Quiet Connections Hayley & Stacie

Are you following your own path, or the one you thought you ought to take? What difference could it make redirecting your energy and attention to the people who 'get you'? What does it mean to Trust the Process?

Stacie explores all this and more with our final guest of Season 2! Who just so happens to be a previous lecturer from Stacie's time at University... textile artist & designer, Becky Dodman-Wainwright.
Whilst Becky speaks through insight gained from her artistic projects and direction in her life, there is so much in this episode that applies to any one of us and the many areas of each of our lives.

We’ll be back in the Winter with Season 3, and we’re already looking forward sharing with you the the guests you’ll get to meet then!

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Find out more about Quiet Connections & how we can support you by visiting QuietConnections.co.uk

See you soon!

About our Guest
Becky Dodman-Wainwright
Textiles Designer & BA Textiles Lecturer
linktr.ee/Beckydodmanwainwright

With a passion for fashion and interiors, Becky Dodman (now Becky Dodman Wainwright) is a multi-disciplinary textile artist and designer. Having worked for over a decade in the textile industry and as a lecturer at Plymouth College of Art, the Devon born designer is creating from a diverse heritage of Chinese and Colombian influence. Becky's adventurous approach to her methods, incorporate a personable and collaborative style at her core. Taking traditional methods of tufting, tapestry and knit, Becky transforms these methods which result in her instantly recognisable, fun and vibrant contemporary artworks.
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Hayley and Stacie explore the emotional rollercoaster that we experience when we take on a new challenge that evokes anxiety within us. Together, we'll explore: 
The Ping Pong contemplation stage that occurs before the decision to take on a new challenge is made; The Freak Out that can happen once we commit and how this can show up (cue the Panic Monster, Porky Pig and Snappy Croc!); The 'Aftermath' shame spiral that can happen once we have taken action. You'll be diving into Stacie's recent experience of taking on a new challenge in joining the Bluetits Chill Swimmers to learn ways to manage these uncomfortable stages in the decision-making and comfort zone stretching process.  Stacie reveals the mistakes that she made and how you can take a gentle comfort zone stretch process to work your way up to achieving your big stretch goal, without sending yourself into a panic!

To find out more about the Socially Anxious to Quietly Confident programme mentioned in the episode, go to: quietconnections.co.uk/services
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What if your panic was organic? What if struggling to say the things you want to say, means you could actually be on the edge of a Word Wise Spiral?

What does it mean to be 'Calm-fident'? And what if we’re all learning how to navigate and steer the wheel along a winding road with limitations and obstacles to look out for, and perhaps sometimes oversteering just a little bit too much? 

Sounds interesting right? It is! In this episode, Stacie explores this and more with Origins of Life researcher, and pioneering Pyschoproctologist, Jeremy Sherman, PHD.
Shy until his mid-30s, Jeremy has his own story to share around how he overcame being tongued-tied and feeling anxious. Moving from “What’s wrong with me?” to asking the fundamental question of “What’s up with us humans?”. 
Jeremy was truly fascinating to chat with, and we're sure this episode will leave you with some intriguing questions and thoughts to explore and consider for yourself!

About our Guest
Jeremy Sherman, PHD
Researcher & Psychoproctologist
www.JeremySherman.com
Jeremy Sherman, PhD is a cradle-to-grave science researcher and writer studying the unbroken chain from the origins of life from chemistry to humankind's grave situation today. He's the author of the Columbia University Press book Neither Ghost Nor Machine: The emergence and nature of selves but also 1000 articles with 9 million readers for Psychology Today on everyday practicalities, including how to deal with Total Jerks. For 25 years, he has been a close research collaborator with Harvard/Berkeley neuroscientist Terrence Deacon. His latest book is called "What's up with Assholes? Advanced psychoproctology for beginners. Sherman's all about making advanced ideas intuitive, practical, and funny, because from a natural science perspective because the human condition is pretty ironic. 
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You're going to get so much from this insightful episode of the Quiet Connections Podcast if you're struggling with either setting and keeping your boundaries; people pleasing and putting other people before yourself (and perhaps even feeling resentful); someone bullying or refusing to speak with you; and difficulties self-regulating to keep yourself out of fight, flight, freeze mode.

Dr Suzanne Henwood joins us to explore the topics of boundaries, bullying and self-regulating - so that you can have those courageous conversations to maintain your boundaries when you need to. In this episode, you’ll discover new perspectives on people pleasing and 'dumb compassion'; feeling emotionally safe and flexing and maintaining boundaries. Suzanne clearly explains how we 'fall down the ladder' from being regulated, calm and balanced, to feeling fighty, flighty or freezey. What’s more, throughout this episode, Suzanne offers some helpful ways to gently bring yourself out of the fight-flight-freeze state that we can experience when our boundaries are crossed, or we feel unsafe, or we’re experiencing social anxiety, and into a more balanced place where we can connect with integrity and uphold our boundaries when we need to. It’s an absolute joy to introduce you to Suzanne Henwood. 
About our Guest
Dr Suzanne Henwood is a stress and anxiety coach; one of only 2 Master Trainers and Master Coaches in mBIT globally, and an NLP Trainer who works closely with ANLP (the Association of NLP) and is the International Ambassador for ANLP in New Zealand. With a PhD in professional development, she has worked in higher education and development for 25 years and has authored numerous books, book chapters and articles, with a particular interest in stress, communication, leadership and personal and professional development to improve and transform practice, supporting people to operate from a place of excellence. 
You can find out more about Suzanne at: http://mbraining4success.com
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What can we learn about hope from a cheerleader living with multiple rare & chronic illnesses? A lot it would seem! 
In this episode Stacie and Barby, discuss how to find hope when things feel bad, and the importance of getting to know who we are. Through Barby’s inspiring story of life-changing events, we’ll explore how to help cultivate and hold on to hope even in our darkest moments.
Barby also shares with us a practical exercise that has been a crucial tool within her journey, that will help you to appreciate all that you are - which we hope you will try.
If you’ve ever felt hopeless, then this beautifully light hearted and uplifting chatepisode is for you…

About Our Guest
Barby Ingle
Author & Cheerleader of Hope
www.barbyingle.com

Barby Ingle is a best-selling author, reality personality, and lives with multiple rare and chronic diseases. She is a chronic pain educator, patient advocate, and president of the International Pain Foundation. Barby started out as a Cheerleader & Dance trainer, since no longer being able to physically cheer, she now uses all the skills and spirit of her cheerleading past to inspire hope in peoples lives, when they most need it.
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Welcome to a fascinating conversation with Lara Hayward that’ll touch on aligning our careers with our values and who we are; championing our quieter personalities at work; celebrating motherhood as a high performance role; the natural world’s ability to shape how we feel about ourselves; and the ripple effect of world-class athletes speaking out and prioritising their mental health over expectations.
As an ex-lawyer involved in the NHS and Olympic and Paralympic Sport, and now a Career Coach at Oxford University and a Blue Health Coach, Lara is one of those people with a career that will make you think, wow she must be super confident so I’m thrilled that Lara is sharing her behind-the-scenes story and her insights with us in this episode. 
You may have already met Lara if you attended one of her career workshops this summer - and if not I’ll be sharing a link to these at the end so stayed tuned for that!


About Our Guest
Lara Hayward
Career Coach & Blue Health Coach
www.larahayward.com  

I started my career as a litigation lawyer, a role which required me to put on an extrovert mask and be loud and fighty every day.  Although the work could be interesting, pretending to be someone else was exhausting – and this led me to full-on burnout, anxiety and a lot of unsettling soul searching.  
After taking some time out to finally listen to that quieter voice in my head, I went back to study English and retrain as a career coach at Oxford University, where I am now the strategic lead for Creative Careers & Sustainability. I’m now in a working environment that celebrates difference and have the confidence and strength to do all of those things that, as a lawyer, were too scary to do. 
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