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My name is Mark Groves, and I'm obsessed with understanding human behaviour and why we do what we do. In this podcast, I interview the world's most brilliant minds and hearts to explore, alongside you, every subject imaginable relating to the human experience and how we relate. My deepest intention is that we all learn how to create the life and love we've always dreamt of. Let's dive in and transform our lives!

Mark Groves Podcast Mark Groves

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 290 Ratings

My name is Mark Groves, and I'm obsessed with understanding human behaviour and why we do what we do. In this podcast, I interview the world's most brilliant minds and hearts to explore, alongside you, every subject imaginable relating to the human experience and how we relate. My deepest intention is that we all learn how to create the life and love we've always dreamt of. Let's dive in and transform our lives!

    Men’s Work: Facing Your Darkness and Finding Freedom with Connor Beaton

    Men’s Work: Facing Your Darkness and Finding Freedom with Connor Beaton

    Themes: Masculinity, Emotions, Vulnerability, Relationships, Men’s Work, Self-Worth, Purpose, Pornography

    Summary: 

    Today I’m chatting with one of my good friends, Connor Beaton. Connor is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization dedicated to men's wellness, success, and fulfillment. Connor is a coach, facilitator, teacher, podcast host, and speaker who helps men from all over the world find purpose, healthy love, a joy-filled life, and fulfilling sexual connection. His teachings draw from an in-depth apprenticeship in Jungian psychology, Gestalt, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, and both Buddhist and Taoist traditions. 

    Known for his no-nonsense approach and compassionate understanding of human limitations, Connor has coached thousands of men through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats, and masterminds. He has also shared the stage with renowned speakers like Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes, and Danielle LaPorte.

    Tune in for a free-flowing conversation where we jam on the challenges men face today, masculinity, turning towards our pain, and his new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom.

    Discover:


    Our thoughts on why toxic masculinity manifests
    Why emotional suppression is so common for men in our culture today
    The healing that is being asked of men right now
    The value of an initiatory process as young men
    Why turning towards your pain is necessary in order to find freedom and be the man you want to be
    Why porn has become an addiction for many and its effect on relationships

    00:00 Intro 

    04:12 The men’s movement

    06:10 Emotionality in men

    12:00 Toxic masculinity

    16:28 Hurt people hurt people

    25:41 Men and vulnerability

    33:44 Healing the divide between men and women

    49:09 Men’s work

    54:42 A relationship with something bigger than yourself

    59:20 “I don’t trust men…”

    1:05:19 You don’t need to hit rock bottom to change

    1:13:53 There’s more to it than vulnerability

    1:22:51 What fulfilling relationships require

    1:28:00 Being present

    1:31:27 Pornography

    1:42:49 Impact of pornography on relationships

    1:46:18 Healing a porn addiction

    Links:


    Website | mantalks.com
    Instagram | @mantalks
    Book | Men's Work, A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom
    Podcast | ManTalks

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    • 1 hr 52 min
    It’s Okay That You’re Not Okay: Coping with Grief and Loss with Megan Devine

    It’s Okay That You’re Not Okay: Coping with Grief and Loss with Megan Devine

    Themes: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Pain, Mental Health

    Summary: 

    Join me for a thoughtful conversation with Megan Devine: best-selling author, psychotherapist, and grief advocate. With over 20 years in the field - and deep personal experience of grief - she is the go-to authority for grievers, supporters, and industry professionals. Her pioneering work provides a professional, inclusive, and realistic approach to grief, one that goes beyond pathology-based, reductive models. If you’re currently feeling the deep pain of loss or are looking for ways to support someone who is, this episode is for you.

    Megan’s book It’s OK that You’re Not OK has sold over 250K copies and is available in 16 languages. New York magazine’s The Strategist named the book in their “Top 16 Grief Books Recommended by Psychologists in 2021.” Her animated short, “How to Help a Grieving Friend,” has been viewed over 70 million times and is used in training programs worldwide. She’s been published in Psychology Today, The New York Times, and The Washington Post and has served as a grief expert for major media outlets, including NPR, iHeartRadio, and the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief.

    Discover:


    Megan’s personal experience with grief
    What not to say to someone who is grieving and how to be truly supportive instead
    The problematic way society responds to pain and grief and how this contributes to rising loneliness, substance abuse and suicide rates
    Why looking for the silver lining in a painful experience, while well-intentioned, isn’t helpful

    00:00 Intro 

    01:20 Megan’s story

    07:09 How society responds to grief 

    09:11 You don’t need to find the silver lining

    13:03 Movies modeling the happy ending

    15:17 The fallacy of suffering as punishment

    20:25 The “nobility” of suffering

    24:33 The history of dealing with pain

    31:21 How medicine handles grief

    36:43 Timeline of grief

    38:16 Why do we avoid sadness?

    43:54 How to actually support someone who’s grieving

    47:46 Expanding your idea of what grief is

    Links:


    Website | refugeingrief.com & megandevine.co
    Instagram | @refugeingrief
    Facebook | @refugeingrief
    Book | It’s OK That You’re Not OK
    Podcast | Here After with Megan Devine 

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    • 1 hr 1 min
    Healing in a Toxic Culture with Dr. Gabor Maté

    Healing in a Toxic Culture with Dr. Gabor Maté

    Themes: Attachment Theory, Child Development, Trauma, the Mind-Body Connection, Authenticity, Boundaries, Illness, Health

    Summary: 

    It is such an honour to welcome renowned speaker and bestselling author Dr. Gabor Maté to the podcast this week. Dr. Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on various topics, including addiction, stress, and childhood development. He has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and has coauthored Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been published internationally in nearly thirty languages.

    In this illuminating episode, we discuss his incredible new book, The Myth of Normal, and how much of what we deem the norm in today’s culture is neither healthy nor natural. Join us as we explore a range of topics, including trauma and its effects, attachment theory, the mind-body connection, the cost of repressing emotions, and more.

    Discover:


    How much of what we deem ‘normal’ in today’s culture is neither healthy nor natural and is actually responsible for a lot of illness in both mind and body. 
    How to differentiate trauma from a stressful experience
    The impacts of trauma on mental and physical health and how normalized trauma is in our culture
    Why the medical system ignores the mind-body connection
    The cost of repressing your emotions and people-pleasing
    How to heal in the toxicity of modern culture

    00:00 Intro 

    00:47 The Myth of Normal

    03:26 The idea of normal

    05:28 The toxicity of modern culture

    09:38 How our childhood wounds show up in the present day

    12:43 Trauma

    17:16 Why medicine ignores the mind-body connection

    23:46 When does an experience become trauma?

    26:16 Importance of attuned caregivers

    34:15 The cost of suppressing your emotions

    39:00 The cost of people pleasing & no boundaries

    43:42 Choosing your pain - authenticity vs. belonging

    50:00 Exercises for self-understanding

    55:00 Healing a toxic culture

    Links:


    Website | drgabormate.com & wholehearted.org
    Book | The Myth of Normal - Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture
    Instagram | @gabormatemd
    Facebook | @drgabormate
    Twitter | @drgabormate
    Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality by Dr. Darcia Narvaez
    The Evolved Nest: Natures Way of Raising Children and Creating Connected Communities by Dr. Darcia Narvaez

    Sponsors:


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    • 1 hr 6 min
    How to Raise Independent Kids with Lenore Skenazy

    How to Raise Independent Kids with Lenore Skenazy

    Themes: Parenting, Safetyism, Fragility, Resilience, Childhood Independence, Autonomy, Technology

    Summary: 

    After her newspaper column “Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone” created a media firestorm, Lenore Skenazy got the nickname “America’s Worst Mom.” Nice. She went on to write Free-Range Kids, the book-turned-movement. (Second Edition just out!) She has been profiled in The New Yorker and lectured everywhere, from DreamWorks to Microsoft HQ to schools across America. On TV, you may have seen her on The Today Show, The Daily Show or her own reality show, World’s Worst Mom. Now Lenore is co-founder and president of Let Grow, the national nonprofit promoting childhood independence.

    I was struck by Lenore’s story, and as I step into fatherhood this year, I knew I had to have her on the podcast. Tune in to learn how parenting has changed over the past few decades, why safety has become a top priority for parents nowadays, and how unsupervised play and letting go a little are key in raising resilient, confident and independent children.

    Discover:


    Why Lenore let her nine-year-old son ride the subway alone in NYC
    Why the degree of independence and autonomy parents give their kids has changed drastically over the past couple of decades
    Safetyism: what it is and how it contributes to fragility in our kids
    The massive benefits of unsupervised play & tech-free play
    Why tracking your kids erodes trust and can actually cause more harm than good
    How to overcome parental anxiety

    00:00 Intro

    00:31 Parenting then vs. now

    03:00 Letting her son ride the subway alone

    06:43 Why are we so afraid for our kids?

    10:52 The problem with prioritizing safety

    24:09 Tech-free play

    37:23 Why keeping kids safe has become a top priority

    44:00 Is tracking your kids worth it?

    51:21 How to overcome parental anxiety

    Links:


    Website | letgrow.org
    Book | Free-Range Kids: How Parents and Teachers Can Let Go and Let Grow
    Twitter | @freerangekids
    Facebook | Raising Independent Kids
    The Coddling of the American Mind

    Sponsors:


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    • 1 hr 8 min
    Love, Forgiveness, and Healing with Danielle LaPorte

    Love, Forgiveness, and Healing with Danielle LaPorte

    Themes: Virtuosity, Self-Love, Self-Awareness, Virtue Signaling, Cancel Culture, Transformation, Boundaries, Forgiveness, Narcissism

    Summary: 

    Back for the second time is my good friend, Danielle Laporte. Danielle is an author, speaker, podcaster and a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” In this episode, Danielle and I chat about allll the things, including true, embodied virtuosity, virtue signaling, cancel culture, boundaries, narcissism and how to be loving in a world that’s waking up.

    Danielle is the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, The Desire Map, White Hot Truth, and producer of dozens of meditation kits and online programs for spiritual support. Her most recent book, How To Be Loving…when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up, is also an Audiobook + ebook, with a companion deck and journal. Danielle is the creator of the Heart Centered Membership and the Heart Centered Leadership Program with 400+ leaders in 30 countries hosting conversation circles, retreats, and workshops in all kinds of communities and businesses.

    Her podcast, With Love, Danielle, often ranks in iTunes’ top 10 for wellness. Most of her offerings—from the Heart Centered Membership to her online classes—are on a pay what you choose basis. Named one of the Top 100 Websites for Women by Forbes, millions of people a month visit DanielleLaPorte.com.

    Discover:


    Having reverence for your shadow and the parts of yourself you dislike
    Our thoughts on virtue signaling and what it truly means to be virtuous
    The absurdity of cancel culture
    A theory on why there’s tyranny and evil in the world
    Setting boundaries from a loving and healed place
    Forgiving yourself and others (even if you feel like they’re unforgivable)
    Things to reflect on if you’ve been with a narcissist

    00:00 Intro 

     03:45 The turning point in Danielle’s work 

    07:51 Loving what you hate about yourself

    11:52 Psychological virtue

    15:04 Virtue signaling

    22:08 Cancel culture

    27:07 Theory about tyranny

    31:57 How To Be Loving

    37:59 Boundaries

    43:18 Forgiving the unforgivable

    46:27 Narcissism

    48:28 Overidentification

    51:22 Becoming radiant

    Links:


    Website | daniellelaporte.com
    Instagram | @daniellelaporte
    Book | How To Be Loving... when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up
    Podcast | With Love, Danielle

    Sponsors:


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    • 55 min
    Food for a Better Mood with Dr. Will Cole

    Food for a Better Mood with Dr. Will Cole

    Themes: Health, Relationships, Boundaries, Mental Health, Nutrition, Gut-Brain Axis

    Summary: 

    Is there a connection between the foods we eat and how we feel? How does the quality of our relationships and our boundaries (or lack thereof) impact our gut health? Does trauma affect the microbiome? In this episode, I’m chatting with leading functional-medicine expert Dr. Will Cole to explore the connection between our relationships, the food we eat, and our overall mental and physical health. 

    Dr. Cole consults people around the globe and started one of the first functional medicine telehealth centers in the world over a decade ago. Named one of the top 50 functional and integrative doctors in the nation, he specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing a functional medicine approach for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal imbalances, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Will is also the host of the popular The Art Of Being Well podcast and was the co-host of Gwyneth Paltrow's lifestyle brand goop's first spinoff podcast, the goopfellas podcast. He is the bestselling author of Ketotarian, The Inflammation Spectrum, and the New York Times bestseller Intuitive Fasting. His upcoming book, Gut Feelings, will hit shelves in March 2023.

    Discover:


    How our relationships influence our physical health
    The gut-brain axis and how the foods we eat impact our mental health
    How trauma affects gut health
    Why we’re seeing an explosion of mental health issues and autoimmune diseases right now
    Four inflammatory foods to avoid for optimal health (plus what to eat more of)
    One thing to cut out of your diet if you want to move the needle

    00:00 Intro

    00:24 How do our relationships impact our health?

    02:26 Boundaries are medicine

    04:10 The gut-brain axis

    07:14 The food & mood connection

    09:08 Taking inventory in all areas of our lives

    12:37 How trauma impacts the gut

    17:06 The explosion of mental health issues and autoimmune diseases

    18:52 The parallels between our internal and external world

    21:45 Glyphosate 

    23:17 Effecting change as consumers

    33:25 The four core inflammatory foods

    35:23 What to eat more of

    36:12 The problem with seed oils

    38:37 The truth about fat & cholesterol

    46:33 Healthy fats

    49:19 Cut this food out to move the needle

    Links:


    Website | drwillcole.com
    Instagram | @drwillcole
    Podcast | The Art of Being Well with Dr. Will Cole
    Book | Gut Feelings by Dr. Will Cole

    Sponsors:


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    • 55 min

Customer Reviews

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290 Ratings

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Hands down my absolute fave podcast 🫶🏼

I’ve been listening to Mark’s podcast for more than 5 years and it just continues to get better and better. I have learned, laughed, cried and grown from this podcast in more ways than I could possibly sum up in this little review. Highly, highly recommend. It has certainly created a lot of love in my life ♥️.

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Loved this episode with Stefan - and so many good reminders. Feeling motivated for my week ahead

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Just what I have needed!

I have been going through a weird time in my life and I have felt a bit lost. I found this podcast exactly when I needed the support. Mark Groves is like a wise friend in your ear when you’re needing someone to be real and proactive with their advice and I can’t explain how much I appreciate the comfort that this podcast has provided me with. I have learnt so so much over the last 12 months from the incredible guests that Mark has on his show and I’m caring for myself in a way that I had never considered before. Thank you!

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