Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?”
After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he’s wondering how to know when he has healed…
And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce?
I answer him by explaining that it’s a complicated question, because everyone’s situation is so different… But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed.
What’s that one thing you ask? That’s why you’ve got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Today I talk to Ann from Maryland, who struggles with emotionally overreacting.




Due to some prior hurts and past relationships, she finds herself triggered by situations that probably have more to do with her past than they do with her present. She’s having a hard time not overreacting in situations of conflict, and wants to figure out why as well as how to react and respond appropriately.




She is afraid to push people away due to her emotional reactions, and she called into the hotline to get some help!




I help her navigate some of these triggers, and learn to react in emotionally healthy ways instead… It’s a really insightful conversation! If you’ve ever felt triggered in conflict, you need to listen to this episode!












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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Today on the podcast I talk with Benjamin from Washington. Benjamin is navigating his life post divorce… wanting to find an emotionally safe environment for himself moving forward and wondering how to do that.




We spend a lot of time talking about the fact that emotional safety isn’t something that you necessarily “find” as much as it is something you have to create with intentionality. I help him get to the root of some of his emotional needs, and why it took him so long to identify those needs.




We chat about our own role in cultivating emotional safety, and what that looks like in a practical way in our relationships.




If you want to create an emotionally healthy relationship, this episode will encourage you!




Tune in to this powerful conversation!












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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with a woman who is struggling with some underlying anxiety about dating!




She’s having a hard time figuring out if the fears she’s having are legitimate or not!




Do I have anxiety because this dating relationship isn’t the right fit or do I have anxiety because I’m just scared?




And how do you know the difference? Today we talk about facing your fears, recognizing false alarms, important mindset shifts, and dealing with underlying anxiety in dating!




Tune in to this powerful conversation today!












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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Am I over my divorce? Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Jerrod who is wondering if he’s actually moved on from the pain of his divorce. He’s battling feelings of regret from the decisions he’s made in his past, and feeling unable to move forward.




In this emotional conversation, we unpack some of the things that he did to contribute to his marriage falling apart…including his personal sexual struggles— and then I give him steps that he can begin to take to move forward into healing.




Tune in to this powerful conversation today!












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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Today I chat with Rebekah from Florida about how to navigate an unhealthy marriage, especially when you have children, who you are trying to raise in a healthy way!




The most interesting part about my conversation with Rebekah is that by the time I was able to get to her question, things had already began to shift in her life!!!




She started consuming my podcast and my books, and realized that a huge portion to creating a healthy marriage was learning how to get healthy standing alone… And she got started on her own journey of healing!!




Honestly, I was so inspired and encouraged by my conversation with her… And it’s a testament to the fact that when you begin to do the personal work in your life, things begin to shift in your life!!! You are not going to believe her story!! It brought tears to my eyes.




For anyone who is in the middle of an unhealthy or difficult marriage, I believe this conversation will give you hope and the perspective you need to take the next steps — even if your spouse is not willing to do the same.




Tune in today!












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Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! 








DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!