33 episodes

Many of us believe it’s always wrong, and bad for us, to hold a grudge. But what if our grudges, when handled correctly, can be positively good for us and for others? What if grudges are actually great — not a cause for guilt, but exactly what we need to lead a happier, safer, more fulfilled life? Join internationally bestselling crime writer and grudge-holder extraordinaire Sophie Hannah to find out all about the power of grudges to transform your life for the better and to make the world a more peaceful and compassionate place.

How To Hold A Grudge Sophie Hannah

    • Alternative Health

Many of us believe it’s always wrong, and bad for us, to hold a grudge. But what if our grudges, when handled correctly, can be positively good for us and for others? What if grudges are actually great — not a cause for guilt, but exactly what we need to lead a happier, safer, more fulfilled life? Join internationally bestselling crime writer and grudge-holder extraordinaire Sophie Hannah to find out all about the power of grudges to transform your life for the better and to make the world a more peaceful and compassionate place.

    S3 Episode 10 - Dame Agatha's Grudges

    S3 Episode 10 - Dame Agatha's Grudges

    Sophie is joined by psychotherapist and fellow Agatha Christie superfan Helen Acton to discuss grudges — valid/reasonable and invalid/unreasonable — in the novels of Agatha Christie, the Queen of Crime. Also in this episode: the beauty of three-layered puzzle solutions, the Insufficient Poirot Content grudge some fans have about novels like Cat Among the Pigeons and After the Funeral, and Sophie reveals her grudge-related theory about why Murder on the Orient Express and And Then There Were None are Agatha's two most popular and beloved books.

    • 58 min
    S3 Episode 9b - The Cultural Artefact

    S3 Episode 9b - The Cultural Artefact

    Sophie is joined by award-winning, bestselling novelist Naomi Alderman for this special bonus episode. They discuss the popular misconceptions that give rise to that widespread phenomemon, the Misunderstanding-of-Loyalty Grudge, and what loyalty truly means in a grudge-holding context. Also in this episode: when couples separate and friends pick a grudge side, why it's always grudgeworthy to write insulting blog posts about your best friends, and a grudgey dilemma involving a potentially devastating but brilliant cultural artefact.

    • 1 hr 3 min
    S3 Episode 9 - Against My Better Grudgement

    S3 Episode 9 - Against My Better Grudgement

    Being judgemental is bad, we tend to think, but using our judgement is essential. So how do we distinguish between good judging and bad judging? Having a lower opinion of some people than others has to be okay, surely, even if one's aim and wish is to be all-forgiving and grudge-free. Sophie and Helen Acton discuss the ways in which our own ethics and opinions in relation to infidelity and meat-eating, among other things, can influence how lenient/empathetic we're able to be where those issues are involved.

    • 51 min
    S3 Episode 8 - The Newcomer

    S3 Episode 8 - The Newcomer

    There's always room for a newcomer — a new grudge type — in the Periodic Table of Grudge Categories. After a new TV crime drama attracts hundreds of comments that strike fear into Sophie's heart, she tries to find a name for this emerging grudge in order to classify it accurately. Also in this episode, Sophie plays a newly invented grudge game, Judge That Grudge, with poet Nic Aubury and psychotherapist Helen Acton. Grudge types receiving judgemental scrutiny include: people turning up on time instead of realising you'd love it if they were a bit late, and passive aggressive CC-ing of senior colleagues into work emails.

    • 45 min
    S3 Episode 7 - The Messenger

    S3 Episode 7 - The Messenger

    We all know messengers sometimes get shot. When is telling — passing on an unwelcome or upsetting message — grudgeworthy, and when is it worse to withhold or hide information in order to spare someone's feelings? If you know that a close friend's partner is cheating on them, should you tell them? Sophie and psychotherapist Helen Acton debate the moral ramifications of being the messenger, and discuss whether Sophie was right or wrong to say nothing about a vicious and vitriolic email she recently received from the angry mother of a teenage girl...

    • 46 min
    S3 Episode 6 - Grudges, Boundaries and The Manual

    S3 Episode 6 - Grudges, Boundaries and The Manual

    Sophie and Podcast Grudge-Poet Laureate Nic Aubury discuss those grudges that we might not need to hold if only we were better at creating and sticking to personal boundaries. If we're so busy people-pleasing that we allow ourselves to do things we hate in order to placate others, isn't that our fault rather than theirs? Also in this episode: what does American life coach Brooke Castillo have to say about boundaries and the 'manuals' we have in our minds for how other people should behave, and do Sophie and Nic agree with her?

    • 38 min

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I just enjoyed your talk in Taunton, and have downloaded all of them if they are anything like tonight it’s a must listen to! Cleaver, funny and very well said.

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How to hold a grudge podcast

I found this really interesting ,it’s really great Sophie hearing about a different way to look at grudges and look forward to hearing the other episodes of this prickly subject , maybe it will give me some tips .
I have just listened to episode 2 of the podcast and really enjoyed it. Also like the poems that were included, I find this very interesting and a refreshing new way of looking at the grudges we all hold .

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