This show speaks about finding & keeping love in your personal & professional life.
Loving who we are, having loving relationships and loving what we do for a living are essential ingredients to experiencing a happy and successful life. How we achieve that is told in examples through interviews with others who have struggled with life's biggest questions. We also hear about the host's experiences over the course of more than 20 years helping others in transition after an involuntary job loss.
We hear how "losses" trigger introspection and a consideration of how we might better meet our needs once we are in touch with our unique personal motivations. If help is required in identifying those personal needs, we can take advantage of professional assessment tools.
We all seek to be happy and most of us desire a successful career or worklife. Recognizing how love plays such a prominent role is sometimes a surprise, but mostly, we intrinsically know and understand that this is true. We just may not have articulated it precisely in that manner.
Come and listen to hear how we are all truly connected in our time here!
As we look out into the world, it's so easy to lament the loss of things we thought we had. For example, I thought we had conquered racism. No, not every single bit of it, but I saw us living peacefully together as one, no longer mired in the horrors that I once saw reported in the news and depicted in movies on the screen. I only knew of it, never was witness to any violent behavior that we would characterize as racism. The closest I came was in hearing people refer to others in unappealing ways, mostly due to their character and not their race alone.
So I keep going back, in my mind, to what is this injustice here to reflect back to us about what are we doing to ourselves for ourselves. Because I am of the belief that things happen for us not to us, I keep considering the message.
To me, COVID's message has something to do with our separation, our division, we need to stay "distant." Well, isn't that what got us there in the first place?
The more we insist on our division, separation from one another, the more we consider our differences rather than our oneness, being separated is what we will have. It's not far-fetched to draw these connections and conclusions. It makes total sense. It's like the universe is saying to us, okay, so you're separate, then being socially distant and cut off from the opportunity to connect intimately with conversation, sharing a meal, and celebrating holidays and joyous occasions won't be a problem! It's what you want, isn't it? But that's what was evident in your thoughts and actions!
Change our thoughts and we change the world! What world do you want to live in, the one guided by Love or Fear?
Joined in Our Humanity
Which challenge are you most disturbed by right now? Is it the riot that occurred at the Capitol, where a mob mentality resulted in causing devastating damage? Is it your mental health that has been taxed with personal issues on top of a global pandemic? Maybe it's just the pandemic itself, that pushed you out of work and out of business? Perhaps you feel strongly that you are being lied to and controlled by those in this country's leadership? You lack trust and do not feel that anyone is listening, that your voice is not being heard.
Just writing the litany of our recent issues makes me feel a sense of gloom and doom. But here's why we can't and shouldn't give in to the hopelessness that may arise in us: We have every right to expect that change is not only possible but probable.
Who is it up to?
Each and every one of us has the power to change our circumstances and be a part of the solution. Find it in your heart to remain open. As Michael Singer, the author, tells us: Do not let anything to close your heart. He says that closing your heart blocks your energy flow, which is how you are a source of light for all those around you.
Another of my favorite quotes by Booker T. Washington: "I shall allow no man to belittle my soul by making me hate him." That (hating) would be a perfect example of closing your heart!
There is so much more that unites us than divides us. What does it take to convince us?
Attitude is Everything
We don't realize how powerful we really are! We think that our lives reflect what others think about us and do to us, but that isn't true. We are in charge of our lives; we are responsible for the results we experience. This is not speculation or theory, it is real and true. And it's great news!
Depending on how we respond to good and bad events, we either learn from them or we get discouraged, often giving up the possibility of ever trying again.
We want love in our lives and we can keep love, but it does depend on how we choose to hold our experiences. We have a choice in how we respond to all that happens.
Thoreau said, "What lies before us and what lies behind us are small matters compared to what lies within us. And when we bring what is within out into the world, miracles happen."
A Case in Point
Many of us enjoy movies with a message. Since it's Christmas time, I was reminded of my own joy in watching old Holiday movies that remind me of valuable life lessons. Two of the best ones, as far as I am concerned, are A Christmas Carol and It's a Wonderful Life.
When we first meet George Bailey, the protagonist of It's a Wonderful Life, we can't help but like him. He is an ethical, hard-working son from a good family, who happens to save his brother's life.
One of the first things we learn about George is that his passion is world travel. He is an "explorer" at a very young age and just can't wait to spread his wings to travel the globe. It's all he talks about. His determination held out even as a brief tragedy, the death of his father, delayed him. His younger brother gets to pursue his dreams ahead of him.
By now, viewers are feeling a bit sad and frustrated on behalf of this super guy. We want him to have his dream, to get out of Dodge and see the world.
But his plans are once again dashed when he falls in love with a local girl. Between that wrench and the dilemma of "doing the right thing" by his Dad's legacy, he settles into a life of domesticity and small-town existence. He doesn't even get to have his thoughtfuly planned honeymoon!
George's life bears little resemblance to what he may have envisioned, so is what happened his true purpose? Or did his life's meaning take a detour? How are we to assess his life, other than by the results that unfold and demonstrate his value to so many? How else could his true purpose be revealed other than precisely how it did? ?
Living and Dying With Regrets
Does everyone live the life that is "intended" for them, even when it doesn't look that way? Or do some of us get that wrong, and have to repeat our lessons in the next life?
We often hear it said that the life we have is full of intention. Our purpose is evident in the unfolding of our time here. What happens is prescribed for the unique evolution of our souls.
But then we have examples of those with whom we are familiar, living lives of quiet desperation. Are we to believe that this was their prescription? Did they really come here to suffer in a particular way that gets them the limited progress intended for them this time, which they then must continue in their next life?
We all experience suffering; it's part of the human condition. But it does appear to be true that while some seem to get it quite right, others appear horribly off track. It is often the case that these folks admit to being off the mark; they're not happy.
Maybe, no matter what it looks like, life is as it should be for each of us. If we feel an "imbalance," maybe we are using the wrong evaluation criteria. Maybe, it all gets balanced, with sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. Maybe it doesn't matter a hill of beans, because this experience, where we believe we separated from our Source, isn't true at all. What we need is to come to that conclusion on our own, though, even if true.
No one is spared suffering but perhaps much of it is a matter of choice and perception.
Passion and Purpose
Passion leads to purpose, so does this mean that if I don't know my passion, there is no purpose to my life? Of course not!
Viktor Frankl wrote, " Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose." This is a reminder that no matter what our life circumstance is, we will be okay, but if we fail to be and do what was intended for us to be and do, our lives will become unbearable.
Discovering what we love to do, what we're good at, and what we are noted for, gives hints to our passions. And doing that work will reveal our purpose in a direct way. It will answer that question about why you were born.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said that "good luck is another name for tenacity of purpose." Keep your eye on the ball of your intention to live your purpose and "luck" will seem to find you.
After you define your purpose, blend your talent or gifts with service to your world and you live with love in your life every single day. It's the only way to live!