65 episodes

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life and marriage.

Revealing covert abusive communication that takes away your power. Learn to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse before you are dragged in to their game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Download the guide at loveandabuse.com.

Love and Abuse Paul Colaianni

    • Mental Health
    • 4.2 • 17 Ratings

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life and marriage.

Revealing covert abusive communication that takes away your power. Learn to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse before you are dragged in to their game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Download the guide at loveandabuse.com.

    If you've tried everything to stop the hurtful behavior, what's next?

    If you've tried everything to stop the hurtful behavior, what's next?

    You've tried talking with them, expressing your hurt or unhappiness, but they still don't seem to want to change their behavior.

    If you've done what you can, what is the next step? Emotionally abusive behavior is not something you should live with, but many do. It might be time to consider all your options.

    • 51 min
    Sometimes things need to be perfectly lined up to make the big decisions about the relationship

    Sometimes things need to be perfectly lined up to make the big decisions about the relationship

    There's a point of either intoleration or breakdown that you sometimes have to reach in order to finally make a decision that you need to make about a toxic relationship. When that moment comes, it can be scary. There can be a lot on the line. In this episode, I talk about what needs to happen in order for you to be in the right state of mind to make the big, scary decisions you might need to make for yourself.

    • 51 min
    Understanding the addict in the manipulative relationship

    Understanding the addict in the manipulative relationship

    Dealing with a manipulative relationship is bad enough, but what happens when the person doing the bad behavior is also dealing with addiction? Is addiction the reason for the emotionally abusive behavior?

    Learn to understand your role in an addict's life. Some don't do bad behavior when they're not doing their addiction. Some do. What you learn to accept is what makes the difference between feeling okay with an addict, feeling trapped with one, or realizing you have no choice but to leave.

    • 34 min
    Should you try harder to please the emotionally abusive person?

    Should you try harder to please the emotionally abusive person?

    One of the constants I've seen over and over again in emotionally abusive relationships is when the victim tries harder to please an unpleasable person. No matter what they do or how hard they try, the hurtful and unkind person will remind them in many ways that it's still not enough.

    For more episodes visit loveandabuse.com

    • 26 min
    How the emotional abuser takes your empowerment tools away from you

    How the emotional abuser takes your empowerment tools away from you

    What is one of the most effective forms of emotional abuse? When the abusive person takes everything that empowers you away from you. All your tools and resources become their tools to use you and hurt you. When that happens, you feel like there's nothing left for you to do.

    This is an important episode. I hope you get a chance to tune in. For more episodes, visit https://loveandabuse.com

    • 16 min
    Glossing over the first detail in an argument will make it fall apart fast

    Glossing over the first detail in an argument will make it fall apart fast

    The first important point in a growing argument might be the most important one. If it gets glossed over, the person trying to express what they're experiencing might feel invalidated. From that moment on, the point is lost and the conversation can spiral into anger & upset with no closure in sight.

    If that's happening to you, this episode may help you stop the glossing over so that you don't get left behind in what could turn into a productive conversation.

    • 47 min

Customer Reviews

4.2 out of 5
17 Ratings

17 Ratings

Ruth Brand ,

Didn’t understand the depth of abuse at all

In the episode ‘don’t dismiss the red flags’ the speaker spoke as if a victim of emotional abuse could just confront their partner about what’s happening, when in reality the abuser is so terrifying and controlling that you cannot. If you speak up there are serious consequences and your safety is at risk. I didn’t feel connected to a man talking either. He seemed to trivialize the manipulation and shockingly he compared it to be mis-sold a warranty in a shop, which is absolutely ridiculous and offensive to women who have been under horrific manipulation. The people who run this podcast should do their homework and have speakers who have actually experienced abuse. Considering that in most cases the victims are women, it makes me feel more safe to hear a women talking about it too. This guy completely missed the point and I actually worry that someone experiencing abuse would listen to this and not realise the severity of what they’re going through. Please be more conscious and aware. This is such a serious issue affecting many women all over the world.

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