👋Hey there! I’m Lauren Lavender, and welcome to Fortunately Relatable. I’m a recovering, burnt out stay at home mom turned successful momtrepreneur. Having navigated this journey firsthand and discovering the sustainability for success, my mission is to help you realize your own goals and give you the necessary tools needed to accomplish them. Let's tackle your goals one episode at at time. You got this. XO, Lauren
3 Ways to improve your self confidence.
Somewhere along the way, someone told you:
“You aren’t good enough."
"You’re not old enough."
"You’re not smart enough."
"You’re not fast enough."
"You’re not strong enough."
"You’re not experienced enough."
"You’re not pretty enough."
"You’re just not enough.”
And I’m here to tell you that those people are wrong.
We are told we aren’t enough, much more than we are told we are.
In fact, you’re told no so much, that it becomes increasingly harder and harder to get a yes from people, because everyone’s knee jerk response is no.
It’s just our culture, and I believe that it comes from the best of intentions.
But in order for you to be successful at anything, you have to check your self confidence.
Do you feel worthiness?
Are you walking around with confidence in yourself regardless of what the outcome is?
Are you willing to go for your goals, even if it means you could fail?
Let's dive into 3 critical ways to improve your self confidence in order to accomplish your goals.
How to deal with anxiety
I know how you’re feeling. I really really do.
You can’t think about anything else.
You’re worried sick about it.
And you’re paralyzed with fear that something is or isn’t going to happen, and it’s consuming you.
I know exactly how you’re feeling, because I have dealt with chronic anxiety my entire life, and I’m here to help you deal with anxiety and ultimately overcome it for good.
According to wikipedia, anxiety is "an emotion characterized by an unpleasant state of inner turmoil, often accompanied by nervous behavior such as pacing back and forth, somatic complaints, and rumination. It includes subjectively unpleasant feelings of dread over anticipated events.
Anxiety is a feeling of uneasiness and worry, usually generalized and unfocused as an overreaction to a situation that is only subjectively seen as menacing. It is often accompanied by muscular tension, restlessness, fatigue and problems in concentration. Anxiety is closely related to fear, which is a response to a real or perceived immediate threat; anxiety involves the expectation of future threat. People facing anxiety may withdraw from situations which have provoked anxiety in the past."
Let’s breakdown this definition even further.
In particular, I want to really dissect the caption, “it includes subjectively unpleasant feelings of dread over anticipated events.”
Essentially, anxiety is a feeling that is created internally, subjectively, over an event that has not even happened yet.
Subjective means “based on or influenced by personal feelings, tastes, or opinions.” It means that is curated by a person’s perception and not necessarily by fact, truth, or law.
Let’s stop there for a minute. When we have anxiety, we are worried about something that has not even happened yet, and we are the only person that is causing this worry to be.
Which means that the power of this feeling and emotion is only in your hands. It is not tied to someone else, it is not brought on by someone else, it is brought on by you.
That means you have the power to overcome your anxiety, and I am here to help you figure out how. Let's dive right in now.
10 Habits of successful people that you can implement immediately
Today is the day.
Today is the day that you are going to drop kick that annoying feeling of failure from your life. In today’s episode, we are going to walk through 10 habits that can make or break your ability to achieve your goals. Here are 10 unambiguous habits that I have learned from my mentors, that will lunge you towards your goals and get you to accomplish them. By implementing these 10 critical steps into your daily routine, you’ll be pimp limping into your goals in no time.
Need even more clarity?
Download my free "Goal Roadmapping Strategy" that I use to accomplish my tasks and goals day in and day out at FortunatelyRelatable.com
As always, reach out to me on social media too. I'm your biggest fan and I want to see you succeed. Let's get you to where you need to be.
12 Steps to accomplish your goals with Tracey Watts Cirino
It's no secret that goals are important.
What's annoyingly a secret, is how to complete every goal that you've set out to do — without letting fear, anxiety, or doubt get in your way.
👉 That's where Tracey Watts Cirino thrives.
She's a master at conquering business goals and helping others achieve them. She's unblocked hundreds of people on building their professional skills and having those skills spill over into their personal goals and lifetime success.
What most people don't know about Tracey, is that she made a promise to herself at 9 years old to become an author and to share her voice. But along the way, she dropped off. Her voice dropped off. Her confidence dropped off. And ultimately, her goals became dreams that were fading off into the distance.
But one day Tracey had an 'aha' moment and jumped into her purpose and said "today is the day, and so I will."
Now, Tracey is a successful author, business coach, podcast host, mom, wife, and mentor to many, many people.
I learned a ton from Tracey and I know you will too. I encourage you to listen with your heart and your head and walk away with tangible skills to get where you need to be today.
I'm rooting for you, always.
Conquering imposter syndrome with Lauren Abrams
Imposter syndrome is real, but it doesn't have to be.
Meet Lauren Abrams.
She's a badass workers rights lawyer, a business owner, a podcast host, and fulltime mom.
But Lauren wasn't always this accoladed. Lauren had to get here, and it took battling imposter syndrome head on to get where she is today.
I wanted to hear more about Lauren's story, how she battled imposter syndrome, and what she does to maintain success.
Want to know more about her? Reach out to her on https://www.52weeksofhope.com/.
How to motivate yourself.
Motivation is defined as the reason why you do something. When you understand your why, you’ll be unstoppable. 💯
I never fully understood burnout until I became a mom.
Pre-baby me, was motivating myself, but I didn’t realize that my motivation came in sprints. I would motivate myself with upcoming events, or outfits, or short-term goals that really aren't sustainable. I would put in a little bit of effort and got the most out of it, but when it came to post-baby me, and I entered into a new season of my life, I realized that my old habits of motivating myself no longer suited me and I needed to re-learn how to motivate myself for a sustainable long term gain.
Now, post-kid, I basically have to get up and do a whole TED convention with myself to stay motivated and satisfied at this almost ideal weight so that I don’t go flying off the handle and wish that I had my pre-baby body back. But it’s worth it because this new season has taught me so much about motivation and what it takes to combat burnout.
Motivation is directly related to clarity. When you can see clearly, you can perform efficiently.
If you make it a mission to check in with yourself regularly and to not be afraid to make changes to your life - even if that means an entirely new daily routine - then the burnout will never come, and motivation will stay king.
If that means waking up an hour or two earlier than usual to get that morning workout in, do it. If that means doing things the night before so that you can sleep longer for more brain power, do it.
If that means deleting a few people from your life because they no longer serve you, buh bye friends, do it.
Serve yourself first, align your priorities, and you’ll be motivated to do anything.
Becoming motivated and staying motivated means regularly checking in with yourself and doing some seasonal cleaning of your habits and your actions.
My challenge for you this episode is this:
Sit down with yourself, or stand up, or drive or wherever you do your best thinking, go there, and ask yourself “what are my values, what season am I in, are all of my habits serving me well within this season, and is there anything that i need to do to shift or pivot and make adjustments in order to meet my goals?”
Once you answer those questions for yourself, you’ll have a roadmap on what you need to do and how you need to get there, and you've just unleashed the sustainable motivation that you need. 🙌
You got this.