F*CK Trauma Podcast

Candice Tamara
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The podcast your inner child wishes you heard sooner. Hosted by trauma and mindset coach Candice Tamara, F*CK TRAUMA* is where cycle-breakers come to heal, rewire their identity, and build relationships that feel safe, secure, and soul-deep. This is your space to stop chasing love, break anxious patterns, and become the version of you who feels chosen—by you first. It’s the show that turns your triggers into triumph—and your pain into personal power. Expect raw stories, powerful mindset shifts, and no-BS truth bombs that hit deeper than therapy. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

  1. 31 OCT

    Ep 49: The Real Reason You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People (and How to Finally Stop It)

    If you have an anxious attachment style or find yourself constantly attracting emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or inconsistent partners, this episode will change everything. . In this powerful episode, Candice Tamara reveals the real reason you keep repeating the same relationship patterns — and why it’s not about them being avoidant or unavailable, but about the mirror of your own fears, wounds, and self-concept. . You’ll learn:✨ How your fear of abandonment, rejection, commitment, vulnerability, and being “too much” creates emotional unavailability within yourself..✨ Why every partner is a mirror reflecting your beliefs, attachment wounds, and nervous system state — not your worth..✨ How to heal anxious attachment patterns at the root so you can finally attract and hold secure, consistent love.✨ The exact mindset and embodiment shifts Candice used to go from anxious and avoidant dynamics to being securely loved and chosen. . This episode will help you see relationships differently - not as something happening to you, but as a reflection of what’s ready to be healed within you. When you stop abandoning yourself, you stop attracting people who abandon you. . Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live. . Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns.  . ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Attracting Avoidants now⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    47 min

  2. 24 OCT

    Ep 48: Tranform Your Relationships with the Law of Assumption

    If you struggle with anxious attachment and relationships that feel like a rollercoaster… this episode will change EVERYTHING.. Because no matter how hard you try, you can only attract what you believe you deserve and the Law of Assumption shows you exactly how to shift that. . In this episode, I’m breaking down how your assumptions about love, connection, and self-worth create the relationship dynamics you keep ending up in - even the ones you hate.. I’ll share the exact mindset and healing shifts that helped me go from anxious and overlooked… to engaged to a secure, loving partner. . You’ll learn:✨ What the Law of Assumption actually is (beyond the “think positive” stuff).✨ How your subconscious beliefs are choosing partners for you.✨ Why avoidants and pullbacks keep showing up (it’s not your fault).✨ How to reprogram your self-concept so secure love becomes your new normal.✨ The exact approach I’ve used with clients to transform their relationship patterns . This isn’t spiritual bypassing..This is trauma-informed manifestation - for people who grew up in survival mode. . You are not at the mercy of old patterns or past..You can change your assumptions….and your entire relationship reality will change with them. . Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live. . Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns.  . ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Attracting Avoidants now⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    50 min

  3. 17 OCT

    Ep 47: Why They Pull Back After Intimacy (Even When They Really Like You)

    Have you ever noticed that every time you get closer to someone, emotionally or physically - they suddenly pull back? . If you have an anxious attachment style, it can feel like a nightmare. You start wondering: Did I do something wrong? Were they just avoidant? Did I scare them off? . In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about why they pull back after intimacy - and how this pattern has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you, but not in the way you think. . You’ll learn:✨ What’s really happening when avoidants distance after intimacy✨ How your inner state creates that push-pull dynamic✨ Why anxious attachment gets triggered when things feel good✨ The mindset shift that stops the cycle - so intimacy brings you closer, not apart . This one’s raw, honest, and deeply freeing - because once you see that you hold the power to change it, you’ll never fear vulnerability again. . Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live. . Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns.  . ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Attracting Avoidants now . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    31 min

  4. 3 OCT

    Ep 46: 3 Ways Anxiety Sabotages Your Relationships (Even When They’re Good)

    If you live with anxious attachment, you might think anxiety only shows up in toxic relationships - but it can sabotage healthy love too. . In this episode, I’m sharing three real moments when my own anxiety tried to push away the secure relationship I’d worked so hard to manifest. . You’ll learn:✨ Why certainty and consistency from a partner can actually feel unsafe to an anxious nervous system.✨ How hyper-independence and fear of losing control can push them away when things get serious.✨ Why big milestones (moving in, proposals, marriage) can trigger past trauma and make you want to run - even when love is good.✨ Practical ways to regulate your nervous system, change the story in your head, and stop sabotaging the healthy love you deserve . If you’re tired of overthinking, pushing good partners away, or testing people to see if they’ll stay - this episode will help you feel safe to receive love without losing yourself. Want to go deeper?My masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live. . You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love. . ⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    34 min

  5. 26 SEPT

    Ep 45: 7 Tough Truths About Avoidants (That I Wish I Knew Sooner)

    Struggling with anxious attachment and tired of avoidants pulling away? This episode is not what you think. And it’s exactly what you need to hear. . If you’ve ever spiralled after being ghosted, obsessed over why they suddenly pulled away, or questioned whether you’re too much, this is your wake-up call. . But be warned:This isn’t the same surface-level advice telling you to “just act cool” or “don’t double text.” .This is the truth that will set you free. . In this raw, no-BS episode, I reveal 7 tough truths about avoidants that most people will never tell you - because they haven’t lived it, or they’re still stuck in the same patterns. . Inside this episode: The real reason they pulled away (and how your energy shifted first) . Why it’s not about them abandoning you - it’s about you abandoning yourself . How anxious attachment manifests as self-rejection, not just “neediness” . Why even when you stop texting… you might still be energetically chasing . What it actually takes to stop attracting avoidants - for good . Want to go deeper?My masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live. . You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love. . ⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    21 min

  6. 19 SEPT

    Ep 44: Will They Come Back? The Truth About Getting an Ex Back

    If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing, “Will they come back?” after someone pulled away, ghosted, or ended things - this episode is for you. . When you have an anxious attachment style, the loss feels unbearable. You replay every text, every moment, and convince yourself that if they came back, it would finally prove you’re wanted, chosen, and enough. . But here’s the truth: chasing them only pushes them further away. In this episode, I share why your anxious patterns are manifesting abandonment, why no-contact rules and text tricks don’t work, and how to shift your self-concept and energy so that love - whether with them or someone better — has no choice but to come back to you. Inside, you’ll learn:★ Why anxious attachment makes you feel so desperate when they leave ★ The real reason chasing, texting, and overthinking never works ★ How to stop obsessing over them and rewire your self-concept ★ Why changing your energy makes love reflect back to you differently ★ How to embody being chosen, secure, and unforgettable . Want to go deeper?My brand new masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live. . You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love. . ⁠Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠@candicetamara_⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠Click here⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    22 min

  7. 12 SEPT

    Ep 43: The Real Reason They Pull Away (It’s Not What You Think)

    If you have an anxious attachment style and keep finding yourself stuck in painful push-pull dynamics, this episode is going to shift everything. . You keep asking, “Why do they always pull away just when things are going well?” .And the internet keeps telling you “They’re just avoidant.” .But in today’s episode, I’m giving you the real reason they pull away and it’s not what you’ve been told. . I’m walking you through:✨ The micromoment where your anxious energy subtly changes—and starts pushing them away .✨ Why your nervous system is expecting abandonment (and how that expectation gets reflected back) .✨ The reason love feels easy with people you don’t like, but chaotic with the ones you do .✨ The subconscious identity that’s keeping you stuck in hot-and-cold relationships .✨ How to stop abandoning yourself—so they stop abandoning you . We’re not blaming them. We’re not blaming you. We’re taking your power back. .And if you’re ready to finally end the cycle of people pulling away, this episode is your wake-up call. . Want to go deeper? My brand new masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live. . You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love. . Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now . Connect with me on Instagram @candicetamara_ Ways to work with me: Click here . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

    28 min

  8. 25 AUG

    Bonus: Guided Tapping for Anxiety in Love (with Brad Yates)

    This is a special bonus guided tapping session from my full conversation with Brad Yates (Episode 42). . In this 10-minute video session, Brad leads us through tapping for:.✨ Calming anxiety in love and relationships✨ Releasing fear and overthinking✨ Reconnecting with self-worth and peace . For best results, use this tapping everyday for 21-30days for deep transformation. . If you’re listening on Spotify, you can watch the full video here in the app..If you’re listening on Apple or another platform, this will play in audio - but if you’d like to watch and tap along, head to YouTube For the full interview with Brad, go back to Episode 42.

    11 min
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The podcast your inner child wishes you heard sooner. Hosted by trauma and mindset coach Candice Tamara, F*CK TRAUMA* is where cycle-breakers come to heal, rewire their identity, and build relationships that feel safe, secure, and soul-deep. This is your space to stop chasing love, break anxious patterns, and become the version of you who feels chosen—by you first. It’s the show that turns your triggers into triumph—and your pain into personal power. Expect raw stories, powerful mindset shifts, and no-BS truth bombs that hit deeper than therapy. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

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  • Creator
    Candice Tamara
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    54
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Candice Tamara
  • Show Website
    F*CK Trauma Podcast

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