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Petra Velzeboer was raised in a religious cult with no education that erased her identity and future. Through depression, anxiety, alcohol dependence and suicidal thoughts she reached her rock bottom by age 25. Today her goal is to help others who are near their rock bottom to learn the fast track for improving their lives! Join Petra as she interviews people from all walks of life about their journey to discovering that their superpowers are nurtured in their pain and their success is crafted through their story.

Adversity to Advantage Petra Velzeboer

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Petra Velzeboer was raised in a religious cult with no education that erased her identity and future. Through depression, anxiety, alcohol dependence and suicidal thoughts she reached her rock bottom by age 25. Today her goal is to help others who are near their rock bottom to learn the fast track for improving their lives! Join Petra as she interviews people from all walks of life about their journey to discovering that their superpowers are nurtured in their pain and their success is crafted through their story.

    128. Surviving my Father’s Suicide with Paul McGregor

    128. Surviving my Father’s Suicide with Paul McGregor

    “It’s not just one phase, it’s not just one stereotype. It can affect anyone”

    When Paul McGregor lost his father to suicide it left him with unanswered questions and he struggled to process grief in a world where silence is revered as a man’s way of coping.

    His father had been so perfect; he ran religiously, read self-help books, had a career and a happy family. Without knowing anything about mental health, it seemed to Paul that everything descended into chaos fast, as he visited his father in a  depressing mental institution where he eventually was released, taking his life soon after.

    After lots of confusion, Paul took up therapy and educated himself on mental illness and how to talk so he could process the grief. Over time he’s found purpose in his pain and now delivers his message of hope as a mental Health Speaker, Advocate & Author and is driven to create change by normalising mental health conversations and breaking down the stigma that surrounds conversations about our minds and emotions.

    This is a hopeful conversation covering grief and life after suicide. We cover:


    Family Conditioning and not having language around mental health

    The unimaginable loss of a father through suicide

    The hopeless unanswered questions

    Masking grief

    How mental health hospitals need to drastically change to support recovery

    The grief roller coaster

    Finding purpose in the pain

    Nurturing good mental health & Wellbeing

    The benefits of therapy

    Learning to ask for help

    Check out the wonderful work Paul is doing at www. pmcgregor.com or Facebook  , Instagram , LinkedIn , Twitter

    • 30 min
    BONUS! Find the Opportunity in Covid-19

    BONUS! Find the Opportunity in Covid-19

    With swirling media attention on fear and panic, listen to this short episode to help you shift your perspective and connect into your inner wisdom.

    After weeks of ‘being strong’ and being there for other people, I found myself caught up in the fear narrative, reactively looking for work, thinking I’d lose everything and that everything’s gone to s**t.

    After tears and white knuckling, a job hunt (even though I am lucky to have resources to last for some months) I decided to close my eyes and meditate.  Without any specific breathing exercises or cool methods, I simply sat open-palmed putting my attention on the energy in the air and noticing the wisdom around me.

    Just this short time brought my cortisol down and tapped me into the wisdom that is all around us! My own inner-innate wisdom which reduced panic, recalibrated trust in the universe and allowed me to know the next right steps for me.

    Listen to this episode if you want to find a way to connect to your own source and understand the next right steps for you during these troubling times.

    Let me know your thoughts on Insta: @petra.velzeboer

    • 14 min
    127.How to Fix Depression with Tony Loyd

    127.How to Fix Depression with Tony Loyd

    “I cannot succeed at connecting and succeed at contributing if i am not taking care of thriving”

    Tony Loyd is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, and coach. He helps purpose-driven business leaders to thrive so that they can connect and contribute at deeper levels.

    In 2018 Tony’s friend asked him  'How are you?’ ~ For the first time Tony chose to admit to his current state of depression. This realisation led him to many moments of despair and overwhelm, but after being introduced to Johann Hari’s - The Lost Connections , Tony realised that the hope for a better future was actually within his control, off the back of this he committed himself to living a year of personal bests.

    We discuss topics such as:


    The impact of family dynamics on later life

    Coping with violence in the home

    Resilience - Are we born with it or do we develop it?

    Developing a growth mindset

    Holding a mirror up to ourselves

    Admitting to depression

    Taking action over the cause of depression

    Showing up & being fully you

    Creating boundaries to protect our wellbeing

    Thrive, Connect, Contribute

    Practicing self reflection

    Remembering to focus and invest in ourselves - Thrive First!


    You can grab yourself a FREE copy of Tony’s Best Selling  book-  Crazy Good Advice by emailing Tony via his website Tonyloyd.com and mentioning ‘ADVERSITY TO ADVANTAGE’

    Connect with Tony further on the following social platforms

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyLoydSocialEntrepreneur/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anthonyloyd/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyloyd/

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/TonyLoyd

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/tonyloyd

    • 55 min
    Bonus! Manage Your Mindset During Covid-19

    Bonus! Manage Your Mindset During Covid-19

    'These are the times that we train for'

    If you're getting overwhelmed by all the news coming at us about how bad the world is and need a reminder of what's in your control then this episode is for you.

    The impact of Covid-19 mentally and emotionally is unprecedented and it's easy to get caught up in fear and worry about what will become of us all. This episode reminds us of the mindset that will get us through these times and allow us to focus on gratitude, connection and what's truly important in life!

    If we've been investing in ourselves over the years, training our brain in gratitude, focussing our attention on developing a growth mindset, then this time is space for that resolve to be tested. Will your rise or will you let it overwhelm you?  The choice is yours.

    I offer advice on how to support those around you in compassion, to reach out to friendships and remind yourself of what's truly important in life. In a world of consumerism, relentless hustle and drive, there may just be a blessing to be found in slowing down and supporting each other!

    Remember that isolation can be just has hard for many of us as being physically ill. Try FaceTiming so that people can see you and feel closer connection rather than just texting, reaching out to the elderly in your area to see if they need support and try modelling a growth mindset to your children and disrupt the everything's-bad conversation by asking people what they're grateful for!

    • 22 min
    126. How to help a Suicidal Man with Ben Akers

    126. How to help a Suicidal Man with Ben Akers

    “I just need to save one life….if I change one man’s journey then I did my job”

    In 2014 Ben Akers lost his childhood best friend to suicide. Crushed by grief and shaken by the fact that no one saw the signs,  Ben created a documentary about male mental health that would be shown in pubs, gyms and anywhere guys hung out in order to reach men who wouldn’t normally be part of the mental health conversation.

    Ben is on a mission to help men talk long before feeling hopeless and so alone that they consider taking their lives.

    We discuss:


    Male suicide

    Masculine conditioning - show no weakness

    Discovering purpose through grief

    The powerful impact of men being vulnerable with other men

    Equipping men to adequately fulfil modern roles

    Talk Club- keeping mentally fit

    Falling apart before TedX Royal Tunbridge Wells

    Taking care of ourselves and those around us


    You can find out more about Ben, watch is documentary or join a Talk Club through the links below:

    Wetalkclub.com

    www.facebook.com/STEVEDOCUMENTARY

    Insta: @STEVEDOCUMENTARY @Madewithltd @TalkClubUK

    Twitter:  @SteveDoco  @benakers @Madewith_ @TalkClubUK

    Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/…/open-up-not-man-up/id1499145604

    • 51 min
    125. Broken Family to Mindshift Movement with Allen Johnson

    125. Broken Family to Mindshift Movement with Allen Johnson

    “My mum and dad should never have been together, they shouldn’t have been a couple”
    Instead of fond childhood memories, Allen Johnson recalls the volatile relationship of his parents which led to his mother leaving the family home, childhood anxiety, feelings of despair and a father who abused alcohol. With no clear career or life direction, Allen turned to petty crime, avoided school and eventually was forced to move in with his grandparents. At his lowest, with no role models to help him figure a way out,  Allen thought of ending it all.
    Slowly Allen was exposed to new ways of thinking and investing in his personal development, giving him the courage to make the impulsive decision to start a business when he and his fiancé had a baby on the way.
    This episode explores how trauma can show up in our lives and what we can do to consciously make a change.
    We go deep on topics such as:

    The longterm affects of a dysfunctional childhood

    Living with anxiety

    The impact of his mother leaving

    Growing up with an alcoholic parent

    Quest for Personal development

    Cultivating change

    How trauma shows up

    Finding good in situations

    Being a healthier version of yourself - with no blueprint for health as a child

    Anxiety coping mechanisms

    Move to entrepreneurship


    You can connect with Allen in the following ways:
    Podcast - The MindShift Movement
    Facebook Page - AJ Fitness & Mindset Coaching
    Website - ajfitmindcoaching.co.uk
    Instagram - @ajfitmindcoaching

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Customer Reviews

Smileytabs ,

Such sense

Love hearing Petra speak about experiences of life. Really accessible.

Soma 2019 ,

Unique and love hearing others stories

When I came across this podcast it was because someone I know was actually interviewed on here. I love how deep, meaningful and raw the interviews are. Petra asks questions which really help the guests open up and be who they are. I also love the lessons learnt here. Important topics like mental health, women empowerment and grief are covered to mention a few. I always learn so much when I tune in. Thanks for creating this unique and supportive podcast.

Maze444444 ,

Such a refreshing podcast

Amazing conversations & interviews. Petra has a real gift for asking awesome questions and getting people to share their stories. Very inspiring 😀

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