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A podcast for those wanting personal development but want it made simple and easy to understand and more importantly use, take action and make a difference to your life and the world you live in. If you want to change the way you feel and the way you act and react. If you have negative emotions, behaviours, that you want to lose forever and create something special in your life then I think you will like what you hear. This genre of self-improvement, self-development and mastery of your mind has, I believe, been made over complicated and secretive and here I am de-constructing the processes into their simple forms that we can all understand and easily use. There's no interviews just little ol' me ;0) Who am I and what do I do?………Paul Clough. I now love helping making changes in people and guiding them to create the life they really want. A personal look at me: The above sentence was not always the case and being the best in the financial realms of the building industry was my aim and getting there by any means. I now know this is, and was, the worst way ~ even if I did make director of one of the largest building companies in Cambridge by the age of 30. One of the major realisations came on my first ever training in hypnosis. I found that it's not a win lose world and that a win win is only a low basis to live. Being true to your beliefs and coming from a place of integrity where service is paramount. This understanding together with lots of NLP skills helped create my last partnership in the building industry grow from a turnover of £800k to £16m in less than twelve years and that can only be done with giving more than expected. Another shaping of me came from two traumatic events in my life that happened within six months of each other which created a number of major changes in me and by beliefs in what is possible. I have written about my experience and how I dealt with it but more importantly it really showed me my love for my three boys and theirs for me and resulted in the step up to become a trainer of NLP (which I never intended) and my close and exciting work with two of my sons. In supporting Joseph and help create change in people in our training's and his wonderful life changing 'Be your potential weekend' and with Luke the continuing development of Cambridge Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis processes. My relationship with my third son Daniel just keeps getting better and better too. Not knowing how good I had become in change work in the beginning I generally studied, practiced and saw clients then things started to happen when I started to work following just my instincts. Two clients come to mind both in effect dying from the effects of what was happening to them and the way they felt and within one and two sessions respectively not only won the will to live they changed virtually in front of my eyes and being apart of that process was and is the best feeling alive. The above are just three of many brilliant learnings I have had in my life. The more formal bit Paul Clough I am a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP and Hypnosis and am passionate in assisting those who want to reach their full potential and his special skills form a unique foundation for success. I constantly seek and develop new skills and learning's – through advanced levels of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy ™, Hypnosis and to improve everyone I work with. I have an understanding of the mind/body connection which enables me to create in my clients the difference that makes the difference ~ from excellence to outstanding. For those that want qualifications: Certified Trainer and Consultant of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Certified Master Practitioner of NLP & Time Line Therapy Certified Master Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

  1. #468 I Feel Sh*t So Let's Change

    4 DAYS AGO

    #468 I Feel Sh*t So Let's Change

    I Feel Sh*t So Let's Change This Episode in a Nutshell In this deeper dive of Personal Development Unplugged, we get real about feeling stuck, low, anxious or just "not ourselves" — and what to actually do about it. No more endless talking, analysing or looping the same bloody thoughts. This is about changing how you feel at the unconscious level, where these issues were created… and where they can be changed. If you've ever struggled to remember what "good" even feels like, or wondered why you can't just think your way out of the cycle, this episode gives you a gentle, powerful way to move forward — using your imagination, memory, and your very real inner resources. What You'll Learn • Why "talking about your issue" rarely creates real change Talking keeps you in your conscious mind — the part that didn't create the problem. So it can't resolve it. • Why your unconscious mind is the key Your unconscious created these feelings to protect you. It just chose a bad strategy. So we go back to that level to educate it and update it. • How to discover how you actually want to feel (Not as easy as people pretend. But we make it easy.) • How to use memories to unlock feelings you thought you'd lost If you can imagine the feeling, you have felt it before — we just need to uncover the counter-examples. • A step-by-step method to go from "how I feel now" → "how I want to feel" Including the powerful "middle feeling" bridge that stops your brain panicking and makes real change doable. • How to create experiences in your future that your unconscious mind believes are real And therefore starts acting on them now. Why This Matters Because you deserve better than living with old, outdated emotional programmes. Because you are more than the issue you're experiencing. Because feeling good, calm, confident or safe isn't a fantasy — it's a memory inside you waiting to be brought forward. And because change doesn't require force, pressure or reliving the past. It requires permission, imagination and simple steps. Your Simple Action Steps Write down how you feel now. Be honest. No judgement. Write down how you want to feel. This is the feeling you'd choose if everything was just right. Find the halfway feeling. The emotional stepping stone. Use your imagination: Visualise yourself feeling the way you want to feel, in the exact context where you currently struggle. Drop into a memory: Let your unconscious find a time you actually felt this way before. Blend them. Bring that old feeling into the imagined future — your brain doesn't know the difference. Repeat with curiosity. It's simple. It's gentle. And it works. Cloughie's Notes (The Heart-to-Heart Bit) You are not broken. You don't need fixing. You simply learned a way of coping that doesn't serve you anymore. And just as you learned it, you can unlearn it. And relearn something far better. This episode is my way of guiding you to the place where you can make that change — easily, naturally, gently. Because you matter. And because I know what it's like to feel lost. And I know what it's like to find the way back. Useful Links • Free Hypnosis Library: paulcloughonline.com/podcast • Episode Mentioned: #78.1 – "My Qualities" • Instagram & Email: If something comes up, message me. We'll explore it in future episodes. Call to Action If this episode touched you, helped you, or even nudged you a little — please share it with someone who might need it. And subscribe, because the next episodes are going even deeper with real processes that create real change. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/468-i-feel-sht-so-lets-change/ ‎ Have more fun than you can stand. And remember: Change isn't magic… but it is magical. Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism #468 I Feel Sh*t So Let's Change Hey my friend, back for a longer episode of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast. So meet your friend Paul.   And on the last FMQ, which is supposed to be a five minute quickie, but now they're slightly longer because they're seeded as in sowing the seed for the longer podcast. And it was the last one was time to stop talking. Time to change.   And one of the things I asked you to do if you did listen to that was to decide, think how you want to feel. Now, if you did listen to that and you did write them down, that'd be brilliant. If you didn't, it'd be good to go back.   But if not, just carry on listening because you see, for some people, how you want to feel to think and be asked how you want to feel. It's bloody difficult. You've lived with this for so long.   I'll go into that in a minute. But for some of you, you haven't really got an issue issue. And you're thinking, why am I going to listen to this? Because everyone has a little issue.   Even if you don't have a big issue, you have times where you're going to do something in the day. And we can decide how we want to change, how we want to be, how we want to feel, how we want to act and the beliefs we have with that. So this is going to help too.   And if you've got an issue, and it's a big issue, you know what I always say, please go and see a therapist one to one, get in their face as it were, get them to guide you to make that change quickly. See a wonderful hypnotherapist who does timeline therapy and NLP and you will get get your result really quickly. And if you do decide to do that, what we're going to do today will still help.   In fact, it will probably speed up the process anyway. But we've always, we've all got something I guess we're slightly anxious about, nervous, fearful, maybe it's a little bit of, I don't belong here. You know, I feel an imposter.   All that stuff is there. But you see, when you're in it, in the issue, and it is an issue, and you've had it for a long time, it's really difficult to know how to feel, or how you want to feel. I've worked with a lady a long time ago, 15 years clinically depressed, that's what she was diagnosed at, told by doctors at the hospital, went as far as the hospital, no more drugs, we've got no more drugs that can help you.   So it's this awe, and I had to ask, but what's the awe? And she said, well, I don't know, you know, I'm just on these drugs, Paul, I just need to change. And I said, I want you to think of the last time you were happy. Not wackedly happy, but just mildly happy.   And she said, I don't think I've ever been happy. And now I knew that was a lie. But in those 15 years, like the walls of that depression had been her only experience, and it knocked out all the others.   So sometimes it's very difficult to remember. Remember times when, how you want to feel, or just to remember times when you felt good. Now then, I can remember a time, and I can remember it quite clearly now, but without the emotion.   It was a time back in my past when it didn't feel bad. I felt absolutely devastated. I was so bad, so bad that I would just fall down on the floor, not dramatically.   I just crumple up on the floor and start crying. And I knew something had triggered it off. I knew I was in a shit place.   I just couldn't stop. And then I'd carry on. And it was so weird.   So weird. I had to carry out a job on the outside, and be the Cloughie that everyone thought I was. But inside, I wasn't that at all.   It was terrible. So what I have to say, that is the worst time of my life. I actually wrote a book about it called, it doesn't have to be this way.   You can't find it because I didn't publish it. I did it online and things like that. But now I've left that alone.   But it was me talking about how I became my own therapist. And the very first thing I did when I was my own therapist, was to try to feel alive again. Because I didn't feel I had anything at all.   Now I know, or I'm hoping, you don't feel that way. Not as bad as that. And you can maybe think of times in the past when you felt the way you wanted to feel.   If you remember, I've asked you to make that list. How would you like to feel instead? But if it's difficult, this is what I want you to do first. And this is what I did.   And when I did it, it made a difference to me. And I'll explain it in a minute. And also, this process I developed for myself.   We begin, or my son and I began to use it in o

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  2. FMQ 519 Talking's Over It's Time To Change

    7 NOV

    FMQ 519 Talking's Over It's Time To Change

    Talking's Over It's Time To Change In this slightly-longer FMQ, we're taking a gentle but powerful step toward real change. No more talking about the issue. No more cycling through the same thoughts. This episode is all about shifting your focus to what actually creates transformation — how you want to feel. So many of us get stuck talking, thinking, analysing… and nothing changes. Why? Because talking doesn't always touch the unconscious mind — the place where these patterns were created in the first place. In this FMQ, I share: The real difference between empathy and compassion (and why empathy can overload you) Why talking about problems rarely changes them Where real emotional change really happens The simple, powerful pre-work for next week's longer deep-dive episode How focusing on "how I want to feel" can quietly shift things even before you do any formal process This episode is your gentle setup — your seed — for the bigger, deeper process in next week's longer podcast. And it's beautifully simple. ✅ Your 7-Day Challenge (The Seed for Next Week) Each day, take 2–3 quiet minutes and write down: How would I like to feel? Not the issue. Not the problem. Not "what's wrong". Just: How do I want to feel instead? Do it in different contexts if you want: With people At work Alone In difficult moments In good moments Then… let it simmer. Let your unconscious mind start doing what it does best. Next week, we'll take everything you've written and go deep with a full process to help make those feelings part of your natural way of being. Why This Matters Because talking doesn't always change anything — but educating the unconscious mind does. And this tiny step gets you ready for a huge one. Share It Share this FMQ with someone who needs to feel better, think differently, or get ready for some genuine positive change. You might kickstart something wonderful for them. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-519-talkings-over-its-time-to-change Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay.   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism FMQ 519 Talking's Over It's Time To Change   Welcome to the five minute quickie podcast with a slight difference. Slight difference is I want you to think about things.   So on a longer podcast, we can dive deeply into the subject and also with processes that allow you to change your issues. But what is it today? What is it today? Well, compassion or empathy. You see, I have real trouble with empathy.   You see, empathy, if I can say it right, seems to be that you have to feel the feelings of that person to understand them. And I know some really nice people who are mega empathetic. And the thing is, I don't think it does them any good, because they really feel the feelings of someone who is in pain.   And they feel in pain. I don't mind empathy when you're, you know, when you're feeling good, I'll join you in that one like no one's business. I'll be there quick as a flash.   But as a therapist, I don't want to feel your pain. I really don't. My mother, bless her, she was super empathetic.   She would have people come round. And in my mind, they were like, they dumped all their emotional pain on her, left it with her and walked away smiling. And she would then be for days thinking about it, worried about it, feeling it.   I don't think that's healthy, do you? Now, what's the difference? Compassion. Compassion. Compassion to me is to understand how you feel, how it affects you.   What are the effects of the way you're feeling? How, well, how bad is it? But I need to know from you, how bad it is. What does it feel like? You know, I don't need to feel it myself. Because I trust you.   I trust you if you know what, you are the expert in how you feel. Now, there's a real thing in this about having issues. Issues that make you feel pretty shit.   And you think, you know, people talk about these things. And this is where the empathy goes, I think. Because they talk and they talk and they talk.   And they keep talking and they keep talking about their issue, talking about their issue. And guess what? Nothing changes. And why doesn't it change? Now I know, yeah, yeah, yeah.   I know sometimes it does change. Sometimes we get that aha moment. Sometimes that person we're talking to isn't empathetic and can reframe something, get you to think of something in a different way.   And you go, oh, that makes so much sense. But that's generally on the lighter side. With issues that are painful, or affect us in so many different ways, talking doesn't necessarily do it, does it? Sure, if you think about it, this is my thoughts anyway.   You have been thinking about this for a long time, thinking about your issue, talking to yourself, why me? How bad is it going to be? All those wonderful, bonky, stupid questions. Yes, they're stupid, because they're asking how bad it could be. And your unconscious mind will come and get it for you, show you.   But the thing is, all that talking, has it made a scrap of difference? No. Now you see, this is what I think. You see, if you'd have chosen to create this way, way of being, this feeling, consciously, all that thinking, all that talking would have solved it, wouldn't it? Because if you create a problem consciously, you can solve it consciously.   And if it's not going, you must have chosen this at an unconscious level. Now, you know that I believe your unconscious mind chooses these ways in a way to protect you. And at the time when it did it, it was the only thing it could do with the experience and wisdom that you had back then.   But now it's no longer appropriate. There are better ways. And the thing is, because it was created, chosen by you at the unconscious level, that's where we go to make our changes.   We have to educate your unconscious mind. Some people would say reprogram. I don't really like reprogramming.   It's just educating your unconscious mind to say, well, are there better ways to keep you protected? We're not going to take away that positive intention of keeping you safe, but is there a better way? Now you and I know there's better ways, far better ways. Now, this is what I want you to do. Because in the longer podcast, I want to dive into this and have a process or two to change.   But first of all, I want you to think in a different way. Not why has it happened to me? How bad it can get? All those, as I say, those bonky questions. I want you to start to think quietly, take some time out and just sit down quietly.   A piece of paper and a pencil pen is so much better because I want you to write them down so you don't forget them. And then when you come to the longer podcast, we can have a quick squint at them and go, yeah, they're the ones. But the thing is, it's not the issue.   I don't want you to write out the issue. Really, Cluffy? Yeah. I thought we were working on issues.   No, this is the difference. This is the difference that I think makes a difference. I want you over the next seven odd days, because that's that's been roughly the period next week when the longer podcast comes out, to just sit down five minutes a day, maybe at the most, and write down how you would like to feel.   Yeah. How would you like to feel? Forget the way you're feeling because it's not always the opposite. Maybe it is calmness, maybe it's contentment, maybe it's confidence in your competence or competence in your confidence.   Maybe it's connection. There are so many different emotions we could have. I don't want you to sit down quiet and go, well, OK, if I could feel the way I want to feel.   What would be the most appropriate feeling that I would feel comfortable in? Safe. And it could be in different contexts, remember. So it could well be that, well, sometimes I get this feeling when I'm with people, socialising.   How would I like to be? Maybe at work, and there's those meetings, I get, oh, how would I like to feel? Maybe when I'm by myself, how would I like to feel? Always how you like to feel, would like to feel. You can even think, well, if I felt that way, what would the consequences be? What would be the effects of me feeling that way, instead of the old way? But don't think of the old way. Sorry, didn't mean to say that.   In those contexts, when I feel the way I want to feel, what

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  3. #467 How To Achieve Your Goals Easily

    31 OCT

    #467 How To Achieve Your Goals Easily

    How To Achieve Your Goals Easily There's an easier way to achieve your dreams and goals — one that actually feels good and keeps you motivated the whole way through. In this episode, I share a simple but powerful approach to goal setting that most people miss: starting from the last step — that moment when you've already achieved your goal — and using that feeling to drive you forward. You'll discover how to find your true why, anchor your motivation, and create a plan that's realistic, energising, and deeply aligned with what you want. And there's more — I'll also guide you through a special hypnosis process designed to connect your conscious and unconscious minds, so the path to your goals becomes effortless and natural. This isn't about grinding harder or forcing success. It's about feeling your way into it — knowing exactly what success looks and feels like so you can enjoy every step along the way. In this episode: The often-overlooked final step that makes all the difference in goal achievement How to find and anchor your true motivation (your why) Why traditional goal-setting keeps you stuck and how to flip it The role of your unconscious mind in creating success A guided hypnosis process to help you align and take inspired action Takeaway: When you start from the feeling of already having achieved your goal, and anchor that emotion, everything changes. Obstacles shrink, motivation grows, and the steps become natural. Listen now — and let's make your goals easier, more joyful, and truly yours. Then let's share it with others https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/467-how-to-achieve-your-goals-easily Shine Brightly 🌟 Oh! And the video link https://youtu.be/vIAOQUBEzjU Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism #467 How To Achieve Your Goals Easily . Hey, welcome to the Lungar podcast. How to achieve your goals the easy way.   And yes, there is an easy way. And if you think about it, everyone talks, gives advice, maybe gives a workshop, give masterclasses in goal setting. And so many just go through the steps.   But some forget that visualisation of the last step. And the last step is not the last step just before you get it. The last step is having already got your goal.   You've achieved it. You're just about to move on. And you see, when you know that that's the step and you have it, so you know the step, you have that step, things just seem so good.   You feel so incredible. You feel so motivated. You feel so confident because you've already achieved it.   It's as if you have already achieved it. And I do this in so many ways in my trainer's training. I had to visualise not getting the certificate because that wasn't it for me.   It was sitting alone on these steps out on the balcony in Santa Cruz University, holding my certificate just by myself saying, Bloody hell Cloughie, we did it. That was my confirmation. And the thing is, the weird thing about that was, when we were given the certificates, someone had forgotten to sign them.   So the certificates didn't actually mean anything. That's so weird. So weird.   But that feeling that I took through the whole of, it was July, a few years ago, but the whole of July, I had that sense, that feeling, Cloughie, we've done it. And that helped me through all sorts of obstacles and things like that. But we just did it.   And that's the one thing that a lot of people forget. They think it's just, imagine you've got the, no, no, think of the very last step to know to guarantee that you've got that step. Because if you think about it, that is your feeling of the why, isn't it? Your why.   Because if it doesn't feel great, then it isn't the right goal. Or you haven't just massaged the goal to be the right goal for you. You've maybe just followed a path that your peers say this is the thing to do or society or whatever it is.   But you get that feeling and you go, yeah, this is it. This is right for me. And that's what it is right for you.   So it becomes your why. Now, some people also, even if they do that, they forget, forget to anchor that feeling. Anchoring is stimulus and response.   So when you feel that feeling of the feeling of the wish fulfilled, that feeling that you've got that goal, you've achieved it, you're about to move on, you get that feeling. Now, when you think when you're about to go through your goal, all the steps to achieve that goal, yeah, you're going to get that feeling, but to fire it at will by firing off an anchor, man, you're motivated. Your unconscious mind goes, this is where we're going.   You're telling your unconscious mind exactly the direction you want to go. And it makes all the steps that you put in front of you easier. And even if there are obstacles, like the hero's journey, you're leaving home, you're moving around different obstacles, mentors come along, all that stuff, that anchor will allow you to go all the way and come back home with that goal completed.   Now, I'm doing a lot of this, but some start at the beginning of a goal. So you've got your goal, you know what you're going to do, we've forgotten about the last step, we've forgotten about the anchoring, but we're just going to do the goal setting. And what's the first step you're going to do? And then they work out all the steps.   Now, problem is, when you start at the beginning, and you slightly go a little bit off to the left, or maybe a little bit to the right, or something distracts you, you're miles off course. And as you go miles off course, you tend to get deflated. This is my thought, this doesn't feel right.   You know, you can think about your goal, but it's not tangible, you can't grip it in your hands, because somehow you've taken a wrong step. So that doesn't work. So let's turn it around.   Some really do get it right. Some really do get it right. And they think of the last step, they get that feeling.   Some might even anchor it. And they don't start at the first step, they start at the very last step. And work back through every step of the way, every step in detail.   So you know exactly what you're going to do. Now, in theory, that's the best thing to do. If this is my last step, what have I got to do just before that step? And what have I got to do just before that step? What have I got to do before that step? And bloody overwhelming, isn't that? That's great.   That is a wonderful way to do it. Ish. I only say ish, because it's my opinion.   That is a better way. If you did those three things, get that feeling, get that why. Maybe anchor it, and then start from the last step.   But that could mean waiting round, or waiting around, because you've got to do all that bloody work from the last step, the step before that step before that step before that. And then it's so overwhelming. It's overwhelming because you think, shit, this is going to take longer than I thought.   This is going to take so much more effort. And sometimes it takes so long to get your foot on the first bloody run of that goal, to make the first step, to make the first movement, that you're disillusioned, you haven't, the motivation's gone and you've forgotten the bloody why now, because you spent so many times all that step there, then I got to do this, then I got to do that, then I got to do this. So there is a different way.   And I think it's a really easy way. It's an easy way to, I think, achieve your goal, but also to enjoy the process. Because if you don't enjoy the process and the actions of the goals, yes, that might be difficult.   But you still got to enjoy and have that feeling of the wish fulfilled, have that feeling of the last step and feel motivated through. Because if you don't, you won't get through the hurdles, the little obstacles in the way. You won't see opportunities.   You won't be able to circumvent them or even find that the goal can be even better. So what's the answer? You're probably saying, what's the answer, Cloughie? I know you are. I'm not going to give it to you.   Yes, I am. Yes, I am. I just made myself laugh that is.   Anyway, so what's the answer? The last step is so critical. It is critical. And sometimes it's difficult to find the last step.   We tend to think the last step is this, but it's actually one more step on. You know, some people, I used to, we

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  4. Help me make a difference

    26 OCT · BONUS

    Help me make a difference

    Help Me Make a Difference Hey, it's Paul here, and this episode is a little different. I want to ask for your help — because I really want to make a difference. For years I've been putting out two episodes a week — a Five-Minute Quickie and a longer one — and to be honest, it's been tough to keep up. More than that, I've realised I want to go deeper. I want to spend more time on the stuff that really matters — the stuff that helps people change for good. So, from now on, I'll be doing one episode a week. Sometimes it'll be a short FMQ to plant a seed, and sometimes a longer one where we dive deep — with hypnosis, NLP, and all the good stuff that helps you change from the inside out. But here's the thing… I can't do it on my own. We all have our struggles, right? The things we keep bottled up because we don't want to seem weak, or we don't know who to talk to. I've seen too many people suffer in silence — and I don't want that to happen anymore. So I'd love your help. Tell me what's really going on for you — or maybe for someone you know. What's the thing you or they are struggling with? And just as important — how would you like to feel instead? That's where the real change begins. When you can imagine what it's like to feel better, to feel free, confident, peaceful — then we can start making that happen together. Please share this message https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/help-me-make-a-difference/ You can email me (anonymously if you like) at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com I'd be so grateful to hear from you. Let's make this podcast something that doesn't just help you — but helps others too. Let's make it a real community of change. Thanks for being here, for listening, and for being part of this. Shine brightly, Paul And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Help me make a difference Hi, how you doing? I don't think we ask that enough, do we? How are you doing? And mean it. Sometimes I think we have to ask at least three times to the same person. Really? How you doing? Really? How you doing? And what am I talking about? What am I talking about? Well, I'm going to change the format of the Personal Development Unplugged podcast.   For the last years and years and years and years and years, I've been cracking out two podcasts a week, five minute quickie and a longer version. And it's taken its toll a little bit because I find it really difficult to fit it all in. And my mind is that there's important things to talk about where we need to go into depth, find processes that really make a difference, approach the difficult subjects.   And I think to do that, I'm only going to do a weekly podcast. And one of those will be a seed, a five minute quickie still, but it'll be a seed for a longer podcast so I can get you to think. Think and get ready for something deeper.   But the whole point is I want to help people. I want to help people more than I've been doing. And to do that, again, I say we've got to approach these subjects, which are a little bit not taboo, but maybe they're not spoken about quite so much.   And I'm noticing it happening a bit more now. You know, guys opening up, being strong and saying they need help. Unfortunately, there's one or two that we've seen in the news that don't.   Damn, we miss them. It's too big a shame and we need to do something about it. And that's just not guys.   It's everyone. We all have our struggles. And sometimes these struggles can seem so much because they're all inside, aren't they? They're in our bloody head and we seem to think that we have to deal with them by ourselves because it's weak to tell anybody about it.   Or find the right person. Or I can't afford to get the therapy I need. I can't even admit I need therapy.   And that's no fucking good to anybody. So what I want to do is to get deeper into subjects. Take a little time to get things right.   I know. But I want to do deeper subjects with real deep hypnosis to get the unconscious mind to change. Because a lot of these issues that we have, they're in our bloody head.   And they're not caused consciously. You think about it consciously. But if you had created it consciously, you would change easily, effortlessly.   Just by thinking about it. Because you create things consciously, you change things consciously. But these are at an unconscious level.   They're like unconscious behaviours. That limiting belief, those emotions, those negative emotions. And although they're, well I believe they're there to protect us.   I just know there's better ways. And it's your unconscious mind needs guiding. It needs help to create change at the unconscious level.   Because this is where our issues are created. Something happens to us and our unconscious mind decides to help. Unfortunately, sometimes it doesn't.   It creates negative emotions. Has a limiting belief just to keep us safe. But then it carries on.   But that's where I'm going to need your help. Because we all have these issues. And I'd like you to, you can do it anonymously.   But just email me. Maybe if you want to email me. I'm on Instagram, Facebook, all those bloody places.   But email me would be better. And just give me an idea of the type of things that we're struggling with. Maybe a friend of yours who's struggling.   And you can just give me an idea of the things that are happening. And more importantly, and this is the thing and the thing what people forget. If we're talking about you or them, how you want to feel instead.   How they want to feel instead of having this issue. Because that's the most important thing. If we can just imagine that if everything disappeared.   All the issues were to disappear right now. How would I like to be? How would I like to be physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally? What type of beliefs would support me? And if you can pass it on to me, I'd be so indebted to you. So we can really make a difference.   And I want to make a difference. I know this small little podcast has made a difference to people. But I want to make a more significant difference to you and your friends.   So if that's something you could help with, please do let me know. And I'm sorry that I'm not going to do like two weekly podcasts anymore. But I want to get deeper as I say.   You know, some things I don't like the click baits that people are doing. I don't like all this, you know, easy ways to do this and that. We're going to change things and they are going to be easy.   But easy doesn't mean it doesn't take effort. It takes effort. It takes discipline.   And it takes a will to do whatever it takes. But if you know how you want to feel, then I know you will have that will to do whatever it takes. So let's please make a difference.   Please help me make a difference. So take a moment or two, just notice how you want to feel. And if you're not feeling that way, let me know.   Let me know what you're feeling and what you're not feeling. And let's start making a difference to you, to me. So I hope you're going to enjoy the things.   Please say, give me comments, feedback if we're going into the right directions. You know, there's so many different things we could talk about, but there is so much going on in the world that needs our mental help. Mental health needs support.   So let's do that together. Let's change the world together. Be the change you want to see in other people.   Show what is possible because it is. It's all possible. I've seen it so many times in the clinic that people coming in feeling so, so down.   And in one or two sessions, they change. And they change their lives and they change. And because they change, it's not a do to, it's a do with.   We work together. They change and that confidence spreads in so many different areas of their life. The whole life changes.   Everyone they know changes around them. Life gets so much better and life can always get a bit better, a little bit more better. So if this is something you feel you could help or help me with, I'd really love your help.   But disregarding that, I'm going to do it anyway. I'm just going to do what I can and hopefully you'll see a difference. And again, I always say if you could just share this with somebody, because the more this podcast gets out to just a few more people, a few more, because I'm only interested in hitting the people who need, who want the help, who need the help.   It's not about clicks. It's getting real good processes to make or to allow people to change, to guide people to change, get back to driving your bus, become the person you are meant to be and more. There you go.   That's this little, little thing that why I'm going to change the podcast. Hope you like it and sending my love to you. Okay.   Please enjoy. Warning, you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly and run.   Be brave, my friend. Okay. Personal development unplugged. Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

    10 min
  5. FMQ 518 How To Make Sure You Get What You Want

    24 OCT

    FMQ 518 How To Make Sure You Get What You Want

    How To Make Sure You Get What You Want Ever feel like you're doing everything right toward your goals… and still somehow missing the mark? In this short and powerful 5-Minute Quickie, I'll get you thinking differently — about the real key to success. It's not about doing more, it's about choosing what really matters and owning it with absolute certainty. You'll explore: Why most people get overwhelmed and give up on their goals. How to simplify your path by writing everything down and seeing it clearly. A sneak peek into the longer, deeper episode to come — complete with a hypnosis process to make success feel inevitable. This FMQ is your seed for something bigger — a simple mindset shift that can change everything. Start now: write down what you truly want, rate what's most important, and get ready to make sure you actually get it. Listen now. Think deeply. Then be ready for the next one. And share with your friends: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-518-how-to-make-sure-you-get-what-you-want And as always the video link https://youtu.be/F4NUGealUYg Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism FMQ 518 How To Make Sure You Get What You Want Okay, welcome back to the 5-Minute Quickie, the FMQ, or the Personal Development Unplugged podcast, with me, Paul. And today, on this episode, this shorter episode, it's all about getting what you want, and getting it more often, and even better than you want.   And this is, in effect, just for you to muse, to think a little bit, to get a little bit more curious, to begin to think of the things that you really want to have happen. Big goals, small goals, random. You could just list them out, all the different things you want, because I'm going to go through a process with you of making it easy.   But that's going to be on a deeper dive, a deeper dive with a longer episode, and probably there'll be a process contained in it, because I love my hypnosis, or NLP processes. So we'll find something that goes with it as well, so we make that longer podcast something of real, real benefit to you. But the thing is, how many have you, how, say another way, have you ever been on a goal-setting work, workshop, a goal-setting course, anything, online, in person? You see, I find so many people miss the mark on this, they miss the key, they miss the key of being able to get it, get your goal, because, and I'll tell you why, there's so much to do.   You forget how much in your life you have to do, you forget the overwhelming amount of steps along the way to achieve your goal. And when you do that, we tend to go, it's a bit like New Year's resolutions, we're just, they're just so much, so big. Sometimes we plod through them, sometimes we get to that plateau, and we just give up.   Sometimes we start to get that negative belief that I'm not good enough, I shouldn't be able to do that, who am I? Because it becomes difficult, overwhelming. There's so much to bloody do. And that's where I want to get this deeper dive going.   But in order to get there, I want to, I want you to begin to think, but before that, if there was an easier way, an easier way that, if that goal, that thing, the thing you desire, the things you want, is important to you, you would almost certainly guarantee success. That's what I'm going to, that's the process I'm bringing to you. It's almost certainly going to bring you that success.   Now you might say, well, okay, Cloughie, why almost bloody certainty? Certainly. Certainty. That's the word I think I'm looking for.   Because I want certainty. We all want certainty. And if I'm going to work on a bloody goal, I want an odds on chance of succeeding, especially in the past when I haven't.   So what's going to be so different? Well, the difference is you have to own it. And how do you own it? Well, you have to have this thing called the will to do whatever it takes. Because if you've got the will to do whatever it takes, we'll get there.   That's a guarantee. So it has to be important to you. And that's why I'm leaving this gap between this five-minute quickie and the longer podcast, because I want you to write down your goals.   And the way I do it is I write them all out. I write every bloody thing out, everything I can think of, all the different things I want. And then I might put them into like a length of duration.   Because this is a goal I might be looking for for the end of the year or a year's time. Some may be in six months, some may be in three months. You can see where I'm going.   Some may be a month. Yeah. Some may be the end of the week.   And I just put those down. Now, you can't do them all, which is a bit like that overwhelm. So we've got to pick a few that are important to us, because some of them, when you look at them, when you get them out your bloody head, because when they're on paper, you can see them better, literally see them better, because you haven't got all the other stuff getting in the way.   And you can start to analyse them in a way intuitively. Do I really want it? How important is that one? Well, this one's more important than that one. And start to rate them.   This is like a short term, this is medium term, and these are longer term. I'll just go through each section, which is probably the most important one. If I've got that short term, it would probably make the others easier, or it might even help the midterm ones.   And then you go through the midterm ones. So what's the most important one here? Because I'll be working a little bit longer on it. But which one would be the most important to me? Not any other bugger.   No peer pressure here. No pressure from the outside world at all. You know, all the things that people should be doing, could be doing.   No. What's important to you? So what's the most important? And just get the top three. And then the longer ones, exactly the same.   And just have a look at how important are they? Now, if you want, if you haven't listened to the last longer pod, or the episode, I call it a pod, the last longer episode, you might want to do that too. Because that's got a little bit of hypnosis in it. And it talks about how to get your mind and body connected to this goal.   And it gives you a real good feeling of why you want it. So it's like, instead of knowing your why, feel your why. And if you don't feel it, it ain't that important.   But when you feel it, you go, yeah, this is for me. So that's why I'd like to, over the next few days, just take five or 10 minutes each day, popping down all the goals you have all the dreams, you can add to them, remember, this is a moving target, short term, midterm, long term, and then put them in order of importance. Because you're going to work, what's the point of working on one which is the least important? Because that's what we tend to do.   Sometimes it's the easiest. You know, we tend to look for the easiest way. And what happens? We get, we don't get the best result in the world, do we? So think about this, do that.   And then when you've got them, on the longer podcast, we will dive deeper, because I've got some really, a really good way of making sure that you get the success, you don't give up. You don't just let it go. You don't see it disappear and go, oh, I wish I could have, if only I'd, no, because I've got a way to ensure that doesn't happen.   But you have to have that will to do whatever it takes. And the only way you get that is to realise how important it is to you. And you go, do you know what, that's mine.   I'm going to do that. Even you might want to think about what would be a belief that would support me in getting that goal. You know, there's so many good ones, you know, this is a good day.   I've got this. Oh yeah, but if you're a Navy SEAL, I'm not. You can tell by my physique and all that stuff.   I love, you know, I've got this. It's okay. I deserve this.   I'm gonna smash it. This is mine. They're the type of beliefs that I would have as a whole myriad that would go, come on, let's go.   I've got this. Okay, and then we'll get some attitudes and all that stuff. So have a little look, have a little play around with this over the next few days.   And then when the longer podcast comes out, you will be able to smash it. Okay, that's what we'

    11 min
  6. #466 A Formular To Real Success

    17 OCT

    #466 A Formular To Real Success

    A Formula to Real Success with a hypnosis process included What if real success isn't about hustling harder but aligning your unconscious mind with what truly matters to you? In this longer episode of Personal Development Unplugged, we dive into a simple yet powerful formula for achieving genuine success — the kind that feels right, deep inside. No fake positivity, no chasing someone else's version of "made it." You'll discover: How to define success on your terms The unconscious blocks that quietly hold you back A step-by-step hypnosis process to rewire your beliefs and actions so they work for you, not against you This isn't theory. It's a practical formula you can use right now to start living with purpose, confidence, and ease — and finally experience success that lasts. Because when you and your unconscious mind are aligned, things start to click. Magic happens. So… are you ready to find your own formula? Listen now — and let's make real success your new normal.  As always, if you found value here, please share this episode, follow the podcast, and visit the free hypnosis page for even more deep change resources. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/466-a-formular-to-real-success/ Or watch the video here https://youtu.be/-Gy9JLi_NT8 Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay.   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   Hey, I just want to mention before we start this longer podcast that it does include a chunk of hypnosis, eyes closed, going deep inside to really get an unconscious understanding, learning of how you can achieve your dreams and goals and anything you want. So because of that, this is like a little warning.   Please, when you get to that point, if you have anything that needs your attention, press stop. And then you can come back to this this time, and then you can listen to it when it's appropriate, when you have nothing to do, nothing to take your attention, because this is hypnosis. But I would say, this is something for you.   And it'd be great for you to find that space, that time for you. So you can start to create the life you like, the life you dream of, and the life you deserve. Okay, so that's just a little pre thing that I just want to tell you about.   But now, let's get on. Hey, welcome to the longer podcast. And what we're doing today is moving on from FMQ 517, how to be successful.   And that was a muse, wasn't it? It was a seed, as it were, on thinking about not just having the positive mindset or the right mindset to achieve what you want. It was about the body set, whatever that is. That's what we're going to go.   And how the mind and the body is totally connected. And when they're not connected, how things tend to go a little bit out of kilter. And where our goals or the things we want our desires, our dreams tend to well go off the mark, we aim at slightly the wrong place.   And aiming off the wrong place means we go all over the place. And that gives us all sorts of things, you know, even limiting negative beliefs of, you know, upper failure, I shouldn't be here, I knew I couldn't do it. But the thing is, this is where we're going to change.   So what are we going to do? I want you to think of goals, but goals are basically everything that you do. Everything you do in the day is a goal, isn't it? I'm going to go here, it's a goal of going there, I'm going to go on a walk, it's a goal. So don't think of goals as being massive things.   It's just things that we aim to do. And it could be as simple as going to the gym, going to do this, going to do that, or maybe bigger than that, a project. Maybe it's, I don't know, but basically doing anything important.   Because if you're not doing things which are important, you're probably doing things which are urgent or unnecessary. And they're no good, because they just get in the way. So I'm going to talk about important things.   Because if we get important things done in life, life gets so rich, so good. Now, when you think of the things that you want to do, you probably know your why. Because they're what you want to do.   And it's that want, that desire means it's important to me. And whether you know the why in specific terms, if you do, that's really good to make sure there's not a clash in your values. But if you just get that feeling that it is important, really important, not ego driven, but it's important to you and your life.   Well, that's what we're going to go for. But think of some of the things that we're talking about. And I'm thinking of maybe some of the important things might be, maybe going to an interview, meeting somebody for the first time, maybe having a difficult conversation.   And it's really all about not just having that goal in mind, but it's how you behave. Behave mentally, behave physically. You know, are you aligned? Because if you're not, it's going to come across that way.   And when it comes across that you're misaligned, things just don't work, do they? Now, you could model somebody else. How does somebody else do this? And that's great. Modeling is the core of NLP.   It was modeled on some great hypnotists and therapists and modeling of processes. How people behaved and changed their behavior. But I don't want you to model just anybody.   I want you to model you and a special you, a special you, which is the you in the future. Yeah, you in the future. So, what would that be? What would that be? Question, question.   How would that you in the future that's successfully achieved what you wanted to achieve, and it could be in an hour's time, month, week, whatever. How would they be having successfully achieved that goal, that aim in mind, that ending, that thing, maybe that one interview, that special interview, meeting that one person. Maybe it's a project or maybe it's just being social, connecting, anything you're doing.   What would that future you, if you thought about it now, it's in the future. How would that future you be? Because that's where I want to go. Because when we know how our future you would act, behave, move physically, and you've got your why in the mind, things start to happen because you're aligned to the end of the goal.   So that's where I'm going. And I'm also gonna do it in a process here. So get ready for that.   This is something a little bit new. I want to go more into processes on this podcast. So just think for a moment, it could be anything, doesn't have to be huge.   But think of something that you want to have happen, that you are a part of, you are going to do. And what we're going to do is look at that future you, so you can have it with more certainty. So it becomes quicker.   It's better than you ever could imagine. And if you could, I want you to just bring that to mind for a moment. So just bring one of those things to mind, just one, because if we think of too many things, it just gets too general.   So I'd like you to bring one of those things to mind, specifically one thing you'd like to achieve, to do. And you know it's going to happen. No point in just having a goal.   There's no why there, is there? It's just a wish. And we're changing wishes into real things. So it doesn't matter if it's big, doesn't matter if it's small.   Just go through this process with me. And then if you do do a smaller thing, you can always come back. And then when you have that real big important goal, you know the process.   And then you can just let yourself go into that process and come back to this episode again. But let's have a little think. Let's consciously think first, because we're going to go to the unconscious mind shortly.   But let's consciously think, just for a moment. Imagine that thing, just imagine that thing, and it's been really successful. What does that feel like? What does that feel like, just being successful? Because you've achieved it.   Just to get that feeling for a moment, because feelings are important. Because the feeling is, in effect, the feeling of the wish fulfilled. Neville Goddard.   And that feeling of the wish fulfilled really makes sure you are aligned again to your why. Because if you get that feeling of having already completed it, successful, but it's still not right for you, then maybe you have to tweak that goal. But now you've got the mind, I really want you to get the body in.

    28 min
  7. FMQ 517 How to Really Be Successful

    14 OCT

    FMQ 517 How to Really Be Successful

    How to Really Be Successful Ever heard people bang on about mindset — and thought, "Yeah, but what about the rest of me?" This Five-Minute Quickie goes beyond the buzzword. Because success isn't just in your head — it's in your body too. In this short but mighty episode, we explore: Why mindset alone isn't enough — and what "body-set" really means How to align your physiology and psychology so your goals feel inevitable Simple ways to tap into your "future you" — breathing, posture, tone, gestures — to unlock real, embodied confidence Cloughie breaks it down in his trademark way: fun, grounded, and totally usable. When you bring your body and mind into alignment, you don't have to fake success — you become it. Takeaway: Success is a feeling you live, not just an idea you think. Act, move, and breathe like you've already achieved it — because that's how you'll get there quicker, bigger, and better. Please share and see others grow too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-517-how-to-really-be-successful Oh! And there's a video of me recording this too https://youtu.be/NnGVNaRiabI Got feedback, a question, or a win to share? Email: feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   Hey, welcome to the five minute quickie where we're going to muse about something, muse about mindset. Muse against mindset because so many people talk about getting the right mindset, getting that super mindset. But what is the right mindset? And what about the body set? Body set, Paul? Yeah.   You see, mind and body are connected, aren't they? And we're going to muse about this for the moment, just to give you an idea of where the mind and body have to come together. Because if you just have supposedly the right mindset and the body is not following, you've got a misalignment. You're not congruent.   You'll even have, you know, some friction going on, some conflict going on. And we don't want conflict, do we? We want alignment. We want integrity.   We want authenticity. We want every bloomin' word you can think of like that. So what am I thinking about? I'm thinking about goals, achieving your goals.   And this is not goal setting. This is just thinking about, imagine this, imagine this. Imagine stepping into your goal.   I'm not just noticing what it's like emotionally, because we talk about the feeling of the wish fulfilled, finding that feeling, feeling what it would be like in the goal, to have achieved the goal, the successful completion of the goal. But it's not just that, is it? I want you to know what it would be like physically, physically to have your goal. Because when you put the two together, you will be unstoppable.   So if you were now just to flip into a goal, think about it. And you were to start to notice where you breathe. As if you're already succeeded, how would you breathe? You'd be moving, I guess, with someone of confidence, confidence in the way that, because you've achieved your goal.   You'd be moving with your confidence. No one else is, we'll talk about that in a moment. You would be teaching, you would be moving with your confidence, the way you would be that confident.   How would you be speaking? What's the tone of your voice? What's the speed of your voice? Everything about your voice, how would it be when you knew you succeeded? Now you're moving, you're speaking. In this episode, I just want to dive down a little deeply, not a little deeply, just a little bit into how your physiology can become the turbo boost for your success, aligning mind and body body and mind, so your goals feel inevitable, because it's all about getting it at the start of your goal. You see, we're not talking about modelling per se, modelling someone else, because I don't want to model somebody else's success.   I can model their skills, but not their feeling of success. And although modelling was at the heart of NLP, and still is, I guess, I want you to just think about, muse about, modelling you from the future, the future you, the future you that already has this goal. So if you were to think about a goal, just for a moment, if you try to model yourself completely, it's like any modelling exercise, if you do it, try to model everything, it's just overwhelming, there's too many components.   And to do the way I want you to do it, so you get success, is to do it in small compartments, break them down into compartments. So as we first spoke, what would your breathing be like? Would it be up here? Or would it be slower? I'm going to guess it might be a little bit slower, because you've just done it. You might be a little bit excited for doing it.   But generally, as you think about it, you're going, yeah, this is me, I'm good. So maybe just think, if you were to go into the future, and I'm going to do this on a longer axis, a longer episode. We'll talk about that in a moment.   But just think for the moment, how would you be breathing if you'd already succeeded in the goal, or the thing, your dream, your desire, anything you want? If you'd already got it, how do you breathe? So that's just one component. What about your speech? It's another component, just speech. Would it be fast or slow? Or would it go up and down and have a richness and a harmony in it? Would it have a little bit more depth to it, because you're confident in having just done what you're going to do, or you've done, and you start to look to the future of new things, because you have this inner confidence.   What would the tonation be? What type of words would you use? Would you pause? Because you're confident, because you're thinking. And if you'd already got this goal, how would your gestures be? Would they be small? I'm not so sure. Or would they be a little bit bigger, a little bit just outside yourself? Showing yourself, would your chest just come out a little bit? What type of gestures would you have? Think about it.   What about facial expressions? Because sometimes when we're pensive and we're thinking about stuff, but having got the goal, would you see the sparkle in your eyes, thinking of new things? Would you see a smile on your face, a colour in your cheeks? Would that, would those eyes be penetrating? I don't know. Just think of those for the moment, because if you want to accelerate your achievements and create new opportunities, if you want to accelerate the achievement of your goals, your dreams and desires, you need this part of the process, not just the good feelings. You definitely need those feelings.   We call them the feelings of the wish fulfilled. We go out into the future, we feel what it would feel like when you've succeeded, when you have the goal, call it feeling of the wish fulfilled. But when you add to it, your physiology, you begin to get a psychology of excellence, of confidence, inner confidence.   And it's all about you. This is your confidence and how you would express it. Now, we're going to dive deeper in this, right? Yeah, we are.   You'll come with me, hopefully, and we'll dive deeper into this in a longer podcast, where I can get you to really go into the physiology. Maybe start to match it with the feelings and then put a hypnotic or hypnosis process in the mix. So we get your unconscious mind and your conscious mind to get fully aligned and remember what it would be like to have achieved the goal already and then act, be with all that confidence of success.   And you know, when you have that type of confidence, there's nothing's going to stop you. You're going to get that goal. You're going to get that project.   You're going to make that relationship. You're going to do whatever your desire is quicker, bigger and brighter. That's it.   That's it. Please share this with everyone you can think of. And please subscribe because subscriptions are the only thing that really make me buzz.   Yeah, clicks are nice, but subscriptions and having you listen to this and the odd feedback, not odd. But if you'd like to email me feedback at personaldevelopmentunplugged.com, let me know how your life is going. Let me know if there's anything you need and I'd love to hear about your successes.   Let's celebrate them together. Okay. Until that longer podcast, just have a muse.   What are the type of things or how would you be physically when you achieve you

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  8. #465 How Do I Get Results

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    #465 How Do I Get Results

    How Do I Get Results How often do you find yourself hearing the same advice again and again—through podcasts, books, conversations, or even a random TikTok—and thinking "I know this already…" but then quietly adding "…but I'm not doing it." That's exactly what this episode is about. I'll share with you: Why repetition matters (and why advice keeps showing up until you take action). The real secret to results: showing up, doing the reps, and letting go of perfection. How "practice makes permanent," not perfect. Why intention and consistency beat intensity every single time. A simple way to choose one thing that could change everything in your life. This isn't about waiting for motivation. It's about turning up, committing to the process, and making deposits in your "success bank." Some days will feel great, others won't—but both move you forward. At the end, I'll even share how you can use my free hypnosis resources to build confidence, consistency, and unstoppable momentum. Listen in—then ask yourself: what's the one thing you'll commit to showing up for over the next 10 days? and share the hell out of this episode https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/465-how-do-i-get-results/ 👉 And if you'd like to go deeper, or if something's blocking you (fear, doubt, past experiences), email me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Shine Brightly 🌟 Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, Music by freegroove from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal from Pixabay.   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism #465 How Do I Get Results Hey, welcome back to a longer episode, but it's not going to be that long. It's not going to be that long because it's just going to be about a question to you.   A bit more than a question, and maybe an odd swear word. I let them slip occasionally. As you see, this is a longer podcast, where we're going to muse a little bit this time.   It's like a longer five minute quickie. Because the question I have for you is, do you ever experience this type of thing? Being reminded of the things that you either know about already, or reminded about the things you're not doing, or continue to hear that same advice that you're not taking. And it comes in different places, different forms.   And if you took that advice, if you did it, it would make a world of difference. And the type of things I'm thinking about is, you know, you could be listening to a podcast, and you hear something, and you go, well, I know that. But in brackets, and you don't say it to yourself too much, but I'm not doing it.   And then you listen to another podcast a little bit later on, a different one. And there's the same type of message. And then you might read a book.   And you go, damn, it's repeating. And then something else comes along. Or someone in conversation says something.   Or you see one of those ribbon old things on TikTok, which drive me mad. And you go, it's the same advice over and over again. And I get it, you see, I get it.   Sometimes we need it. You see, I know that I share stuff in different ways. And it has a very similar message.   The core theme is the same. And every time I say it, I say it slightly different, or differently. And I know that we need sometimes to hear it two, three, maybe four times until it oodles its way in.   Because it will, it'll stick eventually, because we need it. But sometimes we're just not there. But the thing is, when you notice it, man, we have to take notice, because we've noticed it.   So this is me sharing with you. This has been knocking at my door, which I needed to get. Why? Why did I need to get it? Because I was getting down.   I was getting down. I was getting moody, a little bit frustrated. Because I wasn't actually doing the things I knew, and know, I wanted to be doing.   And it's just weird, really, you have these things in your mind, that I have them in my puzzle book. These are the things I want to do. I know they're a value.   But sometimes they just slip away. Maybe I don't remind myself, maybe I don't feel just in the right place. I don't know.   But if I did it, it would make a difference. And I heard this particular thing, in different versions, as I said, in different podcasts, different people, different things. I've even got different things going in my life with different people.   And they were like, these look, this bit of advice kept coming through. And what was it? What was it? You see this thing about not doing the stuff I want. And, you know, I wanted to be excited about doing it.   I want to be doing this. But sometimes the advice is, just do the reps, Paul. Just turn up, turn up, and just be consistent.   You know, and here's a swear word, fuck perfection. Because, you know, if you're like me, I go to the gym. And because I've got this app, and I've got this guy who comes and tells me what to do every other day, and I've got to report back to him, I turn up.   Sometimes I don't like it. Sometimes I do. But I turn up and I do the reps.   And if I can be consistent, I know when I look back, certainly when I come out of the gym, I go, wow, I feel good now. But when I look back over the week or the fortnight, I go, well, yeah, that's, you know, I've paid money into the bank, I've made a deposit, as it were, on that particular thing. That was my fitness bank.   Didn't like it. I wasn't up for it. So some days, this is what I got.   Some days, when you don't feel like it, you just got to say, fuck it and turn up. Got to show up and do the reps, just do it. And some days, I realise, they won't all go well, they won't all be perfect.   But if you think about it, there is no such thing as perfection. You can't get it because there's always something you can do a little bit better. But if you can show up, you can do the reps.   That, to me, is a form of perfection. Because it's showing the consistency, and it's showing that you're determined. And I think your unconscious mind goes, okay, now I get it.   You're prepared to push through this stuff to get there. Even when you do the thing, and you go, oh, that just wasn't as good as I planned. It really wasn't.   But the thing is when you stop and go, well, actually, no, but I did it. I went through it. And the things that didn't work well, I can learn from, can't I? I can learn from them.   And I can set my stall. The learning can only be to visualise how I want it to be next time. And what is it all about? It's not about imperfection.   It's not about the intensity you put into it. It's intention and consistency. That's all it is.   Years and years and years, a million years ago, when I got into this stuff, and I was listening to Tony Robbins, and this is years ago, it really is, when he used to do 30 days on cassette tapes. He used to listen to them in my car. And all he used to say was, repetition is a mother of skill.   And I listened to it. Didn't think much of it. But now I get it.   All those years later now, all these years later, I get it. Repetition is a mother of skill. And to repeat things, you have to show up.   You have to do the reps, repetition, consistency, and the intention just to do the work. And if your intention is to do your best, it's your best on the day. You see, practice does not make perfection.   Practice does not make perfect. It makes permanent. And once you get up, and just remember, when we used to do NLP trainings, we always used to use the phrase, get it in the muscle.   And I think, shit, I've been talking about this for bloody donkey's years. Get it in the muscle. How do you get in the muscle? You show up consistently with intention and do the reps.   And the thing is, when you do that, there'll be great days. Because you're showing up. But you've also put money in the bank.   You've put a deposit towards the great days. And when you do look back, you're going to go, I've actually grown. Some of those days that weren't so good, have helped me grow.   Because I got confidence of pushing through that. Because if I can push through the crappy days, man, I can really enjoy. And when you look back, of having done those reps, showed up, you'll see that you smashed it.   You will. So think now, just think now, maybe, just before I go, because I told you it was a shorter, longer podcast. It's like a midway, I don't know what you call one of those.   Just something I wante

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A podcast for those wanting personal development but want it made simple and easy to understand and more importantly use, take action and make a difference to your life and the world you live in. If you want to change the way you feel and the way you act and react. If you have negative emotions, behaviours, that you want to lose forever and create something special in your life then I think you will like what you hear. This genre of self-improvement, self-development and mastery of your mind has, I believe, been made over complicated and secretive and here I am de-constructing the processes into their simple forms that we can all understand and easily use. There's no interviews just little ol' me ;0) Who am I and what do I do?………Paul Clough. I now love helping making changes in people and guiding them to create the life they really want. A personal look at me: The above sentence was not always the case and being the best in the financial realms of the building industry was my aim and getting there by any means. I now know this is, and was, the worst way ~ even if I did make director of one of the largest building companies in Cambridge by the age of 30. One of the major realisations came on my first ever training in hypnosis. I found that it's not a win lose world and that a win win is only a low basis to live. Being true to your beliefs and coming from a place of integrity where service is paramount. This understanding together with lots of NLP skills helped create my last partnership in the building industry grow from a turnover of £800k to £16m in less than twelve years and that can only be done with giving more than expected. Another shaping of me came from two traumatic events in my life that happened within six months of each other which created a number of major changes in me and by beliefs in what is possible. I have written about my experience and how I dealt with it but more importantly it really showed me my love for my three boys and theirs for me and resulted in the step up to become a trainer of NLP (which I never intended) and my close and exciting work with two of my sons. In supporting Joseph and help create change in people in our training's and his wonderful life changing 'Be your potential weekend' and with Luke the continuing development of Cambridge Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis processes. My relationship with my third son Daniel just keeps getting better and better too. Not knowing how good I had become in change work in the beginning I generally studied, practiced and saw clients then things started to happen when I started to work following just my instincts. Two clients come to mind both in effect dying from the effects of what was happening to them and the way they felt and within one and two sessions respectively not only won the will to live they changed virtually in front of my eyes and being apart of that process was and is the best feeling alive. The above are just three of many brilliant learnings I have had in my life. The more formal bit Paul Clough I am a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP and Hypnosis and am passionate in assisting those who want to reach their full potential and his special skills form a unique foundation for success. I constantly seek and develop new skills and learning's – through advanced levels of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy ™, Hypnosis and to improve everyone I work with. I have an understanding of the mind/body connection which enables me to create in my clients the difference that makes the difference ~ from excellence to outstanding. For those that want qualifications: Certified Trainer and Consultant of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Certified Master Practitioner of NLP & Time Line Therapy Certified Master Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

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