Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others

Anne Bland

Are you curious about Tantra? Maybe you have tried it a few times but are not sure how to make it a conscious practice to bring more happiness, pleasure, and peace into your life. Or maybe you've heard some Tantric stories about how Sting can last for hours - and wonder if you could too. Or you might feel that your sex and love life could and should be better, or even Sacred...This open, honest, explicit, heartfelt, and fun podcast by Anne Bland is for you if you are ready to explore your sensuality, sexuality, and spirituality through Tantra and Tantric Sex. Ancient Tantra teaches that there is a direct link between your sexual energy and your creativity and spirituality. So, are you willing to unleash your full potential through self-awareness, self-mastery, and self-expression and live the life you truly want?If yes, then join Tantric Sex and Relationship Coach, public speaker, and podcaster Anne Bland, the founder of “Selfishly Happy Revolution,” as she openly and whole-heartedly discusses her own Tantric Journey, shares real-life Tantric stories, and invites others to join her on the podcast. This could include you too! The "Asking for a Friend" episode is an opportunity to get free Tantric Sex or Relationship Coaching from Anne Bland - or you could truly 'ask for a friend.' You can also participate in the show by sending a voice message. This podcast is part of Anne Bland's Selfishly Happy Revolution, the next sexual revolution that doesn't start from barricades or burning your bras, but from within. Putting that figurative oxygen mask on yourself first before helping others gives you more energy, love, and creativity to share with others. And that oxygen mask is ‘Pleasure’! Pleasure is your birthright, and you deserve and are worthy of feeling good about yourself and your life so that you have the energy to show up in the world the way you want. And most of all, to create the life you want! Selfishly Happy Revolution is all about creating a movement, a community that celebrates pleasure and is pleasure-positive, demystifying sex and sexuality, and creating happy relationships not just with your partner but also with yourself, your communities, and the world at large. As Anne Bland says: “Happy and pleasure-positive people just don’t start wars.”"Tantra doesn't judge or exclude anything but it transforms everything" (Osho). Tantra is like inner technology that can be harnessed for your benefit be it healing, personal or spiritual growth, or amazingly juicy, delicious, and succulent life. Tantra is like having pleasure and self-love on tap!Finally, if you want to learn some Tantric Tips and Pleasurable Treats called Seven Holistic Sex Tools, this show is definitely for you. Anne shares how you can use these ancient Tantric Tools - Intentions, Presence, Focus, Breath, Movement, Sound, and Energy – for self-healing and self-pleasure but also with your partner or lover. They will help you to reclaim your own pleasure to become authentically your True Self and create a World that you want to live in and leave behind for future generations. Selfishly Happy Tantric Revolution is ALL ABOUT YOU! If you don't feel good about yourself, don't love yourself, don't have any energy, and are at risk of burning out - how can you be there for others? How could you be the leader in the world that you want to be? Or be the world co-creator that you truly are? Tantra teaches that all is one. It means that once you start healing, growing and becoming the person you truly are, the world around you changes too: what is inside you is also outside you. Pleasure and sexual energy are not well understood in the West and often associated with something shady, dirty, sinful or secretive. Tantra celebrates sex and sexual energy being normal and natural parts of you and the very energy for creation and spiritual enlightenment. It is where humanity meets spirituality. By mastering Tantric tools you can use your body-mind, your "inner

  1. 28/12/2024

    54: Let Go and Love - Holiday Intimacy with Susan Bratton

    In this episode of 'Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others', host Anne Bland welcomes intimacy expert Susan Bratton to discuss the importance of nurturing intimacy and connection during the holiday season. They explore how societal expectations can create stress and pressure, and how individuals can reclaim their joy and pleasure. Susan shares practical tips for lovers to enhance their relationship, emphasising the significance of communication and understanding personal desires. The conversation also touches on techniques for deepening intimacy, personal reflections on pleasure, and thoughts on New Year's resolutions. Highlights The holiday season is a time to design your own joy and connection.It's essential to stop doing things that don't resonate with you during the holidays.Food can be a powerful expression of love and connection.Understanding your parasympathetic profile can help manage stress.Holding and being held can enhance intimacy and connection.Communication is key to understanding desires in relationships.Women often need a slower approach to intimacy compared to men.Personal pleasure should be prioritised for a fulfilling life.Recognising societal pressures can help reclaim personal joy.New Year's resolutions can be a time for introspection and personal growth. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Holiday Pressures: Tips for Couples 12:04 Understanding Stress Responses: The Role of Intimacy 18:27 The Soulmate Embrace: A Tantric Technique 27:20 New Year, New Intentions: Embracing Change Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies. Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools." Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com Send a voice message. Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality

    34 min
  2. 15/12/2024

    53: From Addiction to Connection: Healing Porn Addiction with Tantra

    In this deeply compassionate and transformative episode, Anne Bland tackles a listener-requested topic: porn addiction and how it impacts our relationships, intimacy, and sense of self. While pornography is widely consumed, compulsive use can lead to disconnection, shame, and challenges in real-life relationships. But there is hope! Tantra offers a powerful, mindful, and healing path to break free from addiction and rediscover connection, presence, and pleasure. Highlights • Understanding porn addiction Anne explores the rise of porn addiction, sharing eye-opening statistics and its emotional and neurological impact on individuals and relationships. • The root of addiction Discover what often lies beneath compulsive behaviors: emotional disconnection, stress, and avoidance of vulnerability - and how awareness is the first step to healing. • How Tantra helps Learn how Tantric principles can support you in: • Reconnecting with your body through breathwork and mindfulness. • Rebalancing energy with conscious self-pleasure practices. • Healing emotional patterns and learning to sit with uncomfortable feelings. • Rebuilding trust and intimacy in relationships through presence, mindful touch, and shared practices. • A personal story Anne shares a powerful client transformation where Tantric tools replaced shame and performance pressure with connection and authentic pleasure. • Special highlight Anne invites listeners to listen to the next episode which is her insightful conversation with intimacy expert Susan Bratton, who offers practical tools for overcoming intimacy blocks and rekindling passion. Practical tools you’ll learn in this episode 1. How to start a mindful, Tantric self-pleasure practice to re-sensitise your body. 2. Using breathwork to regulate the nervous system and calm overstimulation. 3. Creating emotional safety and trust in relationships. 4. Exploring intimacy as a journey—not a performance. If this episode resonates with you or someone you care about, please share it. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to walk this path alone. Leave a review on your favorite podcast app, share your thoughts, and let Anne know what topics you’d like to hear next. Episode disclaimer This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not substitute professional advice. If you are struggling with addiction, consider seeking guidance from a qualified therapist or coach. Closing thought Healing from porn addiction isn’t about shame or blame. It’s about rediscovering connection, presence, and love for yourself and your partner. Tantra offers a profound path to break free and embrace intimacy with an open heart. You are not broken. Healing begins with presence, patience, and compassion. Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies. Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools." Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com Send a voice message. Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality

    26 min
  3. 08/11/2024

    51: The 4B Movement and Selfishly Happy Revolution: Redefining Autonomy and Pleasure

    In this episode, Anne Bland discusses the 4B movement from South Korea that focuses on autonomy, self-respect, and self-empowerment. The 4B movement stands for four ‘no’s: no marriage, no childbirth, no dating, and no sexual relationships with men until women have the same rights and opportunities as men. But this isn’t just about saying ‘no’; it’s about saying ‘yes’ to living life on one’s own terms, creating space for true happiness, liberation, and fulfilment. After the presidential elections, 4B (and 5B, 6B and 7B) movement has gained momentum in the USA where women's sexual health rights are in jeopardy. Anne explores how the 4B movement’s message of radical autonomy aligns with Selfishly Happy Revolution and how reclaiming pleasure can become a powerful, positive force. Anne explains what it means to embrace autonomy and pleasure in a world that often prioritises economic productivity and performance over self-care and conformity over individuality. Drawing on concepts from Tantra and therapeutic self-empowerment, this episode speaks to anyone ready to embrace a life that aligns with their deepest values, regardless of gender. What’s Covered in This Episode? Understanding the 4B Movement: Its origins, principles, and what it represents for self-empowerment.Moving Beyond the Dominance Model: How societal "dominance model" coined by Dr Riane Eisler impacts personal autonomy and the relevance of challenging it today.Selfishly Happy Revolution: Why autonomy and pleasure are empowering choices that can redefine well-being.Concrete Steps to Embrace Autonomy: Practical ways to bring autonomy and pleasure into everyday life, including:• Rethinking consumer habits and addressing the pink tax • Supporting women-owned businesses • Reclaiming pleasure and self-connection as paths to well-being 5. Three Transformative Practices: Grounding Breath, Heart-Centred Visualisation, and Emotion-Naming Body Scan to help listeners reconnect with themselves and process emotions in a healthy, empowered way. Key Takeaways • The 4B movement isn’t about rejecting relationships but about prioritising self-respect, well-being, and authentic connection for a period of time. • Embracing autonomy and pleasure allows each person to break free from societal expectations that don’t align with their true values. • Simple practices can help reconnect with oneself, redefine relationships, and find greater happiness and fulfillment. Call to Action Anne encourages listeners to reflect on where they might be saying ‘yes’ out of obligation rather than joy. Could you start choosing what brings happiness and peace instead? This episode guides listeners in taking concrete steps toward a life that’s Selfishly Happy: avoid the "pink tax", support women- and ethnic minority-owned businesses, and celebrate pleasure as a path to well-being. Connect with Anne If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others for more episodes on empowerment, self-discovery, and pleasure, and consider giving it 5 stars and a review. Follow Anne Bland on Instagram @SelfishlyHappyWithAnneBland for more insights and practices to live a life that’s Selfishly Happy. Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies. Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools." Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com Send a voice message. Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality

    20 min
  4. 03/11/2024

    50: Redefining Erectile Dysfunction with Tantra on 50th Episode

    Redefining Erectile Dysfunction with Tantra on our 50th Episode! In this milestone 50th episode of Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others, Anne Bland celebrates the shared journey and dives deep into erectile dysfunction, or as she reframes it, “flexible erection.” Rather than focusing on performance, this episode invites us to explore ED from a Tantra-inspired perspective that emphasises connection, presence, and mindful intimacy. Episode Highlights Reflecting on 50 episodes Anne Bland shares the story of the podcast’s growth, inspired by listener feedback and a vision to destigmatise and enrich conversations around Tantra, intimacy, and personal growth. Rethinking erectile dysfunction Discover how ED, often seen as a “dysfunction,” can instead be viewed as an invitation to deeper connection. Anne offers a fresh perspective, steering away from performance pressure towards intimacy that isn’t defined by traditional markers of success. A personal listener story Anne reads a heartfelt listener email that beautifully captures how Tantra has transformed one man’s intimate life, showcasing the power of holistic practices. Invitations to Pleasure Quests Anne’s new eight-week courses, “Pleasure Quests,” one for males and one for females, are designed to support a deeper journey into self-pleasure, connection, and vitality. They build on her eBook "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools". Whether you experience ED, know someone who does, or want to deepen your understanding of holistic intimacy, this episode offers invaluable insights. Join Anne as she redefines male and female experiences of arousal, expands the conversation around masculinity, and introduces gentle yet powerful Tantric tools for embracing a full-body approach to pleasure. What you can do next is to: • Join the Female Pleasure Quest and the Male Pleasure Quest here: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-quest • Download the “Pleasure is Your Birthright” ebook: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-is-your-birthright • Leave a review to share your favourite episode or moment from the podcast! Anne would love to hear from you! What’s been your favourite insight so far? Let her know via social media or email, and stay tuned as she continues delivering this podcast for the next 50 episodes. Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies. Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools." Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com Send a voice message. Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality

    36 min
  5. 04/09/2024

    49: From Performance to Pleasure - Tantric Guide to PE

    In this episode, Anne Bland tackles premature ejaculation (PE) from a fresh and compassionate perspective. Rather than focusing on the problem, she explores how Tantra offers a path to deeper connection, sexual mastery, and prolonged pleasure. Learn how to harmonize your sexual energy, dismantle common myths about PE, and move from performance anxiety to authentic, empowered intimacy. Key Topics Covered: - Reframing Premature Ejaculation: Anne introduces a new term, "Harmonised Pleasure," to shift the focus from performance to pleasure, aligning with the principles of Tantra. - Causes of PE: A deep dive into the psychological and biological factors that can lead to PE, including anxiety, stress, hormonal imbalances, and physical illness. - Tantric Techniques for Sexual Mastery: Discover practical tools like breathwork, mindful touch, and the stop-start method to help manage sexual energy and prolong pleasure. - 7 Holistic Sex Tools: Insights from Anne's eBook, Pleasure Is Your Birthright, that you can use to enhance your sexual experiences, including intention, breath, and energy awareness. - Tantric Affirmations for Confidence such as: "In this moment, I honour my body, my energy, and my pleasure. I am whole, I am empowered, and I am in harmony with myself and my partner." Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies. Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools." Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com Send a voice message. Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality

    49 min
  6. 29/06/2024

    48: "I'm Tired of Dating Apps! They Just Want Sex..."

    In today's episode, a young listener shares her struggles with modern dating and the pressure to move too quickly into sex. Anne Bland discusses how Tantra can help create deeper connections through practices that encourage intimacy beyond just the physical. Techniques such as conscious communication, mindful touch, and shared activities build emotional bonds. Introduction to Requested Men’s Sexual Problems Series: This episode also serves as an introduction to the upcoming episodes focusing on men’s sexual problems. Anne will explore how Tantra can address these issues in future episodes, offering practical advice and holistic approaches to help men overcome common challenges. What You Can Do? Share This Episode: Who might benefit from this episode? Please share with them and ask them to subscribe and give a review. Share Your Story: Have a similar experience or thoughts on the topic? We’d love to hear from you! Send your messages and emails to be featured in future episodes. Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality. Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies. Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools." Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com Send a voice message. Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality

    24 min
  7. 21/06/2024

    47: Celebrating Sensuality and Erotic Connections During Midsummer

    In this Midsummer episode, Anne Bland explores the magic and sensuality of Midsummer. Drawing from recent listener feedback on polyamory and swinging, Anne delves into the pressures and misconceptions surrounding these practices and offers practical advice for groups, couples and singles. Celebrate the beauty of Midsummer with rituals, solo, couple or group practices, and mindful connections that honour your sensuality, and erotism in a way that feels aligned with you, and fosters emotional wholeness. Rituals, erotic practices, creative processes and meditations are all part of this significant time of the year wherever you are in the world. Happy Juhannus! If you have any questions or topics you’d like us to cover in future episodes, please reach out to Anne at annebland (at) selfishlyhappyyou.com or send a voice message through SpeakPipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/SelfishlyHappy Please subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed this episode. Your support helps this podcast reach more listeners and continue to create valuable content. Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies. Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools." Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com Send a voice message. Support the Podcast: Consider supporting us by buying a coffee or lunch. Your contributions help us continue bringing you valuable content and improving the podcast quality

    21 min

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Are you curious about Tantra? Maybe you have tried it a few times but are not sure how to make it a conscious practice to bring more happiness, pleasure, and peace into your life. Or maybe you've heard some Tantric stories about how Sting can last for hours - and wonder if you could too. Or you might feel that your sex and love life could and should be better, or even Sacred...This open, honest, explicit, heartfelt, and fun podcast by Anne Bland is for you if you are ready to explore your sensuality, sexuality, and spirituality through Tantra and Tantric Sex. Ancient Tantra teaches that there is a direct link between your sexual energy and your creativity and spirituality. So, are you willing to unleash your full potential through self-awareness, self-mastery, and self-expression and live the life you truly want?If yes, then join Tantric Sex and Relationship Coach, public speaker, and podcaster Anne Bland, the founder of “Selfishly Happy Revolution,” as she openly and whole-heartedly discusses her own Tantric Journey, shares real-life Tantric stories, and invites others to join her on the podcast. This could include you too! The "Asking for a Friend" episode is an opportunity to get free Tantric Sex or Relationship Coaching from Anne Bland - or you could truly 'ask for a friend.' You can also participate in the show by sending a voice message. This podcast is part of Anne Bland's Selfishly Happy Revolution, the next sexual revolution that doesn't start from barricades or burning your bras, but from within. Putting that figurative oxygen mask on yourself first before helping others gives you more energy, love, and creativity to share with others. And that oxygen mask is ‘Pleasure’! Pleasure is your birthright, and you deserve and are worthy of feeling good about yourself and your life so that you have the energy to show up in the world the way you want. And most of all, to create the life you want! Selfishly Happy Revolution is all about creating a movement, a community that celebrates pleasure and is pleasure-positive, demystifying sex and sexuality, and creating happy relationships not just with your partner but also with yourself, your communities, and the world at large. As Anne Bland says: “Happy and pleasure-positive people just don’t start wars.”"Tantra doesn't judge or exclude anything but it transforms everything" (Osho). Tantra is like inner technology that can be harnessed for your benefit be it healing, personal or spiritual growth, or amazingly juicy, delicious, and succulent life. Tantra is like having pleasure and self-love on tap!Finally, if you want to learn some Tantric Tips and Pleasurable Treats called Seven Holistic Sex Tools, this show is definitely for you. Anne shares how you can use these ancient Tantric Tools - Intentions, Presence, Focus, Breath, Movement, Sound, and Energy – for self-healing and self-pleasure but also with your partner or lover. They will help you to reclaim your own pleasure to become authentically your True Self and create a World that you want to live in and leave behind for future generations. Selfishly Happy Tantric Revolution is ALL ABOUT YOU! If you don't feel good about yourself, don't love yourself, don't have any energy, and are at risk of burning out - how can you be there for others? How could you be the leader in the world that you want to be? Or be the world co-creator that you truly are? Tantra teaches that all is one. It means that once you start healing, growing and becoming the person you truly are, the world around you changes too: what is inside you is also outside you. Pleasure and sexual energy are not well understood in the West and often associated with something shady, dirty, sinful or secretive. Tantra celebrates sex and sexual energy being normal and natural parts of you and the very energy for creation and spiritual enlightenment. It is where humanity meets spirituality. By mastering Tantric tools you can use your body-mind, your "inner

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