Inspiring Women in Business Ruth Gilbey

Most of us are programmed to focus on making improvements for our weaknesses that we tend to forget to value what we are good at and what we love doing. What we think is productive can sometimes make us too exhausted and that holds us back from succeeding.
In this episode, Louise Miller talks about compassionate, sustainable productivity and its five pillars. She also shares her experiences and some advice for people who are starting and growing their businesses.
 
Key takeaways from this episode:
Productivity is about doing what's important, as efficiently as you can or as effectively as you can, to create space for what you love. When we take a break our brain can still process things in the background and come up with all the creative solutions to problems. When starting a business, a sustainable approach is to first know about yourself and to pay attention to what feels right for you. Give yourself space to think and plan when you are growing your business. Think about the freedom that getting help is going to give you and how you can then get playful and creative and do incredible things.

The Five Pillars of Compassionate, Sustainable Productivity
1. Vision
Having a vision is an important starting point to knowing what is important.
2. Goals
The goals you set should be aligned with your visions and should motivate you.
3. Organization and Planning
You should make sure that you have plans that will move you in the direction of your goals.
 4. Awareness
You should pay attention to how we are using our resources to get stuff done.
5. Habits
Building supportive habits will set you up for success.
 
Episode Timeline:
00:04 Intro
01:22 Episode Intro
01:48 What help Louise Miller offers to business owners
03:00 How Louise ended up in her business
06:39 The society’s idea of success
08:04 Louise’s definition of compassionate, sustainable productivity
09:31 The five pillars of compassionate, sustainable productivity.
15:12 Valuing the things that we love doing
18:30 The overwhelming idea of having too many ideas
19:16 Planning in a flexible way
21:15 Advice for starting business owners.
22:34 Advice for people who are growing their business.
24:48 Give yourself permission to get help. 
25:38 How to find more bout Louis.
26:21 Outro
 
About Our Guest:
Louise Miller is the woman behind bettylouonline.com. She works with busy, successful business owners who want to run a fulfilling business without burning out. She helps them to get stuff done with less stress and more ease, so they can create space for the things they love. 
 
Connect with Louise Miller here:
Website: https://www.bettylouonline.com
LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/louisemiller-bettylou
Workbook: https://www.bettylouonline.com/inspiringwomen



Book Recommendation: Be A Free Range Human by Marianne Cantwell
https://www.beafreerangehuman.com
 
More about Ruth:
Hi, I’m Ruth, a business coach specializing in helping freelancers and business owners adjust their mindset and their marketing so they can get fully booked with clients they LOVE to work with. I’ve helped hundreds of self-employed women achieve the time and money freedom they craved.
I’ve started this podcast because when I first went all in and left the corporate world to be a freelancer, I was grateful for any work that came my way. After over 20 years of freelancing and working for other people, I started to realize I’d created a glass ceiling for myself.
In 2017, I finally started listening to that voice that had been telling me for a long time that I wasn’t doing what I loved and fulfilling my true potential.  It took a critical illness to give me that wake-up call.  I don’t want the same to happen to you.
You can expect practical advice, inspiring stories, and a lot of aha moments as we uncover and kick to the curb all the obstacles you have been putting in your way.
I’m on a mission to inspire women to start and pl

If we have the ability to do everything, there will not be a journey and there will not be a story.  However, if we permit ourselves to fail, that is experience and that is life.
In this episode, Ruth Gilbey discusses imposter syndrome, how to overcome it, and grow in confidence. It is a popular topic because many people suffer from it. Ruth will share four steps to combat this.
Listen up and learn!
 
Key takeaways from this episode:
85%of people suffer from imposter syndrome. There is no shame in suffering from imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome could be a sign that you are pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone. The more you do something, the less imposter syndrome you will feel. Be honest about what you don’t know. We can't be good at everything or know everything we learn and unlearn all the time. Think about the people who need your help. Permit yourself to learn by failing. Success is about a series of failures a lot of the time.  
Episode Timeline:
00:04 Intro
01:09 Episode Intro
01:45 The percentage of people who suffer from imposter syndrome.
02:20 What is imposter syndrome?
03:20 Famous women who suffer from imposter syndrome.
04:45 What made Ruth realize that she is suffering from imposter syndrome.
06:31 Imposter syndrome as a sign of leveling up.
06:31 Imposter syndrome is natural and human.
07:41 Being honest about where you currently are.
08:07 Focusing on who you can help.
09:12 Permitting yourself to fail.
09:34 The lesson that Ruth learned being a converted perfectionist.
10:17 Recap
11:09 Outro







More about Ruth:
Hi, I’m Ruth, a business coach specializing in helping freelancers and business owners adjust their mindset and their marketing so they can get fully booked with clients they LOVE to work with. I’ve helped hundreds of self-employed women achieve the time and money freedom they craved.
I’ve started this podcast because when I first went all in and left the corporate world to be a freelancer, I was grateful for any work that came my way. After over 20 years of freelancing and working for other people, I started to realize I’d created a glass ceiling for myself.
In 2017, I finally started listening to that voice that had been telling me for a long time that I wasn’t doing what I loved and fulfilling my true potential.  It took a critical illness to give me that wake-up call.  I don’t want the same to happen to you.
You can expect practical advice, inspiring stories, and a lot of aha moments as we uncover and kick to the curb all the obstacles you have been putting in your way.
I’m on a mission to inspire women to start and play bigger in business.
 
Connect and know more about Ruth Gilbey here:
Coaching: https://www.ruthgilbey.com/coaching
Free stuff: https://www.ruthgilbey.com/next-client
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ruthgilbeymarketingandcoaching/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruth_gilbey/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruthgilbey/

Pretty much anyone can start a membership business, but what does it really take to start? Also, knowing that there’s a lot of memberships and competition out there, what would be the key to having a successful one? 
In this episode, Callie Willows of The Membership Geeks talks about how she ended up with the business that she is doing now. She will also give a lot of advice on having a successful membership business from starting it to retaining it as it evolves through the years.
 
Key takeaways from this episode:
Anyone can start a membership, but whether everyone should is another matter.  Memberships are more of a slow build, and you need to be in it for the long haul and committed to that. So it's a marathon, not a sprint. Anybody can start a membership but you need to go into it with the right mindset, the right idea, and the right kind of approach to what you're going to be offering. You don't need a big audience, but you do need an audience, you need somebody that you are going to launch to. The smaller your audience is, the more realistic you need to be about the kind of numbers that you're going to get and the growth you're going to get from the start. People join memberships more for convenience because they can get everything in one place and they can be more guaranteed of a result and extra support. It isn't just about the content; It's about helping someone get success and support getting there. There's always going to be competition for anything, so the key to having a successful membership, even if it is a saturated market, is to work out what your thing is. Memberships evolve over time so start as simple as possible. You can't have a successful membership if you're focusing only on getting new members in, you've got to go into it being passionate about actually supporting people, helping people get results, and providing the best membership experience possible. There are 100 different pathways to success and you need to do what lights you up and what makes your tail wag.  
Episode Timeline:
00:04 Intro
01:32 Episode Intro
02:05 About Callie Willows' business
02:47 How Callie ended up with the business that she has today.
07:27 Callie's work with her business partner.
08:33 Who is right and not right for a membership.
10:31 The need for an audience to start a membership.
11:50 What to give away for free in the membership.
15:29 The competition in the industry of memberships.
17:09 Callie's advice about starting a membership.
19:27 Advice to someone who is a new business owner.
20:47 How can people find Callie and The Membership Geeks.
21:21 Outro
 
About our guest:
Callie Willows is the Co-Founder of the Membership Geeks together with her partner, Mike Morrison. She began her entrepreneurship journey when she was 19 years old and she created her first membership site for her first business. This led her to help people create their own membership sites and eventually started the Membership Academy.
 
Connect and know more about  Callie and her business here:
https://www.membershipgeeks.com
https://www.instagram.com/calliewillows



More about Ruth:
Hi, I’m Ruth, a business coach specializing in helping freelancers and business owners adjust their mindset and their marketing so they can get fully booked with clients they LOVE to work with. I’ve helped hundreds of self-employed women achieve the time and money freedom they craved.
 
I’ve started this podcast because when I first went all in and left the corporate world to be a freelancer, I was grateful for any work that came my way. After over 20 years of freelancing and working for other people, I started to realize I’d created a glass ceiling for myself.
 
In 2017, I finally started listening to that voice that had been telling me for a long time that I wasn’t doing what I loved and fulfilling my true potential.  It took a critical illness to give me that wake-up call.  I don’t want the same to hap

A lot of business owners sometimes feel like giving up because they want to get to the end destination without going through the foundational things of the business. What they don't know is that once they have these business foundations in place, their business is going to fly.
This episode is all about the importance of business foundations. I explain what these foundations are and some of the steps that you can take to get those foundations in place.
Listen and let’s build our business the right way.
 
Key takeaways from this episode:
Starting, running, and growing your business is an ongoing process. Slow and steady wins the race Foundational things aren't going to get you success overnight, but they do work. Implement and take action as you are learning. 6 Business Foundations Most Business Owners Skip
Choosing and planning the business that you really want. Getting more specific and niching. Get clear on who you want to work with. Learning how to speak with your ideal client, in person, on e-mails, and on your website. Creating offers and services that you want to offer. Prioritizing having a website 90% of the time.  
Episode Timeline:
00:04 Intro
01:08 Episode Intro
01:53 Business as an ongoing process
01:54 Enjoying the business journey and slowing it down
03:23 Business foundations build business momentum 
05:12 Planning for the business that you want
06:07 Niching
06:42 Knowing and understanding ideal clients
07:30 Speaking to your clients
07:58 Having a website
08:26 Recap of 6 business foundations
11:25 What's stopping people from doing these foundational things
14:26 Outro
 
More about Ruth:
Hi, I’m Ruth, a business coach specializing in helping freelancers and business owners adjust their mindset and marketing so they can get fully booked with clients they LOVE to work with. I’ve helped hundreds of self-employed women achieve the time and money freedom they craved.
I’ve started this podcast because when I first went all in and left the corporate world to be a freelancer, I was grateful for any work that came my way. After over 20 years of freelancing and working for other people, I started to realize I’d created a glass ceiling for myself.
In 2017, I finally started listening to that voice that had been telling me for a long time that I wasn’t doing what I loved and fulfilling my true potential.  It took a critical illness to give me that wake-up call.  I don’t want the same to happen to you.
You can expect practical advice, inspiring stories, and a lot of aha moments as we uncover and kick to the curb all the obstacles you have been putting in your way.
I’m on a mission to inspire women to start and play bigger in business.
 
 
Connect and know more about Ruth Gilbey here:
Coaching: https://www.ruthgilbey.com/coaching
Free stuff: https://www.ruthgilbey.com/next-client
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ruthgilbeymarketingandcoaching/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruth_gilbey/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruthgilbey/

Is it really all in the mind? Are we being compassionate and kinder to ourselves if we numb our negative feelings and just keep on going to achieve success?   In this episode, I interview Jacqui Acree and she enlightens us about Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or commonly called tapping. She also shares about the self-help industry, the good and the bad. 
 
It’s a great episode. Have a listen.



KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE
 
Remember to be aware of what our body is telling us. It is not just about positive thinking, working harder, and pushing through.
 
Failure is a necessary part of success. It's not a failure on one side and success on the other, and you only get one. Failure is part of the experience of success, it's a journey, and you hit failure along the way.
 
Self-sabotage is a form of protection. When we look at it like that, we can begin to honor its intent and then let it go. 
 
It's so important to be able to permit yourself to feel and feel the things that you feel.
 
When we numb some feelings, we actually numb all of them. If you numb the "negative feelings" like anxiety, fear, disappointment, we are also numbing joy, maybe pleasure in some way.
 
Visualizing a hard thing is going to catalyze a stress response in your body. When our body is stressed, it will go to fight or flight, we lose access to our rational perspective, logical brain. And we need those to show up and shine in life, whether business or life in general.
 
Procrastination is always a stress response.
 
Emotional Freedom Techniques, commonly called tapping, is a blend of acupressure and psychology. 
 
Emotional Freedom Techniques or tapping can help us go through what our bodies really feel. It helps us better transition to what steps we should take next to achieve our goals.



Episode Timeline:
 
00:00 Episode Intro
00:40 Intro
02:01 About Jacqui Acree
03:37 How Jacqui ended up with her business today
07:10 Jacqui’s key messages for people about Gaslit
13:54 How numbing negative feelings also numb all feelings
16:31 The importance of honoring the journey instead of exclusively focusing on the big goal
19:33 How tapping helped Jacqui notice what she’s feeling and allowed it
26:31 Our body’s stress response when visualizing a hard thing we need to undergo to reach a goal
28:55 About Emotional Freedom Techniques or tapping
30:36 The first time Jacqui used tapping
36:15 Jacqui’s take on over-identifying our thoughts and feelings as ourselves
38:42 Transitioning from the feelings of self-doubt
43:04 How often people should use tapping
44:33 Jacqui’s last piece of advice to listeners
45:40 How to connect with Jacqui
47:42 Outro



About our guest:
 
Jacqui Acree is an EFT tapping Practitioner. Her mission is to empower entrepreneurial mamas to silence their inner critic, release perfectionism, and recover from goal trauma so that they can parent and lead with love and power. She uses a science-based practice (tapping) which stimulates the body’s energy points so you can experience physical relief, emotional wellness and feel at ease. 
 
Connect and know more about  Jacqui and here:
https://experience.jacquiacree.com
https://www.instagram.com/jacquiacree



More about Ruth:
 
Hi, I’m Ruth, a business coach specializing in helping freelancers and business owners adjust their mindset and marketing so they can get fully booked with clients they LOVE to work with. I’ve helped hundreds of self-employed women achieve the time and money freedom they craved.
 
I’ve started this podcast because when I first went all in and left the corporate world to be a freelancer, I was grateful for any work that came my way. After over 20 years of freelancing and working for other people, I started to realize I’d created a glass ceiling for myself.
 
In 2017, I finally started listening to that voice that had been telling me for a long time that I wasn’t

Is it necessarily bad to feel envious or jealous?  Should we really be ashamed of these emotions? Or do they give us a clue of what we truly desire to take action on them? International Women's Day is happening this month and today, I really wanted to do an episode around working collaboratively, supporting each other, and empowering other women, which is a huge value of mine. But as I started to write this episode I wanted to talk about more about the days when you don’t feel like that. In this episode, I talked about the best reframe for envy of comparisonitis that would make room for effectively collaborating and supporting others.
 
Key takeaways from this episode:
Collaborating rather than competing means you really believe there's enough out there for everyone. 
People can support each other without any agenda.
It's normal to feel envious or compare yourself but you can always strive to be the best version of yourself.
When you envy someone, you don't necessarily want to take something away from them or wish something bad for them, you envy what they have or how they got it.
Jealousy is something you can be curious about or something you can explore.
Our emotions make us aware of what we truly desire and we can take action on those desires.
When you truly allow yourself to explore your feelings, be human, and be curious about what emotion or belief is telling you then you can make more room for abundance, collaboration, generosity, and supporting others.
 
Episode Timeline:
0:04 Intro
1:20 Episode Intro
1:50 Collaborating rather than competing
2:28 The joy of supporting and collaborating with others
4:21 Days we don't feel at our best
7:13 The feeling of envy isn't necessarily bad
9:20 The best reframe for comparisonitis
10:12 Why we feel ashamed of being jealous or envious.
11:07 How we can make more room for abundance, collaboration, generosity, and supporting others.
11:59 Outro



More about Ruth:
Hi, I’m Ruth, a business coach specializing in helping freelancers and business owners adjust their mindset and their marketing so they can get fully booked with clients they LOVE to work with. I’ve helped hundreds of self-employed women achieve the time and money freedom they craved.
I’ve started this podcast because when I first went all in and left the corporate world to be a freelancer, I was grateful for any work that came my way. After over 20 years of freelancing and working for other people, I started to realize I’d created a glass ceiling for myself.
In 2017, I finally started listening to that voice that had been telling me for a long time that I wasn’t doing what I loved and fulfilling my true potential.  It took a critical illness to give me that wake-up call.  I don’t want the same to happen to you.
You can expect practical advice, inspiring stories, and a lot of aha moments as we uncover and kick to the curb all the obstacles you have been putting in your way.
I’m on a mission to inspire women to start and play bigger in business.
Connect and know more about Ruth Gilbey here:
Coaching: https://www.ruthgilbey.com/coaching
Free stuff: https://www.ruthgilbey.com/next-client
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ruthgilbeymarketingandcoaching/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruth_gilbey/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruthgilbey/