Sitting In A Car:
Sexuality, Relationships & Consent For Parents of Teens & Little Kids
Ever feel awkward talking to your kids about sexuality, relationships and consent?
Wish you had someone to go to with your questions?
Good news - now you do!
Each week on Sitting In A Car, educator Sarah Sproule answers parents’ questions about everything from bodies to babies, from puberty to privacy, from sex to Snapchat - and so much more.
With humour, creativity and compassion, Sarah will help you become more comfortable and empowered to talk about sexuality, relationships & consent with your kid -
and help you to raise a confident, caring young person who respects themselves and the people around them.
No matter your worry, Sarah’s here to help.
Join her while you’re Sitting In A Car!
‘How can I chat with my squeamish 8-year-old about periods?’
‘How can I chat with my squeamish 8-year-old about periods?
I started a conversation with her once about periods, and she was totally squicked out.
I’d love some help.’
What a great question. I’m sure this parent isn’t alone in this.
So what do we do when we have info we need to give our kid
so that they stay safe and healthy growing up,
but which they’re too squicked out to hear?
My answer this week comes from the Courage pillar of the Evolved Family method.
The Courage pillar helps us look at how we can support our child exactly as they are,
without pretending, or wishing, they were easier to talk to about sensitive stuff!
It teaches us how to start conversations, and which actual words to use.
To hear more about how to use the Courage pillar and chat with your squicky kid about periods,
listen to this week's episode of SItting in a Car here.
And here’s to doing our best to stay connected to our growing kids.
‘How can I get my child to confide in me?’
How we can help our child feel like they can tell us anything.
The way this wonderful mum phrased her question, was,
‘How can I get my child to confide in me?’
Kids confide in adults when they feel a sense of connection, and a sense of safety.
So how do we create that?
In this week’s episode, we start with the question -
Who do YOU confide in?
We learn from our own experience confiding in people,
about how to create this experience for our kids.
So it's good to know exactly what those qualities are, that make us feel safe to confide in someone.
In this episode, there are three easy to use strategies and loads of real-life stories and examples, to help you take action to build deeper connection with your kid(s).
To discover how you can use your own life experience to make this easier for your kid, make sure you don’t miss out on the most recent episode of Sitting in a Car.
‘How can I avoid passing shame on to my kids?’
This week, let’s talk about
how to avoid passing on shame to our kid(s).
And I’m going to show you how the Evolved Family method does exactly that with it’s three pillars,
Growth, Courage, and Kindness.
Because the whole Evolved Family method is about reducing shame.
The best way I know to reduce shame,
is by building deeper connections with our kids.
And the way we do that,
is by having conversations with our kids about sensitive things.
Connection is about openness.
Connection is about feeling seen & heard.
When we feel connected w someone else,
shame doesn’t exist there.
So! Press play and listen to this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car, cos it’s a special one.
And if you’d like to know more about Growth, Courage and Kindness, and the Evolved Family method,
email me at sarah (at) sarah sproule (dot) come and I’ll let you know the next time The Evolve School opens its doors.
I’m a trans dad so how can I chat about non-traditional relationships?
‘I’m a trans dad and I want to be able to talk to my girls about sex in all its forms.
How can I approach chats about non-traditional relationships?’
There are three things to think about, when you’re having chats like this with your kids.
It’s so important to teach our kids that they don’t have to fit into a mould,
and be who the world tells them they should be!
And that they can just be fully themselves.
And indeed, doesn’t the world tell us quite narrow, quite fixed things sometimes
about what s=e=x is,
and what gender is, and what relationships are?
But of course we know that the options for who we grow up to be is so much wider and wonderful than that.
So if we can chat with our kids about how the world teaches us very limiting ideas about relationships,
we can help them to grow into whomever they are.
And for much more about exactly how to have chats with your kids
in ways that leave loads of room for our kids’ uniqueness and the amazing diversity of life,
listen to this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car.
‘Why won’t my 11-year-old let me talk to her about sex, bodies and puberty?’
‘I would like to understand why my 11-year-old stops all my attempts
to talk about sex, bodies and puberty.’
I love this question because this parent is curious about what might be going on for her child.
And indeed it is a curious thing,
and it’s very, very common!
Tweens not wanting to talk about sensitive stuff, happens all the time.
There are three reasons why this very common thing might be happening.
My answers today came from the Kindness pillar of the Evolved Family method,
which helps courageous but tongue-tied parents
create evolved and communicating families.
There are three explanations why this is happening, so to learn more, join me for this week's episode of Sitting in a Car.
Here’s to doing our best for our growing and changing kid(s),
‘Any ideas for a parent of a 9-year-old who might be questioning their gender?’
‘Any ideas for a parent of a 9-year-old who might be questioning their gender?
I’m terrified and I need to educate myself for the road ahead.’
What a lovely question.
My answer comes from the Courage pillar of the Evolved Family method,
which is the bit of The Evolve School (of which more later)
where we learn how to speak up around things that are complicated,
and confront our own fear.
Questions about gender can really throw us parents into a panic sometimes!
But one thing I’ve learned about parenting,
is that when I’m panicked or fearful for my kid,
I’m not able to connect with them.
And connection is the most important thing we can have with our growing child.
Connection means showing our kid that we understand how they’re feeling,
and what they’re experiencing,
and that we’re with them no matter what is going on.
This question about gender is a great reminder that sometimes life is complex.
So for more about how to stay present and actively support a child
who could be questioning their gender,
listen to this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car here.
Would you like to know when The Evolve School opens up next? Visit www.sarahsproule.com/evolve and I’ll make sure you’re kept in the loop.
Amazing advice and love the short, digestible episodes
Sarah makes so much sense and hearing her advice gives me so much more reassurance and confidence as a parent - thank you Sarah