25 min
Are your beliefs blocking your ability to get or stay pregnant? Embrace Fertility
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- Mental Health
Episode 72. “I just feel so jealous and angry all the time. This isn’t me. I want to move past this.”
“I can’t stop crying. Infertility is all I ever think about and it’s impacting my work and my relationship.”
“I am terrified of getting pregnant again and can’t imagine ever getting past that six week scan.”
“I want to energetically align with conceiving and call in my baby but I feel like I’m stopping it from happening.”
“When the doctor told us we would have to use donor sperm I thought I was going to throw up. I feel so alone as my partner won’t talk about it.”
“I want to connect to my faith again, I feel like God is punishing me and I’ve lost hope that we will ever have a family.”
Above are some of the reasons that women decide to commit to their own emotional nourishment and join The Embrace Fertility Method.
My job as your therapist is to meet you where you are and understand your model of the world. That is, how you view the world and the life you are living.
We start our work together understanding what your beliefs are:
About your body
About yourself and the things you say to yourself.
Your spiritual beliefs
Your beliefs about trying to conceive, fertility treatments, pregnancy, labour and birth and parenthood.
Our unconscious mind is programmed to keep us safe and it takes its job incredibly seriously.
If a client has the following beliefs then our work is to begin to unpick and reframe. Saying these things to yourself on a regular basis be that consciously or unconsciously are a recipe for anxiety, self-doubt and sabotage.
My body is broken
Last time I got pregnant I miscarried, I can’t cope with that disappointment again.
I’m not strong enough to lose another baby.
I hate my body when I put on weight
Childbirth is painful and I may never recover physically.
Women die during childbirth.
Having children broke my friend's marriage and now she is struggling to raise her kids on her own.
What if I’m a terrible mother and turn out to be just like my mum?
Safety first.
Iff it does not feel safe for you to conceive, be pregnant, give birth and become a parent. Your subconscious mind may be trying its hardest to keep you safe.
This manifests in anxiety, overwhelm, sabotaging your own attempt to conceive be that by indulging in activities that could negatively impact your fertility such as excessive exercise, drinking or overeating.
Or maybe it’s more subtle, maybe it’s picking that fight with your partner when you know you are ovulating. It’s delaying the appointment at the clinic as it just doesn’t feel safe to start having those conversations.
In the final day of the three day workshop I ran last week I included a guided visualisation where I asked the participants to imagine each stage of trying to conceive, getting pregnant, going into labour, giving birth, holding their baby for the first time and then imagining their child at various ages right up into their 30s.
At each stage I asked the question;
“Is there any resistance here? Does this feel safe?”
Sometimes it’s as simple as working through your fears consciously, journaling about them, mismatching them with the technique I taught on day two with the PROP statement.
Then spending time visualising what you want, seeing it going well and feeling good. This instructs your mind and body that this is what you want and it is safe for you to want it. Most importantly it is safe for you to have it.
Other times we need to go deeper, we need to create a strong foundation of safety within your mind and body, we need to bring in energy work such as emotional freedom technique or AMDR to reprogram the neural pathways in your mind to release past trauma. Message me for more info naomi@embracefertility.co.uk.
Episode 72. “I just feel so jealous and angry all the time. This isn’t me. I want to move past this.”
“I can’t stop crying. Infertility is all I ever think about and it’s impacting my work and my relationship.”
“I am terrified of getting pregnant again and can’t imagine ever getting past that six week scan.”
“I want to energetically align with conceiving and call in my baby but I feel like I’m stopping it from happening.”
“When the doctor told us we would have to use donor sperm I thought I was going to throw up. I feel so alone as my partner won’t talk about it.”
“I want to connect to my faith again, I feel like God is punishing me and I’ve lost hope that we will ever have a family.”
Above are some of the reasons that women decide to commit to their own emotional nourishment and join The Embrace Fertility Method.
My job as your therapist is to meet you where you are and understand your model of the world. That is, how you view the world and the life you are living.
We start our work together understanding what your beliefs are:
About your body
About yourself and the things you say to yourself.
Your spiritual beliefs
Your beliefs about trying to conceive, fertility treatments, pregnancy, labour and birth and parenthood.
Our unconscious mind is programmed to keep us safe and it takes its job incredibly seriously.
If a client has the following beliefs then our work is to begin to unpick and reframe. Saying these things to yourself on a regular basis be that consciously or unconsciously are a recipe for anxiety, self-doubt and sabotage.
My body is broken
Last time I got pregnant I miscarried, I can’t cope with that disappointment again.
I’m not strong enough to lose another baby.
I hate my body when I put on weight
Childbirth is painful and I may never recover physically.
Women die during childbirth.
Having children broke my friend's marriage and now she is struggling to raise her kids on her own.
What if I’m a terrible mother and turn out to be just like my mum?
Safety first.
Iff it does not feel safe for you to conceive, be pregnant, give birth and become a parent. Your subconscious mind may be trying its hardest to keep you safe.
This manifests in anxiety, overwhelm, sabotaging your own attempt to conceive be that by indulging in activities that could negatively impact your fertility such as excessive exercise, drinking or overeating.
Or maybe it’s more subtle, maybe it’s picking that fight with your partner when you know you are ovulating. It’s delaying the appointment at the clinic as it just doesn’t feel safe to start having those conversations.
In the final day of the three day workshop I ran last week I included a guided visualisation where I asked the participants to imagine each stage of trying to conceive, getting pregnant, going into labour, giving birth, holding their baby for the first time and then imagining their child at various ages right up into their 30s.
At each stage I asked the question;
“Is there any resistance here? Does this feel safe?”
Sometimes it’s as simple as working through your fears consciously, journaling about them, mismatching them with the technique I taught on day two with the PROP statement.
Then spending time visualising what you want, seeing it going well and feeling good. This instructs your mind and body that this is what you want and it is safe for you to want it. Most importantly it is safe for you to have it.
Other times we need to go deeper, we need to create a strong foundation of safety within your mind and body, we need to bring in energy work such as emotional freedom technique or AMDR to reprogram the neural pathways in your mind to release past trauma. Message me for more info naomi@embracefertility.co.uk.
25 min