4 episodes

Think you've had a bad date? Wait till you listen to our viewer submitted stories on everything from first dates gone wrong to being catfished and all the perils from Tinder, Grindr, Hinge and yes even Bumble.

Co-hosts Justin Matters and Chris Northover discuss the theme of the month whether it be anonymous profiles, transphobia, racism and we are joined by sexuality expert Robert Grigor to answer your burning questions!

Not to be missed, this podcast will enable you to make smarter, safer choices in the online dating space.

Date or Disaster: The Worst Dating/Hookup/Sex/Love Stories You've Never Heard Before Justin Matters

    • Society & Culture

Think you've had a bad date? Wait till you listen to our viewer submitted stories on everything from first dates gone wrong to being catfished and all the perils from Tinder, Grindr, Hinge and yes even Bumble.

Co-hosts Justin Matters and Chris Northover discuss the theme of the month whether it be anonymous profiles, transphobia, racism and we are joined by sexuality expert Robert Grigor to answer your burning questions!

Not to be missed, this podcast will enable you to make smarter, safer choices in the online dating space.

    Date or Disaster #4 - Red Flags | The Worst Dating / Hookup / Love Stories

    Date or Disaster #4 - Red Flags | The Worst Dating / Hookup / Love Stories

    Welcome back to Date or Disaster: The Worst Dating/Hookup/Sex/Love Stories You've Never Heard Before.

    In this series, my co-hosts Chris Northover, Robert Grigor and I read out your submitted stories on your worst experiences when it comes to love, dating, sex, hook-ups, relationships and everything in between.

    For this episode, we are discussing the concept of red flags, what concerning behaviour should you look out for and what have our viewers experienced?


    About the hosts
    Justin Matters is a Digital Marketing Specialist and Podcaster who also helms The Complete Guide to Horror Movies.

    Chris Northover is a media extraordinaire co-hosting and co-producing Queer Stories on the Swan.

    Robert Grigor is a sexuality expert who has undergraduate degrees in sociology and psychology, a Masters in Sexual Health and currently works as a community health educator in clinical settings.

    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Intro
    02:14 Red Flags
    03:22 Chris's Red Flags
    04:50 Robert's Red Flags
    06:11 Justin's Red Flags
    07:37 Taylor Swift
    08:49 Slide in my DMs
    09:14 DM 1 Single as a Pringle
    11:09 DM 2 TransAction
    13:59 DM 3 Don't Ask, Don't Novotel
    15:34 DM 4 Gumtree
    17:28 DM 5 Coffs Harbour
    20:02 DM 6 Dealer Bust
    23:14 Which Stories Are Mine
    32:35 Unqualified Vs. Sexpert Advice
    32:56 Question 1 - Should I date or dump this guy?
    36:14 Question 2 - Are there safer ways to do auto-erotic asphyxiation?
    39:47 Question 3 - Am I the A*****e?
    42:50 Question 4 - My girlfriend leaked our sex tape to her Onlyfans, what should I do?
    46:39 Justin's odyssey of being single in 2023
    1:03:03 Thank you for tuning in
    1:03:35 Queer Stories on the Swan
    1:03:41 Gameboy

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    • 1 hr 3 min
    Date or Disaster #3 - Heartbreak and Revenge | The Worst Dating / Hookup / Sex / Love Stories

    Date or Disaster #3 - Heartbreak and Revenge | The Worst Dating / Hookup / Sex / Love Stories

    Welcome back to Date or Disaster: The Worst Dating/Hookup/Sex/Love Stories You've Never Heard Before.

    In this series, my co-hosts Chris Northover, Robert Grigor and I read out your submitted stories on your worst experiences when it comes to love, dating, sex, hook-ups, relationships and everything in between.

    For this episode, we are discussing the concept of heartbreak, revenge and rebounds.

    About the hosts
    Justin Matters is a Digital Marketing Specialist and Podcaster who also helms The Complete Guide to Horror Movies.

    Chris Northover is a media extraordinaire co-hosting and co-producing Queer Stories on the Swan.

    Robert Grigor is a sexuality expert who has undergraduate degrees in sociology and psychology, a Masters in Sexual Health and currently works as a community health educator in clinical settings.

    Chapters
    00:00 Intro
    00:30 Introducing Co-Hosts Chris Northover and Robert Grigor
    02:46 Heartbreak and Revenge
    04:32 Chris's First Heartbreak
    08:17 Robert's First Heartbreak
    10:12 The Crabs
    11:13 Bisexuality and Bi-erasure
    16:28 Justin's First Heartbreak
    20:30 Justin's Revenge (Part I)
    22:46 Have Chris and Robert Exacted Revenge on an Ex?
    23:32 Justin's Shitty Revenge (Part II)
    27:41 Justin Runs Into His Ex in Melbourne
    28:40 Slide in my DMs
    30:02 DM 1 F**kboy
    31:59 DM 2 LesBeLovers
    35:41 DM 3 SloppySeconds
    41:40 DM 4 QueenB***h
    45:39 DM 5 BiBro
    48:37 Bragging Vs. Humblebragging
    51:12 Who Reported My Photo of Me Kissing Adore Delano?
    53:12 Which Stories Are Mine
    1:03:30 Unqualified Vs. Sexpert Advice
    1:03:53 Question 1 - How Do I Get Over Heartbreak?
    1:06:02 Question 2 - Can I Be Friends With an Ex?
    1:08:55 Question 3 - How Do I Break the News I've Cheated & How Do I Get Over the Guy I Cheated With?
    1:13:44 Question 4 - I Slept With My Ex's New Partner, Do I Tell My Ex?
    1:16:33 Question 5 - What are the Best Apps to Explore My Sexuality?
    1:26:55 Thank You to Co-Hosts Chris and Robert
    1:27:31 My First Date Post-Breakup
    1:33:03 Funny Tinder Exchange
    1:35:15 Send Us Your Questions and Submissions!
    1:35:41 A Tribute to My Ex's

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    • 1 hr 36 min
    Date or Disaster #2 - Boundaries and the Beast | The Worst Dating/Hookup/Sex/Love Stories You've Never Heard Before

    Date or Disaster #2 - Boundaries and the Beast | The Worst Dating/Hookup/Sex/Love Stories You've Never Heard Before

    Welcome to Date or Disaster: The Worst Dating/Hookup/Sex/Love Stories You've Never Heard Before.

    In this series, my co-host Chris Northover and I read out your submitted stories on your worst experiences when it comes to love, dating, sex, hook-ups, relationships and everything in between.

    For this episode, we are discussing the concept of boundaries.

    I also share my own horrifying experiences including both my best and worst experiences from 2022 that are strong examples of how respecting boundaries can go incredible and how breaking boundaries can be awful.

    We are also lucky to be joined by Robert Grigor, a sexuality expert who has undergraduate degrees in sociology and psychology, a Masters in Sexual Health and currently works as a community health educator in clinical settings. Robert joins us to answer your burning questions on everything from love, sex, hook-ups and more!

    Chapters
    00:00 Intro
    02:42 What Are Boundaries?
    10:00 The Guy Who Always Wanted to Sleep with a Podcaster
    20:30 Slide In My DM's
    21:20 DM 1 Blonde Bombshell
    29:48 DM 2 VersKing
    40:13 DM 3 BartenderLove
    54:26 DM 4 Nambucca Heads High School Musical
    1:02:04 DM 5 SpeedDater
    1:16:05 Justin's story
    1:24:27 Unqualified vs. Sexpert Advice
    1:24:57 Question 1
    1:31:52 Question 2
    1:36:41 Question 3
    1:42:04 Question 4
    1:47:49 How I Nearly Got Date Raped By a Mark Latham Lookalike
    2:01:11 My Best Hookup of All Time
    2:07:36 PSA to Str8 Men
    2:09:51 Thank You & Send Us Your Stories!
    2:11:12 A Delusional Encounter I Had With a Twink

    Follow Queer Stories on the Swan below
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    • 2 hrs 11 min
    Date or Disaster #1 - Catfishing and Anonymous Profiles | The Worst Dating/Hookup/Sex/Love Stories You've Never Heard Before

    Date or Disaster #1 - Catfishing and Anonymous Profiles | The Worst Dating/Hookup/Sex/Love Stories You've Never Heard Before

    Welcome to Date or Disaster: The Worst Dating/Hookup/Sex/Love Stories You've Never Heard Before

    In this series, my co-host Chris Northover and I read out your submitted stories on your worst experiences when it comes to love, dating, sex, hook-ups, relationships and everything in between.  

    For this episode, we are discussing the concepts of catfishing and anonymous/discreet profiles.  

    I also share my own horrifying experiences including exposing my on-going catfish stalker who has assaulted me over the past 10 years.  

    We are also lucky to be joined by Robert Grigor, a sexuality expert who has undergraduate degrees in sociology and psychology, a Masters in Sexual Health and currently works as a community health educator in clinical settings. Robert joins us to answer your burning questions on everything from love, sex, hook-ups and more!  



    Chapters 

    00:00 Intro 

    00:48 The Backstory 

    01:56 Introducing Co-host Chris Northover 

    03:24 Queer Stories on the Swan 03:48 What is Catfishing? 

    05:01 What is 'Anonymous/Discreet Profiles'? 

    09:03 How Justin Caught His Ex via Catfishing Him 

    12:06 Slide In My DM's 

    12:43 Story 1 - The Shed 

    16:23 Story 2 - Bi-Curiosity Killed the Cat 

    22:23 Story 3 - WetNWild 

    31:37 Story 4 - Secret Santa 

    40:20 Story 5 - Teenage Catfish Mutant Turds 

    50:09 Justin's story 

    1:02:44 Unqualified vs. Sexpert Advice 

    1:03:33 Introducing Sexpert Robert Grigor 

    1:04:23 Question 

    1 1:09:44 Question 2 

    1:16:20 Question 3 

    1:25:55 Question 4 

    1:37:55 Justin's Catfish Stalker 

    1:49:54 Thank You & Send Us Your Stories! 

    1:50:34 Exposing My Catfish Stalker Lachlan Meng & His Weird Messages  



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    #date #sex #hookup #allhookedup #catfish #catfishmtv #anonymous #discreet #grindr #tinder #allsaints #love #dating #scary #worstdate #bumble #hinge #datingapps #onlinedating #podcast #sexuality #gay #lgbt #sexpert #education #funny #meme

    • 1 hr 52 min

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