Part 03: Sex & Spanking: How To Make Spanking An Erotic Experience The Art of Erotic Spanking

Erotic spanking can be an incredibly arousing experience. This episode explores why it is so arousing, both physically and emotionally, and how to maximize the arousal in your erotic spanking experience.

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Sex & Spanking: Who Likes Erotic Spanking?

We are going to go out on a limb here and say almost EVERYONE likes spanking. We have yet to talk to someone who upon (friendly!) interrogation won’t admit that a well-timed, well-placed, well-calibrated slap on the ass during sex feels amazing. No matter if you have experienced a full over-the-knee spanking or ever want to, some sort of spank on the butt during arousal feels good to almost everyone.

Here’s why: the butt is part of everyone’s sexual system. Male and Female, All Orientations, We All Have Butts. The butt (and all pelvic) muscles are some of the most important in the human body for overall posture, movement and comfort. Most of us have chronic tension in our butts that needs to be relaxed.

Spanking is an effective form of butt massage (one of our favorite kinds of massage, included in our Couples Massage Mastery course) because spanking is a form of percussion, which is a massage technique at heart. By striking the flesh, you create a vibration wave that ripples through the muscle and bounces off the bones. Each of these moments of impact has the potential to relieve muscular tension. Some of the techniques we will show you are specifically designed to relieve muscular tension and relax the butt muscles. Each spank creates a wave of vibrations that ripples through all the butt muscles and into the genital tissues. The muscles bounce off the bones, the genitals are stimulated, and all of the nerve endings are firing with every impact. A good spanking literally shakes up the muscles of the pelvis, relaxes pelvic tension and creates pleasurable stimulation throughout the pelvis, including the entire sexual system.

Spanking also floods the pelvis with fresh blood flow – making all kinds of erotic stimulation more pleasurable. Most people report that genital and/or a**l stimulation after spanking is more intense, more vivid, more arousing. Remember, blood flow is essential for both sensitivity and to the engorgement of erectile tissues of the genitals. So more blood flow creates more arousal, plain and simple.

Some people find spanking sexy for the taboo thrill of it. There are a lot of role playing games that include spanking – from Teacher/student, Parent/child, Boss/ secretary, naughty school boys and girls, and on and on. . . Spanking has been part of our cultural experience, no matter if we were spanked as children or not. Spanking is a pretty universal form of punishment and thus is erotic for some people.

There is a debate about whether or not being spanked as a child makes it more likely it will be eroticized later in life. Some people believe that spanking a child will hardwire the excitement, fear and humiliation into the body’s physical responses. Other people believe that the pain and humiliation experienced during childhood spankings will make it less likely that spanking could be pleasurable later on in life. We think it probably goes both ways – we’ve met plenty of people that love spanking even though they were never spanked as children, and have met folks who can pinpoint the moment in their childhood where spanking became an exciting fantasy. We are firmly against spanking children, by the way, and think erotic spanking has nothing to do with the physical discipline of children. But if you were spanked as a kid,