(Formerly The TTC Life Raft)
Making this podcast is one more way I can work on my mission: to empower anyone experiencing a struggle to have a baby. I talk a lot about taking ownership of your fertility experience and for me, this meant building a 'Life Raft' that I clung to when times were particularly hard. Let this podcast be part of yours.
Listen to warm, funny, inspiring and uplifting conversations focussed on bringing you useful tools to cope and hopefully helping you feel less alone and more connected to a community of people who really do get it.
If you like it, then please do subscribe, rate and review, because the more ratings and reviews it has, the more people will find it, hear it and hopefully use it to build their own Life Raft. THANK YOU SO MUCH!
Driving Positive Change and TFMR with Zara Dawson
I feel very humbled to be able to bring you this episode. I recently had this conversation with my friend Zara Dawson. Afterwards, I was really struck by the power of just sitting down with a cuppa, and listening. I hope you'll do the same...
We speak about:
- Zara and Lex's experience of going through a termination for medical reasons
- the positive change Zara is doing so much to drive to support those going through such traumatic loss
- the current lack of representation there is in media; major organisations and within the baby loss and infertility communities and why this must shift now.
"I truly believe if we saw this written about and saw those four letters TFMR - we would feel part of this too. And be acknowledged. That’s all we want."
"You walk into the hospital with a baby kicking away and you walk out with a heart so heavy you feel like you're drowning. You just feel heavy."
"One lady wrote to me and said she asked for support, but her hospital told her ‘we don’t think you’d be welcome in a room with people who didn’t choose to lose their babies’. Change has to happen and it has to start today."
Zara, her husband Lex and their son Jax have been through something no family should have to experience. The revelation that there are more cases of TFMR in the UK than registered stillbirths was really shocking to me and I realised I had a responsibility to help Zara with her mission to open up conversations around it by sharing on this platform.
I urge you to have a listen to this episode, even if you haven't been through TFMR yourself; we talk about how to support someone who has been through it and what you could say and maybe try to avoid as well. Whether or not you know someone who has been through this, it's so important to get these conversations normalised to help those who are there, listening but silent about their losses because of the lack of coverage on this issue.
Zara is open, honest and absolutely driven to help others who desperately need better representation and support and as usual - somehow we managed to have a laugh too...because finding the light in all this is vital to all of us.
My enormous thanks to Zara and family for allowing me to share their experience.
You can find support here:
And contact Zara through Instagram
Live events from Cat and Alice will be running throughout the year
catandalice.com to meet others going through loss or infertility, including our London Night Out on March 14th.
The Rainbow Running Club also hold regular UK wide events too
I am always here to listen too. Feel free to message me on Instagram @thisisalicerose, drop me an email email@example.com or go to my website thisisalicerose.com
Please do share this episode far and wide, subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating or review on Apple if you have a minute or so. Your reviews mean that more people find my work and get the support they need. Sending much love and empathy to all...
Take care, Alice x
The Grief Episode with Zoe Clark Coates
Heads up: we cover miscarriage and loss in this episode, but we also talk about dealing with the unique grief that comes from failed fertility treatment and any difficult path to bringing home a baby.
My guest is grief expert, trained counsellor, author, CEO of the Mariposa Trust and Saying Goodbye, and government advisor: Zoe Clark Coates.
We cover so much in this episode including:
Zoe's story and how it led to the three books she has currently published and...
"the value of communication, talking. Giving grief a language. As a society, we’re really bad at...I understand the power of the written word"
"the significance of a service...a passage of grief. If you're grieving the fact you've never had a child: you are welcome to our services"
-How the culture of dealing with fertility issues and loss is changing through the generations; the work Zoe and her organisation are doing with the NHS to encourage better support; the link between the fertility and loss communities and how we can try to eradicate the idea that one loss is worse than another by recognising that everyone is on a unique path and living their own story.
I'm so happy Zoe has also agreed to gift one of her books on release of this episode, so do go to my instagram (@thisisalicerose) to see how to enter and win. You can find out more about Zoe's organisation at https://www.sayinggoodbye.org/ and find her beautiful books at any good bookshop or online. Find her on instagram too (@zoeadelle).
Take care, A x
What's it like for the Parents: Jen and Eileen
I had the honour of chatting to Jen Roberts and her Mum, Eileen, (back when the weather was a tad less icy!) and it’s one of my favourite podcast episodes yet. Eileen’s insight from a mother’s perspective on what it’s like to watch your child experience infertility, miscarriage, IVF- and then to share it all on Instagram- is just so moving and important. These two are such personalities!! And both are so eloquent.
I hope that lots of parents will get comfort from listening and that maybe this chat will also help you to know that the tricky feelings that come up within families as a result of all this are all really, really normal. Jen and Eileen are so real and authentic. We cover loads here including a difficult decision over what to do for Jen this Christmas with a new baby due any day now in the family.
I would love for you to share this episode and let me know what you think. Jen has had a really hard time recently but was still happy for me to share this in the hope that her truth and honesty would bring comfort to others - I am so grateful for the privilege of being part of this conversation and to be able to share it with you.
Eileen: "I am of an age where instagram is not at the forefront of my being...I started thinking - I wouldn’t have said that! This is so personal and private...I was beside myself that she was 'airing her dirty washing in public'! But the more I read, the more I understood..."
Jen: "the way you respond now is with much more empathy and understanding that I was perceiving was the case before"
Eileen: "If you sat here now and you said: if you had your leg chopped off but in 9 months Jen would have a healthy baby I would say: right...let’s go. I would. Because for me: it’s a trade off I could do, to get her what she wants."
Managing Anxiety and Waiting with Chloe Brotheridge
Chloe Brotheridge is the Anxiety Expert. We talk about lots of different ways we can approach the kind of anxiety that might show up when we're in the middle of waiting for a result; in between cycles of treatment...or just in general. Chloe has been featured in Women’s Health, Glamour, Stylist; she has two books out and coaches people to help them become calmer versions of themselves. We reference (among other stuff!):
TRE (trauma release exercises)
Using 'Shaking' as a way to release tension
The 5 Minute Journal
Eckhart Tolle's 'A New Earth'
Byron Katie 'Your Inner Awakening'
And I also give a shout out to Nicola Salmon from Fat Positive Fertility.
Enjoy this value-packed Life Raft episode!! Please do rate, review and share if you can, EVERY single piece of feedback is so valued and appreciated. Thank you for listening! Alice x
FIND CHLOE: https://www.calmer-you.com/
Podcast: The Calmer You
Plus Chloe's books: The Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl
Kate Meakin- secondary infertility, cancer and style
Hi guys! We're just a few days away from Fertility Week and I share a bit about the BBC work I've been creating and working on behind the scenes in this episode; I also share a wonderful, open and honest conversation with Kate Meakin.
Kate and her husband Phil are trying to have their second child while going through unimaginably trying circumstances after Phil was recently diagnosed with a brain tumour. We cover the difficult assumptions made for anyone experiencing infertility after already having a child; why Kate hosts her brilliant weekly fashion and style hashtag with Keeley (#wednesdaywewear and @_tryingtobeamum_) and how she gets through the really, really hard days.
We also talk about this problem:
'we measure the ability to be compassionate to people with how much they’ve been through; we just need to recognise, it’s relative."
I couldn't agree more with this, but would love to hear your thoughts too? Have a listen and get in touch to let me know; share with your friends and do leave a review or a rating. Each and every one means the world. Thank you! Alice x
Emily Merry: surviving my mental health breakdown
Trigger warning: we talk in quite a lot of detail about miscarriage and the reality of it. Please don't listen if you don't feel able to at this point. Emily is also mum to Arthur and pregnant at the time of recording, so we talk a little bit about her pregnancy too as well as mental health.
My old school friend and I, Emily Merry, sat down and talked all about her journey - we cover a lot. Pre-natal depression, miscarriage, anxiety and a mental health breakdown. We cry, we laugh and we both hope that by doing sharing this conversation between two old pals, we can help to take part in baby loss awareness week, world mental health day and of course, my 'forever mission'...to help connect and normalise fertility issues.
My grateful thanks to my incredibly strong friend for allowing me to share her story.
If you need support, please seek it out: Emily found it through the Samaritans; you can also contact Tommy's, Fertility Network and always reach out online.
I also talk about a new mental health and fertility campaign from the fabulous @laurenifen and @bee_dreams launching on World Mental Health Day 10.10.19.
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Really really really great !
Everything is articulated so well, Thank you for making this podcast. Will recommend to many, very versatile
Alice is great, so empathetic and calming. This podcast is great for those experiencing infertility or family/friends who want to understand more.
Thank you Alice
Yet again, I just love this podcast. I feel really privileged to be able to listen in on these amazing conversations that are so open and honest. They are inspiring and courageous and I cannot thank the people who contribute more.
Alice, you provide a wonderful space and I find you wonderful to listen to.
Thank you so much. This is much a needed podcast for the fertility community and I would recommend it to anyone who is part of this.