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The Academic Non-Monogamous podcast, reading the texts that have shaped our community and culture. BOOKS!

In Season one, Sebastian and Claire are closely reading The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton [3rd edition] chapter by chapter, discussing the ideas in an unabridged way, adding extra info where needed, and suggesting extra readings.

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The Academic Non-Monogamous podcast, reading the texts that have shaped our community and culture. BOOKS!

In Season one, Sebastian and Claire are closely reading The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton [3rd edition] chapter by chapter, discussing the ideas in an unabridged way, adding extra info where needed, and suggesting extra readings.

Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/polypages/support

    (another) EVENT ANNOUNCEMENT

    (another) EVENT ANNOUNCEMENT

    Abuse in Polyamory; a global live one-off event on 17th April 2021, at 10am LA/ 12noon CHI/ 1pm NYC/ 6pm LDN/ 7pm PAR. Get your tickets here, at www.polypages.org/events, or join our Patreon as an Early Bird Supporter and get in completely free. www.patreon.com/polypages. 

    Abuse can happen in any relationship, whether you have one partner, two partners, or more. A polyamorous relationship is not any more or less likely to be abusive than a monogamous one, however having multiple partners may create unique situations that abusive people may exploit. Our social understandings of abuse assume a mono-normative relationship, leading to poor understandings and awareness of the ways abuse may present in a non-monogamous dynamics. In this one-off, live event - join three polyamorous survivors, educators and writers in a global conversation about abuse in polyamory. 

    About the Speakers:


    Alicia Bunyan-Sampson - "Creator of @polyamorousblackgirl, an independent filmmaker, writer, counsellor/advocate and researcher based in Toronto. She focuses her work primarily on her identity as a black woman, love, trauma, sexuality and non-monogamy.

    Eve Rickert - "A Gen X nonmonogamous white settler living in Canada, Eve is the co-author of More Than Two and publisher of Thorntree Press."

    Sydney Rae Chin - "Polyamorous 3rd gen Chinese American woman, Intuitive Sex Guide runs @sydneyraechin empowering Pan Asian women and non men survivors to reclaim their sensuality"⁣


    This event is supported by The Network/La Red. The Network/La Red is a survivor-led, social justice organization that works to end partner abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, SM, polyamorous, and queer communities. Rooted in anti-oppression principles, our work aims to create a world where all people are free from oppression. TNLR strengthens our communities through organizing, education, and the provision of support services


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    EVENT ANNOUNCEMENT

    EVENT ANNOUNCEMENT

    Decoupling in Polyamory; a global live event, on the 9th January. Get tickets at here, at www.polypages.org/events, or join our Patreon as an Early Bird Supporters and get in completely free. www.patreon.com/polypages 

    De-coupling is the transition from a partnership - usually romantic and intimate - to another dynamic. In polyamorous dynamics, break-ups often include a period of transition; from lovers to friends, from metamours to acquittances, or even to strangers. In this one-off, live event - join three polyamorous and relationship educators in a global conversation about how to navigate de-coupling in healthy, productive and supported ways. Facilitated by Poly Pages, this panel includes Evita Sawyers, Andy Adams, and Sydney Rae Chin. 

    Join this is a facilitated discussion around the causes of polyamorous breakups, the unique challenges de-coupling presents for polyam folx, and some skills and scripts for individuals and communities to make decoupling easier/less harmful.


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    BONUS - Life History and Multi-Partner Mating

    BONUS - Life History and Multi-Partner Mating

    In this bonus episode, Claire is joined by Andy Adams, from the Growth Arc. Together they read through Life History and Multi-Partner Mating: A Novel Explanation for Moral Stigma Against Consensual Non-monogamy. The article uses a new categorization for CNM - either multi-partner or open relationship. And they exclude non-consensual non-monogamy (yay!). But was Life History Theory the best explanation for their findings? What does risk and romance have to do with one another? And do people assume the worst of one another? 

    This article was published in 2020, and was written by Mogilski, Justin & Mitchell, Virginia & Reeve, Simon & Donaldson, Sarah & Nicolas, Sylis & Welling, Lisa. It was published in Frontiers in Psychology, 10 (10.3389/fpsyg.2019.03033). 

    The Growth Arc is an educational-based coaching program for your relationships needs - whether that’s a relationship with yourself, another person, or multiple people. You can find The Growth Arc on Facebook, Instagram, twitter, and of course at https://www.thegrowtharc.com/.

    Life History Theory as presented by Claire draws on the library of resources found here and you can find Sarah Hill’s interview on puberty and Life History Theory on the ‘Here We Are’ podcast episode 126.



    You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.


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    BONUS - Somerville Domestic Partnerships

    BONUS - Somerville Domestic Partnerships

    In this bonus episode, Sebastian is joined by special guest co-host Matthew Thomas, a polyamorous lawyer from Somerville, MA to talk about a recently passed ordinance which expands the definition of domestic partnership beyond two people. Not only is this an incredible step forward for poly people, but this ordinance is likely the first of its kind in the US. Join Matt and Sebastian as they talk about how this came to be and what it might mean for us going forward.

    Additional resources:

    The Poly-friendly directory of legal professionals can be found here.

    Diana Adams, Esq. who's NYC firm specializes in family law can be found here.

    The ordinance in question can be viewed here.

    For another discussion on Polyamory and the Law, see here for ep 167 by the Multiamory pod.

    **Note: Matthew is a practicing lawyer in Massachussetts but is not an expert in family law. Our discussion is not meant to be legal advice, but a general discussion of the ordinance and its possible implications. If you need legal support or advice regarding polyamorous or non-traditional family structures please consult someone who specializes in this including those listed in the resources above.

    You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.


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    • 36 min
    18 - Opening an Existing Relationship

    18 - Opening an Existing Relationship

    In chapter 18, Dossie and Janet are talking about a stereotypical if problematic entry point to non-monogamy. A person in a dyad (couple) has got involved with an outside lover, and this is the impetus for discussions about opening up your partnership to accommodate. Although neither of our hosts have come to polyamory this way, Claire and Sebastian take us through the quintessential moments of anger, discussion, guilt, and risk-taking that you might be experiencing as you begin to open up. 

    You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.

    Show Notes:

    Serial monogamy is introduced in ‘Ep 4 - Slut Styles’

    Guilt is explored in ep 239 of Multiamory Pod

    Information on Franklin Veaux can be found in this medium article,

    Anger as a helpful emotion - there is a great article to get your starter, and of course the noted ep 205 of Multiamory Pod

    For couples opening up for the first time, Claire begs you not to ask your new unicorn/third all your questions. Here are some polyam-friendly therapists/professionals for you to pay and use: The Polyamory-Friendly Professionals Directory, The Kink Aware Professionals Directory (KAP), The Open List, The Polyamory Loving More Member Professionals List, The “Meet our Experts” section of The Affirmative Couch.


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    Minisode: 8 steps to win-win conflict resolution

    Minisode: 8 steps to win-win conflict resolution

    This exercise is called ‘8 steps to win-win conflict resolution’ and is found in Chapter 17 of the Ethical Slut (3rd edition). For the full chapter, please see the full episode: Making Agreements (Ep17) and don’t forget to rate and review and subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise provides a useful framework to agree solutions for an issue in any relationship, and requires uninterrupted time with your partner(s) as well as a whiteboard or piece of paper. 

    This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.


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For everyone

Claire & Sebastian’s discussions are super insightful and have something for everyone not just those practicing polyamory! Well worth a listen!

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A must listen

Such an insightful and engaging podcast, even if you’re not poly or don’t know much about it I highly recommend giving this as listen. So well presented with insightful connections between the book The Ethical Slut and Claire and Sebastians personal experiences.

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