system and how it functions


    The impact slowing down has on your mood


    The role your ANS plays in balance, alignment, coherence and everyday life


    The difference that focusing on this has made to my body image and my life


    A round-up of activities to help you take better care of your ANS


    Links & resources mentioned in this episode: Manuel Martinez (https://www.amazon.com/FIBROMYALGIA-stress-becomes-real-about-ebook/dp/B00C01C64K)


    MBIT (https://ebonieallard.com/multiple-brain-integration/)


    Grant Soosalu (http://www.mbraining.com/about-us)


    Paul Canali (http://www.evolutionaryhealinginstitute.com/About-Us.html)


    Misfit to Maven: The Story of Argh to Ahhh (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Misfit-Maven-Story-Argh-Ahhh/dp/1910056324/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=misfit+to+maven&qid=1581600191&sr=8-1)


    Peter Levine (https://traumahealing.org/about-us/)


    The one about fight or flight mode (with Rachel Morris) (https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-fight-or-flight/)


    Rachel Scheck - Qoya (https://www.qoya.love/)


    M2M playlist (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfWlot6h_JM&list=PLzKTEBtl6Gx5eFx7O08xiWZzHoI0RshcJ)


    Morning meditation favs (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lAwYodrBr2Q&list=PLzKTEBtl6Gx6cA6EYyeGpXOzuKDgcUPJ0)


    The Maven Meditation Extravaganza (https://ebonieallard.com/product/mini-meditation-bundle/)


    Wim Hof (https://www.wimhofmethod.com/)


    Additional goodies: (https://ebonieallard.com/value-filtered-living-community/) - join our secret community for weekly chats, thoughts on adulting, and tips on living a value-filtered life! This is where we share all our best free content, so join us today!


    (https://ebonieallard.com/m2m365/) - Check out the only place to get 1:1 coaching with me PLUS be cheer-led and challenged by me and my team… so that you can show up, belong, make money, and get the freedom you desire.


    The one about overwhelm (with Alice) (https://adultingwithebonie.com/captivate-podcast/the-one-about-overwelm/)


    The one about overcoming anxiety (with Sam)  (https://adultingwithebonie.com/captivate-podcast/the-one-about-overcoming-anxiety/)


    The one about finding out about your block (with Lucinda) (https://adultingwithebonie.com/captivate-podcast/whats-the-block/)


    The one about the antidote to burnout (with Audrey) (https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-the-antidote-to-burnout/)

    • 23 min
    The One About Fight Or Flight

    The One About Fight Or Flight

    Stress. It’s real. It’s pervasive. It’s something so many misfits I work with battle day on day…


    And what’s happening to us now on a physiological level is that we’re responding to that stress the way our ancestors would have responded to life-threatening danger.


    In this episode, I’m joined by Dr Rachel Morris to talk about these instinctive responses to our “stuff” - fight, flight and freeze. 


    Listen on for:The perks (and limits) of self-awareness.


    How to handle your emotions in a way that will make you way more effective!


    How to make sure your fight or flight response doesn’t rule the show.


    The impact that true community can have on the way you engage with your fear.


    Meet Rachel MorrisRachel is a GP turned Executive Coach, Speaker and Specialist on Resilience in the workplace. She works with GPs, doctors and other professionals in high stress and high stakes jobs to help them beat stress and burnout.


    You can find Rachel's podcast here: You Are Not a Frog (https://podcast.app/you-are-not-a-frog-p758389/)  


    Rachel’s website (http://www.shapestoolkit.co.uk) is here


    Find Rachel on Twitter (https://twitter.com/drrachelmorris?lang=en)


    Connect with Rachel on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/)


    Links & resources mentioned in this episode: The Manual of Me (https://themanualof.me)


    (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Acclaimed-Management-Confidence-ebook/dp/B006K26BEQ/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1580827084&sr=8-1) by Steve Peters


    (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Fuck-Do-What-You-Love/dp/1781802467/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1EE2NK8FXYG8X&keywords=funk+it+book+john+parkin&qid=1580827241&sprefix=fuck+it%2Caps%2C148&sr=8-3) by John Parkin


    Additional goodies:J (https://ebonieallard.com/value-filtered-living-community/) - join our secret community for weekly chats, thoughts on adulting, and tips on living a value-filtered life! This is where we share all our best free content, so join us today!


    (https://ebonieallard.com/m2m365/) - Check out the only place to get 1:1 coaching with me PLUS be cheer-led and challenged by me and my team… so that you can show up, belong, make money, and get the freedom you desire.


    The one about the antidote to burnout (https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-the-antidote-to-burnout/) (with Audrey Holst)


    The one about overcoming anxiety (https://adultingwithebonie.com/captivate-podcast/the-one-about-overcoming-anxiety/) (with Sam Hearne)


    The one about resilience (https://adultingwithebonie.com/captivate-podcast/the-one-about-resilience/) (with Ty Johnson Anderson)

    • 26 min
    The One About Misfit Misconceptions

    The One About Misfit Misconceptions

    Do you ever feel like you’re sleepwalking through your day?


    In this episode, I’m talking you through the 8 lies and the 8 truths that will bust through your overwhelm and resistance, and leave you loving your business and life.


    I want to show you just how possible it is for you to really live from being awake and in a place of superflow, rather than having to fall back into the “do, do, do” of life.


    Listen on for:My thoughts on positivity, and how it is not always the best way forward if your mission is to create intimacy with your people. 


    Money-based mind monkeys that are still tripping you up and holding you back.


    The importance of balancing hard work and belief (one or the other is not enough!)


    Where to look for your validation (and why it’s so important to get it in the first place!)


    Links & resources mentioned in this episode: . (https://www.instagram.com/ebonieallard/)


    (The 4-week program) (https://ebonieallard.com/wake-up-4-week-course/)


    (https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-opting-out-of-the-blame-game/) (with Amy E. Smith)


    (https://ebonieallard.com/m2m365/) - Check out the only place to get 1:1 coaching with me PLUS be cheer-led and challenged by me and my team… so that you can show up, belong, make money, and get the freedom you desire.

    • 29 min
    The One About Self Determination

    The One About Self Determination

    Meet Heather ThorkelsonHeather Thorkelson is a Canadian dual entrepreneur living in rural Sweden. She grew up living all over the world and in her early 30's, finally took the leap to self-employment and never looked back. In 2013 she was living in Peru working as an online business consultant when she went to Antarctica, fell in love, and by 2015 she had opened a second business - a polar expedition company. She has just finished writing a book for incurable entrepreneurs, titled No Plan B, which will be released in Spring 2020.


    In this episode, we’re looking at the topic of personal responsibility and how, especially as entrepreneurs, we should be responsible for our experience, for our output and also for our errors (that’s a big one!).


    It’s a lot “easier” to pass the buck, blame others and avoid admitting our screw ups but that is not adulting. Adulting means practicing compassion for yourself, but also taking full responsibility for how you show up in the world.


    Listen on for:Thoughts on running multiple businesses at the same time - it doesn’t have to be difficult!


    The importance of owning the expertise you have - even if you feel you’re lacking in other areas.


    What to do when you start feeling like there’s too much on your shoulders - overwhelm happens!


    How to feel grateful for relationships in your life that might be difficult or unconventional.


    The distinction between fear of the unknown and fear of something that’s actually dangerous.


    Links & resources mentioned in this episode: The one about the inner child (https://adultingwithebonie.com/captivate-podcast/the-one-about-the-inner-child/) with Kathleen Hannigan


    Heather’s website (https://heatherthorkelson.com/)


    Find Heather on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/heatherthorkelson/)


    Find Heather on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/HeatherThorkelsonBusinessStrategist/)


    Interested in a polar expedition? Click here. (https://twintracksexpeditions.com/)


    Additional goodies: (https://twintracksexpeditions.com/) - join our secret community for weekly chats, thoughts on adulting, and tips on living a value-filtered life! This is where we share all our best free content, so join us today!


    (https://ebonieallard.com/m2m365/) - Check out the only place to get 1:1 coaching with me PLUS be cheer-led and challenged by me and my team… so that you can show up, belong, make money, and get the freedom you desire.


    The one about responsibility and not abdicating (https://adultingwithebonie.com/captivate-podcast/the-one-about-responsibility-and-not-abdicating/) (with Dyana Valentine)


    The one about being your own best parent (https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-being-your-own-best-parent/) (with Callum Hardingham)


    The one about dealing with comparison (https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-dealing-with-comparison/) (with Lucy Sheridan)

    • 34 min
    The One About Choosing Yourself

    The One About Choosing Yourself

    Are you going through life being more than a little co-dependent? Being a people pleaser? A martyr? Always putting others first?


    Join the club. I’ve spent most of my life making those same choices.


    Sometimes these choices come from need. Sometimes they’re incredibly useful and resourceful strategies, at moments when your safety depends on them. But that doesn’t mean you need to stick with those same self-limiting decisions forever.


    As I’ve matured and my circumstances have changed - as I’ve built a life and a business that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside - I have really focused on my values. Value filtered living is where it’s at!


    In this week’s episode, I’m looking at why choosing yourself is the key to becoming a truly kickass and kind human.


    Listen on for:The disservice you’re currently doing to yourself (and your audience) and what you can do about it.


    The impact that choosing myself has had on my business and what I offer the world.


    My wild intentions for this year… and how you can help me achieve them!


    Journaling prompts to help you define what choosing yourself really means for you, and figure out how to take action on that.


    Links & resources mentioned in this episode:Find me on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ebonieallard/)


    (https://ebonieallard.com/m2m365/) - Check out the only place to get 1:1 coaching with me PLUS be cheer-led and challenged by me and my team… so that you can show up, belong, make money, and get the freedom you desire.


    Join the mailing list (https://ebonieallard.com/) for weekly pep talks.


    The Value Filter masterclass (https://ebonieallard.com/product/value-filter-masterclass/)


    Misfit to Maven: The Story of Argh to Ahhh - my first book on Amazon (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Misfit-Maven-Story-Argh-Ahhh/dp/1910056324/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2SO61MGGWW12L&keywords=misfit+to+maven&qid=1579002816&sprefix=misfit+to%2Caps%2C170&sr=8-1)


    Additional goodies: (https://www.instagram.com/valuefilteredliving/) - join our secret community for weekly chats, thoughts on adulting, and tips on living a value-filtered life! This is where we share all our best free content, so join us today!


    The one about endings and beginnings (https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-endings-and-beginnings/)


    The one about capacity (with Lisa Fabrega) (https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-capacity/)


    The one about the antidote to burnout (with Audrey Holst) (https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-the-antidote-to-burnout/)

    • 19 min
    The One About Feminine Conditioning

    The One About Feminine Conditioning

    In this episode of Adulting with Ebonie (the last of season 1), I’m chatting with Jo Casey about Feminine Conditioning.


    Jo helps coaches and healers to get more clients without sacrificing soul or sanity. She’s a certified coach, speaker, trainer and host of the meaningful business podcast. (https://www.jocasey.com/podcast-2/) In addition to being British, Jo is slightly nerdy and determined to help women overcome their female conditioning so that we can step out, be seen and thrive.


    You can find Jo online and on social media at:


    https://www.jocasey.com/ (https://www.jocasey.com/)  


    https://www.facebook.com/JoCaseyB/ (https://www.facebook.com/JoCaseyB/)


    https://www.instagram.com/jocaseyb/ (https://www.instagram.com/jocaseyb/)


    Fav quotes from this episode:


    “Adulting is owning my own shit, emotionally’


    “We’re given a skewed and limited view of what ‘good’ femininity is”


    “As a woman you are made of magic. What are you going to do with it?”


    “Sometimes we tie up the money that we charge with our own personal value”


    “Magic is priceless… or at least worth the cost of a two week holiday!”


    “Feminine Conditioning is just propaganda!”


    “The human race needs a huge wave of creative problem solving and empathy. We’ve got some big shit to sort out!”


    “I love men. I love masculinity in its rawest form.”


    “One of the scary things about running your own business is the fact that you get to make the rules!’”


    “I’m an adult but I cry and feel like I’m 6 years old when I have to look at my tax return”


    In this episode we talk about:


    **The importance of wildness, creativity, playfulness and childlike curiosity in our lives.


    **It’s only when we take control of our own emotional responses that we can move through life responsibly, without dumping our shit on other people! (as much as possible)


     **The difference between ‘responsible’ feminine and ‘irresponsible’ feminine, and between being ‘responsible’ and being a ‘good girl’.


    **How we can relate Elsa from ‘Frozen’ to our own lives and conditioning.


    **How we’ve been conditioned to associate creative and caring professions with a lower financial value than some other professions, like sport, law or science, which are perceived as more pragmatic/logical/data driven roles with a more ‘masculine’ energy.


    **The importance of recognising the value that you can provide, and the transformation that you can facilitate in others.


    **How when we’re talking about feminine conditioning, we’re not just talking about women - men have feminine energies too, and have also been conditioned.


    **That we’re not always aware of conditioning taking place


    **How working 9-5, Monday to Friday was set up for some men based on their cycle.  This ‘model’ of business doesn’t work for all of us though. We’ve got the freedom to design something that works for us!


    Plus, we talk about what the number one skill you need as a business owner is.

    • 32 min

Customer Reviews

Garden B x ,

I am normal after all!

It’s awesome to hear that other people struggle with a morning routine, compare themselfs to others, give themselves a hard time for taking time out & have fear and worry BUT there are so many ways we can self sooth, learn to trust ourselves, give ourself a break, get joy from others successes, run our own guilt free schedule, give ourselves permission to have as much fun as possible and so much more. Thank you for your work and introducing me to all these wonderful humans. Now to start my journey to kinder & more compassionate adulting xxxx

Soma 2019 ,

Not for the faint hearted

I honestly feel this podcast is like a massive chocolate cake that peps me up every time listen to it. Especially because it highlights areas I need to get going on.

It's one that stands out for me because of Ebonie. I love the realness of the conversations its raw and I feel she gets her guests to open up in a way that many podcast hosts just can't. I also feel you can tell that this is a podcast about helping you get going and not staying stuck.

Emmacossey ,

Like chatting with a friend

You know those friends who make you feel like you can chat about anything without judgement? That’s what listening to Ebonie’s podcast is like. Go download it immediately.

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